i want to lie down

this is literally so old. am i active? who knows! sideblog: @emo4thememe-o

[princessmo]

[meanbuddhist]

just identified a behavioral pattern within myself

[saxifraga-x-urbium]

re ehrc guidance. which is not legally binding.

[backofthebookshelf]

Real talk, in 2017 the library I worked at did a renovation and one of the things we added was a single-gender restroom at the back of the children's area. The idea was so that dads could take kids to the bathroom without it being weird, but our director overheard my coworker and I talking one day about how it'd be handy for trans folk & how we should put it on the trans friendly bathroom map when it was open.

And the director said, no no, it's for parents with kids.

So my friend and I said, wait, are we supposed to stop people if they're going in there without kids?

And she said no, they don't have to have a kid with them, maybe they have a kid who's in the children's area and they don't want to go far away.

Oh okay, so we should ask them if they're here with a kid?

And at this point the director was starting to get annoyed. No, you don't have to make people fill out a checklist before they go to the bathroom. We just expect that adults won't be hanging out in the kid's section without kids

Okay, I (an adult services librarian) said, so should I offer to go get books for them if they want a children's book and they don't have a kid with them?

And should I (my friend the children's librarian) ask adults without kids to leave the children's section? How long should they get to browse before we ask them to leave?

And the director said "I'm not asking you to police people's bathroom usage or keep all adults out of the children's section, just let me know if someone is being weird"

And the visibly trans woman who was a library regular (and who knows how many other trans and genderqueer people) used the single restroom in the back of the children's section and it was never a thing again (at least not while I was there)

It's very easy for cis people to make stupid rules but it's even easier to make them backtrack by pointing out exactly what kinds of conversations they'll have to have with strangers in order to enforce those rules. This wasn't even a coordinated plan from my friend and me; this was just weaponized autism. We wanted to know what kind of awkward conversations we were being asked to have. (The director probably took the final step that neither of us did, that she'd already made it clear that if we found someone looking at porn on a library computer or carrying a gun on library property, we didn't have to confront them, we could always get her, and there was no way she could get out of bathroom police duty if she made it an actual rule )

[mckitterick]

[ ID: screenshot of a post by innes on bsky.social that reads:

this is what I mean when I say "don't let orgs and managers see discriminating against transphobes as the path of least resistance." transphobes are persistent and annoying. be just as annoying. show them compliance is going to be a legal nightmare.

this is in response to a post by robottom:

if you're cis and you are asked by your management to police bathrooms, "can you confirm in writing that you are ordering me to approach customers to discuss their sex?" is an email no manager wants to reply to /ID ]

[patricia-taxxon]

the thing is, if your younger self was a bigot or an abuser, u can't make people forgive you. but you still gotta forgive yourself, like that's non-negotiable, dude. that happens before u can even ask the question of earning forgiveness from anyone lese

[patricia-taxxon]

oops, in your attempt to martyr yourself out of respect for your victims you accidentally sabotaged your own ability to conceptualize yourself as anything but a perpetual evildoer who is always one bad day away from hurting everyone you love, all but guaranteeing history to repeat itself. rookie mistake

[patricia-taxxon]

im gonna try explaining myself, cus im a gambling addict and im waiting for the day that it actually works.

"forgiveness" is personal, that's why I said in the post that you might inflict harm on people for which they can never forgive you, but that's their quest. if you abuse someone, you can't go no-contact with yourself. you actually keep living in your own head indefinitely, and ultimately you need to learn to live with yourself in order to continue living a full life without further harm. this is not necessarily an anti-carceral thought, although i am generally anti-carceral myself. I simply want people to like, fix their heart and atone for real with measured accountability & self love instead of dissociating, self-marking themselves forever and guaranteeing their recidivism.

You and a remorseful abuser would both think I'm giving the easy, coddling path. It's actually the tough pragmatic path in disguise.

[ship-of-fools]

[hollowboobtheory]

i support universal free healthcare for one simple reason: if you are diagnosed with a terminal illness you should quit your job. quitting your job is the correct response to terminal illness. but you can’t do that if your healthcare is tied to your job

[hollowboobtheory]

listen if somebody knows that they will be dead in a years time, and you are forcing them to continue to come into work, that’s fucked up. terminally ill people should be able to quit their jobs and live their last few months to the fullest. i don’t get how that’s a controversial opinion

[potsiefaerie]

Get peer reviewed:

[jv]

This is not just serious illness.

It’s any illness.

No one should be forced to work if they have the flu, or even a cold.

[the-haiku-bot]

No one should be forced

to work if they have the flu,

or even a cold.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[wtf-scientific-papers]

Wang and Lai (2014)

[gemstone-gynoid]

[weevil-mastermind]

Imagine if we did the “public libraries are punk” thing for other subcultures. Imagine if people made shirts that said “Soup kitchens are grunge” or “Mixed Use Urbanism is Juggalo”.

[vintar]

[ralfmaximus]

Younger folk are getting really good at spotting AI slop, to the consternation of marketing execs.

Found on Mastodon.

[sunderwight]

From what I remember of back when Millennials were outpacing Boomers at internet and tech stuff in general, this is going to cause a lot of issues for companies angling to use slop in marketing because the younger set are always going to be better at spotting it than the older, but the older are going to be the ones approving marketing campaigns and ads and etc. Meaning, the older people will not ever be able to tell what might actually convince the younger.

The good news is that if it persists and Gen Z and Gen Alpha continue to scoff at the generated stuff, then marketing departments aiming at them will just have to give up on using it because they won't be able to figure out how to fool their targets with it.

The bad news is that this won't apply to scams and campaigns aimed at older people, so once again we're going to have a situation where the kids will be the ones lunging across the coffee table to stop Mom from giving her financial info to that really obvious fake scam mom oh my god do NOT buy that it isn't even a real thing.

Anyway godspeed to the younger generations.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

it really is fucking pathetic that a country with more guns than people can't hit one guy

[dragon-in-a-fez]

if this is how you found out there was an active shooter at the White House yesterday I'm sorry

[dragon-in-a-fez]

[Iron Man villain voice] Shinzo Abe's assassin was able to hit him right in the neck! with a box of scraps!!

[everybidenjusthavegoodtime]

give a man a guitar and he’ll play for a day, teach a man guitar and today is gonna be the day that they’re gonna throw it back to you

I swear to God I am so tired of this meme. You guys need to leave Wonderwall alone, seriously by now you should’ve somehow realized what you gotta do

[hannah-the-lion-deactivated2023]

my friend asked if i was gonna stop laughing at wonderwall jokes.

i said maybe

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post

[knowledgetosorrow]

I gave your post a like but with nuance and depth

[ivystoryweaver]

We call those reblogs

[knowledgetosorrow]

I gave your post a reblog with flippant apathy

[fartsicleguzzler]

do you guys think dan and phil ever forget which one they are

[damnbluewires]

im in tears

[captain-price-returns]

California farmers to destroy 420,000 peach trees following Del Monte bankruptcy

Del Monte Foods shuttered its Modesto and Hughson cannery plants in April. 

[dogpuppy]

[liquidpaperfoundation1]

My Very Punctual Wife Gets My Night Worm can also be used to remember the order of the planets in the solar system!

[cryptid-on-a-string]

Mercury Venus Pearth Wars Goopiter Maturn Nuranus Weptune

[the-haiku-bot]

Mercury Venus

Pearth Wars Goopiter Maturn

Nuranus Weptune

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[yume-fanfare]

i think it's really fun when a rly specific trope is super popular in one particular medium but in other ones it's just totally unheard of. it's the time knife. visual novel players are suuuuper used to death games but many others encountered them for the first time in squid games. the other day my mom showed me all excited the summary of a super original novel she found and it was about a girl who got reincarnated as the main character in her favorite fantasy book

[paperjoshi]

what the fuck is a time knife

[bramblepatch]

[strawberrylovely]

[undeadentropy]

Time knife is a form of time knife

[srdcovka]

[jovishark]

some advice for people entering their 20s:

-dont go to the emergency room with dental problems. go to the dentist

-bagged greens are cheaper than pre-made salads

-taco bell is NOT worth the money anymore. 1/4 cup mayo, 1/4 cup sour cream, 3 tblspoons pickled jalapenos+2tblspoons of the jar liquid, 2 tsp paprika 1 tsp cumin 1 tsp garlic powder 1 tsp onion powder salt+pepper. all in your blender. creamy jalapeno sauce

-dont quit your job unless you have a bunch of job interviews lined up immediately after

-use resources. food bank, unemployment, housing assistance, financial aid, etc. yes there will be paperwork. but Do It

-dont stay awake longer than 20 hours. you Will start to become impulsive and cranky. resting for 20 minutes is better than trying to stay awake

-for every 2 hours you spend looking up close at screens, spend 20 minutes looking at something far away from you. stretch your wrists a lot

-dont do that yoga stretch where you roll your head around your shoulders. youre grinding down the joints in your neck

-be nice to your friends, bullying them as a joke gets old. if you need a ride somewhere at least offer them gas money

-brush your teeth at any time of the day but especially before you sleep. dont snack in bed if you can help it. make your bed the Clean Teeth Zone. keep floss picks by your bed

-dont tell your boss youre adhd/autism/depression/suicidal. dont trust your coworkers with that. you NEVER know how people will take it and its none of their business

-train your pets to go to the front door when they hear a fire alarm

-get regular oil changes