Because I feel like kids of color donât hear it enough: domestic abuse is not a part of your culture.Â
A lot of us were raised with the idea that âits normal for wives/children to get hit! it helps them learnâ only white folk donât get beaten when they misbehaveâ. Thatâs not true, white people arenât the only ones who deserve a safe and abuse free environment. Black and brown people can and do have loving families.Â
If youâre in a situation where you are enduring abuse and people use your culture to justify it, I want you to know that what theyâre telling you are lies.
as someone who studies this: statistically speaking, child abuse (including âspankingâ, because all forms of hitting children are abusive) is pretty much equally prevalent in households of all racial, ethnic, and cultural backgrounds. so yeah, donât let people use the âcultureâ excuse on you, but also, donât believe others are experiencing it less just because itâs less normalized in their culture to talk about it. we all gotta work together to fix this shit.
All the black & latino ppl who joked about Miles Morales saying âWhateverâ to his parents, saying that he should âknow he cant get away with that like white kids canâ and âlmao did he forget that heâs black/has a latina mom???â
You arenât better behaved because your parents beat you. âKnowing your placeâ did not make you more dignified than white children, you were being needlessly abused.
we hit this problem trying to get my niece removed from her abusive parents' custody. a social worker actually said it was her latino father's "culture" to hit his ten month old daughter until she cowered in fear from him. there is nothing about my niece being maybe latina (not sure he's her bio dad) that makes her more able to take abuse than a white kid. it only makes her more likely to be abandoned by the system.
