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I think we need to talk about what “Bodily Autonomy” means.

You see this phrase thrown around a lot, especially in the abortion debate, but I think a lot of people don’t really understand what it means.

Bodily Autonomy, sometimes called Bodily Integrity, is the idea that a person has an inviolable right to determine what happens to their physical body, and that a violation of a person’s consent in matters concerning their own body is unethical, immoral, and possibly criminal.

This does not mean “you are allowed to do whatever you want.” It isn’t comparable to property rights or taxation or laws regarding public health that impact whole communities.

What it does mean is that your body should always be under your control. You can chose or deny what things involving your physical body are at stake. Some examples:

You can choose to donate your organs but, No one can steal your organs

You can choose to get a haircut, but no one should chop off your hair without permission.

You can choose to get a tattoo, but no one should hold you down and forcibly tattoo anything onto you.

You can choose to have sex with another consenting person, but no one should sexually violate you.

Doctors should ask permission from you (or someone you have given permission to speak on your behalf) before administering drugs or treatments

This previous point is important in many capacities, but one very relevant on to reproductive rights is that doctors should ask and respect choice made regarding birth- whether to have a c-section, whether to have an epidural, etc.

Infants should not undergo circumcision, as they are unable to consent. (If adults want to undergo circumcision for whatever reason, they can do so.)

You should not be forced to give blood for any reason (including donation to save another person, OR for drug testing. These actions may be volunteered, but should not be mandatory)

Intersex infants should not be subjected to genital surgery unless there is a pressing health need (such as a blocked urinary tract or exposed internal organs) at which point, the parents need to be consulted.

And YES, a person should not be forced to carry a pregnancy to term if they do not want to, no matter how they became pregnant in the first place.

And the list goes on. We have to start with the understanding that in matters concerning the physical body, you should be the final authority, and you should always be given the information, resources, and opportunity to make the best possible choice for yourself.

tardis-in-a-moonbeam

About the drug testing point, how would you rather it be done if the person did not want a blood test

fandomsandfeminism

Depends on who is asking for the test.

tithegirl

This update is fucked. I’m posting this primarily for sex workers who are going to be majorly at risk because of this bullshit, but honestly, I would suggest everyone turn on ghost mode or just delete the app.

hillbilly---man

I feel like I should make a post about this because it’s not something that’s very well-known, and that Americans in particular may need to know about given the uncertain state of our healthcare system at the moment. I’ve wanted to write this out for a while, It’s kind of a long post, so sorry about that!

If you have an emergency and have to go to the hospital, you’ll owe the hospital a lot of money. (I got into a car wreck and broke my ankle and my arm. My hospital bill was around $20,000)

You’ll also owe the ambulance provider, if you need one. (My ambulance bill was about $800)

You may get separate bills from the anesthesiologist or surgeon. (My anesthesiologist bill was $1,700)

You may need follow-up appointments. (My orthopedic surgeon billed me for the appointments and his surgery together and it was about $1,000)

You’ve also got to pay for medical equipment you need afterward, like crutches or a walking boot. (Mine cost about $75)

Altogether, I ended up with almost $24,000 in medical debt from one car accident. That’s a really scary number for someone like me who makes $10/hr at a 12 hour a week job.

I got my debt down to $1075 by making some phone calls and submitting some paperwork.

The first thing I did was contact the hospital. They don’t make it easy to find, but many hospitals (perhaps most hospitals?) have financial assistance programs for people who can’t afford medical bills. I don’t make a lot of money, and I have bills to pay, so they were able to help me. I called the billing department and asked if they had any assistance programs for low income people who can’t pay their bills. I had to call multiple times, and I got transferred in circles by people who didn’t know what I was talking about. Finally, I got an appointment with someone in “Eligibility Services” (I don’t know what other hospitals call it, if it’s something different). I had to bring my pay stubs and copies of all of my bills. When I got to the hospital for the appointment, nobody knew what I was talking about so I had to wander a little to find where I needed to go. I spoke with the guy in Eligibility Services, and I waited for a decision on how much of the bill they would forgive. A month later, I got a call telling me it was totally forgiven.

I did the same thing for my ambulance bill and my anesthesiologist, but the process was a LOT easier. I just had to mail some paperwork and it was totally forgiven.

I didn’t bother with the medical equipment suppliers, since the bills came from separate companies and I didn’t feel like going through the process twice for $75. I was assured at the hospital that they had similar programs for debt forgiveness, so I could have probably avoided paying that too.

The only thing I couldn’t get taken care of was the surgeon/follow-up appointment cost, but they were able to put me on a no-interest payment plan.

Medical debt is scary because it’s something that can come from stuff that’s already really scary. I didn’t need the burden of $24,000 in debt on top of trying to get around on a crutch with a broken arm (it’s not easy, believe me!).. but I can’t imagine what it would be like with a bigger debt or a more severe medical emergency. I see lots of people in even worse trouble than I was in, both financially and medically. Please know that there are options for you when that GoFundMe doesn’t do enough. Even if your income is higher than mine, it’s worth a shot even for partial debt forgiveness.

pyroteknich

I am about 900% sure there are people who don`the know this.

kittenfossils

i didn’t know this.

fuckyeah-nerdery

Millennial luxury is:

A car that’s only five years old and paid off

Either a decent apart that costs less than $500 a month or a small house that cost less than $115,000 with a reasonable mortgage

A fridge that’s at least half full with food that isn’t out of date

A bank account that not only isn’t overdrawn, but still has like ten bucks left over each month

No student loans

A job that pays well and provides insurance coverage

Hell, having insurance

Being able to pay bills without having an emotional breakdown

Not having to borrow money from your family

Really, the ability to live on your own

agoodcartoon

Guys who complain about the friendzone often don’t care about their female friends’ personal boundaries, forcing their female friends build more walls up. A good cartoon.

- submitted by Gene

sciencevevo

why is he tearing down a wall with an axe

officialcyndilauper-deactivated

i hate it when your put in the friendzone and made to tear down a wall

ondoinganevildeedblues

Mr. Gorbachev…tear down this friendzone

cheaphalloweencostume

how you gonna draw some shit that makes you look like Jack Nicholson in The Shining and still feel like you’re the victim

bogleech

I DON’T *CHOP* UNDERSTAND *CHOP* WHY *CHOP* YOU CAN’T *CHOP* JUST *CHOP* LET ME *CHOP* BONE YOU *CHOP* ON AN INDEFINITE *CHOP* EXCLUSIVE *CHOP* BASIS *CHOP* WHEN *CHOP* I’M *CHOP* SO *CHOP* NIIIIIIIIIIIICE *CHOP*

dr-archeville

“I’m going to wall you up now, Fortunato.”

“Ha ha, and then what? ;) ”

magistrate-of-mediocrity

“For the love of God, Montresor!” -Cask of Amontifriendzone, Edgar Allan Poe

digitaldiscipline

Incessantly, I heard a smacking, as of some entitled dipshit whacking, whacking on my chamber door.

Resignedly, I placed another layer, voicing a quiet, repeated prayer, “This dude thinks he’s a player, but I am not a point to score, he should fuck off and bother me no more.”

Quoth the friendzoned, “Fucking whore.”

- The Craven, by Edward Allen Bro

agoodcartoon

edgar allen bro

zinglebert-bembledack

Oh my god

yournewfriendshouse

holy shit

cheekbonered

hogwarts memes

- everyone answering “no, i’m fred” to “are you [insert Y/N]” even hermione - everything draco does ever - calling blast ended skrewts “power bottoms” - calling newt scamander bad variations of his name like nerd sandwicher etc - colin creevey using that one picture he managed to get of hermione punching draco as a reaction image - shouting “spank me daddy” at the whomping willow - [pointing at random object] that’s a portkey - every single cat is professor mcgonagall

canthinkofaurl-deactivated20221

why

tawghasa

- POTTER

yourjacketisnowdry

- ever since snape’s “bottle fame, brew fortune” speech students just go on and on with it - “flambé success, bake brilliance” “Can you tutor me in charms?” “TUTOR you? I can teach you how to SAUTÉ EXCELLENCE.”

muddiedfoxglove

Illinois is going to die soon

muddiedfoxglove

Actually I have seen zero posts on tumblr about the crisis in Illinois. Illinois has not had a state budget in over two years. You read that correctly. Our governor, Bruce Rauner, is doing fuckall for this state. He won’t approve a budget, and the ones he comes up with suck so the state senate won’t approve them. The GOP and Democrats are locked in a battle over this. Schools are closing. A lot of schools won’t open this fall. The second largest school district in the state won’t open. The Illinois lottery is over. There’s talks of annexing the state. Here’s an article for source: http://money.cnn.com/2017/06/29/investing/illinois-budget-crisis-downgrade/index.html

andalusiapunk

so my brother was telling me about this human resources certification he attended a while ago. in a panel, the panelist asked a bunch of people in attendance, “who here knows if an applicant for a job is right for it in under 60 seconds?”

hands shot up around the room, people smug about their ability to “weed out the riff-raff” when it came to hiring for their fortune 500.

“you should all be fired and probably in jail,” they said, waiting for the whole room to get uncomfortable, then continued, “because the only things you can really learn about a human being in under 60 seconds are all things that are fueled by prejudices and biases covered by american law. so now, i will teach you how to stop being racist, sexist, judgmental assholes and hire people that will better your company of employ.”

sourcedumal

I need this to be force taught at all companies

antifainternational

This is a good example of why study after study after study has shown that discrimination against racialized people looking for work is very real. Oh, and don’t get too smug if you’re not in the USA - similar studies have shown that the same shit happens in Canada, Germany, the UK, Sweden - basically in every country you can think of.

ithelpstodream

michellepsychologist

@artofthecatt

felitomkinson

PSA if you’re medicated or are new to medication: do not stop medicating cold turkey without supervision from your psychiatrist or without letting them know you’d like to quit. these things need to be done gradually, doing it abruptly can fuck you up really, REALLY bad, long term. please please please don’t be reckless about your mental health.

felitomkinson

don’t sleep on this post and spread it if you can because it’s a good way to send your brain into a frenzy.

unit04-deactivated20160702

high-lord-of-bumbles-deactivate

Rob Zombie confirmed for coll fuckin’ guy

retrocatte

high-lord-of-bumbles-deactivate

ROB ZOMBIE CONFIRMED FOR COOLEST FUCKING GUY

akitchenwitch

i love that Rob Zombie is now Baby Metal’s badass protective grandpa

murmurrs

When I was a student at Cambridge I remember an anthropology professor holding up a picture of a bone with 28 incisions carved in it. ‘This is often considered to be man’s first attempt at a calendar,’ she explained. She paused as we dutifully wrote this down. ‘My question to you is this – what man needs to mark 28 days? I would suggest to you that this is woman’s first attempt at a calendar.’ It was a moment that changed my life. In that second I stopped to question almost everything I had been taught about the past. How often had I overlooked women’s contributions? How often had I sped past them as I learned of male achievement and men’s place in the history books? Then I read Rosalind Miles’s book ‘The Women’s History of the World’ (recently republished as 'Who Cooked the Last Supper?’) and I knew I needed to look again. History is full of fabulous females who have been systematically ignored, forgotten or simply written out of the records. They’re not all saints, they’re not all geniuses, but they do deserve remembering.

Sandi Toksvig (via poehlaris)

spudsexuall

My boyfriend talks in his sleep and because he’s bilingual, he says some hilarious/weird/sometimes creepy shit. I ask him every morning if he remembers saying this stuff and he has no idea about any of it.

Here are some of my favorites:

-”Babe, can you please turn down the brightness of your skin” -After stealing all of the blankets: “This is my right as a human” -After I take the blankets back: “I don’t want your freedom, America. Just blanket” -Sometimes he just says “Hello?” as if he’s answering a phone call -One night he just said “Cabbage” which is weird because he doesn’t know the english word for that when he’s awake. -After spooning me: “You have a nice butt” -”Who is that in the corner?” (terrifying) -”Watch out for the red lady” (even more terrifying) -Sometimes he will say things in German and it sounds like he’s speaking Parseltongue -One time I actually think he said something in Parseltongue -One time he talked about buying a ticket to “everywhere” and then just said “hello?” after two minutes of silence -And my all time favorite: ”This is MY yogurt, Satan”

meangirlnurse

actually, i’m not just gonna leave that in the tags: Catholics used the Holocaust as an opportunity to steal and convert Jewish children. Catholic authorities refused to return the Jewish children they “saved” to their families after the Holocaust ended. we have no idea how many children we lost.

they used our genocide to steal our babies.

jensreuter-deactivated20221211

This sadly isn’t at all Holocaust-specific, stealing Jewish children to baptise them was really common throughout European history, so much so you had really detailed laws on when it was acceptable since at least the 1200s. I don’t know about France, but in the Habsburg Empire, for example, the practice of clandestinely baptising Jewish children was so widespread that I recall a specific clause banning it in at least one Penal Code after the 1790s (i.e. after the Toleration Edict). Normally is was nominally forbidden and not really practiced by the clergy itself, but since Catholicism allows emergency baptisms to be performed by laypeople, you had lots of landowning nobility or just, like, regular Catholics baptising Jewish children to make them into “good Christians”. The most famous case is probably Pio Edgardo Mortara, who was taken from his Jewish parents in the 1850s when he was six and raised by the Pope himself after a Catholic maid baptised him in secret (it became a huge international scandal that played a pretty significant role in the demise of the Papal States and the reunification of Italy).

iflewbikes-deactivated20181005

Carrie was an utter gift.

mxmothra

I normally don’t like to add to posts, but this is just one of my favorite things about her. I guess Carrie Fisher just carried glitter everywhere, because she did the same thing at Indiana Comic Con when she was there in 2015. She actually kinda got in trouble because she was taking so long with each person who came for autographs because she wanted to “baptize them” with her glitter. She wanted to make sure that everyone who saw her got some glitter.

tldr; she was truly a gift and i sobbed at work when i got a notification that she passed, and i’m crying now as i type this.

skyline-sunset-in-my-veins

So what if we all picked a day and wore glitter for her?

icouldbereadingnow

Next May the 4th seems appropriate. Dedicate Star Wars day to the original princess?

skyline-sunset-in-my-veins

LET’S DO IT!!

moonblossom

I am so on board with glitter for Carrie day.

thebibliosphere

She talked about how her therapist (I think it was in her book Shockaholic but I can’t check right now) always knew when she was having an ‘off’ time in her head depending on how much glitter she’d show up wearing to appointments. It was her way of making the world sparkle and shine even when it felt dark. It made her feel better. Evidently she wanted to share that with others.

I purposely went out and bought glittery body dust in her honor. I’m going to welcome in 2017 lit up like a firework. Ain’t none of y'all going to ever be able to hug me ever again without getting covered in glitter. It’s on. We’re doing this. And on May 4th we’re going to make the world shine.

For Carrie.

gingerthesnap

glitter for carrie on may the 4th

breelandwalker

-busts out the sparkly foil palette-

FOR SPACE MOM

the-mares-deactivated20170209

I’m cryin’

mystockintrade

MAY 4TH IS GLITTER FOR SPACE MOM DAY!

feeblefeeb

GLITTER ON MAY THE FOURTH!

noseforahtwo

As a chick married to an ex-cop, I say this all the time to people close to me, but it bears repeating here: No cop is your friend after you’ve been detained.

Get rear ended by a drunk at a red light? That cop will direct traffic around your vehicle, document the accident, sure. Call animal control on your piece of shit neighbor? You’ve got a pretty good chance the officer who shows up helps out in a meaningful way.

But after you’ve been arrested, when a police officer says, “Just be honest with me and I’ll do the same.” or the old “Help me and I’ll help you.” Politely ask for a lawyer. Shake your head. Ignore them. Pretend you’re Hollywood royalty being asked for a selfie. “ …mmmm… Sorry, but no.”

Keep your mouth shut. Don’t do their work for them. Wait for a lawyer.

kedreeva

I worked as a police dispatcher for a year and a half, and I’d agree with this. My cops were generally nice people (and I say this having been on the wrong end of their sirens twice, once before and once after being hired), and they often helped in good ways… on the street. Not so much in the station. Generally speaking (and I know this is oversimplification and is worse in a lot of places but), it went like this:

On the street, you were considered as a person/citizen they have sworn to protect who may have made a mistake or done something wrong.

Once you were in the station, you were considered as a criminal. In the station you are the only one on your side.

Stay safe.

thebaconsandwichofregret

TV and film has you thinking that only guilty people ask for a lawyer. This is not true. The law is complex and difficult and confusing and if you’re being questioned by the police you’re not going to be in your best state of mind. A lawyer is your basic civil right and you should exercise that right. Keep silent, ask for a lawyer, take your legal advice.

Guilty people don’t ask for a lawyer, smart people do.

noseforahtwo

“Guilty people don’t ask for a lawyer, smart people do.”

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