[ritahayworrth]

happy fourth of july to the philippines ONLY

[ritahayworrth]

link to article

[cassiterite-tenring]

hi, filipino here. just want to say that our independence day is june 12, not july 4. july 4 is when the united states government decided that they would recognize our freedom, specifically because it is your independence day and they wanted to cement their cultural hegemony over our country. and because of their influence on our country this was recognized for a time as our independence day. we still commemorate it, but i hope you can understand why we don’t want our independence day to be associated so closely with our former colonizer. it wasn’t even a work holiday for us.

june 12 is the day that we filipinos declared our own independence for ourselves, and that is what we celebrate as independence day

[houseofglass]

happy june 12 to you

[ultrafacts]

[intelligentchristianlady]

A bus may have only a couple of passengers, especially at the beginning or end of its route. But let's also take fuel efficiency into account.

[foxoftheasterisk]

If there's one person on a bus because that person cannot or doesn't want to drive, the bus is succeeding.

[luckyladylily]

I read a study once on the fuel efficiency of various types of commuter vehicles (car, bus, train) on a per person basis and the number of people needed riding public transit to match the "efficiency" of cars is shockingly low. A bus needs to carry like 3-4 people to be fuel efficient, and trains require 2-3 per train car. Both often carry two dozen or more during peak hours, more than justifying any perceived requirements for efficiency for the train or bus to provide service the entire day.

[brightlotusmoon]

[catchymemes]

[aeliad]

HI LET’S SHARE NICOLE’S WORDS ON THE SUBJECT! 

It has been literal years but every time I see Martin’s tweets posted somewhere and his word is shared as truth while her post is not shared it sort of reiterates the fact that we trust men to speak about feminism more than we believe women who experience it. 

Interesting, innit? https://medium.com/@nickyknacks/working-while-female-59a5de3ad266

[wiseacrewhimsy]

Reading her account of how their boss treated her blows me away. Men are so emboldened that they will literally admit to illegal discrimination casually and face no consequences.

[the-geek-cornucopia]

In all the years of seeing this post I’ve never seen a link to her side. Didn’t even know she’d written one.

[pluts04]

Adding screenshots of her post. His whole post is there without needing a link. Hers should be, too.

Also, she posted this is 2017! It’s fucking 2020 and I’ve seen his side of this for years, but it took 3 years for her side to make its way to my dash…

[thou-creature-of-the-deep]

I’ve reblogged his story at least twice; it’s time for Nicole’s.

[satan-is-hugs]

It’s 2023 and i just now learned that Nicole’s response was also out there

[hotvampireadjacent]

I don’t have time to drop everything atm but. Family friend is looking for a family member possibly kidnapped by ice in Washington state. Does anyone have any resources or connections I could reach out to help her look?

Tacoma Washington if anyone knows the area

[melyzard]

For what its worth:

National Immigration Law Center document on how to look for a loved one detained by ICE

Tacoma detention center inmates record finder (dont know how accurate it really is, but its official)

ICE in my area tracker, place where people anonymously upload ice sightings/a tivity in their area (maybe help get a record of where/when something might have happened?).

Freedom For Immigrants, resources for those facing detention, deportation.

Five things to do if a loved one is detained by ICE, by rescue.org

Good luck. Godspeed.

[hotvampireadjacent]

Thank you very much. I got some more of his details from the friend going to try searching various data bases.

[queer-scots-geordie-dyke]

Women who you don't like, or you don't politically align with, or who are horrible people, still have the right to see their rapists and abusers face justice and to have their voices heard.

[queer-scots-geordie-dyke]

This is a putrid attitude to have, BTW. Rape isn't a punishment for being a shit person. It is a violent and fundamental violation of the right to control over one's body. Excusing, dismissing it, or justifying it, just once, just a little, is a road to total dehumanisation. The worst, most evil person in the world would still never deserve to have it happen to them.

[the-library-alcove]

Wow, looking at that blog... they're quite the piece of work (vile).

[homunculus-argument]

There has to be a way to dress gothy and masc in a way that's also comfy. Like "clothes that could also double as pyjamas" level of comfy wear.

[gromqueer]

sweatpants?

[homunculus-argument]

Do you have tips on how to style sweatpants in a dressy, goth way?

[vinylcatlocket]

pick a pair of pants at the thrift store that you think are nice looking and comfy. then pair it with a t-shirt from the menswear section. make sure it calls to you. personalise it if you feel like changing anything about it. you have to dress like who you are authentically.

if your most authentic self is goth, and the way you sourced the clothes is more faithful to goth values, then it's going to be a super comfy goth outfit.

remember, goth is not a look, so much as it is a lifestyle. you have to have the values and practices and the aesthetic will follow

[homunculus-argument]

The problem is the first sentence: there is no known overlap between "looks good" and "comfy".

[caffeinatedpunk]

I have a few ideas but depends on how much effort you want to put on it. Diy is not only a punk feature, goths have always diy'd their clothes. I am more punk than goth but the two are not that far! They are like alt cousins :)

Quickest and easiest way to make a pair of sweatpants look goth is to bleach them. You could either dilute it and spray it on the pants or put a bit of bleach in a container, take a brush and just splash it on the pants. Leave them outside in the sun for a bit and wash them (do not put them with other clothes just to be sure you are not ruining anything). I'll say one hour and you have your personal pair of goth sweatpants.

Another thing you could do is to put holes in them. Take a pair of scissor, cut a small hole and then bush a razor on it to give it a more ripped look.

If you have more time, a bit of money and you want to try something more complicated, you can sew patches, paint them, add some metal eyelets (idk if that's how they are called in english. The metal things in the shoe where you put your laces in), chains, etc.

As for the top, band shirts!! Black shirts!! Black tank tops!! Halloween themed stuff!! You can also find them already goth enough or add patches, pins, laces, etc etc. Same goes for sweatshirts! Be creative! And also accessories!! Spike bracelets, necklaces, etc can change the look and make it more goth even if you are just wearing a pajamas.

Definitely look at old goths looks. They can be the source of great inspiration for diys. You do not need any fancy or expensive equipment or that much experience to make cool things. And remember that all of these subcultures are about breaking societal norms and expectations. So honestly going around in your pjs sounds very goth!!!

[homunculus-argument]

I think people misunderstood what I meant with the sweatpants: I do not want to be seen in public in sweatpants. I would rather just go with no pants at all than have to wear those in public, but unfortunately that attracts unwanted attention.

When I said "I don't want to look like I'm wearing sweatpants", I did not mean "if only there was a way for me to wear sweatpants", I meant "I do not want to be a person who wears sweatpants in public".

If I said "I hate lemons so much that I'd rather eat human shit than touch a lemon", that does not mean that I am looking for suggestions on how to safely consume feces. This is not directed at you personally, I always get misunderstood in ways like this and I don't know how to make it stop happening every time I open my mouth.

[nurmilintunen]

You could try being more specific from the beginning. People are not gonna be able to guess that "clothes that could also double as pyjamas" and "gothy and masc" also mean that you absolutely do not want to be seen wearing sweatpants in public, since you also asked for further tips to make sweatpants look less casual. They will assume you want something comfortable and casual (because you said pyjamas) and since you were curious about how to style sweatpants in a goth, dressy way they're going to go down that road. You did say dressy, but that one word will not communicate that sweatpants are off the list.

You said there's no way to make something comfy and look good, but people don't innately know "what looking good" to you means, and it can't be sweatpants at all and you would not want to even be seen in public in them. If you want to find tips to feel comfortable in dressy clothing you have to say that from the beginning as well.

It's like you're setting invisible tripwires for people by assuming there's more meaning to your words than you're actually communicating with them. Of course people are gonna trip.

And showing more appreciation when people take their time to give you advice, even if they misunderstand would be good. Now you're just rewarding them with a slap on the face by always emphasizing how little they understood you - that can make people feel dumb and embarassed for trying to help at all.

[homunculus-argument]

I definitely fucked the dog with the way I put myself in words again. I regret doing that and will unfortunately do it again, because if I knew how to stop doing that, I would. I should have been more clear at the start about trying to find something that FEELS COMFORTABLE but simultaneously DOES NOT LOOK CASUAL. No streetwear, no sportswear, no underwear, no camping gear. I had not really clarified the requirements to myself before posting.

It's much less intentionally setting tripwires and more like forgetting to tell people that there's no floor in the kitchen. And neither side understands why we're not in the same room anymore.

[theonyxstate]

sounds like it might be an america-raised vs europe-raised thing? as an eastern european i instantly knew what op meant and maybe its just that "looking good" here is not something youd do by wearing sweatpants?

[homunculus-argument]

If you walk up to someone here who's wearing sweatpants and say "I like your outfit!" you're going to get a nose-breaking headbutt, because that can only be taken as sarcasm, and interpreted as you saying "I notice that you're in a bad place in your life right now, and I want you to know that it shows! :)"

[messages-sideblog]

yeah this might be an american/european thing because like

this is a super cute sort of outfit I see all the time in the US, and compliments would be seen as genuine because of course they are, why would anyone hate sweatpants unless they’re someone’s conservative ex-military grandpa?

edit: I googled this and every single result is saying EUROPEANS HATE SWEATPANTS. ONLY AMERICANS WEAR SWEATPANTS. so i guess its real

[homunculus-argument]

Yeah people don't really dress like that on purpose here. If you see someone in sweatpants in the grocery store, it IS someone's conservative ex-military grandpa, whom you can also smell from the other side of the aisle because he doesn't care that people would prefer not to.

[badaxefamily]

An interesting example of cultural differences! I wonder what it is that makes the difference? I only know my own experience so I couldn't say. In the US, if someone's dressed "sloppily" for lack of a better word, it's usually because any other choice would be unreasonable. For example, if they spent time and energy getting into nice clothes and putting on makeup or whatever, they wouldn't have enough to do whatever thing they're going out to do. They also may not have enough money for nice clothes and food at the same time. You see this a lot in grocery stores: There's no reason to be fashionable there, and most people won't bother spending time and energy on just being put together either. Americans don't like wasting time or energy, we have very little of them.

Another factor is that having a serious opinion about someone else's appearance is considered the snobbish behavior of millionaires who are critically detached from reality, or at least really rude because it's not your business.

[homunculus-argument]

I do wear the sweatpants to the grocery store when I don't have the energy or motivation to want to look nice. It's not something you'd do when you want to be perceived.

[fandomsandfeminism]

This may be the best Pride merch I've seen from a major corporation.

Levi's said yes, actually. Assless chaps and a biker vest. Happy Pride.

And the assless chaps sold out on June 1.

[aetherograph]

They also specifically contacted members of the leather community, used them as models iirc, and donated $100k to Outright International. They talked the talk and walked the walk and put their money on it too. I don't really care that I can't afford and don't want this merch, I love to see my community getting the respect it deserves. Levi's said, "We make jeans which gays wear lots of jeans? Oh leather daddies? Let's call them."

[fandomsandfeminism]

I think Levi's donates to Outreach International every year too, as well as sponsoring pride events and other community support. They were offering Same Sex domestic partner benefits to employees in the 90s, and have been very public about their support for pro-lgbt legislation all through the 2000s.

So, you know, a giant corporation that walks the walk pretty consistently.

[depsidase]

[soundoftheirwings]

Gotta tell you guys something wild in the Chinese fan sphere

So some fanartist drew a “sexy” (read: booby) version of a (cartoon) character who is traditionally very non-sexualised. Fans of the character got mad about it because it’s kind of groundbreaking how that character is written and portrayed and this art totally ignores the entire point of the character. They demanded the art be deleted. In response to that other people said, well what the fanartist did may be distateful but they have every right to draw what they’re into. The two sides fight for days and each starts a harassment campaign and even report their “opponents’” accounts.

So far so typical. But things eventually come to a head and they decide that this will be settled by votes - not through a poll. Through donations to a children’s education charity via each side’s portal. Whoever can get the highest amount of donation wins.

And that is how this charity received over 1 million in donations in three days lol. Oh btw the “freedom of expression” side won by a landslide (960k to 40k)

[tlbodine]

From now on this is how all petty fandom disputes should be settled.

[depsidase]

[do-not-u-dare]

Stole this from somewhere but i think it’s appropriate

[depsidase]

[muttsandmustelidae]

From the Nashville Zoo’s fb page! Here’s the petition, please please please take a moment to add your name (even if you’re not from Nashville!). If you are from Tennessee, contact your representatives and make it clear that the people do not want this data center. This is an AZA accredited zoo which is home to several species of critically endangered animals, we NEED to protect it. Make your voice heard!

[ventresses]

This is a perfect time to read the brilliant and unforgettable graphic novel(s) Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi, about growing up in Iran during and after the Iranian Revolution, and the rise of the oppressive theocracy that persists to this day.

Both graphic novels are available free online (Persepolis vol. 1, Persepolis vol. 2)

It also was adapted to a wonderful film (co-directed and co-written by the author) which is available to watch for free on Sundance Now (sign up for the free trial)

[sweaterkittensahoy]

If anyone watches Bag-O-Day on youtube, she just made a video about her hand and elbow needing surgery to fix two separate repetitive motion injuries.

She mentions she first felt signs of it ten years ago, and at the time, her doctor said it wasn't anything to worry about.

Which may have been true. Repetitive motion injuries worsen over time. Ten years ago, that tingle could have been something that could be dealt with with rest. But she--like a lot of us, myself included--ended up ignoring it until there was a physical symptom she could not ignore.

This post is a reminder to take breaks, stretch, and if you feel pain from stitching, talk to a medical professional. Get exercises the first time and do them. Follow the instructions. Better to not stitch for a few weeks than to need surgery in a a few years from trying to ignore it.

If you are an artist, your body is one of your tools. But especially if you crochet or knit or hand sew, your body is one of your tools. You have to take care of your tools.

Please take care of your tools.

[black-quadrant]

ADHD affects how I experience time, not how I experience attachment. I love you. I miss you. I just don't realize how long it’s been since I last said that, let alone messaged.

I understand that most normal functioning brains need regular engagement to maintain a bond. Absence doesn’t diminish my affection. My silence isn’t neglect or disinterest. It’s time blindness and object impermanence. The contact gap is purely neurological, not emotional. Thank you for being patient with my inconsistency and holding a seat in your heart for me.

[rathayibacter]

that pistachio completely sealed in its shell is scared and alone, like a miner trapped by rubble. you need to free it by any means necessary. get the gun from your dad's cabinet