Living With A Narcissist

My roommate is a dirty little shit with narcissistic personality disorder, woo! CA-roommate, BB-good roommate, SK-me, MB-CA's gf, CB-MA's sister, PA-CA's cousin

[myshittyroommate]

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Yesterday BB and I took MB and CB to dinner and CA texted obsessively to MB begging her to go out with them and talk. He planned to go to a hookah bar. She said no. He keeps trying to one up us and make himself seem cool. But he said he would go to anger management on Tuesday. We got home and they talked and broke up. He then spent the night begging her to come back and talk and trying to manipulate her. Today was Tuesday and I was at work all day. We got home to see them all not home. When they got home we noticed CB about to sleep on the couch. We asked her what that was about. They're back together -.- we just knew. But he had agreed to move out yesterday so sorry bud but that's still happening, fuck off. I have tomorrow off so I'm going to see what the fuck happened and how he twisted her mind into thinking he's changed in that 24 hours. He also didn't go to anger management. We are pretty pissed about all of that. Because we know it's only a matter of time before he flies off the handle again and it'll be worse. She says it's worse every time. So whatever floats their boat.

[myshittyroommate]

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CA texted BB and MB all night placing the blame accordingly on everyone but him. He came home again and we all stayed in my room. He reached a new level of shithead when he began texting her saying sorry he was like that and they can't go to bed mad. Just kept saying "baby we can't go to bed mad" "come here I'm sorry" just trying to get her to forget. He said the main thing that was on his mind was when BB and I invited MB and CB to go swimming when we were driving them around town doing errands while CA was at work. I promptly texted him asking if he wanted to come too. We all got home and waited on him while he showered and he came out saying "I'm really tired, I don't know if we're gunna go" I asked "does MB still want to go?" She said yes from the other room. He then decided to go and didn't want to swim. I gave him an extra pair of shorts in case he changed his mind not even sure why he came. He took that all as me trying to get close to her and that I liked her so he needed to come just to keep an eye on me. Would explain why he directed them away every time we got close. He said I was clearly super worried whether she was coming or not and we didn't "invite him" when in reality I just assumed they're are two separate people and she can speak for herself and I shouldn't assume that what he says goes for all. I told MB about "gaslighting" and narcissistic personality disorder she agreed that's exactly what he does and who he is and she is seeing clearer now. He basically begged her to come to him because he "knows she got hurt but he was hurt too" just making it about him and invalidating her feelings. I'm so glad she sees it. We went to bed after she showed us the messages and said she was scared of him and she didn't want to see him at all. So there's so far.

[myshittyroommate]

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Active update. We invited MB and CB to smoke in my room. CA doesn't like to smoke. CA didn't want MB to smoke because he doesn't like it but she thought that wasn't fair which is true. We laughed and joked around. He storms upstairs and starts throwing his clothes downstairs. MB starts crying he throws a fit and leaves the house because he doesn't want her hanging out with us or smoking. She opens up about how he won't let her get tattoos or piercings and says how that's not her and he wants her to be pretty. He tells her how he only asked her for one thing and that was for her to not hang out with us.

[myshittyroommate]

They've obviously been moved!!

[myshittyroommate]

There's a full pizza in there... Why are there so many pans??? Why do you let your food sit out and rot while you sleep??

[myshittyroommate]

Yeah that's cool bro, just let your food sit out and go bad, not my money.

[myshittyroommate]

Yeah I'm sure that's right

CB: yeah, my dad can hold his breath for like two minutes.

CA: well that makes sense, men's lungs are bigger.

[myshittyroommate]

My brother is really small. I think it's because he was a vegan and ate a lot of soy. Soy gives you a lot of estrogen.

CA

[myshittyroommate]

You know, if sharks stop moving, they die. I think it has something to do with them needing to breathe. They can hold their breath for like two hours or something.

CA

[myshittyroommate]

So we have found that CA the psycho has been being a creep and going in our LOCKED rooms. We hid spare keys. He might have found one but we re-hid it and somehow he still gets in so that leads us to believe he made a spare key. So when he wasn't home we had to go in to his room to see if he had stolen anything from us and we found nothing, so he's probably just snooping and being a creep. But we did find this, a lovely drawing on the wall of the house that we are renting, a dirty tub full of cleaner in a house with cats who love tubs, a disgusting litter box, his cat has no food or water, and his bed isn't even visible. Yet he so graciously allows CB to sleep there for a little while he sleeps on the comfy clean couch. Sidenote: we heard a ruckus upstairs and Sally (cat that has epilepsy) runs down shortly after, soaking wet. We smelled her just to discover that it was pee. It seemed like she was laying in it and we were a little confused. CA wasn't home. We went upstairs to find out what happened and of course CA's room is the only one open. We see a nice big pee spot right on top. We just kinda left it there. I guess she had a seizure and peed herself on the bed. All we did was clean her off. Because even if we don't like CA, the cat should be treated well, kids. So anyways, we shut his door and kept the cats out.

[myshittyroommate]

Wanna hear something wonderful?

Back when we were friends with CA before moving in, he had told us that his previous roommates kicked him out. Didn't say why. But he did say, he had driven to their apartment and found their car with the intention of cutting their brakes. But didn't... Why would we just let that go?! Now we are super paranoid! Should've cut contact but I guess we really didn't take it seriously? But he threatened to basically move out over strawberries. And that first fight we had over getting his cat spayed where he freaked out for little to no reason he mentioned that the last time he was that mad was when he was kicked out. So that I guess made it serious for us. This guy is a psycho.

[myshittyroommate]

They have a death wish

My roommate's girlfriend's sister (CB) has arrived at the house to live here, straight from prison. She's been here two days and we have come home to our cats (sol and bean) locked in the garage twice. I discovered it when I opened the garage door to pull my car in and saw two terrified babies having near heart attacks. I brought them in and cleaned them with cat wipes to get any chemicals or oil off them. The second time I was especially pissed and called BB at work to tell him. Only CB was home the second time. BB called CA and told him. He came home and rushed in. I guess he misunderstood and thought his cat Sally was locked out too. That ended his concern. He talked to CB and asked if she had been in the garage, then told her she had let the kittens out and locked them out there. Her first reaction was to laugh!!! Not a good first impression. Not a good idea to piss off the people who let you out of prison and let you stay here. So now we are somewhat paranoid that CA has been telling them how "horrible" we are for not picking up after him and such and maybe she's out to mess with us. Maybe, just a paranoia. But not too much when you consider the cats could have gotten out or I could have ran them over!!!! I live in a crowded city with lots of cars and cruel people, you don't let cats just run around out here unless you're a shitty person.

[myshittyroommate]

The chicken

My shitty roommate likes chicken a lot, too bad he's stupid. He knows to thaw the chicken, but not where to thaw it or how long. With several chicken breasts, he has left them on the counter to thaw, uncovered out in the open for the cats to get their pickings. We told him he needs to put it somewhere else so he decided on top of his eggs on his special princess shelf at the top of the fridge is good. Well as chicken thaws, it likes to leak fluids that are more than a sideways plate can capture. So this fluid of raw chicken likes to infect every tiny morsel of the fridge and the food in it. Doesn't help that he breaks his eggs every time and leaves them to also leak all over the fridge. About a week and a half ago he purchased a large container of chicken breasts and left them on the counter before work (9am) I'm assuming to thaw for after work. I wake up at around noon and find the chicken perfectly thawed. I put it in the fridge because we have told him before not to leave it out. I go to work and come home around 9pm to find the chicken out again and the roommate CA in bed asleep. I put it in the fridge again. It sits in the fridge ( definitely spoiled) for about 4 days just leaking all over the fridge and leaking even out of the fridge. I put it on the counter that night again and just leave it with the hopes he will just eat it and get sick. I locked the cats away so they'll be okay. I come home from work the next day to find it STILL there. It's bleeding in some spots and smells so bad, I just couldn't take it any longer so I marched my ass to the dumpster to throw it out. That was about a week ago, he still hasn't even noticed it's gone... What was the point of the chicken?!?! Was it to mess with our heads and piss us off?? Why?!!?

[myshittyroommate]

Identifying a narcissist

Amoral/conscienceless Authoritarian Cares excessively for appearance Contemptuous Critical of others Cruel Gives bad gifts Hypersensitive to criticism Impulsive Lacks sense of humor Naïve Passive (sometimes) Pessimistic Believes self to be Devine or gods favorite (sometimes) Secretive Doesn't recognize own feelings Envious Competitive Entitlement Flirtatious and seductive Grandiose Hard to have a good time with Hate to live alone Self-contradictory Stingy Strange work habits (works a lot, does very little) Unusual eating habits (odd diets, diets often) Weird sense of time (arguments from years ago get brought up as if it were a day ago) Has a prominent role model (becomes obsessive over them) Vengeful Easily scammed Seems to not know simple things that do not relate to them (don't put metal in microwave or don't leave car running in garage) Doesn't seem to listen when others are talking http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/traits.html#eat Here's a good explanation of those traits that can help you to identify one when you meet one.

[myshittyroommate]

All pictures of the kitchen from different days. Our garbage disposal is broken because someone... Ahem... Allowed a shot glass to fall into the disposal and didn't get it out. So we told CA not to put a million food particles into the sink. So what does he do? Just that. For about a month and a half both BB and I were doing dishes every single day but the dishes kept piling up and piling up. We found that CA alone uses more dishes per meal than BB and I do in a day. He cooks his "healthy" meals and uses every pot and pan. Then he uses about 4 dishes to eat. Then he leaves his leftovers to sit in the kitchen for the cats to get ahold of it, expecting us to take care of it for him at first, we would. But we became sick of it so we decided to only wash our own dishes and if he goes to bed with his food out, it goes to the trash. So the dishes began to pile up. All of the dishes shown are his and his cousins, PA, but mostly his. We had told him that a magnet on the dishwasher meant clean dishes inside. We were instantly aware he did dishes for the very first time after a few days of allowing his shit to pile up, half of the dishes disappeared and there was a huge note on the dishwasher that said clean. We waited for him to then perhaps empty the dishwasher he loaded. That took another week. We could only guess that what comes next is a tantrum about how "dirty and lazy" we are. So we just wait for it.

[myshittyroommate]

Coffee

We had a friend over, BB was making coffee when CA runs in in a panic, claiming the coffee maker is overflowing and that BB put the water in wrong. He comes to the kitchen to find a small dribble on the top of the maker. He opens the top to find water in the compartment with the coffee. CA says "you're not supposed to put water in there!" BB responds, "I put the water in the back where it gets hot and it moves to the front to where beans are to make the coffee." CA then says, "there's not supposed to be water in the front." BB replies, "uh yeah, that's how coffee is made..." CA storms off as BB and friend die of laughter.

[myshittyroommate]

1. Sally began spraying our doors and walls. I mentioned it to CA, his response was "no she didn't!". He wasn't there. 2. I left for work and happened to glance over at the park right next to my house. What do I see? The mobile free spay and neuter van. Can you guess who hasn't been spayed? 3. Sally walked up to Sol and decided to growl at him as he lays on the counter.