Please be nice to others.

tit Skittles: 10/10/17. Though my soul may set in darkness, it will rise in perfect light; I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night.

[carbink]

mods are asleep post toilets with threatening auras

[dollsome-does-tumblr]

i just read a washington post article on romcoms aging poorly due to the pushiness (and oft-stalkery conduct) of the male characters therein, and it got me thinking about pride and prejudice, and specifically darcy saying, “one word from you will silence me on this subject forever.”

because, like, that’s the seldom-portrayed romantic dream in the patriarchal hellscape that is our world, isn’t it?

a dude being willing to say, “i understand if you don’t feel the same way about me, and i’ll leave you alone forever about this if my attention is unwanted.”

so simple, yet so wonderful in its basic human decency

[abcscandal-deactivated20250327]

#it was written by a woman!

[shakespork]

[erinkyan]

it would be cool if fat dudes without big beards were considered hot sometimes too.

[erinkyan]

I realized today that the main reason for the “hot fat dude must also include beard” thing is part of the whole “fat people are required to perform a higher and more perfect expression of gender”.

like usually this sort of thing is more easily identifiable in fat women, who have to be hyper feminine to be considered “attractive” by the mainstream.  but I sort of blinked today and realized, oh.  fat men must have beards to be attractive for the same reason fat men must wear suits and look dapper to be attractive, just like fat women have to have perfect eyeliner and wear cute pinup clothing.  higher, more intense expression of gender, executed perfectly and without flaw is required for fat people to be seen as attractive.

[thresholdofzero-deactivated2018]

FUCKING NAILED IT

[earthysuggestion]

hearing genuine laughter from the people you love is the most healing sound

[stonersquabbles]

The fact that the gay community needs like 18 app major apps just to fuck or meet someone is very telling. Grindr for white twinks, scruff and growlr for white bears and chasers, jack’d for anyone who isn’t white (and weed), etc… Half of the profiles on Grindr say things like “No fats, fems, or blacks”, “Asians, move along” or “White only please. Not racist, just a preference.” We scream at the world for treating us like outcasts yet we segregate and marginalize ourselves. Don’t ever forget that misogyny, transphobia and racism are just as present in the lgbtq+ community as it is amongst heterosexual people.

[gaycism]

The white gays on tumblr dot com when they see this post

[black-throat]

Leopard slugs are bigender and their dicks are so big they have to hang upside down from a rope made of their own slime so that gravity will help them untuck it so that they can they rub it up on their mate’s equally massive dick and if that aint the biggest mood idk what is

[thatradicalnotion]

Lisa Simpson at Stuff-n-Hug

[cobaltflame]

This really says a LOT

[bunney]

simpsons is so next level

[closet-keys]

just in case any transmisogynists are trying to co-opt this music, it’s important to know that these two women value their trans sisters 

[official-kircheis]

[cheaphalloweencostume]

Protip for men: if marriage is a horrifying concept for you and you think it is an evil trap, do not buy a ring and ask a woman to marry you

[curtis-ballard]

I’m way over seeing radical feminist bullshit on my dash. This isn’t even social justice or a real issue.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

sorry that not marrying someone you dont loathe is radical feminism i guess?

[celestial--fawn]

women: don’t propose or get married if u don’t like the thought of marriage

men: what kind of sjw fuckery

[lemonsharks]

the other bit that this implies is: If you like your wife, act like it. Even around your friends. Be open and honest about liking your wife, liking spending time with her, and not being resentful of the shared work of building a household. Let your buddies know you can’t hang out with them because you’d rather be home with your wife, whom you like, because she is your legit bff, even though you know your buddies are gonna mock you for it. Stand up to your buddies. Tell them mocking isn’t cool and you don’t want them to do it anymore. Challenge the other men in your life to be better men. That is what “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” implies to men who are married. And while it’s all completely reasonable I imagine that it’s scary as fuck when it’s just so much easier to har de har har the little woman’s such a nag, ain’t she, don’t we all hate being married so much? with other men. In that context, “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” is kindof a radical statement.

[goshawke]

The number of guys I work with who are engaged who started pulling the “uh oh, life over soon, har har” shit that I have completely shut down with a simple “well if you don’t want to get married, then don’t”…*sigh* And they’re just like, hem, haw, welllll if I don’t then she might not stay with meee, which I respond to with “well, sounds like you need to have a pretty serious and honest conversation with your fiancee about your feelings then” and then the *panic!* look…When you remove that easy “hah hah ball-and-chain” narrative, watch the reaction. Some of them (to a female friend) will mumblingly admit that they love their fiancee and are excited to be married. Others…all you get is fear.

That’s the disservice we do men by refusing to teach boys how to explore their emotional needs. It hurts everyone. I watched three male friends walk into marriages I can tell they weren’t ready for and didn’t want, just because it was expected and they had no tools for emotional self-examination. Two of those marriages are (shockingly) in crisis, a couple years later. One has kids involved now. It’s more than a little heartbreaking. The marriages I see that are working? Are the guys with the emotional maturity to talk to their wives and who don’t care if everyone knows they’re in love with them.

[violent-darts]

SERIOUSLY. 

[lesbianspaceprincess]

My friend is getting married this summer and when I congratulated her fiance on their engagement he said to me “Yeah well you know, women. This is what they want so you have to bite the bullet.” and my other friend’s husband who was sitting next to him laughed and agreed. If this is how you feel, don’t get married. Don’t propose. Just…. Don’t. Do it. Any of it.

[scottish-fool-deactivated201705]

Straight people think that doing things you really don’t want to do - like marriage and having kids - is normal cos they’re still stuck in a fucking 19th century mindset.

[hexmaniacciaran]

It’s why I know my best friend got a good one, he’s open about how much he loves her and he’s excited to be getting married and regularly contributes ideas and has his own input, it’s nice to see

[sodomymcscurvylegs]

It filters through as well. Even being gay, a lot of my straight friends don’t understand why I spend so much time with my husband. Because I love him? Because I enjoy his company? Because he’s my best friend? I can’t count the amount of straight people that have told me that they think it’s “weird” that my husband and I spend so much quality time together. The only person who understood was my mom, whose response was: “If you love someone and genuinely enjoy their company, why WOULDN’T you want to spend your free time with them?!”

[teaboot]

How can anyone look at their impending marriage and think ‘oh no, it’s all over now’ like???? I’ve only felt so close to so many people in my life, but those small few were like?? I’d wake up in the morning excited to be awake just to look forward to SEEING them. I’d catch myself with this stupid idiot grin in broad daylight just THINKING ABOUT BEING AROUND THEM. I’d sleep easy with them in my head, shitty days became perfect once I spoke to them. THAT’s how I imagine feeling again someday. I think about feeling that way for someone again and it’s like the whole future opens up. Marriage is finding your best friend in the whole wide world and wanting to have a sleepover every single day, and to agree to it and then go around groaning like your freedom is being stolen is a HUGE disrespect. If you have the freedom to share your life with anyone you like and you throw it around like baggage you really can’t expect it to grow, can you? You gotta care about yourself a little more than that I think

[shrineart]

All of this.

[zohbugg]

Not to mention this mentality makes it’s way TO THE DAY OF THE WEDDING. How many weddings have we seen with something like this:

Like what kind of toxic mentality do you have to have to say this as the bride is about to walk down the aisle and marry someone who it’s now suggested doesn’t even want to be there?? How is this cute? How is this supposedly charming? This is supposed to be the person you love and want to be with! And not to mention that you send this down the aisle with a small child (the ring bearer or the flower girls)…I have a special loathing for things like this. 

[yamino]

Holy shit I didn’t know that was even a thing. This reminds me of a study I read about years ago with statistics on happiness/stability in relationships of people of various genders/orientations, and straight people were at the very bottom. (And lesbians were at the top! Not a huge surprise, given that women are generally more inclined to communicate and work out emotions and issues.)

[arielenhasarrived-deactivated20]

YOUR SPOUSE SHOULD BE YOUR BEST FRIEND

PERIOD

[lord-kitschener]

#this is seriously creepy

#and the fact that most people accept this as normal makes it even more creepy

[vampirezigzagoon]

[thegraymethod]

Reblogging for the “last chance to run” comment. Honestly it’s so fucking gross.

[theconcealedweapon]

And think about the people who marriage actually is an evil trap for, like child brides, or like people who can’t leave an abusive marriage because they’ll struggle financially.

These men are willingly choosing to get married.

[newusernamepending]

God forbid.

[stanedyke]

It’s almost as if they want poor people to have a decent quality of life or something

[yesperono]

Reblog if you have a lust for free stuff

[smitethestate]

I have a serious lust for basic human rights.

[nonethefewer]

TITS OUT FOR SINGLE-PAYER HEALTH CARE

[thebibliosphere]

Or as we Scots say. “TAPS AFF”

[yayfeminism]

[Source]

[avatarmerida]

someone: that’ll cost you an arm and a leg

me:

[morinover]

I think a lot of people don’t understand that “I don’t see it” is not the same as “it doesn’t exist”. Like, I had people tell me LGBT people & relationships didn’t exist in the past, and when I pull out my queer history starter pack™ they go “Oh, I didn’t know”.

In one case someone was like, “How come there was no gay art at [historical period]” and I was like, but there was! You’re not familiar with it because of contemporary curation! The fact it’s not in museums you frequent doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. In some cases, it was revered at the time - or at least well known - but later deemed inappropriate, insufficient, politically inconvenient etc.

What I’m saying is, don’t let other curate your primary sources and then eat up their version of history, I guess.

[trellyworld]

[kimreesesdaughter]

I’m reblogging this every time I see it.

[morninggggstar]

AND COUNTING.

[buckybarnesappreciationsociety]

AND COUNTING!

[questionall]

[luchagcaileag]

This isn’t because Burger King is nicer in Denmark. It’s the law, and the US is actually the only so-called “developed” country that doesn’t mandate jobs provide a minimum amount of paid vacation, sick leave, or both.

[pillowswithboners-deactivated20]

kinda debunks that claim that they can’t afford to pay their workers those sort of wages and still make a profit

[heidiblack]

Its corporate greed, plain and simple.

[queerspeculativefiction]

It is the same in Sweden. It is so funny every time an american company opens up offices here and then tries to do it the american way and all the unions go “I don’t think so”.

Like when Toys ‘r Us opened in sweden 1995.

They refused to sign on to the union deals that govern such things as pay/pension and vacation in Sweden. Most of our rights are not mandated by law (we don’t have a minimum wage for example) but are made in voluntary agreements between the unions and the companies.

But they refused, saying that they had never negotiated with any unions anywhere else in the world and weren’t planning to do it in Sweden either. 

Of course a lot of people thought it was useless fighting against an international giant, but Handels (the store worker’s union) said that they could not budge, because that might mean that the whole Swedish model might crumble. So they went on strike in the three stores that the company had opened so far.

Cue a shitstorm from the press, and from right wing politicians. But the members were all for it, and other unions started doing sympathy actions. The teamsters refused to deliver goods to their stores, the financial unions blockaded all economical transactions regarding Toys ‘r Us and the strike got strong international support as well, especially in the US.

In the end, Toys ‘r Us caved in, signed the union deal, and thus their employees got the same treatment as Swedish store workers everywhere.

The right to be treated as bloody human beings and not disposable cogs in a machine.

[iopele]

and that story right there? is exactly why Republicans in the US work so hard to bust unions. it’s because unionizing WORKS and they’re terrified of workers actually having some power.

[tzikeh]

It makes me despair for Americans that so many of us are so fucking ignorant of how badly we’re treated. People are proud of the fact that they manage to work three jobs to get by, without any understanding of the fact that they shouldn’t have to. But they’ve been sold a bill of goods that anyone who can’t hack it is a lazy freeloader taking “good people’s” taxes like a thief.

It’s almost as if the country was born to abusive parents, and has never known any other life, so it can’t imagine not being abused….

[navalenigma-deactivated20150403]

aggressively southern gay