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in ♡ with bangtan, doggos and warm hugs

[kpopaeipathy]

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CHAKHO, concept photo 1

[kaity--did]

Today I learned that my husband keeps a notes app on his phone that has a list of all of my favorite things including but not limited to flower, ice cream, and cocktail and I don’t know how I feel about it 😂

[kaity--did]

Oh listen I know this is very very sweet because again Husband is rocks for brain bubble man. It is hilarious to me because the list has things like

“Favorite ice cream: butter pecan. I married a little old lady.”

“Favorite Ben and Jerry’s (this is different then regular ice cream) Phish Food. Has no idea who Phish is just thinks the chocolate fish are neat”

And I feel exposed.

[kaity--did]

“Favorite flower: orchid or lily, but she can have neither because our cats are stupid demon babies spat out from hell who will eat them and perish. She would prefer chicken nuggets anyways.”

“Favorite donut: old fashioned, for breaking in half and sharing with with the dog.”

“Favorite coffee: iced. Do not offer hot coffee under any circumstance. The only hot beverage allowed is hot coco and the yearly white chocolate peppermint mocha”

Okay I don’t need to be called out like this.

[ruffboi-mags]

the mortifying ordeal of being married.

[kaity--did]

Stop it this is hilarious

[gmt-log-deactivated20231214]

[spnyuri]

when they stopped putting cd drives in laptops we ALL lost

[petermonkeebff-deactivated20230]

"i can fix him" well the teacher wld sit him next to me bc im quiet

[hoyeonjung23]

[linguahelp]

[katadesmoi]

that post about the medium of theatre best portraying loneliness except its with video games and fate

[katadesmoi]

it’s bc it raises this question like. as the player are you (a) subject to the same forces of fate as the player character; or (b) the one enacting that fate upon them?

[screamydreamy]

this is so funny

[kesslersymbolic]

"He gave me my mail and said 'Are you expecting anything from Germany?' and I said 'I might be - we've got friends over there'," said Mr Biggs.

"He said 'Have a look at this letter' - so I had a look and turned it over and our friends' address was on the back of it and on the front it just said England."

Mr Biggs said the card had been sent from a sorting office in Germany close to Gloucester's twin town of Trier and had not been opened.

"I said 'How on earth did you know it was for me?' and he said 'I didn't, I've been wandering around with this', said Mr Biggs.

"My wife and I are absolutely shocked but this puts posties at five or six stars and top of the tree for me this Christmas."

The card, it is believed, may have originally been addressed correctly and so was sent to the right area of England - but with an address label that fell off at some point.

A Royal Mail spokesman said: "Royal Mail's team of 'address detectives' are renowned for their ability to ensure poorly addressed items of mail reach their intended recipients however, even by their standards, this is pretty impressive."

the royal mail detectives are a weird bunch, and like if it was addressed right it would get right but i love the idea they went "well it's from Trier so send it to the twinned town first"

[futureevilscientist]

Terry Pratchett would have loved this

[so1987-deactivated20230102]

the mortifying ordeal of admitting you do want to be loved vs the mortifying ordeal of not wanting ppl to pity you or feel bad for u vs the mortifying ordeal of wanting to reciprocate affection but being useless vs the mortifying ordeal of being careless with others and actually feeling bad vs the mortifying ordeal of being perceived as vulnerable at all.

[arsanatomica]

Honestly, we’ve only seen deep sea fish at their worst. Deep sea fish are like the opposite of the fast food expectation vs reality meme.

[californiaquail]

the relationship between a person and the native flora and fauna of where they grew up is something that can actually be so personal

[phantomrose96]

Friend of mine linked a 5.5 hour long Youtube video picking apart the entirety of Nickelodeon's 2010 series Victorious. And we all independently went "lmao hey what the fuck who would watch a 5.5 HOUR long video on Victorious"

and we all independently went on to watch the 5.5 hour long video on Victorious.

Bopping Friday night with me and the girls exchanging Ariana Grande lore over the discord.

[phantomrose96]

We're ALL watching the 5.5 hour long Victorious video on this Bopping Friday night.

[phantomrose96]

We are ALL watching the Victorious video

[phantomrose96]

[headspace-hotel]

I think part of the reason why we feel so sad is that we’re too far away from raw, numinous experiences. Like you know that post with a picture of the unpolluted night sky where people are reacting in terrified awe not realizing that’s what the stars really look like?

I think it’s like. You need vivid experiences that can’t be easily repeated. You need elemental things. I don’t mean this in a crunchy hippie just-try-yoga way I mean this in a way that’s like…we’re inside all the time and most things we experience are scheduled ahead of time. When there are sidewalks, we follow them, and there’s always some boring place to go. You need things that no one has any control over and that no one can sell for money.

You need to be outside in a storm and see lightning strike very close to you. You need to meet a wild creature and have to stand very still and almost not even breathe and watch before it vanishes. You need to be alone somewhere very big. You need to go to a place because it looks interesting and be at the wrong place at the wrong time. You need to climb over a fence instead of going in by the gate. You need to hear the exploding sound of a huge flock of birds flying. You need to watch live theater performed by kids on a low budget. You need to be lost somewhere. You need to be barefoot somewhere. You need to sing with other people who are singing. You need to get soaking wet with all of your clothes on and come inside shivering.

[yassifiedgollum]

I'm not going to link to the post but I saw a post about how making fun of the interests/hyperfixations of someone with ADHD is ruinous and will close them off from you forever, and like. not to be old about it but this is something we have to work on handling ourselves. RSD sucks, but it's too easy to trigger for us to just expect those around us to never trigger it.

"never criticize me and never express a negative opinion about anything I enjoy" is not a realistic expectation to have of anyone, and it's not a reasonable thing to ask of the people close to you. They need to be able to tell you when you're doing something they don't like.

like, for example, both my partners love Saw. I tried to watch Saw with them because they like it and I want to participate in things that they like, but Saw makes me very sad and uncomfortable. The partner who likes Saw the most actually told me to leave the room because they could tell it was upsetting me, and this was the right thing for them to do! It would not have been good for me to pretend to enjoy something that was distressing me in order to spare their feelings, and it would have been cruel of them to demand that of me. I tried it because I love them, but I didn't like it, and that's fine.

on the other side of the coin, I spent a lot of my childhood wanting to make music that my dad would like, because I loved and looked up to my dad and he had a lot of opinions about music. I felt embarrassed about liking music that he thought was bad, I felt ashamed of not being able to identify chords by ear the way he could, and when I made music I was sometimes paralyzed by the question of whether he would think it was good, even if I never expected to show it to him. It was great for me when I learned to disagree with him about music. Now I can hear him say "Ugh, this chord structure is so boring, it isn't going anywhere" and respond with "Well, I don't think so," or "Maybe so, but I like it," or just not respond at all and continue enjoying the song for what I appreciate about it.

You don't need other people's approval to live your life or to enjoy things. Rejection-sensitive dysphoria makes it feel that way, but you can choose how you manage that feeling and how you react to it. You may feel reflexive shame when someone disapproves of you, but you don't have to agree that that shame is warranted. It's really, really hard--I'm still working on it!--but it makes life more bearable and less anxiety-ridden, it makes it easier to just genuinely enjoy what you enjoy without worry, and it frees you from being beholden to other people's approval.

[bananonbinary]

i am once again asking you all to stop fucking using “lives with their parents” as an insult. humans live in groups, sometimes (frequently) those groups include multiple generations, get the fuck over it. it’s weird as hell to act like THAT’S somehow unnatural or creepy or pathetic instead of like, anything that actually matters at all.

[toastbutteregg]