I Have No Idea What I'm Doing

[followthebluebell]

I spent like thirty minutes trying to get one good picture where he doesn't look like a disappointed father who just learned his daughter wants to drop out of medical school to marry her highschool sweetheart who's life ambition is weed.

I failed.

Now he's disappointed in me too 😞

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

and like why is there even still gender segregated tennis in the first place. it's hitting shit with a racket. anyone can do that against anyone. like I feel like we've had pretty significant proof that women can and do whup any man's ass at tennis for uuuuuuh however long the Williams sisters have been doing it. what on earth is the point of "sex testing" the players. let them all just hit the fucking balls at whoever they want who gives a fuck.

[prokopetz]

You know, when I've remarked that a lot of the responses to my posts feel like people are just plucking out keywords they think they recognise based on the shape of them and replying to what they imagine the post says based on that, the possibility never occurred to me that this is actually how many American schools are currently teaching kids to read.

[prokopetz]

Like, my assumption this whole time has been that when folks go "I misunderstood this post that says [thing] as saying [unrelated thing] because I mistook [word] for [completely different word that happens to start with the same letter]", that was a bit. What do you mean they're teaching kids a reading method that's tailored to produce this exact error?

[buggyhuman]

Three cueing. Once you learn about it, a whole lot of very frustrating online discourse with US Americans makes so much sense 😭

How a flawed idea is teaching millions of kids to be poor readers

For decades, schools have taught children the strategies of struggling readers, using a theory about reading that cognitive scientists have

[kitchen-staff]

Please also keep in mind that region and age will effect if the American has been taught this way. There are young adults who were taught to read like this, but this system was forced more fully into place within the past 10-15 years, so many current teenagers are effected by it.

Many teachers TRIED to warn about this, but our government forced the changes. I have met multiple teachers who've openly complained and tried to talk to the boards if directors about it, but if you didn't/don't comply, you could lose your job.

[leupagus]

The podcast version of this article is how I first learned about this, and it's also excellent (link in the link above but just in case):

Sold a Story: How Teaching Kids to Read Went So Wrong

There's an idea about how children learn to read that's held sway in schools for more than a generation — even though it was proven wrong by

As someone who doesn't have kids and whose nephews are voracious readers who (when I've asked) seemed to have escaped three-cueing, this was absolutely dumbfounding to me. It really does make a LOT of sense in terms of how people read, write, and react to the written word these days. (FYI it wasn't just taught in the US but we definitely championed it in a big way, largely because, you guessed it, capitalism.)

Anyway if you've got the time and like longform audio journalism, this is also great.

[midnightcrisisstuff]

actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.

[emeraldburn]

@greeneyes-blondequiffs

[sometiktoksarevalid]

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

do other countries do the whole “leaving furniture you want gone on the curb for other people to just grab” or is that an american thing

[catvincent]

The Dutch do it and it's called The King's Gift, but when Brits do it, taking the stuff is actually a crime called, wait for it, Theft By Finding.

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

😭

[emeraldburn]

Australia has the best worst of both worlds:

If you leave stuff out on the curb then it’s littering and is a crime

EXCEPT during hard rubbish collection week, where you can totally do that and indeed everyone in the suburb can do it. BUT if you come visit and take anything from this absolute buffet of things-that-are-unwanted then. That’s theft

[rhupi]

Rereading new recruit by butter_peanut on ao3 and STILL hits me in the feels everytime ahhh love this fic bro😭🙏🙏

2nd edit: made it cleaner lol

Edit more sketches hehe:

[tabris-the-seventeenth-angel]

HEARTBREAKING: friends who i should be going to the movies and playing dnd and watching anime and cosplaying and going to the mall and having sleepovers and exploring the woods with live one hundred trillion miles away

[crap-userrname16]

[not-available-for-comment]

Haven’t had a chance to watch the tutorial yet, but I’m seriously considering making this for my gf’s niece

[just7frogsinapeoplesuit]

@asexualbookbird

[feralboo-the-weirdo]

I think one of the wildest parts about discovering you're asexual is realizing almost everyone else isn't.

[somanyjacks]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but if the phrase "self care" doesn't resonate with you, try calling it "system maintenance" and see if that clicks.

[wormsslime]

[somanyjacks]

Reblogging to add amazing tags from @meta-theory

#this both makes things more fun and also is a really good analogy#because there are four types of system maintenance and that makes the term much more exact than the nebulous ''self-care''#and therefore much more helpful to those of us who uhhh struggle with nebulosity#for anyone curious the four types are:#1. corrective (to fix current problems)#2. preventative (to avoid future problems)#3. adaptative (to re-adjust to any changes)#4. perfective (to work towards a better system)#I really like this idea I'm gonna make a checklist

[ominous-signs]

Official ominous sign

[bitchesgetriches]

{ MASTERPOST } Everything You Need to Know about Self-Care 

[fexalted]

[image description: photo of a sign with all caps text reading:

"Warning

If you don't schedule time for maintenance, your equipment will schedule it for you."]

[yesornopolls]

if you're home alone, do you immediately strip and walk around in your undergarments/in the nude?

if you're home alone, do you immediately strip and walk around in your undergarments/in the nude?

Yes

No

Voting ended onJul 6

[emeraldburn]

So I accidentally trained myself to not feel comfy when I get home until I’ve changed clothes. Regardless of what I’m wearing or what I was doing.

It started because I have a cat. Specifically a medium-long haired orange/brown/white cuddle-bug who will not rest until she has yelled at me for my transgression and also sat on me for at least 15 minutes to ensure I don’t try to leave again. Needless to say, I end up with a lot of cat hair on my clothes. And because of the color mix it shows up on EVERYTHING.

So I started having “nice clothes for Out There” and “comfy clothes for getting shed on”. And I couldn’t sit down and relax until I got changed, or else the cat would strike during my moment of weakness.

Turns out a side effect of that is that it still applied even if there was no cat. I was staying at a hotel for a couple of nights and I found that I still a) had to change out of my Outside Clothes and b) had to put other clothes on. Because I wouldn’t be able to feel relaxed until I did.

(I mean I could theoretically just hang out in underwear and a shirt at home even with people around, but not wearing pants would be a good way to get lots of tiny holes in my legs due to accidental clawing from pushy-paws)

[sanguinifex]

You gotta read and watch some old books and films that aren’t 100% modern politically correct. I’m not saying you should agree with everything in them but you need to learn where genres came from to understand what those genres are doing today and where media deconstructing old tropes is coming from.

Also, more often than you might think, they’re not actually promoting bigotry so much as “didn’t consider all the implications of something” or just used words that were polite then but considered offensive now.

Kill the censor in your head.

[ashintheairlikesnow]

When we choose to avoid history because it's Problematic or Says Bad Things, we are choosing to divorce ourselves from understanding how we came from that time to this one, which makes it even more likely for the cycle to repeat, with no one but a few people with shelves of old books aware that it's happened before.

[swimmingblue]

and this shit's important. Media from the past tells us how people from the past acted and thought and behaved.

Plus, a lot of these media pieces were socially acceptable and/or progressive for their time. For example, The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, while it contains a lot of words and ideas that are offensive now, was very progressive for its time. The book is a statement piece for how a young man who's grown up in a racist environment, with no words to explain himself other than racist and bigoted ones, decides that the whole system is shit and he's not going to follow those rules any more. So not reading or engaging with it because it uses the n-word a lot really misses the point.

[next-crisis]

Oddly enough, this is how I use trigger warnings, too. Not to avoid a work I want to experience or investigate for myself, but to be able to brace myself for the scenes that would otherwise mean I probably wouldn't get a chance to engage thoroughly with a work to begin with. It's a self-management tool for me, not an exercise of fear. I live with my PTSD every day - and I do my best to make sure its impact on my life is as minimal as it can possibly be.

Naturally, I prefer also to extend the courtesy of choice to others.

[bovineblogger]

[maidthings]

happy winter solstice

[maidthings]

Southern Hemisphere - Wikipedia

[iconuk01]

I'm very proud of my countrymen for introducing America to the world of the proper football chant.

None of this cheerleader stuff for soccer, oh no sireee, I mean, no disrespect to cheerleaders who put a LOT of work and effort into their performances, but somehow "Rah-Rah! We're the best" from peppily gymnastic young things can't quite match the sheer power of entire stadiums of grown up fans yelling at the top of their lungs things like....

It's unclear if this one originated with the English of Scottish games (spelling of "old" as "auld" notwithstanding), but either way, well done.

And it's striking home too! :D

Sportsball holds no interest for me, but that doesn't mean I can't respect the participation aspects sometimes.

[bread-in-the-void]

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