love that it means I’m a little bit soft

jack, dyke rat cryptid (he/they)

[yay-bunnies-zone]

most of the time a bunny is a cuddly friend. but if you are a lettuce? heh... not so much.

[colorisbyshe]

Carly Rae Jepsen rly is the perfect pop star to me.

I know almost nothing about her personal life besides sweet anecdotes like her failed attempt to quit sugar and her engagement. And it’s exceedingly hard to know much more than that because she doesn’t do much press and her music is mostly just vaguely personal but largely just universal and broad.

Her music caters to that perfectly—it’s pop but constantly evolving. Covers a wide emotional spectrum but never goes too deep, aware of exactly what it’s meant to be. It’s a treat, it’s a bop, it’s pop! Her music ages with her but doesn’t age, if that makes sense. It has youth but isn’t juvenile. The music comes out regularly, with great and full b sides that justify their existence and don’t feel of chart manipulation or attempts to stay relevant.

She performs energetically on stage, does good crowd work, plays along with some fan stuff (blow up swords, the gays, the wig guy) without leaning too much into it, and she’s great about touring regularly at reasonable venues (not booking too large or two small). When my show got canceled due to weather, she performed a free show at a bar that night, AND rescheduled a free, full show the next after noon.

And she does all of this balancing to be the perfect level of famous—decent sized, loyal fandom that isn’t obsessive but will go to shows and buy her music—without coming off as manufactured or withholding. Like she feels like The Girl Next Door without it seeming forced, pathetic, or without it getting in the way of putting on a spectacular show either.

She’s accessible. But can’t be accessed.

I love it.

[loveridden1999]

whatever needs to be said was said in iris by the goo goo dolls

[akajustmerry]

sorry but if you studied and understood feminism as the liberation movement that it is, you would not be making men who are hurt by a system that still benefits them a top priority. the damage that choice feminism, white feminism, and rampant transmisogyny have done to people's perception and understanding of feminism so that it's now an accepted position to prioritise the individual well-being of men over the liberation of everyone else actually oppressed by systemic patriarchy is mind blowingly absurd. idc about men and boys who feel lonely and turn to misogynistic grifters to fill the void because they're not the ones who will be primarily harmed the most in that scenario !! women, girls (trans and cis) and queer people are. these men's lonliness and anger are problems that won't exist at the same scale when we no longer live in a system that normalises that behaviour to the primary detriment of women, girls (cis and trans), and queer people. i am so exhausted by rhetoric that seeks to center the greatest benefactors of patriarchy over the actual victims of patriarchy, simply because the perpetrators and benefactors of patriarchy don't like themselves.

[mideias]

It's often the most male-catered to and even misogynistic media that feature some of the deepest and borderline homoerotic relationships between men. But that is to be expected. People think that patriarchy enabling homoaffectionate relationships between men is a bug, but it's actually a feature. True love can only come from a place of respect, and men often don't respect nor esteem women. They don't see women as capable of intellect, or strength, or imagination or even humanity. Those attributes are reserved to men. Which is why men's true love is often reserved for other men while women are just props to them. That's why it's easier for a lot of male writers to create stories about supposedly heterosexual male characters having the most world-shattering (accidentally romantic) bonds with other men, but not with women that they're canonically attracted to. It's because they can't fathom their male protagonist being so deeply affected by a woman's character, since women are to be lusted for and kept as props for their little domestic fantasies but never truly respected or admired as individuals. The ancient greeks were more honest about this stuff because they understood that patriarchy and male/male affection went hand in hand.

[lesbian-sweeney-todd]

What you must understand is:

1. Men are systematically privileged over women.

2. Men love to take advantage of that privilege while simultaneously denying that it exists.

3. This dynamic does not change when the men and women in question are trans.

[lesbian-sweeney-todd]

Men get very upset when confronted with this!

[my-dailydreams]

[enchantedbook]

'Cupid and Psyche' by Errol Le Cain

[mooned-knights]

we have to hold the line on misandry not being real. it's getting scary out there

[importantcatpics]

[jewellery-box]

"A breathtaking masterpiece of 1920’s couture by legendary designer Sadie Nemser. Composed of aquamarine silk velvet and metallic silver lace, adorned with hand made ribbon flowers, beads and pearls."

xtabayvintage via Instagram

[venom-princess-deactivated20250]

[rennerei]

Melinoë ♨️ Nemesis

[srdcovka]

we used to say kill all men

[im-mender]

[analog-delight]

All of that being said, I don't have infinite patience and I'm confident in my principles.

[analog-delight]

Not once has someone given me a reason to include trans men in lesbianism that doesn't boil down to either:

Shared History™️ (which also boils down to)

Being AFAB

Watering down the definition of lesbian until it fits some vague meaning of "queerly loving non-(cis) men".

If you truly understand that trans people are in fact the genders they say they are (I do), and you understand that lesbian (for the most part) means "women who love women", there's no way to circle that square.

[metanarrates]

all women should be more hairy and sweaty and eat more food and laugh more loudly. my stance as a feminist and also my stance as a lesbian pervert

[migatito]