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Rainbow capitalism was good actually, for many reasons.

It wasn't that long ago that banks and companies would refuse to serve gay people. People are going all the way up to the Supreme Court to enshrine the right not to serve LGBTQ people in their business. Rainbow capitalism showed which companies were safe to do business with and it pressured other companies to do the same.

Likewise, companies did and do try to discrominate against LGBTQ employees. Rainbow capitalism let employees be open about their identities and feel safe. The 50 year old gay man marching with Bank of America may have hidden his sexuality for decades because it wasn't safe to come out at work.

It helped set top down societal values and norms that LGBTQ people are a welcome part of society.

It pressured companies to adopt nondiscrimination policies and DEI policies.

It made companies donate to pride celebrations and LGBTQ causes.

with mixed success, it provided powerful and visible allies for political change, like the Respect for Marriage Act. Businesses pulled out of North Carolina and forced it to go back on a bathroom bill.

The drawdown of rainbow capitalism has real consequences. Pride celebrations losing corporate sponsorships means they are not able to hold those celebrations. DEI programs are being rolled back. Companies are buying less from queer owned businesses. Support for gay marriage is actually decreasing in polls.

Are these all cause and effect? No. Is it sometimes just a lagging indicator? Yeah. Are fair weather allies like big corps really not great? Yeah.

Like we're seeing greater threats to LGBTQ people and rights now than in 20 years and if you're still complaining about rainbow capitalism or having to qualify it by saying "I know rainbow capitalism is bad but" then I think you've lost the plot as surely as we've lost some of our biggest most powerful and most visible allies

sprinkledsalt

I was sent a reblog thread that’s too long for me to screenshot and nitpick, but the gist of it was yet again fretting over the “male loneliness epidemic”, and as other women have observed before, I am pointing out that “uwu men don’t have a safe space to express loneliness” exists in a fantasy world where women aren’t also mocked and judged for being lonely. Women who don’t have many friends and don’t go out much are still seen as losers and failures, and posts like “women can hang out with their girl friends and hug each other while men can’t!” ignore the existence of women who don’t have besties and also struggle to make those kinds of connections. Men’s own self-imposed, rigid gender roles and fear of being seen as gay may make them feel more self-conscious about expressing their feelings, yeah, but a.) that’s men's problem to fix, instead of blaming it on women and feminists, and b.) that doesn’t mean friendship comes naturally to every woman and there aren't women who are deemed weird and Cringe for trying to get close to other women, especially if they're nerdy, socially awkward, or neurodivergent. Once again, the struggles and loneliness of young women are ignored here.

“But there aren’t public spaces for men to meet new people while women can make friends by going to the gym or joining a class or a club!” Nothing is stopping men from doing those things. Men offline make new friends at the gym all the time. If a guy is more nerdy? There are gaming tournaments and conventions now. What, a man still may feel awkward putting himself out there and get nervous in those public settings? Yeah, women feel those things, too

Regarding romance, adult single women face the same judgment for not being partnered as men do with the added bonus of misogyny, like do we really need to bring up "childless cat ladies" again? Women are seen as failures for not having a man, told their time is running out and no one will want them past age 30, called bitches when they say they don't want a man and smugly told they're going to die alone, and when those women aren't conventionally attractive, then they're called unfuckable losers who need to settle for anything when they say they actually want a relationship.

And then men wonder why women roll their eyes at them for acting like their universal human experiences are unique to them and inscrutable to women. Idk maybe if you considered that women are people with intricate inner lives, you could bond with them over your shared struggles with relationships instead of insisting on special boy treatment and that everyone treat your normal human woes as a societal crisis worthy of endless think pieces

midnight-roses-candy

As I've said before, pretty much every problem that people claim is specific to men also affects women to a similar if not greater degree, it's just that society doesn't take those issues seriously when they're affecting women. Meanwhile, if men are experiencing it then suddenly it's everyone's urgent problem to fix and probably will be blamed on women in particular.

monstrafem

i keep thinking about how before bsdm became more mainstream and accepted by liberals and leftists, there was actual public awareness about how freezing up is a common trauma response to abuse and that abusers often have small periods of being kind and loving to their victims, and thus furthering the cycle. but now the more “progressive” take on this is “well did you use a safe word? it’s your responsibility to communicate with your partner and to remember some dumb ass word with the purpose of breaking down boundaries and making saying no not a viable option because what if your abuser daddy dom gets turned on by you crying and begging him to stop?” and “it can’t be abusive if there’s aftercare involved! 🩷”

ayaahh00

Men’s sperm starts aging and mutating after 35, while women’s eggs don’t actually age . Males brains have smaller hippocampuses so less emotional regulation, EI and empathy . Also their Y chromosome is literally shrinking over generations, and their biology is more fragile. Their immune systems are weaker, their lifespan shorter and their high testosterone only fuels impulsivity and aggression. Their DNA is more flawed yet this is the sex that claims to be biologically superior and natural born leaders.

cowgirlgirl2002

Egg quality doesn’t change too since we are born with all of our eggs and our uterus don’t age either

knafeh-zarafa

Can terfs explain why queer is a slur but not gay?

knafeh-zarafa

So far the resounding response from the terfs is:

Queer is used derogatorily and I don't like that so it's a slur

Gay however is used derogatorily but I don't mind so it's not a slur

shefoid-deactivated20211114

can you fucking read

lesbian-lizards

Queer: applied to gay people by our oppressors out of scorn and prejudice because they hate us Gay: a mainstream synonym for homosexual that our oppressors use in an insulting manner because they hate us Tumblr dorks: I see no difference. What is nuance, anyway?

lesbian-lizards

More responses OP blocked:

minxale-deactivated20210724

I just genuinely don't understand why you ask a specific group of people for an explanation but then when you get it you either pretend it never happened or delete it

cheesyradfem

93% of gay men old enough to have lived during the AIDS crisis don’t want to be labeled q*eer. Ask yourself why the victims of nearly 60% of all LGBT-related hate crimes (the largest single demographic) are uncomfortable with this slur.

thesinisterspinster

Also let's be real as a gay woman i am incredibly insulted by people who aren't gay useing the slur queer to lump themselves back in with us.

ayaahh00

Isn’t it so fucked up how men will constantly try to deter any woman’s sense of safety or power? If a woman says she has big dogs to walk with at night, you’ll find men saying “Can it take a bullet” or if a woman has a gun they’ll say “I can just twist your wrist and take it from you”. They’re always intentionally trying to make us feel threatened and unsafe. Men will go the extra mile to find every possible way to antagonize and harm women, if we have the power to defend ourselves, they will do whatever it takes to undermine it because for them, putting women in danger, stripping us of our agency and safety, gives them power and control. And they have the audacity to call themselves protectors and actually delude themselves to believe it. The idea of women protecting themselves and taking precautions angers them, which is why they always feel the need to undermine it.

what-even-is-thiss

I just had an argument with someone who was like “why would we settle for food stamps when we could have universal basic income?”

And it’s just like. People need food right now you know.

what-even-is-thiss

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Hippie church moms donating quinoa chips to my local food bank have done more for me materially than any internet idealist ever has.

what-even-is-thiss

People get pissed at me for being a pragmatist in my political ideals but I’ve been in the position where I was out of food right now.

And who helped me with that? Not people calling for some nebulous revolution. Not people telling me that the system was useless. Not people preaching at me to grow my own food. It was a church food bank partially funded by the state of Texas that some southern hippies donated a bunch of Whole Foods nonsense to.

And you know what? I’m sick and tired of defeatism. What can we get done right now, huh? Are you gonna accept something a bit better to help people right now or are you waiting for your perfect utopia to come to you?

Yeah, UBI is better than the quinoa chips. Sure. But right now the quinoa chips are stopping people from going hungry and if all we can do is get the food bank quinoa chips to more people, then I say so be it. That’s something. I’ll almost always take baby steps over nothing.

haveuevermetme

sometimes politicians in order to prove a point do experiments like work as a waiter for a day, use a wheelchair to navigate around the city or survive a month on minimal salary. i think every politician who believes sex work is work, who is actively pro sex work and pro porn, who protects pimps and doesn't give a damn about trafficking should do an experiment and become a sex worker at the brothel for a day. they should show people how it's totally normal to be raped multiple times a day, get ptsd, get infections, get cut of more than 40% of their paycheck, not being able to say no to people they don't like and don't want to have sex with, not being able to say no to humiliating sexual practices they don't want to do, not being able to get back to a normal job if anyone finds out about the past, and so much more. let them show how nice sex work is, let men lead the way they so desperately want.

they don't want to be a sex worker? but why not? after all it's no different than working in mcdonalds.

humanoidhistory

Ellen Ochoa plays a 15-minute flute set on the aft deck of the Space Shuttle Discovery, April 1993

tikkety-tok

Watching Olympics women's weightlifting 🏋️‍♀️

wintertidewater-deactivated2025

What a perfect example to show the importance of watching female sports. The direct impact it has on your self esteem and the confidence it instills in young girls around you ❤️

glitter-soda

It’s funny how a man becoming a literal neo-Nazi because someone didn’t coddle him enough is understandable and he’s basically treated like a victim who needs to be saved, but women who become “terfs” after being harmed by men and trans ideology are irredeemable bigots who deserved to be killed.

glitter-soda

Like if I had a dollar for every “We need to be nice to straight white men otherwise they’ll become Nazis and it’ll be all our faults 🥺🥺🥺” post, I could retire in my thirties

Meanwhile, I’ve never seen a “Maybe we should stop threatening to violently rape and kill any woman who questions trans people. It might be driving some of them away from our cause.” post

valkyrie-flies-away

this!! also, men have never been nice to women, yet I don't see masses of women being Nazis, rapists and murderers...

friendlyfreakazoid

Astrology is bullshit but, like, it’s definitely not any more bullshit than any other spiritual/religious belief. I don’t like it when women make astrology a serious part of their beliefs and identity because it destroys their credibility and makes them looks stupid, but the fact that being a Christian doesn’t also destroy your credibility and make you look stupid is wrong. So when people say “astrology isn’t taken seriously because of its association with women” I do actually think that’s true. But not because I think astrology is real and just nobody realizes that it’s real because women like it. Astrology is definitely fake, but if it were a male-dominated belief it would probably be taken a lot more seriously, just like other obviously fake beliefs like all the major religions.

capricorn-season

vintage-bentley

And you’re telling gender non-conforming women that they too are trans. Once you set a limit on gender non-conformity where once that limit is passed one becomes the opposite sex, that applies to everyone. You aren’t smashing the gender binary, you’re creating a stricter one.

ferrethaver

transandrophobia is a subset of misogyny

ferrethaver

the mtfs and transfeminists of tumblr hate transandrobros (and all afab trans people) because if transandrobros talk about the specific oppression they face by at the intersection of being trans/gnc and being born female (and female for the rest of their lives too), then the theory of transfeminism completely shatters and they'll all have to admit they have male privilege as a result of having been born male.

trans men and theyfabs and transmascs talking about their experiences with growing up female and facing misogyny their whole lives is exactly what transfeminists don't want to hear because if trans men are born female and experience misogyny because of it then that means sex based oppression is real which then means they are no longer oppressed for being male

gloomyrelaxing

I’m here to say if a man is threatening to kill himself if you don’t give him what he wants it is perfectly valid to tell him he should die and that you don’t give a flying fuck.

flowerlygirls

i really appreciate the advice many smart women have thought to give: call an bulance to his location and tell his loved ones what hes planning to do, because its almost certainly a fake threat and hes gonna have to do some real awkward explaining to do not only to his friends and family but the first responders as well. and IF he should actually go through with it you can not be held legally responsible in any way for his suicide

sichorean

reblogging to add that when we had to give this advice out (and we had to do it a LOT, because women leaving is the biggest trigger for men to threaten suicide) is to also tell the dispatcher that you have said you are leaving the relationship and you are no longer interested in contact about or with him.

Because dudes have literally gone with the ambulance officers and given their exes info as the emergency contact, so an unwitting medical officer will phone and ask the woman to come in and bring personal items/be emotional support. And it can be really hard to tell the admin on the phone "look I know he's asked you to call me but this is a form of manipulation by proxy"

I called my abusers family multiple times about his actions, his brother, his mom, his sister, and eventually his elderly aunt and uncle. And it wasn't until I spoke to his sister that she said "Oh, I'm so sorry. I didn't realise he was seeing someone or I would have warned you. He does this whenever he doesn't get his way. He'll be fine."

By which point I had already "supported him" through several "suicide attempts" because I wouldn't dress up/perform a sex act/clean the house.

I was living in fear of standing up for myself in case he hurt himself. And as soon as I said No, he switched from suicide threats to domestic abuse.