Provisional title because I have no idea what to call my Ikemen Vampire fic. Anyway, there’s enough chapters now to need one of these for easy access, so here. I will keep adding them as I write. The chapters marked with *** are the ones that include a song cover by me. Links under the cut.
Chapter 1: Chance Encounter
Chapter 2: The Door
Chapter 3: 126 Years
Chapter 4: Great Minds Think Alike
Chapter 5: First We Feast
Chapter 6: Seeing Red
Chapter 7: Impossible Things In Impossible Places
Chapter 8: Of Treason And Friendship
Chapter 9: Naked And Not So Afraid
Chapter 10: Speedwell For Kindness
Chapter 11: The Gentleness Of Predators
Chapter 12: Research And Discovery
Chapter 13: Guilty Of Caring
Chapter 14: Modern Musings And Old Temptations
Chapter 15: For This Trick, I Will Disappear
Chapter 16: Secrets Of Sorrow
Chapter 17: The Sound Of Friction
Chapter 18: A Certain Kind Of Intimacy
Chapter 19: Better Than Indifference
Chapter 20: The Actress Drops Her Mask ***
Chapter 21: Serendipità
Chapter 22: Carpe Diem That Hourglass ***
Chapter 23: Drawings And Diatribes
Chapter 24: Blame It On The Juice
Chapter 25: Time To Take A Shot ***
Chapter 26: Buongiorno Principessa
Chapter 27: To Be A Mistake ***
Chapter 28: Healing Of The Heart
Chapter 29: Seeking The New Normal ***
Chapter 30: All That Knowledge And No Experience
Chapter 31: A Devil By Any Other Name
Chapter 32: Rewards And Regrets ***
Chapter 33: Dance ‘Till You’re Dead
Chapter 34: Heads Will Roll
Chapter 35: Eyes Open And Heart Beating ***
Chapter 36: Hate The Sin, Love The Sinner ***
Chapter 37: The Thrill Of Running Away From Oneself
Okay so actually letting a serious topic be vague and confusing is much more scary for a child than explaining it in calm language they can understand.
When you are in a safe place, explain the serious topic in a way the child can understand.
The fire alarm went off at school today because of a mistake, but your teachers did the right thing to take you outside to be sure it was safe.
Some people use wheelchairs because their legs don’t walk very well. It can happen because they are old and tired, or because they got hurt, or because they were born that way.
Your Uncle Jerod talked to mom and dad, and wants you to call her Aunt Kari now. We will call her Kari too, and we can all practice together if it takes some getting used to.
Anticipate age-appropriate fears the child might have so you can assuage those that are not a threat.
Yes, Kitty died at the vet, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not safe for Puppy to go to the vet.
Yes, Peyton and Jo are getting a divorce, but they are both still part of our family and love you very much.
Yes, Grandma has cancer, but cancer is not contagious, so you are not going to get cancer by visiting her.
Anticipate fears that are realistic, and give the child clear direction about what to do, and what happens next.
If someone asks you to get in their car without permission, find Mom, Mama, or a teacher and tell them right away. We will make sure you are safe.
If Sparky’s sickness makes him hurt very badly, we are going to take him to the vet and she will give him some medicine, and he will die, but then he won’t hurt any more. Because Sparky is very sick, we are going to spend some special time with him over the next few days.
If the fire alarm goes off at school again, follow the teacher’s directions. If the fire alarm goes off and you are somewhere alone, go outside, and ask a grownup to call 911.
Reassure the child that they’re safe and loved, validate their feelings, and see if they have follow-up questions. Give them the option to take space to process, or to stay near you to feel safe.
I’m sad about Sparky too. Do you think we could make his favorite peanut-butter treats, while we are spending special time with him?
I understand why Grandma’s cancer makes you feel angry. It doesn’t seem fair that people we love get sick. Would you like a hug?
You were worried about calling 911 if there’s not a grownup around. I wrote down some important things, like our address, and we can go over these together so you are ready if anything like that ever happens.
These things are principally the job of the child’s parent or guardian, but in some cases directing the child to that caregiver is difficult or impossible (parent refuses/confuses the child, parent is absent, child’s questions are specific and relevant to a situation their parent was not present for, etc.) so I think all adults should be prepared to have these conversations with kids.
practicing self care less out of self love and more for the sheer logical reasoning of it’d be kinda stupid of me to expect myself to be able to function without proper maintenance
“oh i don’t deserve rest and relaxation, i haven’t done enough, i haven’t earned it” and my car’s breaks don’t deserve break fluid because they aren’t breaking well enough to earn it. that’s what you sound like!!!!!
I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?
And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.
If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.
also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can
And for those who think “my man isn’t like that, I don’t have to worry.” Maybe you’re right!
Maybe you married a kind, hardworking traditional man who would never lay a hand on you or financially manipulate you. I still think having some kind of degree or trade or even just a part time job is vital!
Because he could pass away in a car accident, or become disabled, or get fired, or just get burnt out at his job and need a few months off, or any number of life-altering situations in which you will need to take charge. Practice that NOW while things ARENT falling apart instead of when they are.
You don’t have to aspire to be a girlboss. If you genuinely feel like your role is to stay home and take care of children, do that. But please at least get your associates degree and a childcare certificate at minimum. If shit hits the fan, you can immediately get a job at a daycare or as a live in nanny or be on the right path to becoming a prek teacher. Don’t wait until there’s an emergency. Have a plan in place now for if/when you need to financially provide for yourself and your family. It’s the loving thing to do!
No one seems to be acknowledging the far funnier element of this, which is, that when you go to the commenter’s account, you find out they are actually fucking roleplaying as a sexually repressed skeleton and jjst really committed to the bit while everyone in the reblogs is talking about how much they hate minors or whatever. thank you kharak the skeleton servant of the almighty lich king
every time i have to relearn that being disabled means not being able to do all of the stuff other people can i get so pissed. you mean its just like this forever? i want to do stuff...