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Hailey |17| she/her | aries| lesbian | should definitely be writing her english paper | is secretly a cat 

[siketae]

I’m not taking a chance sis

[whatis2plus2]

Since joining Tumblr, I’ve met a lot of young queer people. Look, I’m a bisexual man in a gay relationship, and I’m approaching 30. I was still a kid when Matthew Shepard’s story was being covered on the news. I remember thinking, “I better keep my mouth shut about these feelings I’m having.”

And then I met Dominic when I was 12, and people could see how in love we were. And we got the shit beat out of us. The year I met him, some kids in the grade above me held me down against the bleachers in our gym and stomped on my hand until my fingers broke. Instead of sending me to the nurse, the teacher sent me to the assistant principal to explain the situation. She asked why the kids had beat me up. I said, “They were calling me gay.”

Her response was, “Well, are you?”

My, “I don’t know,” earned a call to my parents, and I was outed. Efforts were made to keep me from seeing Dom. Throughout high school, Dom’s stepmother intensified these efforts. He slept in the basement of the house. Although he was an incredibly talented student, he was prohibited from participating in any extracurriculars. He suffered a lot of physical abuse during those years.

The day he turned 18, he packed up everything he had and walked to my house, and we’ve lived together ever since. Things are better, but they’re not perfect. I’ve had trucks pull up next to me at stoplights and, seeing the pride sticker on my car, through old drinks and garbage into my window. I no longer speak to my dad’s side of the family. I haven’t been to see them for Christmas or Thanksgiving in years. One of my uncles had cornered me at Thanksgiving when I was 17 and said, “I’m not going to judge you, but I’d be happy to break your neck so God can do the judging a little sooner.”

I joined a support group for trans and intersex people. When I joined, 40 people attended regularly. Within the year, the group was half the size it had been. Some couldn’t make it anymore, because they were staying at the shelter, where their stay hinged on them agreeing to instead to attend homophobic sermons. Some were put in correctional therapy. Five of them died. Three of those, I didn’t know, but I knew Alex, the 19 year old who was fag-dragged in Kentucky and died a day later in the hospital, and I knew Stephanie, who went home to Alabama to care for her mom in hospice and was beaten to death with a baseball bat by her mom’s boyfriend.

Tumblr is not reality. The dynamic here does not reflect the dynamic out there. Here’s the part where I finally make a point, and it might be extremely unpopular - but guys, value your allies. Value each other. We are met with enough hate in our daily lives to enter an online safe-space and meet more hate from our own, over petty things. Don’t go after one another over every little thing you find problematic.

Learn to see nuance. Maybe the word “queer” bothers you, and you see a gay man using it as an umbrella term. Maybe someone called a trans man a trans woman because they’re confused about terminology, but the post where they did it was voicing support for the trans community. Maybe someone is just asking a question, wanting to learn more. Stop. Attacking. These. People.

Allies are being driven away. Members of our own community are being ostracized. Others are feeling nervous and estranged, and it’s largely because of places like Tumblr, where the social justice movement is quickly becoming violent and radical. I am begging you, stop nitpicking “problematic” things and start directing your efforts to create real change. When it comes to comes to your allies, forget the “social justice warrior” mentality and put down your torch. Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving. And I’m certainly not saying that your anger doesn’t have a good place - when you are met with bigots on the street, congress members who want to pass hateful laws, violent protesters, abusive parents, prejudiced teachers, that is when you need to be a warrior. That’s when it counts. In the real world. When you have the opportunity to protect people from real harm. Attacking your would-be allies via anonymous asks is just going to lose us ground in the long run. And we don’t have time for that, not when trans women of color are being murdered every day, not when states are still fighting against marriage equality, not when there are politicians in office who believe that trans people are possessed by demons, not when we’ve just lost 50 brothers and sisters to one gunman, not when the media won’t even admit that the attack was homophobic.

Please step back. Look at the big picture. Look at where we are, globally. Don’t just log on to your safe space and attack your allies over small missteps. That’s like washing the dishes in a house that’s on fire, kids. Let’s fight on the battlefield, and when we come home to each other, let’s just focus on bandaging up our wounds so we can go out and win the war.

[stephrc79]

Signal boost to this unbelievably important message.

[spyhops-blog]

I’d reblog this a thousand times if I could.

[transadvicegroup-deactivated201]

Stop attacking allies. Educate. Not hate. 

[transboysunited]

This is incredibly important. Please read!

[gokuma]

Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving.

[gaylittlepieceofsh1t]

THIS OMG

[aidashakur]

[fallingstar6867]

The petition to have me declared mentally incompetent has been filed

The application for guardianship is filed at the same time, my mother did all of that on Friday [15 March]

This is solely to gain full control over me legally so that I can be forced into conversion therapy. I am, in fact, mentally competent. However, I live in a small town in the Deep South, my grandfather is loaded & a retired fire chief, my uncle is a lawyer, half the rest of my uncles & older cousins are either fire fighters or police. In other words they have a fuckton of connections and the uncle who is most directly assisting my mother with the process has guaranteed that they can push this through because he’s helped other people do it to their children before. Yes, this is illegal as all hell. No, I can’t call APS- local APS is in on it, a check by APS is literally part of the process to have someone declared mentally incompetent.

The only way to get me out of this is to get a legit psych eval. Bare minimum, I HAVE to have that. It will also help my case considerably to not be living with my grandmother, so no one can pull a “oh I provide care daily, x can corroborate my statement” and ideally far enough away that “I drive out daily to provide care” will also very clearly be impossible. I can’t just ditch out, there’s going to be a bunch of court ordered evals and appearances- they will find me and drag me back, completely legally.

Psych evals are expensive. Moving is also expensive. There’s a full breakdown of the costs over at my gofundme- https://www.gofundme.com/juzfrd-help-me-not-be-forced-into-conversion-therapy

Please, every penny counts here- even if you can only pitch $5, that WILL add up really fast. If you can’t donate, please, please boost this anywhere you can! If you can’t or don’t want to use gofundme, use paypal.me/ArchCreate or if you have Cashapp, my tag is $ArchCreate. Donations through both will be added to the gofundme daily as offline donations to keep the total accurate.

[hope-lesslyhope-ful]

Donate to make a Bionic Penis for Trans Men a reality

A small trans owned business called Transthetics works on making hyper realistic fake penises for FTM people. Recently the owner, Alex, has announced he’s working on making a bionic penis. This would help so many trans kids as it’d be cheaper and safer than bottom surgery, and help alleviate dysphoria. In some cases (like for me), a trans person may actually prefer it.  It would have four functions all in one: -pee -pack -play -pleasure The concept is to have it function as a DMAB penis would, and it’d look and feel as human as possible. There’s more information if you click the link below. BUT HE NEEDS YOUR HELP THROUGH DONATIONS. You can donate here using my donation link (it’d help me win one of his already released products, which i’d really appreciate!)  The first step (out of three major steps that will need donations) is “where materials and mechanical options are explored, evaluated and tested.” As of May 14th, he’s at 2,000 out of the 50,000 goal. I can’t stress enough how much this could help trans boys (or people with dysphoria that involves not having a penis), and how desperately I, and others, want to see this dream become a reality. If you can donate - whether you’re trans or cis - I beg you to do so. A dollar, 5, 10, anything. Please also boost this post and help it reach as many people as possible!

[gncfag-moved]

hi guys i thought id include an updated blog post.

this project is still going! funding for stage two has slowed down, which might slow down the creation of a prototype.

More headway on the Bionic!

Great news!! Denver University students picked the Bionic as their major project again this year! We've had our first kick off meeting alrea

[justagenderthings]

Reblog in support of they/them pronouns!

[dreamilypurpleoutcast]

[thatcuriouswench]

Well said.

[cooltrainerzero]

Transcript: Black text on a white background that reads

“i don’t know anymore, man. i genuinely do not know how to argue empathy at somebody. i don’t want concertgoers and schoolchildren  to be routinely slaughtered in a hailstorm of bullets. you don’t care. i don’t want some kid’s first memory to be that of a jackbooted deportation force kicking down their door and ripping their father away from them. you don’t care. i don’t want a mother to bury her child solely because she couldn’t swing $600 for a two-pack of epipens. you don’t care. every day you wake up and deflect, but-what-about, twist, bend, contort and echo whatever vile, clubfooted rationalization keeps you from having to admit that you’re, not just complicit in, but in fact actively facilitating this nightmare of a reality so many people are experiencing. i care about other people. you do not. it’s as simple as that. take your thoughts and prayers and shove them up your ass.”

[yyyyddmmsupremacy-deactivated20]

remember when you could say stuff like “the earth is round” or “nazis are bad” and be absolutely certain everyone who heard you would agree

[yyyyddmmsupremacy-deactivated20]

remember when you could say “we shouldn’t attack children with tear gas” and be absolutely certain everyone who heard you would agree

[yyyyddmmsupremacy-deactivated20]

remember when you could say “you shouldn’t let your children catch fatal, preventable diseases” and be absolutely certain everyone who heard you would agree

[transsafeuserboxes]

This user wants all nonbinary/trans people to be happy

[askiathedickhead]

How do they keep falling for the bait?

[itistired]

Happy International Women’s Day

[allhailthe-demonking]

While I’m all for pointing and laughing at mansplainers, I also think it’s SUPER important to include the heart-warming conclusion

[jengrayart]

Garibaldi inspired mermaid for Wondercon

[randomslasher]

*gasp* oh my gosh

[friendly-animals]

(Source)

[moramew]

A small list of random ass sites I’ve found useful when writing:

Fragrantica: perfume enthusiast site that has a long list of scents. v helpful when you’re writing your guilty pleasure abo fics

Just One Cookbook: recipe site that centers on Japanese cuisine. Lots of different recipes to browse, plenty of inspiration so you’re not just “ramen and sushi” 

This comparing heights page: gives you a visual on height differences between characters

A page on the colors of bruises+healing stages: well just that. there you go. describe your bruises properly

McCormick Science Institute: yes this is a real thing. the site shows off research on spices and gives the history on them. be historically accurate or just indulge in mindless fascination. boost your restaurant au with it

A Glossary of Astronomy Terms: to pepper in that sweet terminology for your astrophysics major college au needs

[moramew]

Adding to this since I’m working on a shifter au one-shot:

Canine Body Language

Feline Body Language

[moramew]

More:

Cocktail Flow: a site with a variety of cocktails that’s pretty easy to navigate and offers photos of the drinks. You can sort by themes, strengths, type and base. My only real annoyance with this site is that the drinks are sometimes sorted into ~masculine~ and ~feminine~ but ehhhh. It’s great otherwise.

Tie-A-Tie: a site centered around ties, obviously. I stumbled upon it while researching tie fabrics but there’s a lot more to look at. It offers insight into dress code for events, tells you how to tie your ties, and has a section on the often forgotten about tie accessories

[moramew]

Even more:

Types of High Heels: A page describing twenty five different types of high heels. It gives a description and pictures. Shake it up from just “stilettos and kitten heels”

Random Job Generator: Exactly as it says. The site offer more generators like characters, plots, or town names.

Glossary of Hosiery Terms: Figure out what is what on a pair of stockings.

Men’s Dress Shoe Guide: A quick guide describing the eight most common types of men’s dress shoes. Pics included.

Types of Women’s Coats: Descriptions and pics of various different types of coats.

[wivibook]

The bruises one is everything I never knew I needed.

[tortoistor]

movie tropes that will never get old to me:

a thing happens + two people exchanging money in the back

fourth wall breaking

“give up all your weapons” and that one guy that spends the entire evening taking his weights worth out his pockets

*a terribly loud crash* meowing/ car sirens heard offscreen

alternatively: a terribly loud crash and one of the characters going “oops” in the most casual voice

“fuck you” “well if you insist”

[nerdgasrnz]

#alternatively alternatively: *terribly loud crash w/ sirens and cat screeching*#person: *off camera* ‘I’M OKAY’ (via @zenlida)

[count-di-luna]

character being all “you expect me to do X?” Gilligan Cut to character doing X

[susiephone]

the squad gets captured and interrogated separately, and they’re all telling equally terrible, completely contradictory lies

people completely missing the completely unsubtle, very visible dangerous thing in the room with them

alternatively, people absolutely seeing the completely unsubtle, very visible dangerous thing in the room with them and just not giving a shit

bonus points if it’s a beleaguered minimum wage employee who just goes about their business like “yep same shit as always”

someone pretending they don’t know another character is eavesdropping, only to casually reveal at the end of the scene that they know (*leaving* “tell tom that he can come out now” *tom drops from the ceiling in spy gear, irritated*)

choosing to deal with the villain by just leaving them alone in a room with another character

the “hands go down” trope

example: “any questions?” *everyone’s hands go up* “…that AREN’T sarcastic?” *everyone’s hands go down*

[neonprotagonist]

how could all y'all forget “ACT NATURAL!”

[beradan]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

These are all great but let’s not forget two characters giving extremely biased flashbacks to the same event that each paint the other as an incompetent loon

[stunt-muppet]

i would like to respectfully add: scenes where a character walks into a room, sees something scary, and turns around and walks out with no reaction or change of expression

[roachpatrol]

a high-stakes zany action scene forced to come to a complete halt while some characters take a very, very long elevator ride

[president-coriolanus-snow]

So me my mom and my moms cousin went out for dinner and were eating and there’s a family in the booth next to us and they’re talking about how his family came from Germany and he mentioned his father came from some small town in Germany (said the name I don’t remember what it was) but it was one of those small towns where everyone knows everyone it’s super tiny.

So my moms cousin goes “I’m sorry I don’t mean to eavesdrop but my family is from there.” And this guy looked so excited and they start chatting for a bit and the guy goes “What was your family name?” And she goes “Zimmerman.” And the guy gets suuuuuper quiet and goes “…… oh.” Like flat tone nothing.

She goes “What’s yours?” And he quietly tells her but won’t look at her and she goes quiet and goes “Oh.” And goes back to her food and the tables got SUPER awkward and tense and I’m sitting there going “Wtf is going on?” Cause they both suddenly stopped talking to each other.

On the way out I’m “What was that about?” She goes “I’ll tell you in the car.” So we get in the car and I’m like “Okay wtf was all that about?”

She goes “My great grandfather assassinated his grandfather.”

I’m like O_O ……….

[peacchidrops]

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[thesummoningdark]

So I live in Scotland, a country with free universal healthcare, and this post made me curious about how much that actually costs us. Turns out, roughly 4% of our income tax goes to the National Health Service. For me that’s £10 a month. The equivalent of $13. I have spent more than that on a pizza.

[sniperct]

This is literally the argument I use the most

[goldenkid]

villains who could have been protagonists in different circumstances? I live for that shit

[gingerly-writing]

potential counterpoint: protagonists who could have been villains in different circumstances? I live for that shit too

[weissroseschnee]

Third point: a villain and a hero that chose their path by making a different choice in the same kind of circumstance? I live for it too