Making Adulting Easier

This blog is dedicated to everyone who hasn't gotten the hang of growing up. Ask box is Open

[amroyounes]

Time for some kitchen charts to help you adult better ;)

[drovie]

Cause I know a lot of my followers get stuck on some of these.

[petermorwood]

Reblogging because charts like these are always useful, especially when trying to convert between US Cups (volume measure) and oz / gr (weight measure).

Not having grown up with them, cups have always seemed an inaccurate way to measure anything coarse: liquids, flour, sugar, no probs, but surely 1 cup of (say) whole almonds is going to be a smaller amount than 1 cup of ground almonds, because of the air spaces.

And then there’s the “pint’s a pound the world around” business… Imperial pints are bigger, 20 fl.oz rather than 16.

@dduane has a set of US Cups, and just for fun we also got a set of these amusing spoons. What I really want are measures for Some, A Bit and most important, Far Too Much.

[nicepeoplearenice]

Um, cilantro and coriander are the same thing? Why do they have two different rows for the same thing in the spice/herb table?

[rinasaurusrex]

When it’s “cilantro” they’re usually talking about the leafy part of the plant, and when it’s “coriander” they mean the seeds.

[kazoosandfannypacks]

The company budsies, which specializes in making custom stuffed animals and making duplicates of old or lost plushies, is currently offering to recreate the beloved stuffed animal of any kid who lost theirs in the LA wildfire, free of charge.

Their instagram post said to share this, so please spread this around so that families who've lost everything can receive just a little bit more hope in their lives 🥺

[disgruntledexplainer]

this could actually really help the morale of the people over there. People often underestimate how much of the damage caused by fires is emotional (as opposed to purely financial). Comforting blankets, photos, books, stuffed animals, all the familiar things children and even parents derive a sense of security and comfort from ripped away from them for no good reason. this may not be much, but getting a kid a little stuffed animal to hug while his parents try to find a place to live... the emotional benefit is enormous. And if they aren't able to find a place to live, this might be all they have for a long time.

[homoidiotic]

ameircans talking about red note like they have never spoken to anyone from another country ever about anything

[humblecabbagemerchant]

A lot of us haven't (or at least don't realize we are when talking to people online if it's not obvious or explicitly stated)

[pitbolshevik]

that's embarassing why would you admit that

[pain-in-the-riri]

as a Certified Immigrant(tm) from Old Country to America I would like to say: DO NOT SHAME PEOPLE now that they're actually doing it!

It's GOOD that Americans are having these moments of realization that they've been living in a bubble, that they've been lied to, that life in other countries is not just people living in huts and being oppressed by communists!

I understand the impulse but I just want you to think: Do you want to discourage the open communication that has been happening on Red Note or encourage it?

I've seen the comments and vids on Red Note, everyone is being vulnerable with each other, they're being kind, they're admitting to embarrassing failures in their education and in their lived experiences. (The Americans and Chinese users, both, actually!) They should be allowed to do so! Admitting that there is a problem is the first step to solving that problem!

And the best way to grow empathy and camaraderie between people with different lived experiences is to meet each other, speak to each other, be vulnerable with each other. THIS is how we defeat fascism, not snide remarks.

Thank you, ilu, don't discourage people's growth by being a cynic and a snark.

[s3znl-gr3znl]

ICE raids are set to start as soon as tuesday (JAN 21, 2025) in Chigago so make sure you know your rights, your community, and your plan.

ICE MUST have a warrant to search/enter any property. they will lie and manipulate you to allow them on the premises but if they arent holding a valid document in their hands they cannot legally do anything

They may say something like "our warrant is in the truck," tough shit, have them bring it to you, DO NOT FOLLOW THEM ANYWHERE. Do not leave your property if confronted.

If you are taken, say nothing until a lawyer is present. The exception is if there are bystanders present/filming, then you should shout your name and whats happening

If you are witnessing a raid in your community, wait to warn others via phone as the cops may be monitoring nearby communications and may use that to select their next targets. Warn by code or word of mouth

escape if the opportunity presents itself, but dont be stupid.

[brandyllyn]

Important to add they likely WILL have a warrant. It will be through ICE and called something like an administrative warrant. They will tell you outright this allows them to enter your property or search your vehicle.

An administrative warrant is not a search warrant.

An office holding a search warrant will not ask you for permission. They will inform you of what they have and then enter your property.

An officer holding an administrative warrant will tell you everything under the sun but they still need your permission to enter or search.

Under no circumstance do you give it to them.

Do not answer their questions, do not engage in conversation, and use complete sentences. "I do not give you permission to enter my property. I do not give you permission to search my car. You do not have my permission to talk to anyone in my home/car."

Again, they will tell you that what they hold gives them permission. Be firm.

A cop with a valid warrant will not spend even one moment arguing with you.

[thischapelofritual]

Adding that a warrant MUST be issued by a court and signed by a judge in order to be valid.

Cops and ICE are likely counting on you not knowing what an actual legal, valid warrant looks like or requires.

THIS is what a valid judicial warrant looks like.

Note that it shows at the top that it is issued by a court, and it is signed by a judge at the bottom.

THIS is what an administrative warrant looks like.

Not issued by a court. Not signed by a judge. They can't do shit without your permission.

Both of these examples were provided by the National Immigration Law Center.

Stay safe out there.

[behaviornerdwithahat]

In case anyone finds it helpful because mobility aids are horrifically expensive and inaccessible…

And for those people who have access to mobility devices but might benefit from a second chair they can abuse without risking expensive damage…

Erik Kondo has made a website, Open Source Innovations, that details plans for DIY wheelchairs. These wheelchairs can be made from common materials like wood, plastic, and pvc. They are lightweight and can be custom fit to the user allowing from the same degree of movement you would get from a custom chair. And they are durable and easily repairable. (he has been stress testing his latest design by dropping it down stairs, dropping it out of a car, launching it across a driveway, and throwing it off a deck). Its 12lbs and I think he said its was in the $200 ish range for parts.

He also is working on cheap, open source, accessible designs for beach chairs, off road chairs, motorized attachments (think smart drive), and so on. Plus he skateboards in his wheelchair. Cool dude, helpful info, pass it on.

[sumi-sprite]

It's incredibly sad people have to resort to this, but it's a damn good resource. Use it. Spread awareness. Maybe one day people with physical disabilities won't need DIYs like this. But until then, reblog and share.

[edwinatwork]

http://edwin-at-work.carrd.co One exception to this tip are small companies (e.g., start-up, mom & pop). They may not have an application platform.

[edwinatwork]

http://edwin-at-work.carrd.co

I know it is soul crushing, but you have to get back to the search!

[edwinatwork]

The final phase of a business: Decline. Nobody wins in this phase. Non-managerial workers are pushed hard to meet unrealistic goals. You should probably jump ship ASAP. One pro to this phase is the company maybe acquired, throwing you into a Growth phase.

[fantasyamazon-deactivated202605]

[id: screenshots of tiktok captions. the images say, “but the only reason we still love princess diana is because she did not have the time to disappoint us.”]

begging queer kids to read up on princess diana’s involvement with the community. yes, she was a rich, pretty monarch. yes, she died young.

but the reason why queer people love her is because she used her privilege during the aids crisis to advocate for sick queer men, when very few others would - much less someone of her status.

diana spent years advocating for the health and care of queer people with hiv/aids. in 1987, at the height of the epidemic, she opened the first specialist clinic dedicated to treating aids patients (the first clinic of it’s kind in the uk).

she also fought public hysteria by hugging and shaking bare hands with aids patients, at a time when aids was thought to be spread by skin to skin contact. not only that, she visited patients in the clinic regularly and even comforted them through their sickness.

and when queen elizabeth told her to try focusing on “something more pleasant”?

diana ignored her and kept fighting.

and this is only her work towards the aids crisis. she publicly called out the royal family, brought attention to numerous world issues, and was known as an advocate for empathy and kindness. she’s known and loved as the people’s princess for good reason

[sepdet]

Diana also literally walked across a minefield (through a lane cleared by the humanitarian organization HALO Trust, which she was promoting, but there was still some risk). She used the paparazzi who always followed her around to raise awareness of the plight of landmine victims in Angola, met with survivors who still talk about her visit, advocated on their behalf to the UN, and then went to other places suffering the same problem.

Her advocacy was instrumental in helping push forward a treaty to ban the use, production, and export of land mines. She was attacked by British politicians for meddling in government policy, but the Ottawa Treaty was signed by 122 countries including the UK three months after her death. One of the anti-landmine groups in which she'd been involved received the Nobel Peace Prize.

Diana's support was 'turning point' in landmine ban effort

The princess's backing brought the campaign wider attention, says the founder of an anti-landmine group.

I remember the photos of her holding hands with dying AIDS patients, of her sitting by them and listening to them like fellow human beings, at a time when tolerance was radical and most people feared AIDS was transmissible by touch.

I also remember her holding HIV-positive babies, when most people were paranoid about fluids from AIDS patients— and let's face it, babies leak. (There was a brutal subtext to criticism of Diana's AIDS work: was she neglecting, even endangering, the heir(s) to the throne?)

Like Carrie Fisher, Diana wasn't a perfect human being. But she did indeed use her privilege to advocate for and amplify the voices of those with none.

[apocalypse-polakiewicz]

tozozozo

[selfcare-journey]

What to do when you’re having a poor executive function day/been sitting in front of your computer for a few hours wondering why you can’t do your work: 

1. Take a deep breath - Let out all that anxiety over the project you’re doing so you can think clearly

2. Pull up a clean sheet of paper and something to write with - You can use a fresh word doc, new page in your journal or planner or whatever else works for you, the idea is that after this you will have a physical list to look at to help keep you on task.

3. Identify your obstacles (i.e. What is keeping you from doing this task?) - For example: Is it scary? If so, why? Does it feel too hard? Is there something else that you feel needs to be done first? Write these down!

4. Plan how to overcome your obstacles - This can take some creativity and some thinking to best figure out how to overcome the obstacle. I’ve included examples below for potential plans.

Example 1:

Obstacle: I don’t know the best way to approach this task.

Plan: Brainstorm on paper ways that you might be able to approach this task. Google ways to accomplish this task. Review lecture notes or example homework problems on how to accomplish this task. Ask a friend/coworker/classmate how they might start the task. Write down everything you feel might be relevant until you feel like you know where to start and where to go.

Example 2:

Obstacle: This feels too big and overwhelming so I don’t want to do it.

Plan: Break down the tasks into smaller, tiny tasks. Make them as small as you need to make them feel manageable. Write down all these tasks check them off as you go. 

Example 3:

Obstacle: I’m waiting for someone to get back to me with comments on this project but they’re taking too long.

Plan: Follow up with this person and identify what you can do without their comments. For example, if you’re waiting for someone to sent you a section of a project or paper, write your section to the best of your ability. Can you have someone else review this project and still get good feedback. Or tell yourself you’ll revise/edit your project and integrate their comments later when you get to them. Often when I identify what feels out of order, I can move past it or put it farther down my list so I’m no longer just stuck waiting.

5. Encourage yourself and commend yourself for filling in the gaps actively that your brain couldn’t do on it’s own today. - You’re doing a great job!

Sincerely,

A Graduate Student with Adult ADHD

[gemmacorrell]

[sabertoothwalrus]

why the fuck aren’t there decorative dispensers for maxi pads.

they could look like those fancy tissue box covers but function like a tea bag dispenser

[sabertoothwalrus]

I don’t use tampons but a dispenser for those could be like the ones for straws

[sabertoothwalrus]

I have to do everything myself I guess

I still have to sand and finish it but I’m pretty happy with how it came out

[sabertoothwalrus]

I added a finish! I didn’t stain it or paint it because I like how it matches my room.

Also some of yall are telling me to patent this, but why would I do that when I can just as easily post a diagram for free on the internet so anyone could make one if they wanted to :)

[sabertoothwalrus]

*gets my period* :(

*remembers I get to use my box the next few days* :)

[holdouttrout]

This is GENIUS. I love the idea of having cute boxes like this with supplies for guests. Like “no need to furtively dig through my cabinets, there’s no shame here and also you get more time to snoop through my cabinets this way.”

[darthmelyanna]

Hmm. I don’t have woodworking tools or skills but I wonder if something could be 3D printed (once the library reopens, that is).

[darthmelyanna]

Look, as soon as the library reopens their tech lab I’m printing this.

[paradoxigal7]

Yes! This is an excellent idea!

[lgbt-tiktoks]

https://linktr.ee/myelasticheart

@myelasticheart

Linktree. Make your link do more.

[maeples]

[Video descriptoin: a TikTok by @myelasticheart, showing the user talking to the camera. When they talk about the limits on savings, text appears on the screen that says: “For married couples the limit is $3,000. average rent in the US is $1,098. a motorized wheelchair is $600-$3,000+. a car repair costs $400-$900”.]

[tricky-pockets]

this is huge?! Holy shit you guys.

it’s not all over the news, but here is an article I found:

Sanders co-leads senators introducing Supplemental Security Income Restoration Act

I am going to gather up all my spoons tomorrow morning and call my reps.

[shockpine]

[brandysmellville-deactivated202]

girls after saying something smart: So yeah

[skybluelipgloss]

Girls after giving a concise and completely sensible thought on the matter, with well thought out arguments:

... If that makes sense?

[jasmiinitee-deactivated20210610]

Girls after expressing a personal opinion: if you think that's okay haha maybe

[labradorduck]

Girls saying something they know to be absolutely correct and spent years studying: if I remember correctly

[one-pointperspective-deactivate]

Alternatives for each of these to practice:

instead of: “so yeah” -- silence or “do you have any questions?”

instead of: “if that makes sense?” -- “does that make sense or can i clarify further?” or “do you have any questions I can help answer?” 

instead of: “if you think that’s okay haha maybe” -- “that is my recommendation/opinion, though I am open to further discussion” or “Does anybody have reservations about this course of action/decision?”

instead of: “if i remember correctly” -- “to my understanding” or “I have found, through xyz”

the goal of these alternatives is not to shut down dissent, but to change the level of confidence and authority you give yourself in discussions. 

the original statements essentially position your opinions and knowledge as by default “probably incorrect” and seeking confirmation. 

the updated statements position your opinions and knowledge as being confirmed by you considering the information you have available-- others can voice their concerns and disconfirm, but this requires them to logically explain with facts/evidence why they disagree with you. 

[flakmaniak]

So, Microsoft is terrible. Yes yes, the oldest claim in the world.

But specifically… I just hate how Windows 10 tries to conflate and confuse web searches with things on one’s own computer. The start menu should never do anything related to web-searching, especially if it purports to try to give examples of things that are on my hard drive!

This will make old, computer-illiterate people more malware-vulnerable. You have to maintain a strong distinction between “things that are on this computer (and maybe even included in Windows)” (safe, one hopes, or you already got pwned by it, probably), and “things on the web” (scary, dangerous, not to be trusted at all).

Eroding that barrier in the UI is awful. It just FEELS like a violation every time I start typing into the start bar, and it tries to show me ANYTHING web-related. My computer is NOT just an internet-portal! It has tons of stuff on it, and when I’m interacting with the OS, I ONLY want to see things that are already on here!

If I wanted to see something online, I would go to my browser! All the online stuff should be segregated into the browser!

Specific programs can access the internet; that’s fine. But my OS’s functions and interface should JUST be about the things that are already on my computer.

[hotvampireadjacent]

#someone in the notes mentioned shut up windows 10.

https://www.oo-software.com/en/shutup10 

i haven’t used this myself but i’ll be looking into it

[self-critical-automaton]

Literally spent multiple hours lobotomizing my Windows reinstall when I upgraded recently, the amount of awful shit they had in nowadays makes me long for the age of win98, when software was merely bad, rather than actively harmful.

[leylin3]

the exact setting in shutup10 for this issue is “Disable extension of Windows 10 search with Bing” it’s at the very bottom under misc.

[saltedweather]

With hopes that @inthroughthesunroof and @mx-delta-juliette might find this useful especially.

[beyondthisdarkhouse]

Oh thank GOD, that feature has been driving me batshit for ages