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photochoco

Jackpot

photochoco

This is getting kind of ridiculous.

There are two five leaves in there somewhere

photochoco

I lost count

humunanunga

This is the lucky clover bouquet. Reblog for seven days of good luck!

buttnekkidblackgirl

Y’all laugh but I actually end up doing pretty well once I go to work

a-little-squirrely-sunshine

fuck it, lets luck this shit up.

lady-byleth

I lost my chance to adopt Mira yesterday, I could use some good luck

Do. Not. Pester. People. About. Having. Kids.

Some people don’t want children.

Some people can’t have children.

It’s none of your business why someone isn’t having babies. Don’t ask people when they’re going to have one. Don’t ask why not. Don’t try to get details or give advice and for the love of it all DON’T TELL SOMEONE THEY’D BE A GREAT MOM. Just leave it alone.

millenniumfae

“Asexual activist Yasmin Benoit talks to PinkNews about how she realised she was asexual, why the LGBT community needs to be more inclusive, annoying comments people make about asexuality, and why she’s embracing her asexuality as a proud, black model.“

salemwitchhunterofficial

[Yasmin Benoit: You barely see asexual people as it is, let alone a black asexual person.

I am a model and an asexuality activist, and I am an aromantic asexual.

There was never really a time where I didn’t think I was asexual. I noticed when I was about eight and I was in primary school like everyone’s hormones seemed to kick in and all of a sudden the boys and girls didn’t want to just play with each other; they were going out with each other and they fancied each other and I was like, “Alright, what’s this?”

The default is straight so when people would ask me I’d be like “Well I guess I’m straight but I don’t like boys.” And they were like: “Well then you’re probably not straight.” They said: “Well do you like girls?” and I was like “No, I don’t really like anybody.” And they were like: “Well maybe you’re asexual or something?” And I was like “Alright, that sounds good.” So I Googled that and I was like “Yeah, sounds about right.” So when I was about 14, I just started using that word.

I find that most of the time, in my personal life, people just kind of re-interpret it their own way. So I’ll say: “Hey, I’m asexual” and they’ll be like: “Oh ok, so you’re well behaved.” They’ll just switch it. I’ll be like “I’m asexual” and they’ll be like: “Oh, you’ll find the right person, don’t worry” and I’ll be like “That’s not what I said.”

It has nothing to do with being a prude, it has nothing to do with being insecure, and antisocial, and introverted. It has nothing to do with how you look—that’s something I get a lot—people are like: “Oh but you’re good looking, you don’t need to be asexual,” which usually tells me that A) people think that there is an asexual look and that it isn’t a good one, and 2) that asexuality is a choice that people take when they can’t get dates or that they can’t get laid, which is really strange.

One of the benefits of being asexual is definitely that you don’t have to worry about–if you’re aromantic—you really don’t worry about relationship stuff. I know some asexual people do worry about that but I don’t have that problem.

I think that representation is definitely very important because I think the LGBTQIA+ community in general is pretty whitewashed in its representation. That is not only ironic for the community that’s supposed to be so inclusive and diverse if it doesn’t look like that, it’s also counterproductive for minorities that are part of it because it’s kind of seen as being a white thing, which definitely doesn’t help when you are trying to come out and people don’t take it seriously in your community because it’s seen as being this white kid thing.

Even in the LGBTQIA community, I find that people tend to cut out the A or think that the A stands for allies. I notice a lot of the time in organisations or in the media, people only care about the LGBT part and even though they put the plus, they don’t actually acknowledge the plus. But last time I checked the community is about, you know, people that aren’t heteronormative and they don’t fit that and it’s supposed to be inclusive of that. I think that LGBTQIA+ platforms should do a better job of acknowledging what’s in the plus and not just the LGB and the T.]

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wingedrivers-deactivated2019081

@jellybeanaesthetic

maxtastique

100% for this. Just wish she would have explained a little more about how being asexual and\or aromantic can work with intimate relationships in this video. She says she knows it can cause worry (anxiety) for people realizing they're asexual or aromantic, but instead of giving advice just says she doesn't have to deal with it. Being asexual myself, it would have helped so much to see a role model like this that clearly defined what it means and how to talk about it to friends and new acquaintances to avoid drama in the long run. Granted, your personal preferences on this topic are no one's business until you want it to be, but it can be extremely hurtful and stressful to be completely platonic and enjoying intimacy with someone only to find out they were only being your friend in hopes of dating you. I think it's important to empower confidence and give advice on how to handle a situation like that. I hope to see so much from her advocating Ace\Aro alignment, though, and I'm sure she'll go more in depth as time goes on.

too-cool-for-facebook

lubefairy

SHE IS RIGHT AND SHE SOULD SAY IT!!!

kittyknowsthings

YES!

apexsexual-deactivated20200227

“Nobody should be required to use beauty products to look professional!” Ok, Susan. Next time you go to a restaurant you tell me you don’t mind that the waitress who has the flu serves you food while looking into her sweaty face and at her red, swollen nose. Next time you go in for surgery have a talk with the surgeon who has bags under their eyes and looks like they’re on hardcore drugs due to their dry, split lips and irritated skin and tell me it’s not bothering you. Let’s be honest - none of us wants these illusions destroyed.

radbian-deactivated20230423

TIL not wearing make up is the same as serving food while being sick with a contagious illness

butchnymph-blog

I’d rather sick waitresses get the opportunity to take time off than cover up the signs of contagious illness with cosmetics. Its kind of sociopathic if you think the problem in this example is how she *looks*.

I would also prefer a surgeon with a clean face over one with powders and etc. on her face that could unneccessarily contaminate the inside of my body. Makeup is considered “clean” by how it looks, but a face with cosmetics on it isnt a scrubbed, clean face: it has stuff applied to it. Mascara and powders are debris that can fall off.

Women’s actual faces arent somehow so filthy that we need to encase them in something else (sometimes toxic) to keep them from infecting others with our skin cooties. Its perfectly safe and professional for women to just wash their faces.

gayerluke

imagine thinking “i don’t want these ugly people to serve me” before “hey uh is she ok”

daddyapo-deactivated20190625

OR personnel are literally not allowed to wear makeup omg

maxtastique

Gotta love people who think women that don't wear makeup automatically look sick and think we should be caking it on to provide them, complete strangers, an illusion of how we actually look, but if they see a guy with to much chapstick, that's a whole different story.

striders

not to like make a huge fucking post about shit that’s been talked to death but it really genuinely scares me how many straight girls think it’s normal to just… not like your partner. like they think it’s normal and okay for their boyfriends to openly think they’re stupid and annoying and to be totally derisive about their interests and for them not to be friends or have things in common or enjoy each other’s personalities or encourage their interests? you are supposed to be friends with the person you’re in love with. you are supposed to want to talk to them about the things that make them happy. you do not have to settle for people who treat your entire personality as a burden outside of what you do to cater to them.

toastedmall0ws

This goes for boys too :/

okamikodomo

Same thing for grown women who think it’s acceptable, let alone *normal* for their husbands to force all the household tasks on them, even if she works just as much as him. How many women just sigh and carry on when their husband routinely ignores them for the television, or a video game with his friends. That it’s normal for guys to trash talk their wives to their friends, and even men who are genuinely in love with their wife will often cave to peer pressure and start joking about “the nag” or “the ball and chain” or similar thing. You know what the insidious thing about stuff like that? It starts to breed resentment. The guy making those jokes eventually starts to believe it. So. Don’t accept that kinda talk from your man. Just don’t.

maxtastique

A friend of mine is getting married in a few months and I've never once heard her say a good thing about her man. She thinks it's funny to slam him in front of her friends, even though by all accounts, he's a genuine darling. I've had to stop her mid sentence so many times. It's shocking how many people think that's healthy behavior.

tankaramo

me: i like this thing! my brain: excellent, it’s your reason to live now. you won’t be able to think about anything else for a few days, weeks or even months. talking about virtually anything else will be a nightmare, but so will be talking about The Thing, because no one shares your level of enthusiasm. have fun!

cognitivedissonance

This is my new favorite genre of disappointed Trump voter. Meet the Trump voter taking it in the teeth at tax time.

How unsurprising “Fuck you, got mine” becomes a simple “fuck you” in a flash…

girlbossjodiarias

I love this song.

ouijawaydidhego

thebiscuiteternal

Mmmnh. My mama, being a retired accountant, volunteers every year to do taxes for the elderly via a local program sponsored by AARP.

She’s only been at it for three days so far this year and has already heard this same whine from *so many* people.

almasexya

stupid-dyke

When will they learn that when republicans talk about “cutting taxes” they ALWAYS mean “for the rich only”

samcahntent

If it weren’t for the crocheted dog I’d have probably just thought she had a twin lol

bemusedlybespectacled

I’m a little disturbed but also highly impressed

reginaluporum

hey everybody, check out these lesbian witch cats at my local rescue

hotcommunist-deactivated2019032

draws-memes

A family can be you, your wife, and your 11 children

raven-conspiracy

Call your reps or use Resistbot if texting is your thing, and MAKE THIS HAPPEN in your state!!

http://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/393581-rhode-island-bill-would-keep-trump-off-2020-ballot-unless-he-filed-his

gehayi

Rhode Island’s state Senate passed a bill this week that would keep candidates off the presidential ballot in their state if they don’t release five years’ worth of tax returns, according to the Providence Journal.

State Sen. Gayle Goldin (D), who sponsored the bill, noted that every presidential candidate since Richard Nixon had released their tax returns voluntarily until President Trump ran for office.

Trump has repeatedly claimed that he cannot release his tax returns because he is under audit, but the IRS said an audit does not prevent a candidate from releasing their personal tax information.

Goldin argued that “tax returns provide essential information about candidates’ conflicts of interest.”

Tax returns, she continued, are vital information a voter needs to know about a candidate at the ballot box.

The bill passed the Democratic-majority Senate on a 34-3 vote. It now moves to the Rhode Island state House.

oak23

The Life Changing Magic of Tidying: A Simple, Effective Way to Banish Clutter Forever - Marie Kondo

maxtastique

While I love the process she's teaching, this doesn't apply to everyone. I'm sitting on a storage unit full of my things and trying to sort out three estates worth of items to make room for them. Even if it doesn't make you happy, maybe keep some of the things that you will never use just to remember. Your past is a foundation that you stand on now.

jellies-moved-deactivated202006

OH I FORGOT. I SAW THE GREATEST CAR IN THE WORLD WHEN I WAS COMING BACK FROM THE JOB INTERVIEW I DID TODAY

jellies-moved-deactivated202006

I got the job I had interviewed for in this post and they started me at $13/hr and a guaranteed 20 hours a week thanks everyone for their support in the notes abt the job interview itself and no thanks to the people who said it was cursed

commandtower-solring-go-deactiv

Reblog the X3 HEWWO car of career success. Reblog for a decent job

What about buying recasts second hand (ie from people going legit or leaving the hobby)?

I dunno. I'm up in the air on this one. I thought about it, so that I could resize patterns for hard to shop for dolls, but ultimately decided that I didn't want recasts in my collection.

I worry a little about what will happen if there is more demand for secondhand recasts.

For myself, I only want legit dolls. I really don't think there is a good reason to order a new recast, considering all of the harm they bring. But If you feel a secondhand one is right for you, I would expect to see it tagged as a recast when you post pics. And make sure you trust the seller enough that they're actually going to go legit and not just selling their fake to get money for a new recast.

Anyone else have opinions on this? I'm a little burned out on the whole "debate".