Chaos, it/its, Intersex And Queer, Icon is by me, Header is by me, Sideblog because I was nuked over telling Perisex people trying to silence my existence and lived experiences directly contradicting their eugenics!
Finally made an intersex sideblog for myself because I'll get harassed off Tumblr again by TERFs and TRFs again. ✌ (YES, I AM FALSELY FLAGGED AS ANTI-TRANS ON SHINIGAMI EYES.)
Experienced IGM and forcibly put on hormones (I didn't want to be on MIGHT I ADD), diagnosed with at least hypoestrogenism but it may be hyperandrogenism due to my absorbed twin and chromosomes, Been on E and T (and progesterone)
I talk about my experiences. If I say something that is bigoted, please point out what I said and why it was bigoted. I'm not answering discourse asks. I'm here to stay connected to my community.
Terms:
Wolfsbane Trans(gender)
Color Relationships and their Flowers
Also feel free to ask me for any intersex headcanons! I think about so many variations other than my own very often so it comes out in the form of headcanons. Especially of my favorite characters. (So I might end up with a tag for that!)
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
Being ableist and straight up queerphobic to someone is NOT acceptable just because they're white. If the only privilege a white person has is that they're white but marginalized in every other fashion and YOU decide to treat that person awfully for being white, you're a fucking bigoted fascist.
another Black trans woman was found murdered, louisiana this time, and the news is consistently misgendering her in all the reporting. her name was marlow trottie and she was only 35 and she was a woman. don’t let them erase her womanhood.
The suburbs dream of violence. Asleep in their drowsy villas, sheltered by benevolent shopping malls, they wait patiently for the nightmares that will wake them into a more passionate world.
genuinely everyone needs to talk more about anti transmasculinity/transandrophobia in their daily life. however best works for whatever context you find yourself in. bring up the murders and violent assaults of trans men. bring up the transmasc suicide rate. bring up historical examples of trans men that don't fall into the "white passing heterosexual man who isn't outed until after his death" stereotype. bring up forced pregnancy as a detransition tactic. bring up transmascs in the US having some of the worst health outcomes of all trans groups. point out how transmasc erasure relies on inherently unrealistic and out of touch notions of how misogyny functions. point out how the ways we use to analyze trans experiences under patriarchy are based in cis frameworks. we need to make anti transmasculinity and transandrophobia a more public conversation. we need to openly and loudly contradict the popular narratives of how transmasculinity is seen and treated under patriarchy. we need to introduce people to transmasculine-centered feminism and transunitist theories of transphobia and provide a real grounded criticism of the erasure of anti-transmasculine violence.
anti-transmasculinity is not an accident, it's not something the patriarchy just stumbles into, the misogyny is not misdirected and it's not just a pre-transition phenomenon. and most importantly, the idea that the patriarchy just can't comprehend transmasculinity and doesn't know what to do with trans men is perhaps the most egregious and widespread example of how erasure works as a cover up for anti-transmasc patriarchal violence by suggesting that it literally does not and cannot happen, and if it does, it cannot be truly systemic or even really on purpose. when trans people and allies do this it is generally not purposeful, but when people continue to promote this narrative, they are genuinely participating in the patriarchy's cover up of the deaths and lost lives of thousands upon thousands of people. we have to challenge the cissexist consciousness people approach transmasculinity with. we all must speak up!!!!!!!!!!!!
And then the nurse who saw him do it and pulled him off of me told me I better not be one of "those people" who "think they can do whatever they want with their genitals without consequences."
But god fucking forbid trans men think for a second we experience gender-based oppression.
God fucking forbid we think we face any oppression at all.
Transphobia is about to be signed into law in the UK. We can fight this.
I am begging the UK trans community and its allies to attend the Mass Lobby at Parliament on June 25th, 11am-4pm, organised by Trans Solidarity Alliance.
Last year we broke the record for an LGBT+ mass lobby of Parliament. Will you help us break it again? Join us on 25th June 2026 to demand be
The new EHRC Code of Practice pushes trans people out of toilets, hospital wards, and community spaces. It normalises gender policing based on appearance and stereotypes. It becomes statutory guidance in the UK by the end of June.
Trans people are now legally their assigned gender at birth and must join gendered spaces accordingly, but if they are perceived as their lived gender, they can also be ejected from those spaces. The guidance says: either break the law, or don’t pass too well.
A mass lobby is where you invite your MP to discuss your concerns with you in-person. Ask your MP to:
Demand full parliamentary scrutiny, debate, and use their free vote on the EHRC Code of Practice.
Support any motions rejecting the EHRC guidance. As of June 4th, Labour MP Nadia Whittome has submitted a prayer motion - Early Day Motion 240.
Write to Bridget Phillipson, the Minister for Women and Equalities about our concerns
Your MP does not have to be an ally, they do not have to respond to your email for you to show up and greencard them (details below the cut.) What matters is that as many people as possible show up.
I cannot stress this enough: Showing up in person matters. It is much more effective than petitions, emails, and letters.
It is a horrible, stressful time, and I am so sorry if you're trans and live in the UK. But I was at last year's mass lobby and the line for greencarding alone stretched around the back gates. It was a record breaking mass lobby and made us impossible to ignore. Let's do even better this time. Details under the cut:
Worried about what to say?
Bring your personal worries about transphobia being signed into law, and trans friends being excluded from public spaces. You are a living person who deserves dignity. Remind your MP of that. You will also get guidance and brochures from Trans Solidarity Alliance that outlines our demands. This is mine from last year.
Money issues?
Trans Solidarity Alliance provides a travel bursary that you can sign up for via the link.
Got a refusal or no response from your MP?
Come anyway! You can request a same-day appointment with your MP through a process called greencarding. They will come and see you if they’re already in Parliament. Even if they don’t, they’re made acutely aware of your cause because you showed up in person. This is my greencard from last year.
Here is the EHRC Code of Practice in full. It's a tough read, but some highlights are:
Organisations can’t provide trans-inclusive, single-sex services, or they risk being sued for discrimination.
e.g. domestic violence support for women including trans women, men’s rugby group including trans men (12.68).
Trans people will have nowhere safe to pee.
If you’re a trans man, businesses can't allow you to pee in the men's, and you can also be ejected from women’s bathrooms if you’re perceived as a man. Vice versa for trans women. EHRC suggests a ‘third space’ bathroom, which is discriminatory and unworkable for most businesses. (13.130-133)
Sports organisations must exclude trans people from single-sex competitions (13.73).
A women’s only sports competition must exclude trans women because of their biological advantage or face potential lawsuits (13.74), but a trans man who has undergone testosterone treatment can also be excluded based on fairness rules (13.81).
Trans women are stripped of the legal definition of ‘lesbian’, and therefore no longer have legal protections if they’re discriminated against on the basis of sexual orientation. (2.50, 2.92).
Here is the Good Law Project's better explanation of the EHRC Code.
I have also made a PDF printout of QR codes for the government petition, email your MP tool, and mass lobby link to pass around your communities. DM me and I'll send it to you.
I don't like the new asexual flag at all. It is centering love way too much as an essential part of being ace. Especially speaking as one that doesn't have the ability to always feel love collectively. The pastel yellow is also... very conflicting to me because of the way its used.
So someone designed a new ace flag and got a ton of backlash from a mix of actual critique and just racism. Which she didn't deserve any of the like, racism, to be clear.
The way she kinda presented it as the official new flag even though she didn't mean that to be the old flag wasn't still to be used really rubbed people the wrong way. People found this extra egregious because making the ace flag was a huge community effort made through AVEN and lots of voting all the way back in 2010, picking the asexual flag was a HUGE community thing. So seeing it get dismissed as outdated and framing its lack of changes since as a bad thing was very much a BAD WAY to express the desire for a new flag.
Especially since it seemed to not take into account any of the history and feel very focused on new aces. Along with the language again failing to sound at all like she wasn't just trying to completely change the flag for personal taste and distance the community from the one we've been using with basically no complaints for nearly two decades
From what I can find a big reason she decided on making a new ace flag was based on not agreeing? on the flag stripe meanings? Which to be honest I don't think I've met anyone who overly cares about the flag stripe meaning, I seriously doubt most people could name what each stripe of the gay flag means let alone when we get more complicated then bisexual.
Specifically with the white stripe which stands for allies, which she thought was weird to have in such a big role and be centralized in anyway. Which, having seen the shit aphobes have put our allies through and the specific dynamics that can go into asexual relationships even with straight partners, I disagree extremely heavily with this. However I also understand why a lot of people would want to change it.
So instead of just... changing the meaning, which we could totally just do without changing a single other thing because lets be so real how many aces actually knew the meanings, she made a whole new flag and presented it as just objectively superior even if she may not have meant for it. Especially since so many people didn't even know there was any sort of polling or anything about this topic. I sure didn't.
This all sparked a lot of outrage, with one big point against it being that Love is something actually very hot button controversial in the ace community. Having it so highlighted in the flag despite the efforts of those of the loveless identity to fight that derogatory "well just because we're ace doesn't mean we don't loooove" standpoint. See op above.
So people got real mad, and because Grace is black, means some people were ~really racist~ about that anger at least so I've heard since a lot of this happened on instagram and you can't make me use instagram for longer then like ten minutes if forced but I fully am willing to just believe because it feels obvious it would. Which also sparked a conversation on race in the community which some people definitely took too far in the opposite direction to say all critique of the flag was done out of racism so now everyone's agitated and annoyed!
Again, I do want to reiterate that Grace did not deserve all the racism and hate, just because a black woman did something perhaps not as well as possible or worded things badly or just made a mistake or however you read it doesn't mean she deserves to get strapped into a pyre. At worst we are two people in the same community with a disagreement over the flag and its purpose. That's it. Our community should be held accountable for the racism and we should examine our biases as a group. Though the turning the whole thing into a race thing of "only racists dont like it" to shut down all negative discussion even aimed to be constructive is kinda stupid ngl.
At the end of the day there's nothing inherently wrong with just having more flags even if it was framed poorly. I personally think its ugly and dislike how it was presented. The framing of it like its some software update or logo rebranding gives me major ick so I likely won't ever associate with it any time soon. However, if other people like it then sure, whatever, their choice, not my business.
But yeah, that's been the ace discourse for the last like month or two, I really think a lot of this could have been avoided if she just... framed it less like she was making the true successor to the ace flag everyone should use (which she very much did even if she didn't think so due to a lot of her language sounding kinda corporate talking about logo change with statements like "Whether this change to the flag will be implemented or not") and instead leaned more into it being something to go along with the ace flag as like, a bonus. Race 100% did play a role in the backlash, i dont want to understate that, but it definitely was pretty poorly presented from the start.
Honestly the whole thing is just kinda stupid and I cannot imagine it catching on but hey thats what I said about the sunset lesbian flag debacle and look at the world now so who knows, not me.
How come I see very little mention about how many Black and other dark skinned folks are banned off this platform, huh? What about the Black people that were termed? What about the Indigenous folks that were termed too? Hello? Are we forgetting this hellsite terms more than just white trans women? Why are we ignoring how many people are termed as a whole to focus on the white bloggers?
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