I am too smol to deal with this

sleepy almost 24/7

[this-is-psychosis]

Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself

[voce-morti]

Me: I am violently depressed.

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*

[mx-mythical-deactivated20260319]

Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.

[geekghoulsmash]

And you need to find a therapist you get along with. You wouldn’t keep going to a stylist who never gets your hair right, you need to find a therapist who’s methods work for you. If you don’t like your therapist, they aren’t going to be of much help.

Recovery/treatment is a lot of work, and takes time, you need to have someone who you click with to help you along the way.

[singerin]

Goddamn, FOREVER THIS.

It’s easy and cute to post something like Morti did up there, but it buys in to this toxic tumblr culture of confusing acceptance with wallowing.

[amyjacob]

daisy ridIey (on reyIo): “i read the fans’ posts and comments and it’s really eye-opening the way they talk about abuse and manipulation”

me: finally an actress i can stan

[amyjacob]

interviewer: let’s talk about reyIo

daisy: anyway,,,, stormpilot ftw

[sansaasnark]

People in the same genre that you can support other than Melanie Martinez;

Halsey Terror Jr.

Billie Elish

Transviolet

GIRLI

Ängie

Poppy

Clairo

Sophie Rose

machineheart

Hayley Kiyoko

Oohyo

L Devine

((Edit: I’m so sorry, I wasn’t aware that Halsey has kissed minors and then made jokes about it. That is not okay.))

[britttaperryhasmoved-deactivate]

YOU GUYS IT’S DECEMBER 10TH YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND THIS HAS BEEN IN MY QUEUE SINCE FEBRUARY

[timetraveldean]

when someone says I’m being over dramatic

[sir-scandalous-deactivated20181]

No but this is actually me with every little petty issue I have

[bumbleshark]

david: virgo, libra, sagittarius, taurus, capricorn alex: LEO, gemini, aries table: cancer, pisces, scorpio, aquarius

[lulunothulu]

Why am I all of them.? 😂😭

[carrionthrash-deactivated201904]

it’s genuinely fine for people to be like 40 on tumblr the same way it’s fine for people to be like 40 on other social media sites. it’s just assumed that on twitter or facebook people will primarily interact with people their own age and in their social circles, or their interactions with people significantly younger than them will be apropriate (eg, ur weird aunt commenting “you’re a superstar! i know you can graduate college if you try!” on your selfie or something. dumb but harmless).

the thing that’s weird about tumblr is that people in their mid 30s and 14 year olds are both on here and in the same spaces, and those adults aren’t taking into consideration the power dynamic that comes with age or thinking about how appropriate their interactions with those children are.

modern fandom originated with middle aged women who were really into star trek, and that was fine because that circle was adults interacting with and making content for other adults. there isn’t anything fundamentally weird or creepy about grown women making fan media or really liking a piece of science fiction. the root issue is people having inappropriate dynamics with people significantly younger than them, which i really hate having to explain to begin with.

[neddybubblegumiusfuckingdead]

hey so queer? yeah that word isn’t something you can just swap out to mean lgbt. it’s a slur that’s been hurled at lgbt for a long ass time and this whole switching them out thing was started solely because specific individuals reclaimed it. stop using the slur so liberally, you really don’t understand the damage you can do if you don’t filter that stuff out.

[shock]

i wonder how many historic trans men we’ve lost to “this WOMAN went by a man’s name, wore men’s clothes, took the job of a man, lived as a man… GIRL POWER!”

[shock]

this isn’t a “pushing my identity on historic people” thing, it’s the fact that every single time i or another person brings up the possibility of someone like us in history, we’re immediately shut down, told that we didn’t “exist yet”, given a billion different reasons why we aren’t ALLOWED to see these people as reflective of us and our struggles and experiences - i get that we didn’t have the vocabulary back then but for so many of you the IDEA that someone who went to the same stretches that we do today to separate from their dead selves and identify similar to the way trans people do is too “far out there” and “disrespectful” to them somehow. they’re dead. we’re alive. we’re trying to connect the pieces. go get your kicks out of isolating us from history somewhere else, away from me.

[nitrosplicer]

yeah, there were women who did crossdress in order to take up jobs they would not have been permitted to access

but when people say it about Albert Cashier, who donned Union uniform, bound his chest, and lived as a man even after the Civil War, when he was reclusive and lived in a tiny village, after there would have been no incentive for him to do so, I question their motives.

I also question their motives when they list Alan L Hart, who legally changed his name and was one of the first trans men to pursue a hysterectomy, referring to himself as “a fellow.”

people DONT want historical figures to be trans. they WANT to interpret these historical figures as women, not trans men, because that makes them uncomfortable. 

[ultimaid]

same with the musician billy tipton, who hid his trans status from his wife and children his whole life, and whose son didn’t know his father was trans until billy was dead. he told his wife that his binding was necessary because he had been in an automobile accident before they met, never disclosing his trans status to her. the number of historians that refer to him by his deadname and call him an “actress” make me feel sick. he was a stealth trans man around everyone but his parents, and it hurts trans men everywhere to call trans men in history “lesbians”.

[makingqueerhistory]

If you want to learn more about any of these men:

Albert D.J. Cashier

Alan L. Hart, Part 1

Alan L. Hart, Part 2

Billy Tipton and the Question of Gender 

[therightprometheanfire]

I think one of the reasons the Rosa Diaz news is, for me, so exciting is because we now have a “safe” bisexual character on mainstream television.

Brooklyn Nine Nine is a half hour sitcom. That’s not to say that bad things don’t happen to the characters, because they do, and it’s not to say there isn’t a certain amount of dangerous elements, I mean, it’s about cops, for Christ’s sake. But major characters don’t die. And death is a standard trap for LGBT characters. There is a reason we all know what someone means when they say kill your gays.

Rosa’s not going to fall victim to that. Unless the show is taken in a vastly different direction from where it is right now, Rosa is not going to be killed senselessly.

Whenever I tune into Brooklyn Nine Nine, I’m not going to have to worry that she’s about to bite it for no good reason. I don’t have to keep it in the back of my mind that she might not make it through this episode by virtue of her sexuality.

tl;dr, Rosa Diaz is an honest to god safe bisexual character in a form of media, I’ve been crying a little since I found out, and that’s one of the reasons.

[fourdrinksantiago]

steph actually adressed this in an interview!

“I was really excited about it. I hadn’t really seen much of that representation in television that I personally watch. I know it’s out there, but often times it’s written in a specific way. “Let’s introduce a gay character and quickly kill them off,” so you have the ride of the complexity of this amazing character, but also [you do] not necessarily deal with them over the course of our entire show. Obviously, that’s probably not going to happen in this case [laughs], because Rosa is a core member of this ensemble. It’s not like she’s going to come out and then get hit by a car and get killed off. It’s really cool to me that our show is exploring something with almost the safety net underneath it, telling the audience, “Look, we’re not doing this so that we can explore a story and simply throw it away when it’s convenient for us. We are going to keep this person around because we love this person already.” It’s part of the family.”

[swamphtml-blog]

y'all are all for men rejecting traditional gender roles and holding hands with their friends and shit but that moment men actually DO that y'all call them gay and ship them together so don’t try and say that “‘society”’ is the only thing fucked up here

[rhythmic-idealist]

If I see one more of those kinds of things as “”“"evidence”“”“ that a celebrity/youtuber/that-shy-boy-in-your-class isn’t straight I’m going to scream, because 1) please allow boys and men platonic affection this is the entire problem and 2) yeah maybe they are but if you’re right that’s just called outing someone and isn’t cool

[zerobullshitallowed-deactivated]

Someone finally said it

[serious-tv-art-deactivated20181]

[iampikachuhearmeroar]

the longer i look at this, the funnier it gets

[showerthoughtsofficial]

Driving anywhere is basically an interactive loading screen.

[seafucker]

fandoms across the board rly hate butch lesbians huh

[seafucker]

literally it’s like, lesbians tryin to have fun w/ media go “____ is totally a butch lesbian” and ppl literally slither out of the cracks in the walls to say “UH but that would feed into the Accurséd butch lesbian stereotype, and would actually be the OPPOSITE of progressive, u know what demographic is truly underrepresented? Straight Women With Short Hair :)”

[bob-belcher]

[sizvideos]

Watch it in video

[twatlad-deactivated20190411]

No. 

No this is not funny.

Whether or not it is a joke, I’ve gone onto the channel and there are multiple videos similar to this, which makes me think they’re fake.

Doesn’t matter. 

These videos enforce the idea to parents that yes, the answer to stop your child becoming obsessed with games is to DESTROY them.

No. This is not funny. It is things like this that cause events such as the father who SHOT his daughter’s laptop to bits to occur. These jokes enforce the attitude that people are ‘wrong’ for loving games.

For wanting to play games. 

For some people (including myself), games are a serious escape from horrid realities. The only escape some people can get. The idea that this man (boy?) is wrong for being so upset is disgusting to me?

This is horrific. This is abuse. This is wrong.

[twee-lil-paws]

This is a sure fire way to get your kids to hate you.

[cinnamontuesday]

do people not understand how much video games cost?

[japan-esque]

Video games are a multi-billion dollar business. Some people are good at it. Very good. Do not squander your child’s talents, help them realize them and strengthen them. There are other ways to get your child outside without destroying their games and everything they work for. This won’t solve anything; this will only set them back further.

[d-o-llf-a-ce]

do this to your childs anything and they will automatically hate you/not trust you

It doesn’t matter what it is

It doesn’t matter if its their video games or if its their smoking pipe

If you just destroy it/throw it away, you are giving no explanation as to why it’s bad/you don’t want them to have it

This can actually psychologically mess a kid up because you teach them that if someone doesn’t like something, they should destroy it

That can lead to some serious problems with socializing with others and other things

dont do that to people

dont

[kadenonio]

I had a notebook I used to write in all the time. I did that thing that Margo did in Paper Towns where she criss crossed her writing, but I did it so I’d have enough room to write everything. I took it everywhere wtih me and wouldn’t let my parents even start the car unless I had in in my lap. My dad got really annoyed by this and said I needed to throw the notebook away, what was written in it wasn’t important anyway (it was to me, very much so). So one day he took and ran it through the paper shredder. Ever since I’ve had an intense fear of losing my notebooks and currently have a colletion of 53 blank notebooks and 16 that have been written in because I’ve started hoarding them. Long story short, don’t fucking do this to your kids. You think it’s harmless and some people even think it’s clever, but you’re really just an asshole and are causing actual psychological problems for your children.

[trans-spy-blog]

I have a plush rabbit that I’ve had since Easter of the year I was born (I was about 2 months old when I got it). It quickly became a comfort thing for me and I used to go everywhere with it as a child. When my mum and dad split up was when I became kind of dependent on having it around. If ever I did anything wrong mum always threatened to take it away from me, which obviously caused my 6-year-old self to kick and scream and cry because I needed it. One day I lost it for 6 or 7 months (turns out it was in my room the whole time but shh it was very well hidden & neither myself or my mum know how it got there) That was the point that my mum realised she couldn’t threaten to take it away because holy shit I changed so much in those months. Seriously, if your child is dependent on something, or takes great comfort in having it around DO NOT TAKE IT FROM THEM. It does not matter how old your child is, what their comfort item is, if it’s a video games console - don’t take it from them. If it’s their phone - don’t take it from them. If they’re 18 and still sleep with a teddybear - don’t take it from them.

This also goes for if your child is self-harming. If they have a blade in their bedroom and you find it DO NOT THROW IT OUT. Talk to them about it, be as supportive as you can, but do not think “oh well if I get rid of it they’ll be fine”. It can be seriously distressing and also lead to them becoming creative with what they use.

[avengette]

Getting a job and becoming an active member of society is important, but this is not the way to get your kid to do so. As others have previously stated, this is how to get your kid to hate you. Have a problem with your kids? Talk. To. Them.

[hiccupinglasses-deactivated2015]

Don’t make fun of them for the thing they’re dependent on. You cause them to feel shame for having something they like or trust. That’ll screw them up and give them trust issues. You’ll take away their fight and bet them down. I’m dependent on certain habits and things and my family makes fun of me for it. It leaves me a nervous wreck because those habits aren’t continued out of shame and fear of more judgement and teasing. Encourage your kid to not be dependent on things since things come and go but don’t you dare make fun of them for it or take it away. Got it?

[fullymechanized-consoomer]

he’s a kid. Kids have all the time in the world to enjoy video games, and most slowly grow out of or learn to enjoy them in moderation after high school. I also wonder how many of the parents who support this mindset are fine with the idea of their child smashing their brain-cells to a viscus paste in Junior athletics?

[gservator]

My Dad used to take my Pokemon cards when I was younger and he would rip them one by one, every time he would try to find my rarest most treasured cards and destroy them.

He would Gleefully exclaim “it’s ripping time” every time I crossed him slightly.

I still haven’t forgotten or forgiven, destroying your kids possessions is a sure fire way to make your child resent you and hold a grudge against you.

[siryouarebeingmocked]

Mum ripped her copy of Waiting to Exhale in two because she caught me reading it as a kid, shouting “this is not a good book!”

I remember being very confused.

Also, we had Robocop on VHS at the time. Still do.

[drneverland]

doubling back on the “if you find a blade” comment:

if you find things that would harm your kid, definitely talk it out, don’t try to just throw it away and hope for the best.

You know what your kid will do? Become better at lying and hiding things from you. 

[naamahdarling]

There are a few people commenting or reblogging with “Relax! This was scripted! That makes it okay!” And occasionally: “Besides, I think it’s funny!” I don’t CARE if it was scripted. This isn’t funny. It wouldn’t be funny if it was a scripted video of a guy beating his girlfriend for messing up dinner, either. Because abuse isn’t funny. The punch line here is literally “hahaha, people experience pain when you destroy their things!” That’s a shitty joke.

[bonsai-bot-deactivated20180415]

You’ve heard of Elf on a Shelf, now get ready for

[priceforrottenjudgement]

Have i ever mentioned how much i love Jason Isaacs?

[jewish-alderaanian-princess]

No. 

I’m so uncomfortable with the Goebbels comparison, I find it very inappropriate. 

Idk  @itsrevydutch Thoughts??? 

[akatsukichelsei]

I’m actually okay with it. Jason Issacs is Jewish. This isn’t just some goy throwing buzzwords; He knew what he was saying. 

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

He has explicitly discussed how his Jewishness informed his portrayal and understanding of Lucius Malfoy in more than one interview: 

“It was interesting for me to play someone full of race hate. Every time Lucius Malfoy said ‘Muggle’ I thought ‘Jew’.“The character of Lucius is as far from a Jew as I will ever play. He is quite clearly a Nazi.”

“[Lucius] espouses the language of racism and eugenics…it’s not like I don’t understand racism, fear, bigotry and ignorance; being Jewish, I think, has brought me a more nuanced perspective on it than most…”

Also, he’s discussed how his parents contended with rabid antisemitism in both pre-and-post-war Britain. 

He knew what he was saying. The word choice was very, very deliberate.