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Leaf your leaves on the ground (no, seriously.) They provide so much for bugs, places to lay eggs places to hibernate. This comic does a great job at showing WHY we don't see our little friends as often, because our systems and social expectations are anti-earth and anti-life. Don't eradicate your friends (maybe just that one) let the leaves lay

elinex

i changed my mind about my adrian design actually i think they should be like one of those glass frogs so grace gets to experience what every eridian does whenever he’s around

hailed-marys

ive been thinking about grace and eridian formalwear.... idk how to design clothes/outfits at all so this is me throwing random stuff at the wall

tocourtdisaster

I've seen so many posts lately about how Grace wouldn't add swears to their translator but I 100% think he did.

He's not morally against swearing, he said holy fucking shit when he saw the Blip-A for the first time, the only reason he doesn't swear normally is because he trained himself out of it because he teaches middle schoolers. If I'm remembering right, he even calls one of the kids a smartass in his internal narration at one point. He's spent so long not swearing that he's not just going to fall out of the habit immediately.

We know that at some point, he learned Eridian swearing anyway because Rocky swears in the final chapter of the book. And I think he learned most of them when Rocky reamed him out after leaving the taumoeba collector out at room temp.

Plus, Rocky is an adult and Grace treats him like one, which includes adding swear words into their translator so that Rocky can express himself.

queer-here-and-in-fear

i like how all the movie critiques are 90% "rocky comes off too innocent and it doesnt correctly get across that hes very smart" and its true. but saying that the movie fandom correctly intuited hes a bitch and a pervert anyway whos mentally ill and overwhelmingly possessive of this leaky space blob and that "bad bad bad" DEFINITELY means "FUCK FUCK FUCK"

thec0ub

Grace explains paper airplanes to Rocky who then designs a paper ornithopter.

cloudabserk

really funny to meet a genderless alien and make them your gender out of convenience and then fall in love and now you’re gay. you made yourself be gay.

cloudabserk

in most cases (ie the left hand of darkness) there’s some amount of gender imagery that is latched on to to justify the arbitrary gendering. in project hail mary he meets a rock and is like this is a boy rock because i’m a boy too :)

cloudabserk

castiel saw dean winchester and said hey i like this thing. i like it so much. its a man? i love that. im going to be a man too

cloudabserk

before i watched project hail mary i knew exactly 2 things about ryan gosling:

froxyfroggo

happy ten year anniversary to this article !

cloudabserk

??? 10 years? i had initially assumed this was during the barbie press tour or something. why would they ask him this in 2016…

ladyothelakes

The Night Shepard

A little comic from last spring I made that hasn’t really had a home anywhere.

I liked the idea of immortality leading to a reverence for life and the world around it, rather than nihilism and wanton destruction. It was also a comforting thought that if immortal beings walked among us, they could see the future of our hope become a reality someday… so it felt relevant again.

wizardarchetypes

when i was a little kid (age 8 and on) i had 3 veryyy intense special interests i constantly infodumped about to anyone who gave me the time of day. these were:

The Bubonic Plague

Vampire Folklore

Tree frogs.

So as you can imagine my mom spent many years prepping me for social outings by doing a call-and-response litany with me that went "let's focus on tree frogs tonight. let's tell people about tree frogs."

wizardarchetypes

pov you are an unsuspecting adult at a social function who made the mistake of talking to me like i'm a person for 37 seconds and now you're going to learn everything about vlad the impaler from an enraptured third grader

goblinlurkin

commission of @orcbardneeul and their boys, Roth and Gar'ret

orcbardneeul

Gar’ret’s attempt at recreating a timeless classic goes awry.

sandersstudies

My knowledge about child development versus the social pressure to not interfere with other people’s parenting fight daily

sandersstudies

Parent: *unintentionally escalates a child’s resistance so they fail to regulate the child, and hence become more embarrassed and upset and continue to escalate*

Me: and I will just. Um. Be normal about this. :)

sandersstudies

Oh and ESPECIALLY if you’re not a parent yourself. No matter how much time you’ve spent working with children or the amount of research you’ve done, if it’s not YOUR kid you couldn’t understand anything

sandersstudies

It’s not even “just” bad and abusive parents. It’s people who were raised that way and don’t know another way. Or they’ve been doing it so long they think it’s too late to change. Or they want to do better but have barriers to education and implementation. Or they’re trying traditional methods with a neurodivergent child. Or like a hundred other reasons.

sandersstudies

Okay so I’ve been thinking about this since yesterday and trying to be as fair as possible to these parents, because these are people in my extended village, and I’ve started thinking of some positive interactions/interventions I’ve had that aren’t “tell the parent they aren’t parenting correctly” (which we all know is unfair).

1. Care for the parent. If the parent is upset, they are likely going to upset the child, even if they don’t mean to. Give mom or dad a hug or some time to calm down before they have to jump into parenting again.

2. Related to part 1, offer to solve the problem without you ever disciplining the child. (It’s straight-up not my place to discipline children in front of their parents without explicit consent — only a few members of my village have told me that it’s acceptable for me to observe and correct their children.) This could be as simple as “hey it seems like the girls have a lot of energy right now, want me to watch them outside so they can run around while you finish what you’re doing?”

3. Talk to them in a calm moment if you see a pattern and see if they need long-term support. “Hey, I’ve noticed it’s really been a struggle for you to transition Della out of dance class and into the car. Is there anything I can do to help you and her with that transition? Does she need some extra time to pack her things or say goodbye to her friends?”

4. Relate to the child. Some people have forgotten what it’s like to be a kid, or they have a kid who is radically different from themselves. I was a kid who was often “naughty” myself and I remember my reasons (good AND bad) for behaving that way. Many parents genuinely don’t see the logic in children’s behavior and sometimes an outside adult who can say “hahaha I do that” is actually a weight off their minds.

5. Relate to the parent. And also, sometimes they just need you to be a wall for them to complain at. If they are really frustrated, it’s better they get it out of their system in a reasonable conversation with you than to snap at their kids later. Parenting IS hard — I haven’t done it myself but I’ve watched others do it long enough to glean.

if-not-now-tell-me-when

As an early childhood educator, all of this!!!! All of it. We are all unlearning so much toxic shit from our own childhoods, and from society at large. The majority of parents care so much, and they want to do the best for their children. They just are often lacking the tools, both parenting tools and tools to process their own childhood traumas.

Framing the conversation in terms of collaborative problem-solving helps them to feel heard, and (hopefully) lowers their sense of being judged. I often start these conversations with "I notice" or "I wonder" statements. "I notice morning drop-off has been very hard for Timmy." And then give them space to share their thoughts and feelings without my butting in or interrupting. And, as a bonus, having these conversations framed as collaborative problem-solving moments models for the parent how to have these same conversations with their child!

sandersstudies

I love this addition! It takes a village, and I might not be your kids' parent but I'm part of their/your village (relative, teacher, director, etc.) and there are problems we can solve together! <3

sandersstudies

It’s so crazy that if you try to tell a parent there’s a way to make their child’s life better or more safe it’s always interfering, being nosy, acting superior, etc. Even if the parents are drinking wine and chain-smoking during pregnancy and raising kids with physical punishment and emotional abuse and unregulated screen time from age 1 people will be like “✨do not be judgmental 💖 ✨ you’re mom-shaming 💕 you don’t know their situation”

People care less about the well-being of children than the feelings of parents.