Aaaaaa

Hey

[dailycatsblog]

[norvicensiandoran]

[mckitterick]

the Ides of March grows near

[adhdoofenshmirtz]

[redstonedust]

why do US patriots think they own "red white and blue" there's a lotta red white and blue flags out there. "i stand for the red white and blue" yass me too let's go costa rica 🇨🇷🇨🇷🇨🇷🇨🇷 let's go laos 🇱🇦🇱🇦🇱🇦🇱🇦 fuck it up liberia 🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷 nepal get triangular with it 🇳🇵🇳🇵🇳🇵

[radiqueer]

Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your ‘i don’t owe anyone anything’ shtick are too happy to forget

[aromanticduck]

Transactional: everything has to be exactly 50/50 all the time, pay me back for the £5 sandwich or buy me something worth exactly £5, I refuse to make an effort for you if there’s nothing in it for me

Reciprocal: you were there for me when I needed help, and I’m going to do the same for you, it doesn’t matter if one of us needs more or is capable of less, because the point is not equivalent exchange but mutual care

[lighthouseharbor]

I’m not sure I care for these examples because, as someone with a strict budget, loaning someone $5-20 or more can make or break some stuff. It would actually feel reciprocal to me if I was to be paid back. The last sentence of that makes sense though.

I get being there for someone when they need help, and wanting the same thing in return, but there are other ways to demonstrate transactional relationships; such as only buying your friends something when you got into an argument to “buy” back their affection.

A good way to phrase it would be:

Transactional: I give because I expect something back

Reciprocal: I give because I want to, and trust balance will emerge over time

Or, on a separate but related note, there ARE relationships that are solely transactional and that’s okay. That just doesn’t make them friendships. For example, hair dressers or otherwise service providers. There’s Study Buddies, or there’s the Networking type relationships in online creator spaces.

[marshemillow]

how the heck porn addiction is not real

Because scientists have studied it and they've found insufficient evidence to prove that it's real. It's really quite simple.

[the-consistent-anti]

There are literally scientists who went into these studies genuinely believing in porn addiction who were eager to study it and its effects who came out no longer believing in it. Why? Because they're good scientists who changed their minds in the face of new evidence.

The key point in studies like this is that they always expect porn-related problems to go up as porn use goes up, and you would expect that because that's how every addiction works from gambling to cigarettes to alcohol to crack cocaine, but what they actually find is that the people with the most distress over their porn use is actually related to how religious they are, not how much porn they're watching. This is significant, because it means people who identify as "porn addicts" are not actually watching more porn than the average person; They just feel worse about it because they think they shouldn't be watching it AT ALL.

I really can't stress this point enough; Are there people whose lives are badly impacted by watching 22 hours of porn a day? Sure, they do exist and they have my sympathy, but the majority of cases of "porn addiction" are completely religiously motivated and have nothing to do with how much porn people are actually watching.

The key takeaway here is that shaming people for their sexuality is harmful. It's bad for people's mental health to make them feel shame over something they have no control over, like how horny they can get. It's wrong to force people to suppress their emotions and make them feel guilty for not harming anyone. As Drew of Genetically Modified Skeptic once said; You can't shame someone out of feeling horny any more than you can shame someone out of feeling hungry.

Christianity often does this as a form of control by selling you the sickness and the cure; We are created sick and commanded to be well.

[greengrassandflowers]

To be specific, I am a Akita Neru/Muse kin from Project Diva: Deep Blue and wanted to try and find other silly kins in similar universes and such hehe ^^

YAAAAAAAAAY

[greengrassandflowers]

Waves in Neru kin

Henlo, saw a post with a thing from y’all hehe

WAVES

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

and what if I told you guys that virtually everyone you ever meet will turn out to be really interesting if you give them a chance

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

some real miserable fucks in the notes I fear

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I'm not even saying you have to talk to every single person you meet. and you're certainly not going to LIKE all of them. but every person does have a rich interior life and complex feelings and unique worldview. sorry.

[iwilleatyourenglish]

i think it's actually really horrifying and detrimental that it's considered socially unacceptable to tell parents when they are making mistakes while raising their kids

[iwilleatyourenglish]

"don't tell me how to raise my kids" is seen as a good defense and it's so disturbing to me.

children are not your property that you can do whatever you like with.

giving birth or impregnating someone or adopting doesn't give you some inherent wisdom that means you can never fuck up.

and you shouldn't have the right to abuse or neglect or misinform a child just because you have legal guardianship of them.

they deserve to have others speak up on their behalf. i don't care if it hurts your ego.

[iwilleatyourenglish]

the vast majority of the time, it is all about ego and control btw.

a staggering amount of parents view their children as their property and see advice as someone trying to take away their "deserved" control.

a ton of them are more concerned with being perceived as a good parent over actually being one.

[simplysebby]

I don't know. I don't get why more people (/rhetorical) aren't, in some way, invested in youth lib. Like, can you listen to what we're saying? Have you seen what's been happening? Why aren't you infuriated?

My mom told me a story today about how, in her last semester of high school, she had 4 study halls, calculus, and PE. She told me she skipped her study halls and just showed up for calculus and PE so she could graduate. She told me on her senior skip day she went to the lake with nearly her entire class.

I'm not saying this is like, incredibly awesome and educationally productive, but she was a teen. And she did teen stuff.

My school doesn't have study halls. Punishments for absences start once you dip below 95% attendence rates. 3 tardies count as an unexcused absence. We got several emails about how senior skip day was not approved and that anyone caught to be participating would get in school suspension. 45 minute lunches are a "privilege". Skipping class is an in school suspension, which are sent along with grades to colleges you apply for. Speaking of which, the majority of my classmates are still spending hours everyday studying, and failing that, doing part-time jobs, clubs, sports, and volunteering -- all in hopes of getting into the college they want.

Everyone is fucking wiped! Barely any of us enjoy school (+or life, to some extent), many of us are actively suicidal because of school. One of us didn't make it to graduation. This is seen as an "us issue", a matter of mindset (don't worry! Today's quote of the day is another variation of "good mindset = good day, bad mindset = bad day"!!) Most places actively bar or discourage teens from being there (hanging out in a mall = loitering, no minors allowed without parent supervision basically everywhere, walking around with no real goal is "suspicious", etc etc). When we stay inside and go on the internet, we are told that we are the problem, we need to stop spending so much time online, and the solution is social media and phone bans. As if excessive use of electronics by younger people isn't a symptom of a much larger issue. As if bans will solve the problem. As if we like spending our teenage years scrolling.

My friends tell me how their mom took their inheritance money and bought a car. How their dad flipped their shit, verbally and physically, when they dyed their hair. I read stories about people getting messages from online friends that say "I think my parents found out I'm queer" and then never hearing from them again. Have you ever read about the troubled teen industry?

And that isn't even, like, the basics!!! That's barely even scratching the surface!!

Aren't you angry? Aren't you? I need more people to be angry, because I'm not allowed to (don't cha know being angry when you're young justifies abuse I mean discipline?).

[omegaverse]

I make fun of coffee drinkers for being physically addicted to and dependent on badbreath bitterdrink but when i dont have my morning tea i feel like a mentally ill caveman about to do something bad.

[omegaverse]

^ the gurgling farter

[iamoutofideas]

you’re all gonna love me for slamming cans of mango monster in the morning

[omegaverse]

^ the jittering trembler

[mazeltron]

[omegaverse]

^ The nefarious anglerfish

[captainstarburst]

my biggest nothingburger complaint: i dont like that the "a schizophrenic stoner is talking, listen and learn" image got edited to be "an autistic stoner" instead and now that version is 500x more popular and its the one i see everywhere. why do you need it to be relatable to you specifically why cant it just be about schizophrenia. come on now

[captainstarburst]

you cant take it from me I Wont Let You

[frostedmagnolias]

WE ARE BACK

[frostedmagnolias]

WE SURVIVED THE TUMBLR BLACKOUT OF 2026

[teaboot]

this really is how I learn everything, huh

[jackalopescruff]

cant help but notice that everyone helped Markiplier make 21 million at the box office EVEN THOUGH he tried to sell the sinister potion. WHICH IS FORBIDDEN!

[snapewife-divorce-lawyer]

people who cant work deserve to have sex and fine foods and drugs and several libraries of games and movies and any media they want. people who cant work deserve to live

[valtsv]

patron saint of one-way trips and other journeys from which you can never return

[valtsv]

this post is about her

[tender-warrior]

Yet again begging everyone to read Muttnik by Tumblr user @fateology

[lovingtogekiss]