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[pardalote]

Finished stitching my Oversight series.

12 small embroidered poem-objects in wool, linen, cotton, silk, stitched on canvaswork mesh and edged in glass beads.

[rabbitdyke]

i see a lot of posts of ppl being like "you should pay porn creators!!" but almost everyone i've met irl who i've asked is embarrassed by/outright denies ever paying for porn. hm.

[rabbitdyke]

to clarify, if you watch porn you then you should pay for porn. it's literally not that hard to toss a couple of bucks towards your favorite creators every once in a while. if you have been consuming porn for the majority of your life and you've never once given a porn star or a sex worker a single dollar then you need to fix that. seriously.

[rabbitdyke]

i'm seeing a lot of tags on this post with a plethora of excuses and bullshit. hey, i didn’t ask you. go pay a sex worker and get off my post.

[rabbitdyke]

there's now a lot of ppl declaring they don’t watch porn in the tags. new rule: go pay a sex worker even if you don’t watch porn. consider it a public utility. if u follow my blog go pay a sex worker. if you've left a comment in the tags of this post go pay a sex worker. if you're reading this go pay a sex worker. i don’t care. go pay a sex worker.

[tpwrtrmnky]

The types of behavior "too online" should intuitively refer to:

Expecting everyone to be familiar with an argument that happened between two people whose total social media following is like 4000 people, which happened in an insular niche of the internet, because you're so invested in that niche it feels like the whole internet.

Starting to say shit like "we need more representation of men who like women in media" because you've literally only been reading m/m fanfic for the last decade

Constructing all your politics not based on material conditions, but in opposition to people you've argued with online, based on what gives you the most engagement.

What people mean when they say "too online":

Awareness of real-life political phenomena, viewing those through the lens of well-established theories.

[tpwrtrmnky]

Having strong negative opinions about any individual trans woman who's Tumblr Famous is orders of magnitude more "Too Online" than the women who talk about transmisogyny, a real-life phenomenon, will ever be.

[queercoded-disney-villain]

Aw, what a good girl. That’s right, kitten. You’re going to come back to my house and. Wgat was that.

[busket]

really tired of being governed by a death cult undergoing mass psychosis who thinks its their duty to bring about the apocalypse and im not being hyperbolic

[callali1y]

continually astounded to learn that someone around me is actually for real christian. like. aren't you supposed to grow out of that

[callali1y]

this post crossed my dash again so id like to clarify a few things:

1. stop telling me you're one of the good christians! or how your relationship to your faith is complicated! I AM MOCKING YOU! i am not taking a moral high ground here! this post is not about your religion's rampant homophobia, or child abuse, or the countless other fucking evils this post is about how YOU ARE FUCKING LAME. your faith is corny and passè and the things you do for it are fucking cringe. shut up!

2. do not come onto this post with some variation of "oh if they ACTUALLY read the bible they'd all be niceys" - first of all as previously stated this post is not about whether or not they're niceys, second of all the book probably doesnt even say that you just read a fucking tumblr post and finally WHO CARESSSSSS WHAT THE FUCKING BOOK SAYS?! THE BOOK IS MADE UP. ITS LAME. SHUT UP.

3. this post was prompted by a guy whose pronouns on discord were set to sinner/saved. that was in the tags of the original post but i want everyone to know this is the type of guy i have to work with

[bloodandgutsyippee]

I can't believe that HRT turns trans women straight is still treated like a fact in certain circles. I believed it, once upon a time. I believed it because several trans women on YouTube told it was the truth during the early days of my transition. If it wasn't for trans women friends on Discord and trans women on here, I'd probably still believe it. First off, it's not even true. HRT doesn't turn trans women straight, instead transition knocks down many internal and external barriers for trans women who were previously attracted to men. Also, look at the sheer number of trans lesbians. But more importantly, what a cruel and malicious thing to tell eggs and baby trans girls. Our society doesn't want trans women, it wants sissies and femboys for men to fuck.

[industrial-decay]

Sincerely wishing every "transandrophobia" dog whistler who attacked Sadie Liath on Twitter for breaking up with her abusive boyfriend after several years and posting about her trauma a very you are a fucking abuse apologist

[syrenstarr]

I could be wrong but didn't she come out guns blazing saying "fuck all trans men". Like I get being abused fucks with a person but one person being terrible does not justify being bigoted to the whole group. Like I don't think she was being attacked for breaking up with him I think she was being called out for being transphobic

[industrial-decay]

Can you not fucking read or are you purposely an asshole.

[syrenstarr]

woah hello i was just trying to clarify a situation. like. i said multiple times that I didn't know everything and wasn't coming for anyone

[industrial-decay]

THEN WHY ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT SHIT YOU DONT KNOW.

[saccharinekat]

I want yall to see this as an example of the way transmisogynistic trans men/mascs, and more broadly TME people in general, warp definitions of oppression to serve the narrative that trans women/fems are oppressors or -- if someone can't be convinced of that -- just plain assholes who deserve some good old fashioned "collective justice".

The narrative that a trans woman can be transphobic for saying she hates trans men or is over them is, after applying even a second of thought, incomprehensible. This logic doesn't work when applied to other marginalized groups. If a Black woman says she is over Black men and hates them, is that racism? If a disabled woman says she hates disabled men, is that ableism? Of course not. It only takes a second of thought to determine this.

So why is it when a trans woman says she hates trans men, she is transphobic?

Critical thinking questions:

What does this narrative, in this situation, accomplish?

Who does this narrative, in this situation, serve?

Looking at the narrative -- that trans women, individually or as a whole, are aggressive or bigoted -- as a broad trend, where does it come from? Could this be a reaction to the rising prevalence of transfeminism? Why or why not?

[sophie-frm-mars]

Trans people! Let's get organised!

Trans Organising: The Assembly Model

How we can start building dual power today

Hey everyone, I've put up a new piece on Substack about how assemblies can work for trans people and the specifics of organising them. It is mostly taken from the video I recently released on the same theme:

If anyone is actively trying to organise a trans assembly, my DMs and my ask box are both open, so please send me questions if you are doing this as I know multiple trans women in other countries now are.

I made this a substack piece because I know text is more useful to a lot of people, so please read and share and let me know if you have questions :)

[pigeonculttt]

The Trans Agenda is to Keep My F*cking Friends Alive — sol rios

published as part of the Citizen Trans* {Project} by New Words Press

[predictablesloth]

Even if ICE retreats from Minnesota, the system has to go.

Even if Kristi Noem is impeached, the system has to go.

Even if ICE is defunded, the system has to go.

Even if the right withdraws, the system has to go.

Even if Trump dies, the system has to go.

Even if a liberal is elected president, the system has to go.

Any institution that lets fascism rise is one that's fundamentally broken.

We have the unique opportunity to change the foundations of the US for the better and we can't waste it.

[nulltwink]

rambling temp post but i think i am going crazy. i am going to sound a little inflammatory here, and i don't know exactly what it is, but transfems have a supremely bad track record with me when it comes to treating me like a woman in bed. i swear to god it's this easy to make love. it's this easy to make another transfem feel like you love them. i don't know why, but the tme people ive hooked up with have made me feel this way about 25% of the time and transfems have made me feel this way maybe 4% of the time. it feels like the internet has ruined your idea of what sex can be. nearly a decade of being transfem and i have felt treated this way by another transfem maybe twice. is it because im a top? is it because you're all so autistic and traumatized that you're too afraid to even kiss someone's flesh and you're waiting for the mythical mommy of your dreams to come fix you so you can love her, even though you'll fumble her because she can't fix you into loving yourself? are you really only here to be used? is that i am to you - a user? you're only here for cum? the amount of times transfems have gotten whiny with me when i say "no oral we haven't talked about that" is fucking insane because it feels like that's all transfems think sex is, and then they'll touch me like they have no concept of what love is. i can't fucking nurture every single one of you to the point of being able to make me feel desirable. when do i get to feel like a woman?

[nulltwink]

i will come out and say it: there's not a top/dom shortage or whatever the fuck, there are just a staggering surplus of shitty bottoms/subs. you expect us to do absolutely everything for you

[nulltwink]

and this is why i have largely given up on intimacy! it's why so many top/doms give up on it! because it's so unbelievably difficult to find someone that actually appreciates what you do

[nulltwink]

treating a woman like a goddess is not getting on your knees and addressing her by a title and sucking her like she's a faceless dick in a porno. it's getting drunk off her flesh and melting at her words and thanking her excessively. a lot of you have hangups about the bodies of trans women that are top/doms and you treat them like men. that is all ill say

[goth-princess-gwennie]

The idea of listening to no black music is bizarre to me. Even if it's not rap like no earth wind and fire? No reggae? No moonstomp? No ska? No classic jazz? No R and B? No disco??? No skindred? No jungle? No even like metal bands with a few black members? No gospel? Not even stuff like alors en dance? No blues music? No mo town? No jazz of any kind? No big band? No soul music? Not even a little James Brown?

[jabbotmohan]

not even yola or tanner adell or brittney spencer or tracy chapman or india.arie or chapel hart or the carolina chocolate drops or rhiannon giddens????

[xoxoviva]

Or…

Hemlocke Springs (alt rock/new wave revival),

the Noisettes (indie),

Skunk Anansie (hard rock/metal),

Tamar Kali (rock/punk),

Valerie June (country/blues),

Santigold (indie),

Bloc Party (post punk revival/indie rock),

O Children (goth),

Lord Scary Black (goth),

Cemetery Sex (death rock)

[gayvampyr]

a few more artists i love:

pleasure venom (post-punk/hard rock)

danny denial (indie punk/rock, queer)

big joanie (synth punk + some more melodic, blues-like tones)

shadow age (goth)

black pantera (rock, metal)

the 1865 (punk)

erzulie (punk, rock)

the rack (they describe their sound as “hard pop rock”, blends punk vocals and rock)

youth man (punk)

winter wolf (punk, metal)

the ire (goth, punk)

crystal axis (punk)

madame st beatrice (gothic, moody and melodic)

bastet (goth punk)

[nulltwink]

shawn brown era dag nasty (hardcore punk/emocore)

yaphet kotto or anything with mag delana (screamo/post-hardcore)

ten grand (screamo/post-hardcore)

the summer we went west (midwest emo)

age sixteen (screamo/midwest emo)

arcadia grey (pop punk/midwest emo)

sleepy dog (midwest emo/math rock)

foxtails (screamo/post-hardcore)

proper. (pop punk/emo)

[depsidase]

[tboy-trash]

sometimes non-transmisogynized people will be like "yeah my relationship to gender is sooooo complex" and then their relationship to gender is bioessentialism

[tboy-trash]

listen you can indeed be a nonbinary genderfuck or whatever, i'm currently questioning my own non-binarism &c&c, but if you think the one thing that makes you so irrevocably different from a man is having been assigned female at birth or your subsequent "female socialization" then you are just transphobic. that's all that is.

[tboy-trash]

sorry but if you're out there saying The Thing that makes you not a man is your pussy then you are a transphobic twat and i don't wanna have anything to do with you. congrats on the gender i guess.

[theoneandonlyuxu]

[storyweavingspider]

The Transfeminist Womanism Archives

You can access it here.

This archive isn't complete, as no archive ever is, but I'm finally making it publicly accessible through Proton. I'm constantly taking suggestions on what to add to it or changes to make.

If you're an author of works in here and you'd like to be added to the tip list, you're having technical difficulties, or if you have suggestions for works to be added, please send me a DM and I'll make the changes or see if I can get a copy.

For fiction titles, I'm only accepting works from Black and/or transfemme authors to be added to the archives.

Works within these archives primarily focus on the following topics:

-Transfeminism

-Womanism ("Black Feminism")

-Disability Justice

-Restorative and Transformative Justice

-Ecofeminism

and subjects related to them.

Give this a reblog when you see it so more folks can get access to this and so I can get more recommendations to add to it lmfao

[storyweavingspider]

Update (2/10/2026)

I've added a couple dozen more works throughout the archives, as well as made a new folder in the archives for religion/spirituality/theology related works. While I do view Transfeminist Womanism as a materialist framework, the impact of religion/spirituality on Black life in the US is a critical piece of knowledge that must also be addressed in any Womanist framework, especially given how many progressive Womanists write including their spiritual experiences and work in order to address material concerns within Black communities.

To be clear, that section is not just Christian-related theology, but also related to ADRs/ATRs, Ecofeminist spiritualities, Indigenous spiritualities, neo-Afro-spiritualities, and more.

In terms of contents, the archive is now as follows (summarized)

Foundational: 30 items

Transfeminism: 37 items

Womanism: 26 items

Disability Justice: 3 items (please recommend more, especially non-white authors)

Studies: 17 items

History: 8 items (Complicated split between this and non-fiction. Please recommend more)

Essays and Short Theories: 9 items (Please recommend more! Medium/Substack articles often fall in here)

General Non-Fiction and Poetry: 24 items

Fiction: 1 item (recommend me Black queer/transfemme authors and critical transfemme (general) fiction works)

Religion, Theology, and Spirituality: 18 Items

If you're a writer/theorist/author yourself and feel your work is appropriate to be in here, feel free to message me and we can talk about it. If I've missed a fairly obvious-to-add piece, its because either I forgor or couldn't find a PDF or ebook version of it, so feel free to help with that if you want to.