Fangirl and Proud!

fangirl, feminist, 40+ multi-fandom blog (usually), current biggest fandom obsession: Bucktommy (9-1-1)

[apolladay]

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Thank you Mod H!

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Voting ended onJun 4

[injuries-in-dust]

[defilerwyrm]

Let people grow.

When I was younger I was very right-wing. I mean…very right-wing. I won’t go into detail, because I’m very deeply ashamed of it, but whatever you’re imagining, it’s probably at least that bad. I’ve taken out a lot of pain on others; I’ve acted in ignorance and waved hate like a flag; I’ve said and did things that hurt a lot of people.

There are artefacts of my past selves online – some of which I’ve locked down and keep around to remind me of my past sins, some of which I’ve scrubbed out, some of which are out of my grasp. If I were ever to become famous, people could find shit on me that would turn your stomach.

But that’s not me anymore. I’ve learned so much in the last ten years. I’ve become more open to seeing things through others’ eyes, and reforged my anger to turn on those who harm others rather than on those who simply want to exist. I’ve learned patience and compassion. I’ve learned how to recognise my privileges and listen to others’ perspectives. I’ve learned to stand up for others, how to hear, how to help, how to correct myself. And I learned some startling shit about myself along the way – with all due irony, some of the things I used to lash out at others for are intrinsic parts of myself.

You wouldn’t know what I am now from what I was then. You wouldn’t know what I was then from what I am now.

It distresses me deeply to think of someone dredging up my dark, awful past and treating me as though that furiously hateful person is still me. It distresses me to see others dredging up the past for anyone who has made efforts to become a better person, out of some sick obsession with proving they’re “problematic.”

Purity culture tells you that once someone says or does something, they can never go back on it. That’s a goddamn lie. While it’s true that some remain unrepentant and never change their ways and continue to harm others, it’s important to allow everyone the chance to learn from their mistakes. Saying something ignorant isn’t murder. Please stop treating it that way. Let people grow.

[got-zayn]

Still call it out and question it ….

[defilerwyrm]

Bruh. No. Listen. Call out what people do now, absolutely. If they haven’t changed, call them out on their record. This post is explicitly not about people who HAVEN’T changed. What this post IS saying is, if someone is making an effort to be a good person, don’t go digging around in their past for evidence that they were once for what they’re now against, or once against what they’re now for, as “proof” of what they “really think,” because people’s opinions and beliefs can change. 

The obsession with finding shit in someone’s past and then claiming that a questionable or even sordid past negates all possibility of a good present needs to become extinct. Gold-star activism and purity culture are bullshit and we need to collectively reject the fuck out of them.

If someone has changed for the better, don’t harass them about what they were like before they fuckin’ changed. That’s shitty and it needs to stop.

[sepdet]

We can’t change the world if we decide people can’t change.

[once-upon-a-reblog]

We can’t change the world if we decide people can’t change.

[ship-or-ick]

Evan Buckley x Tommy Kinard from 911

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Voting ended onJun 7

[etafushi]

happy pride yall 💞💞

[stitchthisfiona]

Today in niche genres of joke that I can never get enough of and will probably still be secretly thinking about four years later

[cleolinda]

[cleolinda]

[lotus0kid]

[lotus0kid]

[pomme-poire-peche]

[lotus0kid]

[sashaforthewin]

[waihtie]

I absolutely love it when, in fanfics, Dean is absolutely shocked that Sam knew of his bisexuality. It's like my favourite part of any destiel fic.

But every time I watch Supernatural, I see a (mostly unspoken) understanding between the brothers.

Like Dean will shamelessly flirt with or check out men around Sam, and Sam never bats an eye.

When Sam called Dean out on how him being "butch" might make people think he's overcompensating, Dean just said "right" all awkwardly.

When Dean spoke of his relationship with Benny to Sam, he used the word "relationship" without worrying about the implications of it (even if they weren't actually in a relationship)

When Dean told Sam that Aaron was his "gay thing," Sam moved on from it almost instantly, and Dean never felt the need to explain it away.

When Dean was flirting with that male cop, Sam had to pull him away, and Sam's only expression was annoyed.

Before Sam knew sirens could sire people without sex, he didn't react when Dean's siren was a man.

When Dean meets his celebrity crushes, he gets all flustered, and Sam is never bothered (confused, shocked, etc)

Dean will make queer references

Sam will make little comments ("...or are you strictly into Dick now?", "I forgot about you and Crowley's summer of love", etc)

I don't think either of them are unaware of the other's knowledge.

They both know, and they both know that the other knows.

[leandra-kinard]

Beta Reader Scam

Oh wow, you really can't ask for a beta reader around here anymore, can you?

I have gotten SIX messages by people (or not) offering their services to "edit my manuscript" and similar wordings no fanfic beta-reader would use. Their profiles consist of advertising their services to authors, no mention of or affiliation to fanfic or fandom.

If you come across such offers, be mindful of them. They're either scammers or likely bots. Just block and report.

Examples:

Hi I came across your post that you are in need of a beta reader. And I will love to beta read your book and provide honest feedback. Are you still looking out?

Hey I came across your post and I’d be happy to beta read your book and share helpful feedback. What genre do you write?

I’m a beta reader/editor, and the areas you mentioned needing help with pacing, flow, wording, readability, and constructive feedback are all things I regularly help writers with. I’d definitely be interested in hearing more about the story?

Their usernames often have editor, book, beta or something related in them.

[bisexualbrainrots]

[astrangertomykin]

My medieval servant boy has gone missing. I’ll just use Google to see if I can find him.

[astrangertomykin]

Oh bother.

[dggeoff-deactivated20161128]

im deleting this fucking website

[best-chance-deactivated20161213]

It took me a minute

[keepcalmandcarriefischer]

Gotdamn I haven’t seen this post in almost a decade

[virtualgirladvance]

[tommykinardsource]

TOMMY KINARD 9-1-1 | 2.16 ‘Bobby Begins Again’

[shanerozy]

hollanov + glancing at each other's lips. HEATED RIVALRY - 1x06 "The Cottage"

[angeltiddies]

THEE ROADHOUSE BACHELOR PARTY

[hoechlins-hole]

[brittany-murphy]

[leandra-kinard]

This woman has way too few followers. Her videos are very insightful and well-narrated.

I've watched several now and really liked them.

This one was very interesting too, particularly for my American mutuals.