So, even if Marvel sets him loose on the women of New York again someday, that’s not going to change a personality that has been established for the last 45 years. Sure, he could be written as a happy go lucky stud boy who chucks his entire marriage without so much as a single sliver of guilt - hitting the singles scene again - but what would be the point? The “doomed to fail” syndrome would just start all over again. And frankly, that’s a creatively bankrupt approach.
Before we go on - let’s talk about the “doomed to fail” syndrome. Basically, it means that every relationship that a hero gets involved in is doomed to fail. It has to be, because unless there is a walk down the aisle (or even sometimes when there is), there comes a point where either (1) the relationship just doesn’t work out or (2) the relationship is working out, but the hero can’t bring himself to admit to his girl about his double life, and so it ends. In the old days, it was either (1) or (2) because the girl never found out about the hero. It just didn’t happen. Modern writers have loosened up considerably on the old secret i.d. jazz (for example, under Stan, Peter would never told Felicia his real name, and MJ would never have known that he was Spider-Man). But then that gives us option (3), in which the girl is killed by the villain, or (4) she finds out, but the relationship doesn’t survive because she can’t live with the double life thing. And that’s it. Well, then there’s (5) marriage is erased from continuity after a deal with the devil.
Writing a marriage is boring? How can that be more boring that continually writing the “doomed to fail” scenario? Or reading it? Betty was a case of both (1) and (2), Gwen was (3), and Felicia was (4) in the reverse, since she couldn’t handle Spider-Man’s civilian identity and responsibilities. MJ has been a victim of (4) & (5). And if you don’t want the character to have a marriage or a successful long-term relationship, then one of those four (or five) scenarios has to play out over and over and over again.
That’s why I find it utterly ridiculous that some writers actually want to end the Superman/Lois Lane marriage, considering that those two are even larger figures in American popular culture than Spidey and Mary Jane. Everyone, even non-comic fans, knows who they are, and knows that Superman has always loved Lois Lane. Superman will never love anyone but Lois Lane - it’s a modern mythology. It’s a cheat and a waste of time to try to convince the reader that he could love anyone else - so let’s stop screwing around with that dopey love triangle (where Lois isn’t even smart enough to figure out that Clark Kent and Superman are one and the same - how often and how long can THAT story be told with today’s more demanding audiences?) and focus on telling some real stories.