i could fix her, i could make her worse

heterophobic manhating dyke radfem

[melody-sapphodaughter]

Hello everyone, I figured I'd do a formal (re)introduction finally. I'm Mel, and I would classify myself as a homosexual woman, a radical feminist, and a female separatist.

I have a lot going on, so I usually run on a queue for most of the month.

I'm safe for cryptos and lurkers, feel free to ask me anything if you're afraid of approaching some of the bigger blogs.

I have a lot of tags, so I'm gonna list them here alphabetically, to make them easier to find (I also make my own posts).

I also reblog random shit and artwork!

abortion

age gap/grooming

asexual

beauty culture

celebrities

conservative bs

cosmetic surgery

cult shit

detrans

drag

female existence

female safety

female separatism

female solidarity

feminism

fight back

gender isn't real

het women

historical erasure

homophobia

homosexuality

intersex

kam (aka my misandryposting tag lol)

kink/bdsm

lgb

liberal bs

males being males

male violence

media criticism

misogyny

pmos stuff

politics

polls

porn

pregnancy

pride

prostitution

racism

radblr

radfem 101

radical feminism

rape/sexual assault

religious oppression

slurs

sports

surrogacy

tra nonsense

trans homophobia

trans misogyny

tras are mras

And it's free Palestine, always. Zionism and its brother Nazism are fundamentally incompatible with radical feminism.

A friendly reminder as well that I am not a "TERF," a trans-exclusionary radical feminist. I include trans-identifying females and nonbinary-identifying females in my feminism, because they are still women suffering under gender ideology.

Oh, and I'm going to block you if you're gonna be weird about Chappell Roan. Just stop. It's embarrassing for all of us.

I also post about my misandrist dyke wives.

[fedupradfem]

Then: "Don't be ridiculous. Trans people know they aren't actually the opposite sex. Obviously. Trans women are just normal people like you, trying to live their lives, who know they have dicks, they accept that they're male, they just want their pronouns to be respected. Please stop these insane strawman arguments about them claiming to actually be the opposite sex, it's so harmful to misrepresent them like this."

Now: "Trans women are actually literally biologically female. Yes, they are literally real female women on every single level. They actually have more of a right to womanhood and femaleness than cis women. Lesbians are actually vile, hateful, terrible people who should be hanged if they don't want trans women's female penises. You are a literal Nazi enabling trans genocide if you disagree or have even a single question. Fuck you." *everyone cheers and applauds with happy tears in their eyes*

[sisterofrage]

I cannot stress how genuinely intentional male evil is. They didn't harass or violate those women out of confusion or because she "didn't communicate", he did it because he didn't care.

They don't hit or choke without asking during sex because they "didn't know" or because "she should have told me she didn't like it" (like she was suppose to predict he would do it? Men aren't mind readers but women are supposed to be psychic?). He did it because he wanted to get away with it and knew she would probably freeze up and let him do it if he took her by surprise.

There are literally tiktoks of men admitting to this: "if ya ever mad at ya girl just smack her or choke her or somethin while you fuckin and say it was supposed to be kinky" ect.

They are not stupid, they 100% know exactly what the fuck they're doing, every time.

[g1rluninterruptedd]

no im not using the terms “birthing people” or “menstruators” when talking about women’s struggles because you guys do not do that shit with “men”. we can’t say “women”, so why does everybody get to keep saying “men”.

i’m so tired of women being expected to open up everything, our spaces, our minds, our language, to cater to everybody when nobody does the same for us.

[iwanttolisten]

Correct, male socialization is something that happens *to* you, you don't get to choose it. Just like no one chose to be born in the United States, or be born straight or white or rich. You were born into a system that wants you to act in ways that affirm the system, and you must understand it lest you perpetuate it.

[iwanttolisten]

If you made this post about any other oppression system on Tumblr it would be shot dead by leftists on sight.

"White privilege is such an evil rhetoric. Yeah I guess being born white and being taught I'm better than Black people at the age of 5 is my fault and I'm evil for it. Yeah I guess having a white childhood I never asked for means I'm a danger and I should perpetually apologize for it." -> immediately recognizable as bullshit racists say

"Straight privilege is such an evil rhetoric. Yeah I guess being straight is my fault and I'm evil for it. Yeah I guess having a straight childhood I never asked for means I'm a danger and I should perpetually apologize for it." -> immediately recognizable as bullshit homophobes say

But stuff like this gets posted and acquires 2k likes.

Male socialization is not even specifically attacking MTFs but they have successfully guilted everyone into being scared to believe in it.

[radfemurahara-deactivated202605]

Sexual assault and rape are NEVER justified. For any reason.

Once you start creating "acceptable targets" for these despicable actions, you are creating a slippery slope.

Rape is never an acceptable punishment for behavior or ideology. Nobody deserves to be raped. Enthusiastic consent is not optional.

[realist-fortheloveofwomen]

Genuinely funny but also a bit telling that numerous TRA are literally heterosexuals in silly clothes/have taken hormones etc who think they can speak over homosexuals, and TERFs are primarily lesbians and bisexual women. Just very interesting pattern I’ve been noticing.

[renifrey-deactivated20251003]

Another interesting pattern - most terfs are uneducated and stupid af

[clytemnestradidnothingwrong]

😬

[realist-fortheloveofwomen]

It’s interesting the only people having a negative reaction to this are chronically online losers who don’t understand they love conversion therapy rhetoric. Gay men don’t like vagina. Lesbians don’t like dick.

Sexual organs are what sexuality is based off of, after that it’s personal preference. This is why telling a lesbian who prefers masculine women when dating that she should “just date a man” is homophobic and stupid. Personality, style, etc are important in attraction, but the persons biological immutable sex takes precedent.

[hexagon-club]

[ganondorf]

they're still arguing about surrogacy on twitter

[ganondorf]

the reason surrogacy warrants particular scrutiny, aside the fact that its roots are literally chattel slavery lol, is that it is a contractual arrangement premised on the basically total surrender of bodily autonomy. it transforms a human body into a site of continuous, high risk labor with consequences that cannot be paused or meaningfully mitigated

can a surrogate safely "quit" in any real sense? can they safely get an abortion? can they quit after 4 months? can they quit after 9 months? do they get to clock out after 40 hours a week? do they get breaks? do they get a union?

in what world is it a leftist position to defend 24/7 labor

[yonicstar]

Some people really are like "it's okay to have a rape kink, but saying women are female... well, that's just too much"

[niiwa-angel]

"it's okay to fantasize about raping your little sister, but saying lesbians don't like males... Well, that's just dangerous"

[tribade-worship]

It's absolutely cruel to women in general to have gender neutral bathrooms replacing women's rooms, but it's downright unfathomably evil to do this to little and teen girls, especially in schools.

Imagine being 9 and getting your first period, bleeding all over the toilet, thinking you're dying, and having your male peers in the room with you instead of just other girls who can get you cleaned up and comfort you, telling you what a period is and that you're safe.

Imagine being 12 and having endometriosis, curled up on the toilet in agony on your lunch break at school, and hearing the boys in the next stall over making sex jokes (or worse - laughing at your sobbing).

Imagine being 10 and having no way to hide the fact that you changed your pad from the boys in your grade who will then go on to tease you and say you're bitchy and hormonal if you fight back.

Imagine being 14 and trying to find a moment of reprieve from the boys sexually harassing you, only to have them follow you into the bathroom and record audio of you urinating.

Imagine being 6, just entering first grade, and having an older boy kick open the cubicle you were struggling to lock.

Imagine being 17 and having your male peers crawl under your cubicle, phone in hand, camera app on.

Imagine being 15 and having nowhere to be with just your female friends to cry about heartbreak or harassment, or even just to be with girls alone to laugh and joke in peace.

Lack of sex segregated accommodations in wartime prisons are considered a human rights violation by the Geneva conventions for a reason. This is psychological torture towards our girls. It's evil. Truly fucking evil.

[cute-rotten-girl]

people think "in a perfect society males would not be sex pests, so bathrooms could be gender neutral" and they come to the conclusion that bathrooms HAVE to be gender neutral for us to be in a perfect society, instead of males fixing their evil behaviours first

[radicalscientist]

In a fantasy world where male violence doesn't exist we wouldn't need single sex spaces or rape shelters or prisons. But we don't live in this world. We live in the real world where we have to have these things.

[gendercriticalbutch]

“a woman is an adult human female, and a man is an adult human male” is so much more freeing than all the gender shit?? like,, you have the definition of who you are. whatever you do with that and however you choose to express yourself is up to you. you can be as feminine or masculine as you please, it doesn’t matter. you’re still you.

the whole: “umm… uhh…i was born female but i don’t like makeup or dresses and i like kissing girls which pronouns am i supposed to use?? am i non-binary?? am i bigender?? am i a demi-boy?? do i need to start injecting myself with cross sex hormones and get a mastectomy to try to resemble a male because that’s actually who i’m meant to be??” mindset i used to have is so suffocating in retrospect like idek how the hell i lived like that

[ocaledonia]

one thing i dont think we talk enough about is how pretty much every sex ed resource for lesbian teens tells them they should be open to sex with male partners

i remember being 14/15 and googling how lesbian sex worked and just being confronted with site after site telling me that lesbian sex sometimes includes a penis and it was uninclusive and closed minded to think otherwise :)))

i guarantee you no girl or woman searching for lesbian sex ed resources is looking for advice on how to blow a guy or have piv intercourse, theyre looking for advice about sexual relationships between biologically female partners

i think people underestimate how ashamed and broken it made me and other lesbians feel to read that over and over. after reading those resources i felt so hopeless that i tried to force myself to be asexual because it was the only socially acceptable way to rule out having a male partner

constantly adding these ~helpful reminders~ is like telling lesbians that they just haven't met the right guy yet, and there is no context in which they should forget it

some of these were government affiliated websites insisting that exclusive homosexuality didnt exist, or at the very least that it was unthinkable and unpeakable

its a very impactful and insidious form of homophobia

[buriwnwjfkrnekx]

“Make up isn’t about men! It’s for me!”

Make up is how we assure men they’re the default. Every default setting is reserved for men. Everything default in humans is the boy version of things now. A resting face is male. A smile is female. Textured skin is male. Flawless skin is female. Small, normal eyes are male. Big eyes are female. Colorless lips are male. Colored lips are female. Bushy eyebrows are male. Shaped eyebrows are female. Plain clothing is male. Pants are male. Good quality is male. Cotton is male. Covered up is male. Costumes are female. Skirts are female. Poor quality is female. Polyester is female. Naked is female.

Responsive is male. Quiet is female. Alive is male. Inanimate is female. Active is male. Passive is female. Curious is male. Stupid is female. Wanting is male. Desire-less is female. Self interested is male. Discontented from self is female.

Everything about masculinity can be summed up as “what is normal and neutral for all humans.”

Everything about femininity can be summed up as “marking women as ‘other’”

The entire point of gendered differences is to mark men as the default. Their thoughts, feelings, perspectives, health symptoms, needs, perceptions, and priorities are the default. Even when a woman recounts a story a man wasn’t present for, his account of it is seen as more reliable. Because he is who we default to. She is “other.” Toilet paper is provided because it’s needed by men. It’s default. Pads and tampons, just as important, are luxury or personal items. If anything, annoying to have to see because they don’t represent the default state. The presence of something female that doesn’t please a man is seen as something out of place that needs to be cleaned up and removed to restore life to its default, male state.

Make up isn’t about beauty. It’s about men hating the idea of women being as naturally occurring as they are, and having a right to our own realities. It’s deeper than looking pretty. It’s deeper than sex. It isn’t about whether your make up is natural looking, either.

When a man says he likes a natural looking woman, he means, “Textured skin and dullness and natural eyebrows are MEN’S THING a woman who has those is broken.”

It doesn’t matter if you’re a goth or you’re typically feminine. The point is that you don’t resemble the men.

In countries where a veil is required for women, does it matter if her hijab is kind of ugly? Is that the point? No. Most women aren’t wearing luxury fabrics or brand new hijabs. They’re wearing whatever they have. The point is that they are identifiable as female so men can treat them differently and not accidentally like equal humans.

When women aren’t required to wear dresses anymore, we start being required to wear make up. We are always required to do SOMETHING. Look at the Elf on a Shelf type dolls where they put lipstick on the girl ones. No matter what, the boy version of things is always the natural, unchanged, normal default. And if they make a girl version it’s that. There’s an elf. And there’s a girl elf. We are a spin off of men. That’s how they see us.

[hadesoftheladies]

seperatism and anti-natalism are probably the most effective political resistance methods modern woman can do. they kick both balls of the patriarchy really well. while we’re in the capitalist carnival, anti-consumerism (via anti-cosmetics and pornography) is also really good activism and makes the wallets of misogyny bleed. consciousness raising remains essential for any of these.

[furiousradfem]

Don’t be fooled, men are not worried about being falsely accused of rape.

If they were, they would watch very carefully not to touch a woman who is unwilling and reluctant to be intimate with them.

They would check over, over, and over again before initiating sexual contact.

They wouldn’t dream of pressuring, coercing, intimidating, or tricking an unwilling woman to have sexual relations with them.

They wouldn’t even come close to women who show clear signs of not wanting them around. 

Men aren’t worried at all. 

We should make them worry.

[dappergirlbf]

I hate that a homophobic slur is marketable I hate that pride has been stripped of all meaning just to sell us shit I hate that it doesn't really even center around homosexuals and bisexuals like it was supposed to I hate that I'm the odd one out in my generation of gays that thinks this sucks I hate that sexuality became marketable to people who hate me and to people who think they're gay when they're just fucking straight

[aftonfamilyvalues]

you know how antivaxxers take for granted how much good vaccines have done because they never had to experience how bad it was before them? i think the same thing is happening with womens rights.

[terfmin]

^^^^^ which is why a lot of "terfs" and radfems are either older women who've experienced a life of misogyny and violence at the hands of men, or young women like me and others presumably who've grown up in incredibly sexist cultures and contexts.

You don't need to tell us twice why female solidarity and female only spaces or being able to organise around female issues etc are so so important.

It's so crazy when you look at feminist history as well, even small things like single sex toilets were celebrated as victories that widened the public sphere for women. Now the granddaughters of these women throw them away without a second thought.

Patriarchy's number one victory will always remain disconnecting women across generations