chaosman

cam/ryan. 28. any pronouns. multifandoms but currently lost in the steddie sauce. VA as REDACTED in Twigs and Hearts.

[astraystayyh]

THIS!!!!!!!!!! most of us feel like we aren't doing enough because we can't physically stop a genocide but speaking helps!! pressuring helps!! boycotting helps and protesting helps!! please don't give up on Palestinians not when the entire world has turned their backs on them

here is how YOU can help Palestine

[antarctic-arcanine]

If I ever share anything that was AI generated it is purely by accident. I hate that it's getting harder and harder to tell and it makes me want to never use the internet again. It definitely had its faults, but man I miss the internet of the 2000s so much.

[dino-doodles]

Yeah I don't fuck with AI so if it ever gets on my page cuz like I'm tired and don't realize some minor detail in the pinky of some hand in a "drawing" is a little off tell me and I'll take it down. Ai "art" doesn't need to infect shit more than it already has.

[airwar]

we used to turn the tv on and just watch whatever was on there

[correctopinionhaver]

[honeylemony]

[lunehowls]

maybe !

[tentacleteapot]

your unreliable narrator fucking bit me

[charl0ttan]

thats not how they told it

[the-rat12]

History is written by victors

[tentacleteapot]

yeah well Victor fucking bit me

[lunehowls]

good cow

[neat-username]

"I asked ChatGPT--"

Yeah well, I asked the wasps nest in my attic. It sang its answer so beautifully to me, but I am so very afraid of it. Perhaps it will soothe my itching soul...

[awkwardgirlfriends]

And they lived happily ever after together, and nothing bad ever happened, and everyone got what they wanted and left Jmart alone!

Wow! What a wholesome end to a great podcast! I can't wait to listen to The Magnus Protocol! I bet nothing bad will happen there too! 🥰

[spookyspeks]

HAPPY JON SIMS AND CATS DAY

@jonsimsandcats

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

suggestions for gender neutral version of mom/dad? something less formal than just ‘parent’

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

please note that while progenitor, guardian, spawnpoint etc are all respected titles, they are more the equivalent of mother/father than an affectionate nickname you would scream through the house multiple times a day. gimme something we can use people

[whyarehterecomendednamesstupid]

I just tried to combine the words and got “dom” and i cant-

[tinkering-goblin]

but wait, if we reverse ‘dom’ you get ‘mod’. I suggest we use ‘moderator’ as a gender neutral version of mom/dad

[madskittens-202-deactivated2026]

Admin and op would work makes them sound powerful and in charge of everything

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

Admin (respectful) Op (derogatory)

[doggoneloser]

i was going to add something else to this but instead i got to thinking and i was like huh. what could you use.

in most languages the word for ‘mother’ usually starts with an M, because phonetically [m] is one of the easiest sounds for a newborn to make when they start babbling, and mothers tend to be the one most around the child. so in my mind that crosses M off the list, because it’s automatically associated with a feminine figure

similarly, ‘father’ tends to start with D, T, P, or B. (phonetically these sounds are very close together; [p, b] and [d, t] are all only different because of being voiced or unvoiced.) these are also phonetically easy letters and ones kids pick up on earlier.

now the hard sounds for kids are the following: [ɹ, d͡ʒ, tʃ, θ, ð] or in normal speak: the English R, the “j” or “dge” sound in “judge,” the “th” sound in “thigh” and the “th” sound in “the.” and we don’t want kids unable to say their parent’s name for years, so those are also off the list.

additionally, it’s easiest for young kids to just repeat the same sound twice rather than figuring out the tongue gymnastics of putting different sounds together, which is why kids will say Ma-Ma or Da-Da and not Ma-Mo or Da-Po. and we’ll want to stick with low back vowels like “ah” and avoid ones like the hard “i” or “ee.”

so what does that leave us? when we want a sound kids can learn easily and early but don’t want to just put a funky spin on “mama” or “dada”?

my suggestions: G, K, W, L. i personally lean towards W and L. they’re called liquids, since they’re the consonants that kind of aren’t consonants, and kids (and ESL learners) will tend to swap out the English R for a W or L until they can learn the R.

if i ever have a child, they’ll start calling me Wawa. then when they get older, they’ll call me Wala, or maybe even Wally.

and then, once they’re finally phonetically developed, they can call me by my true title as their nonbinary guardian for their 18+ years:

Waluigi.

[cipheramnesia]

[far--from-h0me]

Okay, but on an actually serious note, Baba is used in several different languages, but the meaning changes between mother, father, or grandparent. However, it is not used in English afaik, so it could be a good English option.

[shayvaalski]

baba is what I use as a nonbinary parent (it has a long history for butches!) and this post hit me like a two-by-four to the back of the goddamn HEAD

[buurenaar]

How about Tata, because no matter what, they’re gonna try to latch onto a nipple

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

wait wait wait, do babies try to latch on to the nipples of non-lactating parents too? is this a thing? do babies just automatically zero in on any nipple in the vicinity, regardless of the presence of breasts or breast milk? is this an experience cis men deal with I need to KNOW

UPDATE: based on the notes the answer is a resounding YES!!!

[thoughts-i-had-once]

I can’t speak to cis men’s experience, but my house has this kind of lamp, and my progeny were both very fascinated by it whenever I would carry them under one of them.

[suz-blog]

The lamp thing is legit, I’ve discussed it with so many fellow breastfeeding parents. The weirdest one for me was when my son latched onto the tied knot of a balloon.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

I am so so grateful I decided to scroll through the tags:

[reginaldqueribundus]

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

oh fantastic tags:

#maud  #when i was little i called both my parents mom/dad mixture i didn’t know who i wanted so just who ever came first to me yelling that

[gbcgraphics]

idk why people photoshopped the crying cat meme on this pic when the unedited version is so powerful

[imthebeast]

[monamoni]

[ralfmaximus]

WET BEAST WEDNESDAY

[laurasinele]

one of my favorite wet beast for this wednesday

[ambar-telumendil]

oh fucc...

[lichen-soup-scribe]

So, my spouse has been exploring his gender lately; he also just built himself a new laptop. Today he told me that he in an attempt to process some genderfeels through metaphor, he made a post on a trans forum along the lines of: "I'm a lifelong Windows user and I think I'm pretty good at it. I want to find out what Linux has to offer but I'm afraid I wouldn't be any good at it. And how do you choose the right Linux distro, anyway? Do you have to try them all?"

The responses, he said, were a mix of useful advice about feeling out your gender and useful advice about choosing a Linux distro.

I love trans people so much

[lichen-soup-scribe]

Spouse (still he/him for now) recently decided to pick out some more feminine glasses -- he was going for the librarian look, he said. He noted his pick was "subtle enough" he'd "probably" feel comfortable wearing them at work. Of course, he's been wearing his old glasses while waiting for the new ones to be ready.

Well, today these two things happened while he was at work:

his old glasses snapped in half at the nose bridge, and

he got a call that his new glasses were ready for pickup, days earlier than expected.

I don't usually read coincidences as signs, but,

[lichen-soup-scribe]

Update: She really liked Linux

(Also, her name is Eve now)

[aroundmeblackbats]

when you go to bed significantly earlier than usual, a little menu should pop up asking if you want Wake Up Early or More Sleep. and then you should get what you requested. that's my human body UI improvement for the day.

[frontmansdog]

mentally taking a drag of my mental cigarette because I don’t smoke but life has been very smokable lately