Shout out to the nonbinaries who:
Conform to sex-based or gender-based stereotypes because itās easier
Are gate-keeped from being āactually non-binaryā because they donāt present āandrogynous enoughā
Present as your birth sex because itās easier
Donāt understand their gender either or lack the words to explain it
Have mental disabilities / disorders which cause a lot of struggles
Must have the energy to get up everyday and present the way they feel because otherwise theyāll feel shitty all day and have no energy for anything else
Donāt know if they can call themselves transgender because it always feels like theyāre starting a fight or theyāre not trans enough
Use an average name over their birth name
Choose not average names names like āTwig / Pebble / Stick / etcā
Use names of characters they kin as their name
Donāt know what the hell to call their sexuality
Use neopronouns because they donāt have gender-neutral pronouns in their language
Use neopronouns because they and its and he and she just donāt feel right
Gender isnāt well known
Donāt know if they experience dysphoria and say they know itās written to be a disorder and they donāt want to self-diagnose
Know they experience dusphoria despite it being a disorder
Are scared to say they donāt know if they have dysphoria because they donāt want to get yelled at
Donāt exactly know what dysphoria feels like because they donāt feel it in suckish extremities that others do and describe
Donāt talk about their dysphoria because itās not well understood about their gender and how dysphoria works with them and itās different for everyone and itās just exhausting
Feel gender is a private matter and will fill out their assigned gender on papers because they donāt feel everyone needs to know
Donāt remember note their gender as something that makes them oppressed because they face many types of oppression
Subtly do things that note their gender, whether itās making bracelets with the flag, or wearing specific shoes for those whoās gender varies, etc etc
Donāt have the wardrobe to present how they want to
Donāt have the money to present how they want to (including money for haircuts!!)
Experience hair dysphoria but donāt say it out loud because it seems like such an āeasy fixā but thereās reasons why you canāt get your hair styled the way you want
Arenāt out to their parents
Have marginalized genders
Use non-binary as an umbrella term
Use non-binary as a specific term
Are told āoh youāre probably xā when you describe your gender but you know you arenāt x because some part just doesnāt fit right and itās hard to put it into words
Need someone to help them figure out the right term
Align mostly but not fully with their assigned gender at birth
Donāt know what they are
Actually read this whole thing / liked / reblogged it
Didnāt actually read this whole thing but smashed reblog / like when they saw non-binary Pride