I wanted to post about two situations that happened within 24 hours of eachother about 2 weeks ago because unfortunately, situations like these do still occur, and Iām sure in some locations, more often than we realize. I should point out that this is not the norm for me at work, but every few months, Iām reminded that thereās still work to be done.
Scenario 1: after work (not at my primary hospital), as I was walking in the parking lot about to open the door of my car, an older white man approached me and asked if my car ran on diesel, I said no, smiling as I thought we were about to have a fun convo about cars but instead he then asked if my husband bought me the car, I politely said ānoā, and was about to enter my car, then he again asked, while pointing to my left hand (engagement ring), ādid your fiancĆ© by it for youā?, more serious now, I said, ānoā. The confusion on his face was classic. He then said, āhmmm, okā, and walked away.
Scenario 2: I walk into my patientās room in the morning, as Iāve done the last 3 days he has been my patient. Heās an older while man. I greet him, examine him, tell him the plan for his care for the day, then ask if he has any questions. He then says, ānow I just gotta ask, are you an honest to goodness doctor?ā. I try not to roll my eyes and respond, āyes Mr. X, Iāve been taking care of you the last 3 days, I admitted you from the emergency department, remember?ā. He responds by telling me that yes he knows but then says, ānot many of your sorts around, more and more now a-days. Guess thatās a good thing, right? Wellā¦. good for youā. I smile at him, then leave his room to go and see my next patient.
Why is any of this important? Because I still have people telling my things like, āoh youāre so luckyā, āthings are so easy for youā, āwhen you get to a certain level (like being a doctor) I bet thereās no racism just because of your positionā. Itās not luck and itās not easy. Itās perseverance and the dedication to treat everyone I encounter with respect and love in hopes that my behavior will teach them to be better.