man all i saw in that post of yours was looking for a way to police people’s kinks while simultaneously telling yourself that you’re still justified for doing so. if it’s not real and not hurting anyone who cares. you basically just look past what survivors are actually saying so you can continue to write it all off as unethical. you’re still doing an appeal to disgust, maybe just because something grosses you out and would be bad in real life does not actually make it a moral wrong in fiction. world of fucking difference between actual abusive power dynamics irl and trans tumblr users who have a kink for mommies
it’s genuinely weird and overzealous how immediately you equate people doing taboo sex roleplay (literally just adults playing pretend) to horrible assault and violence. that’s not what’s happening man. i really think you just instantly attempting to re-frame it as being equivalent speaks to you not being willing to change your own viewpoint, because that would mean confronting something you don’t find palatable. if you hear csa survivors saying that ageplay is important to them and your reaction is to accuse them of being the same as real-life child abusers i just don’t know what to tell you man. if you choose your own gut reaction over their voice then i don’t think you’re willing to listen at all
...I'm probably not going to convince you of my views, but I felt I should respond.
I think it's telling you brought up private RP when what I'm talking about is the public practice of it as a subculture, the way certain shit just is considered acceptable to post on public platforms, on a communal level, and the problem of how it "leaks" into mainstream culture.
I care less about what's in their Hearts and Minds and more about the collective results of their public actions, and those collective results tend to look a whole lot like wildly unsafe places where people get groomed and everyone actively campaigns against the sort of kayfabe and guardrails that exist in stuff like; say; BDSM.
While my analogies are just that, analogies, I think it's most directly comparable to the concept of "rape culture" in feminism, just this culturally toxic stewlike-musk that makes people miserable even when it's not directly leading to predation.
Like, there's plenty of shit in porn art/writing I'm viscerally grossed out by but don't consider morally bad because it doesn't create that climate. Dookie and guro come to mind, I never want to read them (and if you're into the former wash your hands before you shake mine for the love of god), but I don't think they create that same type of shared harm/"predator culture", so I'm not against those.
This is far less about individuals, this is about collective norms, about a zeitgeist, and trying to collectively change things to not harm people. That is the primary message I was trying to get across with that last reblog, that we need a communal/collective-centered approach instead of the current carceral stochastic-mob version because it's not only cruel, it's ineffective.
People who care about this need to be the Numbers McFuckenstein theory of change with this shit instead of 2014-era purity crusaders is what I'm saying.
Also like, there's a dickton of survivors who find it quite the opposite and, more directly relevant, ones that were made into survivors via the missing stairs this shit let go unfulfilled.
And like, the flipside of that you mention isn't chopped liver, but I see the harm enacted by the lazzez-faire state people into that advocate for, and I'm thinking if there's a way to constructively deal with those urges, the current status-quo ain't it chief.
Which was, of course, also the point of my analogies in the latest post.
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