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ānever kill yourselfā is such a funny phrase to me that i think itās accidently started working. its like an affrimation. say ānever kill yourselfā enough times as a joke and maybe you wonāt try to kill yourself over minor inconviences anymore
A moon worship ritual.
okay im gonna hypnotize you with my ruby amulet now DONT BE WEIRD ABOUT IT. im doing this to make you betray the king. IT IS NOT A SEX THING
I think the fact that you immediately thought about clarifying itās not a sex thing kinda makes it sound like it is a sex thing.
FOOL. i would be using my sex amulet for that
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The longer I exist as a loudly proudly gay man the more I think that cishet men aren't actually attracted to women.
I see these cishet men talking about their instant turn offs and/or red flags and they're such boring and ridiculous things like "takes pictures of her latte" or "owns cat ear headphones" or "has a nose piercing" and I'm out here like if that's the worst woman you can possibly think of then personally I think you just aren't attracted to women.
At least my instant turn offs that are Dude Things are "is an egotistical manchild that doesn't like the word no" and "has a chronic case of useless husband disorder" and "treats the women in his life poorly".
Like I can't imagine not being attracted to someone because he likes to take pictures of his food or because of a piercing or whatever. Really? That's the worst you can think of? Do you even like women? Or do you think that any qualities that make her stand out from the rest (even when these are EXCEEDINGLY common Girl Things) are inherently unattractive because then you have to think about her as though she's more than just a pussy and a pair of boobs.
I'm reminded of that quote where he talks about how gay men love the ugly parts of men as much as they love the pretty parts, and how straight men are threatened by this because it challenges them to love the ugly parts of women, and I don't disagree per say. I just don't think "takes photos of her food" and "dyes her hair bright colors" fall under the "ugly parts of women" qualifier. I think that's more just "being a human person" and for whatever reason straight men who act like this have a hard time conceptualizing that the women they're attracted to are human or people.
Straight guy here, I want to provide my inside take on what's going on here.
Genuinely, the straight men OP is talking about are the type that has such a poor vocabulary, they literally don't have the tools to describe relationships. Those traits, the latƩ snaps, septum piercing, cat ear headphones, those are all stand-ins for character types that they're unable to describe using specific terms.
Lots of men grow up with this idea that they're supposed to die in battle; men get off the Titanic last, so they find meaning in "being of service" in a "manly" way. This is usually accomplished by working jobs that destroy them, also resulting in utter neglect of their education and relationships. The whole "tradwife" attitude revolves around this idea that "since men are socially disposable, but also sensitive creatures, the female conpanions in their lives should notice their hardships, appreciate their sacrifices, and support them by making up for their deficits."
I shouldn't need to outline how fucking flawed that worldview is, but it's a common one that many men internalize.
So you get these "poor, hard done by" men who see their daily misery as some fucked up noble sacrifice, and who generally don't spend time enjoying life outside of destructive, manly persuits like after work drinking, womanizing, or drugs. Or sports, because that's a proxy for masculine violence, and another avenue to destroy your body and ""die in battle.""
They don't know how to relax, they don't know how to enjoy their own company, they don't know how to manage a household, they develop unhealthy attitudes and coping mechanisms, their relationships are all based on money, their routines revolve around work and nothing else, and their home lives and family dynamics suffer as a consequence.
What's latƩ snap girl doing, really? She's cultivating an online following, she's slowing down to note small details that please her, she's taking time for herself to enjoy a moment. If these men did that, they'd suddenly be confronted with the emptiness of their lives, the futility of capitalism, their substance use problems, and the various aches and pains thay riddle their bodies, as a result of their flawed lifestyle.
So, these men construct a type; the anti-their lfiestyle type, that's empowered, educated, and self interested. This type finds meaning in others and in themselves, not in lives based on imagined noble self-sacrifice. This type has blue hair and piercings, is aware of social issues and patriarchy, is independant and self regulates well, and doesn't put up with the "poor him" attitudes of the shitty men out there.
As a result, "women with cat ear headphones" represent anti-matter to the "poor him" bros, and they can't use more specific language to describe this, because that would require awareness of their pathetic worldviews and systemic disfunction in their lives.
And I feel bad for these guys, because they're guys like my dad or my highschool pals who went down a shitty path. But wow, their whole fucking orientation towards life sucks, and they tend to expect defference and respect for their bad attitudes and lives of suffering, when they've really just been grease in the wheels of capitalism. They love women, but have constructed a life where only a certaim type of woman can really fit into it, and this excludes most folks with enough self intetest to have a sense of style that breaks from traditional norms.
I've gotten a lot of responses on this one but I think this hits the nail on the head.
Folks, I'm not saying these men are Secretly Gay or Ace or Aro or anything. I'm calling them misogynists with shitty worldviews. I'm saying that for all that a heterosexual man is supposed to like women, it seems like guys like this mostly just like vag and tit and not, you know, the human beings attached to those body parts.
And no, this is not restricted to online. Actually what made me make this post was a song in which a band I like was making fun of guys like this, said song has played on the radio and had a verse that was more or less "I went on this date with this girl and she was perfect until she started to take pictures of her latte so I'm ghosting her because I can't stand her anymore". And while they're playing up the dramatics for the point of the song (which is, again, to make fun of dudes who act like this) I've heard enough comedy routines and tv/movie scripts and radio hosts and podcasts and college students walking by to have heard this in passing in real life and not simply in the depths of reddit and 4chan. I've heard politicians and celebrities and professors and news anchors doing this. This isn't a showcase of "the worst of" Facebook comments in a circle jerk group that posts exclusively women they think are ugly for existing as a human being.
Because a lot of these dudes ARE using "blue haired leftists" as a shorthand for a personality type. The problem is that the personality type they're saying they dislike is, largely, "woman who won't be a tradwife mommy maid who exists solely in my sexual power fantasies".
Which, at that point, makes me wonder if they even like women past an incredibly shallow idea of what women as property can provide for them rather than enjoying the women they date as whole entire human people.
I've heard someone say that the reason so many straight people who oppose gay marriage say it will lead to grown men marrying children or animals is because they don't see a relationship between two consenting adults; they see it as between a man and his favorite sex object.
So yeah, I think you're right. There's a lot of straight men who don't really see women as people.
pride month is coming up soon. whatever you do please do not forget about trans women.
Maybe try to not forget transmascs, trans men and non-binary people too while you are at that.
If you are are going to call me "transmysoginystic" for reminding you that other trans people exist, i will grab your hair and drag you all the way to Mount Doon and throw you in the fire.
This will be you:
if you canāt see a post about advocating for trans women without insisting that trans women should be thrown into a volcano then you might not be the ally that you think you are.
they have 97 mental illnesses and are banned from most hive sectors
(glass, sadie, and vincent from a story I'm working on [: glass is a greenbottle fly, sadie is a common blue damselfly, and vincent is an earwig)
both is good
playing erdtree with my pal we get invaded by someone named "Drip Inspector" and im like "waitwaitwait. ok lets just pose leaning back to back and wait for them to show up maybe our outfits will be so good they wont kill us"
so we wait until they show up and then they get reaaaal close to us . and then pull out their telescope and start circling around us and zooming in for a good 30 seconds. then they clap, use the "wonderful" and "youre beautiful" prattling pates, and jump off a cliff. invader vanquished
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I laughed so hard i wasnt ready
it's really weird having a first dog be blind and then getting a second who can see...like how was I supposed to be prepared for this.
this creature can perceive when I put the treats up on the high shelf. or when I hide stuff behind my back. I can't fool her!! she's always watching me and she shouldn't have this much knowledge!!!
I walk around at night and I shine my flash light directly into her eyes and I'll just be standing there staring at her weird blue orbs for like 5 seconds until I realize it's probably extremely annoying to her, because she has eyes!! I'll turn on the light in the room and she gruffs and grumbles like ?? oh right!! light wakes you up!! the fuck??
the absolutely wild implication of this, that god was previously playing fast and loose with his own acts of good and evil but then had to start being considerate about what he was doing because now mankind is watching and we know.
God's worst mistake was opening our eyes and mouths, for now we can turn to him and name his sins
A dumb comic about Grievousā collection~
you get back here with those tags
normalize my 12th grade English teacher, who admitted that his favorite TV show was Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and when a male student suggested that it was because Buffy/Sarah Michelle Gellar was hot, wrinkled his face like heād bitten into something rotten and dead, and said,Ā āAt my age (he was 53), there is nothing less sexy than a teenager. Youāre all disgusting messes.ā It was 1999, I was 17, and Iād grown up in conservative Christian schools and churches. In my life Iād heard heard dozens of sermons from male preachers and teachers and even some older students, whining about how hard it was to be a dude and not commit the sin of thinking sexual thoughts, and how they needed women to wear long skirts and cover their bodies to not objectify them
and my bitter, misanthropic, atheist Brit Lit teacher, who hated my class because he was obsessed with teaching Tom Sawyer but got stuck with Shakespeare and Jane Austen, was the first, and this day the last man I have ever heard articulate a rebuttal from the depths of his soul to the idea that it was normal for teenage girls to be desirable to middle aged men
RIP Henry Dickerson, who passed away last night. I tried explaining to him once that he was a tumblr legend, but Iām not sure it took.
Heyo itās back to school time and hereās a research tip from your friendly neighborhood academic librarian.When searching for any topic on the internet just type in the wordĀ ālibguideā after your topic and tada like magic there will be severalĀ beautifully curated lists of books, journals, articles, or other resources dealing with your subject. Librarians create these guides to help with folksā informational needs, so please go find one and make a librarian happy today!!
this is the BEST advice, and there are so many options, both if youāre doing academic research, or just curious and looking for information!
Itās so interesting what you can find!
Dime novels, mystery & detective fiction, adulting (not academic, but still),Ā D&D guide, citation libguides, comics, graphic novels, and manga,Ā German language & literature, differentiating fake news, firefighting, body autonomy for kids and young adults, interfaith women advocates for social justice, cookingĀ (nonacademic)/food culture and cuisine/food & cooking.
Thank you for excellent additions and very much agre ewith you that cooking libguides are the best!! Have you seen all the ones from the Culinary Institute of America??
Oh! Building on your notes I figured I should mention to everyone that most academic institutions with a library are going to have a page with the research guides the librarians have made for their patrons. This will include basic topic guides on things like how to use the library or how to create citations. There will also be subject guides for areas of study like philosophy or biology. As well as specific course guides to assist classes that are being taught like FM 114: Introduction to the Fashion Industry or BME6938: Nanoparticle Nanomedicines.
If any of yāall have started university totally check out the ones your librarians have put up! Thereās a ton up to help you along your research journey. And if you arenāt at university check them out too!! Some of the resources wonāt be accessible but thereās loads of information youāll still be able to use and get to.
Hello, fellow academic librarian specializing in instruction! Many libraries also include guides orientations on how to properly utilize non-subject specific databases. Watch those before diving into your first research project so you understand the tools and features available to you to make your life easier. Many universities subscribe to ProQuest or EBSCO and there are MANY tutorials that will teach you how to use them in less than 5 mins.
Believe me, you will save yourself A LOT of headache with both LibGuides and orientations. Good luck and happy hunting!
