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I think a lot of people would benefit from unlearning the idea that casual sex is inherently disgusting, harmful, or immoral just because they personally don’t want to partake in it. You can stand up for sexual safety and consent without acting like people who enjoy fucking strangers are degenerates. I take no issue with anyone asserting boundaries or stating that they’re not interested in certain kinds of sex or even sex as a whole. But when you condemn or express disgust at others for engaging in consensual sex, that’s when you start to sound like a puritan.
Btw, this includes self-proclaimed “feminists” who shame and lecture women for giving men “access” to their bodies. Bodies are not commodities and sex is not inherently transactional. You don’t lose anything by having sex on purpose with a person you find attractive. Sex is not some metaphysically transformative thing that bonds you to the other person forever. It is literally not that deep.
the thing is that the way people treat trans women they don't like is that the behavior they're engaging in is like as old as (and even older than) the modern generation of transphobic backlash against the trans liberation moment
Beth Elliott is a transfem folk singer who was involved with West Coast lesbian political movements in the 70s. her inclusion was debated for a while, partly because she was transgender, but also because a lesbian who she used to have a relationship with was involved with a separate lesbian group, who protested against her inclusion at a lesbian conference that she had helped to set up. the conference took a vote that resulted in the majority saying she should be allowed to stay, but the trans-exclusive lesbians refused to allow the vote to hold. she performed once on the first night, and then didn't return, and the next night one of the speakers delivered a speech that was changed from her original notes to be more of a transphobic screed against Elliot, alleging her of having "the mentality of a rapist". this incident certainly didn't *invent* the idea of trans women being rapists, but it does predate The Transsexual Empire by several years and was definitely a contributing factor to its creation.
and i say "is" at the top of this story because Beth Elliott is still alive!!!! this incident was not that long ago!!!!! it DID damage her career, however, and it practically made her a social pariah. but it's the same type of shit people do to trans women to this very day. these tactics are relatively recent overall but they are still time honored traditions with trans-exclusive feminists.
this isn't even about michfest is the crazy part. this incident happened in 1973, and michfest as an event started 3 years later in 1976. the first michfest where trans women were explicitly removed from the event took place in 1991, after it had already been running for 25 years. the type of thinking that caused the organizers of michfest to push trans women out of participating in an event they had long been a part of was the same type of thinking that had caused lesbian activists to push Beth Elliott out of the event she had organized as well as her career, and it's the same type of thinking that led to writings like The Transsexual Empire coming into existence.
thin people love to be like oh my god this depiction is NOT fatphobic 🙄 the creator isn't using fatness as a visual shorthand for evil, they just made the character fat to signify their laziness greed and moral decline
can we stop pretending that anyone assigned female at birth has some mystical connection to womanhood or lesbianism. it’s such a conservative outlook on identity i can’t believe we have to even pretend to entertain it.
like i’m never gonna get on anyone’s case for how they identify. if you’re transmasc & identify 100% as a man but call yourself a lesbian that’s fine, i really don’t care. i personally probably wouldn’t be interested in you because i’m not attracted to men, but someone else might! i have absolutely nothing against those identities being used together by one person. labels are just words we use to describe our experiences in shorthand.
however, i do have to ask why you’re choosing to identify that way. would you support a cisgender man identifying similarly, or do you believe you specifically have an inalienable claim to lesbianism as an identity because of your cagab? and what does that say about your treatment of transfem lesbians?
is it out of line to suggest that that’s a line of thought worth interrogating?
It’s because the trans man who calls himself a lesbian was usually a lesbian before they came out. They made friends with lesbians, went to lesbian bars, identified as butch and then realized they were trans. If they’re attached to the identity they’re MORE than okay to still be using it. It has nothing to do with some kind of inherent “claim” from their cagab.
i joined a sapphic club at my school shortly after realizing i was transfem. within a few weeks, one of the club's leaders (who identified as nb at the time, but is a trans dude now) announced he was leaving the club, because his gender identity no longer aligned with a "sapphic" identity. no one forced him to leave or whatever -- in fact i don't think any of the club would have been upset if he stayed -- he just no longer identified as sapphic, so he left the club because of it. it's not like he disappeared from the community completely; i was part of a club for bi and pan students and a club for trans students too, and he went to at least the latter as well. plus he was still friends with people in the club and still hung out with them, because all the clubs were organized through the school's LGBT center and a lot of the people in the clubs hung out there when they weren't in class.
like if a trans guy who identified as a lesbian for a while transitions, yeah, it's no big deal if he continues to identify as a lesbian but like. it's not like he'll lose out on his community if he doesn't? it's just a label that anyone can choose to identify with or stop identifying with at any time. it's just that the way some people describe being a lesbian, it's like a secret society of some kind where membership is an exclusive privilege (which is harder for *certain women* to obtain and be respected as for some reason) and to give it up is essentially like spitting in the face of Sappho herself. that's just not the case!!! it's just a flag bro!!!! it's just a label!!! you can pick new ones anytime you want!!!!
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it’s pretty hilarious when people say “lmao you obviously don’t know anything about Alison Bechdel if you think she’s a terf” because if anything the exact opposite is true: if you know anything about Alison Bechdel outside of a few comics uploaded to tumblr it is shockingly obvious that she’s a terf. She can’t get through a full sentence without shilling one or the major terf playbooks (Fun Home opens with her self-insert proudly reading Gyn/Ecology for fucks sake), all of her real life feminist heroes are… you guessed it! they’re almost all terfs! Where did she spend her time every year? Why, at the infamously transphobic Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival, of course! She only stopped going when they completely cancelled the event (because of how many trans people were protesting it) and still went after trans people she knew asked her not to
“but what about that one comic where she re-examines her bias about bathrooms?” i don’t know how to tell you this, but people can still be transphobes if they think trans people should get the dignity of having somewhere to pee; not every racist (or even every white supremacist) is arguing about how we should bring back racially segregated bathrooms and indeed many modern racists are patting themselves on the back for finding no problem with that. Besides, the punchline of the comic is that trans women are less likely to be stopped in bathrooms than cis lesbians because we conform to gender stereotypes more than them (in her mind) — it’s just one in a long line of comments in Dykes To Watch Out For about how trans people are, at best, “conformist homosexuals”
if you look in the comments section of Dykes To Watch Out For on her website, youll find that it’s absolutely teaming with terfs, many of whom Bechdel was close friends with and mentioned in her blog posts.
the crazy thing about this is how many people are unwilling to hear a single, basic & incredibly apparent criticism against a white cis woman because she represents a “RETVRN” to “the good days of feminism”. anybody throwing a tantrum about trans women pointing out these incredibly obvious politics held by cisgender idols should similarly be considered a terf: if people were genuinely concerned they’d ask for more information rather than immediately shutting down any mention that this could be true.
me when im not a terf and i signal this by using terf bibles to represent my journey to lesbianism
i just don't understand what is so hard for people to wrap their heads around here. even people who got with the program irt JKR are wringing their hands over this, and i find the solution very obvious: if you have previously respected Alison Bechdel as an author or an artist, you respect her as a terf. terf politics are part & parcel with her art-- the curtains aren't just blue here, folks. In this example: She could have literally chosen any other feminist literature to depict her journey with queerness. There are a plethora of cisgender, lesbian authors who write theory and literature who are not terfs. When an artist makes literary reference in this way, they do so for a reason. It can be used as a tool for characterization, an allegorical reference, or even a signal to the audience. Something that might say "Hey, I read those other books too. We're cool." Even here, she calls the experience a "novel fusion between word and deed"-- she herself making it inseparable from the action of lesbianism in her eyes.
As yall can see, the audience is meant to consider the idea of "feminism as the theory, and lesbianism as the practice". When those feminists in question are terfs, what do we think the authors trying to imply here? To Alison Bechdel, the world needs writers like Adrienne Rich & Mary Daly. To Alison Bechdel, terf politics are inherent to lesbianism. If you respect Alison Bechdel as an artist, you respect her as a terf.
"Femboy is a slur now???" I'm sorry did we all collectively forget two years of Bridget Guilty Gear being called a femboy by the most annoying men on the planet specifically as a reactionary counter to anyone accurately calling her a trans woman?
Why do you think they kept calling her a femboy specifically?
Do you think maybe trans women have a history with this word used against them?
Now why do you think guys reclaiming a slur used against women feels weird?
they literally deleted all existing reblogs of that post from existence btw<3
and theyre tryin to delete it all again
"This trans woman was mean to me for no reason!!!"
I genuinely do not fucking believe you anymore. I know your game. I am 200% of the genuine opinion that you absolutely started it and deserved whatever it was she said to your dumb ass.
how many people on this website like actually absorb the fact that race is a social construct? that race is indeed assigned at birth and reinforced socially through an entire lifetime? that race is fluid and racial privilege is granted and taken away arbitrarily based on what white supremacist power structures benefit from the most? that racialization is relative and changes over time and space? that there is no genetic evidence that race is biological, that it’s a farce in the same way the idea of biological sex is?
some of yall will be like "be gay do crime!!!" but then torrenting is too scary n diy hrt/medication is too dangerous and shoplifting is too risky and i think the only crime u guys r comfortable committing is "being" illegal in a country you'll never visit who's people you've never had to recognise as actual human beings
ppls take away from this being that i'm mocking them for not being cool & confident is driving me insane yall idc if u actually do crimes or not i care if u understand be gay do crime as a mantra of necessity for many (often BROWN!!!) queer people, esp in the countries that SOME OF YALL take pride in being illegal in
please stop harassing black people off this website. it's like stormfront for toddlers on here. it sucks, stop it
idk how "black people should feel welcome on this website" became something you have to say out loud. if black people aren't comfortable or safe on here then that is our failure. be anti-racist or die.
it's not enough to be passively non-racist. whether you're chasing people off here yourself or choosing to ignore "discourse" (meaning the rights of black people to basic respect), the end result is a big whites-only sign outside your little clubhouse. when the tide is pulling toward bigotry, refusing to swim against it just means you'll be carried along too. passivity is acceptance. get mad, get loud, don't value the comfort of the oppressor over the dignity of the oppressed.
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Anyway happy international asexuality day back to work I go
I really hope with continued effort this will eventually click and we actually start bonding over these things rather than tearing each other apart. I had to leave and mute a majority of the ace sub reddits because it became maddening to see loads of content saying XYZ ace identity isn't really asexual, watching people get harassed and mods seemingly letting it happen, seeing people get shamed. I've been in threads where people have shamed women specifically for wearing reviewing clothes and gay people for being out and proud. Then when you're like hey, it's not cool to shame women for how they dress or gay people for being open and proud about being gay (which I don't really believe in common sense tbh, but you would think that would be common sense in a queer space, right?) they react to that by doubling down and acting like you're the one being a bigot. I say all of that to emphasize just how toxic how our online spaces can be and sometimes the stuff even carries over to irl spaces too. Maybe as asexual people we actually have more in common... than we have different and we should support each other whether we experience our asexuality differently from one another or not.