Staying Sane Inside Insanity

Rachel, 32, queer, cis, white girl (she/her) ...

[lyraeon]

phrased a situation as "I have a feeling their parents didn't care if they achieved better behavior they just cared if they saw visible shame" and actually no I think that summarizes like 1/3 of everyone I know

if the primary goal of any "correction" you got as a child was to make you feel bad, not to actually get you to learn what you did wrong and do better, then anyone offering you advice as an adult is just gonna feel like a guilt trip no matter how well they phrase it

(the hard pill to swallow is that accepting criticism is a necessary part of having relationships with other people, because no one is perfect so everyone has room to improve, so you need to learn to overcome that)

[4rk-in-the-road]

I think the reason a lot of leftists struggle with disability justice is that they haven't moved past the concept that discrimination isn't bad because it's objectively "wrong." yes, sexists are objectively wrong when they try to claim women are dumber than men. yes, antisemites are objectively wrong that jewish people are inherently greedy and run the state. yes, racists are wrong when they try to claim that white people are the superior race. and so on.

but then with disabled people, there are a lot of objective truths to the discrimination we face. people with IDs/LDs do fall behind and struggle with certain concepts. physically disabled people are often weaker and less capable of performing demanding tasks than able bodied people. many of us with mental illnesses are more reckless and less responsible. a lot of us are dependent on others and do not contribute much "worth".

and guess what? disabled people still deserve a place in the world. disabled people still deserve the supports they need. because they are people, and that should be enough to support them and believe they deserve a place at the table.

if your only rebuttal against discrimination is its objective inaccuracies, you are meeting bigots where they are at. you are validating the very concept that if and when people are truly incapable of being equal to the majority, that means they are worth less. this causes some leftists to then try to deny the objective realities of disabled people and/or become ableist themselves.

your rallying behind marginalized groups should start and end with the fact that people are completely worthy of life and equity, because they are fellow human beings and that should, frankly, be enough.

[r2x2]

The Amnesty International report that JK Rowling is trying to censor through legal threats.

It can also be found on Google Drive here and on Bluesky here.

[cbarc]

Please save and share this info where possible. This report has since been removed by Amnesty International due to legal threats of libel from JK Rowling. This information is no longer easily accessible.

[fucking-relax]

i don't know if i can have this reminder repeat in a meaningfully effective way on this blog, but

are you partway through doing something and you forgot? perhaps the laundry or some other timed event?

if not, that's fine, sorry to bother

if so, you may wanna go do that

[kyoshi-lesbians]

my controversial opinion is I don’t think Zuko was confused by “my first girlfriend turned into the moon”

[kyoshi-lesbians]

he was there during siege of the North. he infiltrated the spirit oasis. he has an uncle who studies spirits and the spirit world. he watched the sky go dark then the moon suddenly reappear like everyone else in the entire world did. and most importantly he watched zhao get eaten by a giant godzilla fish spirit.

[kyoshi-lesbians]

his entire life since he saw that beam of blue-white light in the south pole has been ‘this day has already been so goddamn weird’

[edgar-allan-possum]

The only really new information was that that was Sokka’s girlfriend

[library-graffiti]

Important opinion in the tags that I need to have be part of the post:

[clearascountryair]

Also, Iroh was there? He literally watched Sokka make out with the moon spirit. And you want to tell me that a romantic sap like him would not have immediately told Zuko about this romantic tragedy? Please, Zuko has known about this for ages, he just knows that this is not an acceptable situation in which to say “yeah, I know.”

[terriwriting]

Sokka: “My girlfriend turned into the moon.”

Zuko: “I know.” “Yes.” “She sure did.” “Uh huh.” “Tell me something new.” “Are we still talking about that?” “That’s rough, buddy.”

[alexseanchai]

[image: tags by samwisethebold: #it’s not that he doesn’t get what sokka means #it’s that how on earth do you respond to that]

[uberguber89]

When you put it like that, this is actually a legendary display of tact on Zuko’s part

[interspadias]

When I say the recent major waves of transandrophobia, transmisogyny and exorsexism on this site feel like a psyop, I am not saying "bigotry in the community isn't real and everyone ever posting it is a government agent", I'm saying that a lot of us are becoming so susceptible to hating one another that we arent even recognizing when blatantly obvious bad faith actors are inserting themselves into our community spaces anymore.

I am watching people get anons that are self evidently written by TERFs, 4channers and a number of people who likely do not engage with our spaces outside of discourse, and blindly blaming other trans people/communities as a whole. Watching them insist that that's just how our brothers and sisters treat each other, so they've earned slurs and harassment in return. Eye for an eye, but you earn it by even having eyes to see that a blade was swung at all.

I'm begging all of you to learn to recognize this and stop participating in it. It's feeding exactly what the nasty underbelly of this site wants of our community - for it to self cannibalize and fizzle out until there's no one to have your back while they try to drive each and every one of us to detransition or suicide.

[rorytelling]

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at Pride"

*looks inside*

The boyfriend is actually nonbinary

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at Pride"

*looks inside*

The bi woman is actually nonbinary

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at pride"

*looks inside*

The boyfriend is a trans man

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at Pride

*looks inside*

It's actually a gay couple and one of them is trans

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at pride"

*looks inside*

They're both bisexual

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at Pride"

*looks inside*

It's actually a lesbian and a gay man and they're FRIENDS. You just assumed they were a couple because they looked like a woman and man standing next to each other

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at pride"

*looks inside*

It's actually a straight woman and her bi boyfriend. How come we only complain about the reverse?

"Ugh bi woman and her straight boyfriend at Pride"

*looks inside*

It is a bi woman and her straight boyfriend. What are you gonna do about it, actually?

[tanoraqui]

we should all appreciate that Legolas and Gimli both, immediately post-canon, do the ‘leaders of small nation-states’ equivalent of buying houses next door to Aragorn’s so the three of them can remain besties for the rest of their shared lives. #thethreehunters

[solarifle]

"we have to accept the fact that the r word is coming back" NO WE DONTTTT NO WE DONT

[sigynpenniman]

But when I say the “wholesome and funny” YouTube short I have been handed of students surprise showing their teachers 10+ year old photos of themselves and most them were emo/goth in some way and every single one now has medium brown beach waves and is wearing head to toe beige and immediately screams and hides the photo like it’s the most embarrassing thing in the world is a hallmark of a deeply insidious tendency to associate socially acceptable WASPy aesthetics with maturity and responsibility and perpetuates the idea that everyone grows up, “gets right” and becomes the most digestible unobtrusive heterosexual I’m “taking it too seriously”

[sigynpenniman]

“It’s not that serious” oh but it issssss because every day we perpetuate the idea that non-conformity of any kind to the white straight middle class standard is inherently immature and gets “left behind” when someone becomes a socially acceptable adult

[sigynpenniman]

This idea that maturity is conformity is everywhereeee if you look for even a moment

[sapphling]

let's all have a fun time looking up new words when we encounter them to see what they mean before incorporating them into our vocabularies

[wileycap]

[psychic-waffles]

We're at the "JK Rowling is personally funding litigation to try and destroy AMNESTY INTERNATIONAL" stage of rabid UK terf brain.

Screenshot via Alejandra Caraballo @esqueer.net on bluesky

Tldr Amnesty International, global human rights organisation, published a report called 'A growing threat: the anti-rights movement in the UK'. In it is detailed, amongst others, a whole bunch of transphobic groups and organisations, including Beira's Place, JK Rowling's trans exclusionary sexual violence support service. JK Rowling threw a shit fit and got Amnesty to take the report down by threatening libel. This was obviously not enough, because you can't appease a fascist, so now she's going to bankroll a bunch of lawsuits anyway through the JK Rowling Women's Fund.*

You can read an archived version of the report here, please save it and share it.

*Not so friendly reminder there is no way to engage in the wizard books without enabling this shit.

[beautifully-said]

[palezma]

'I am sorry Rose, we failed you and your baby turded out cringe and derivative'

[interspadias]

fun fact: debates about if being transgender is a choice or not are irrelevant, because the fundamental truth is of bodily autonomy - a right that should never be seen as conditional or requiring a suitable, immutable condition.

people who are trans deserve the right to transition, not because it’s a medical treatment or because dysphoria can be classified as a mental illness but because we’re human beings who should be allowed to do whatever the fuck we want to our own bodies! this is a basic human right!

[mortalityplays]

hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset

the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years

taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult

at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)

'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65

it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age

it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.

you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.

young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!

there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big

[stealingpotatoes]

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