“After a recent post, i got tons of messages asking how i was able to score such high allowances while barely seeing these men.
I believe that you have to give your sugaring some time. If you are in a position where you need to make some quick cash, you are more likely to accept low offers. In order to get a great allowance, you have to be in a decent starting position. Don’t be desperate, assholes smell that shit from miles away.
Even if you don’t have a lot of money, try to dress well on first dates. Inexpensive companies like Zara provide everything you need: A pair of heels, a dress and a nice jacket. When in doubt, wear black. And don’t show too much skin. If you do own designer items, put them on!
You better know how to walk the walk and talk the talk. You know which forks to use and which vino to order. The internet is your friend.
Don’t show that you are impressed
This is important and a great way to manipulate rich men. Don’t show how impressed you are. He takes you to an amazing restaurant? Talk about “this other place” you had dinner at. Do your research before. He owns a private plane? Sentences like “Oh my god, I love sitting in the jump seat!!” show that you are excited about what he has, but not too surprised or impressed. Act like everything he has is according to your expectations, but not below or above them. There is a fine line between being easily impressed and putting a man down. Try to balance.
I’m going to illustrate negotiation and manipulation skills using my current SDs as examples, but remember that every man is different and you gotta adjust the mind-games accordingly.
SD 1: 5000 euro for a 2-day trip every month. Married. True business man. So with this man, it was easy. He was the one that brought up an allowance before even meeting me, asked me how much I wanted. I asked him to make an offer (I prefer that, if I make an offer myself I’m always worried he would have offered more otherwise). It was a quick phone call, he offered 3500 (in case we got along obviously). I told him I’d think about it, calculate what i needed and get back to him. Didn’t text him for about 2 days, then sent him a short message saying “I am going to need at least 5000 to take care of my needs”. Again, in order to have the ability to take risks and be so bold in negotiations, you can’t be in a desperate position. He texted me back and agreed within 10 minutes.
SD 2: 8000 euro, 2 evenings a month, no intimacy so far. This is far more interesting than SD1 and the way most SDs work. In my experience, highly effective. And we all know, i love to play people. Especially men.
So, this type of man - yes, i can certainly generalise -is complex. He wants someone that likes him for him, not for his money. Something real. At the same time he knows exactly that the money is the reason we want to be with him. He doesn’t want us to show that though. This man is extremely generous, but doesn’t want to feel like he is paying for sex or companionship. He wants to spoil the girl of his dreams. To this man, you better don’t bring up an allowance until after the 2nd date.
So, how do we deal with this? We don’t want to fear him away, nor do we want to be tricked by salts. Salts hope/assume we won’t talk about money because we don’t want to seem like gold diggers. Real Sugar Daddies want us to be more than gold diggers (even if thats all we are). So, how do we know we aren’t wasting our time but have a true gentleman as a POT?
1. Obviously, screen the shit out of him. What his profile says doesn’t mean anything, but does he give you his real name? Find out as much as possible and if he is able to afford you.
2. Let him choose the restaurant for the first date. If it’s an expensive place, extra point for him. When you are there, don’t you dare order the cheapest dish. You order one of the most expensive things, and when you are done eating, you keep ordering expensive drinks. Watch his body language during all of this. Does he cringe while you order the lobster? No need to waste your time. Does he decide to order bottles that are 100 bucks? Good. Talk, laugh, smile and listen during all of this. Find out what he is interested in. Theatre, music, sports? Generous men will feel the need to give you a few hundred bucks after a good first date (bonus point). When that happens, you smile and say “I have a hard time accepting this, I had so much fun with you”. Refuse twice. He will give it to you anyways. And think very highly of you. No kiss at the end of it.
3. Text him the next morning. Say how much fun you had, and that you would love to see him again. On date 1 you found out what he is into (sports, theatre, whatever). Do your research online and tell him about an event he could be interested in. Suggest it as a spot for your second date. He is going to love the fact you listened and are interested in his hobbies. The seats he gets are another great indicator for his generosity.
4. During date 2, get over any mediocrity you might have in yourself. Brush up on your general knowledge, talk about current events. Impress him, know more than him. Talk about your dreams. And dream big. Wanting your own company and the ability to provide for yourself will make this man more generous than your dreams of designer clothing. If the date goes well, you can let him kiss you. Maybe.
5. After the second date, its time to talk about allowance. Emphasise your dreams again, and see what offer he makes. If it’s too low, move on. Again, sugaring takes time. But this technique has been proven to be rather bulletproof and scored me whatever I wanted.”
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