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[pen-penta]

Small rant, but seriously, people need to stop trying to police other people's relationships, be them platonic, romantic, or anything in between.

There's a lot of stupid puritanism and rules lawyering on how grown adults should act, and it just feels disingenuous as fuck. The truth is, these people don't care if someone is in an abusive relationship or in any imminent danger at all, they just care about controlling what other people do on their relationships as a sort of power play to validate their emotional immaturity and narrow worldview.

And the worst part is, these "relationship cops" aren't just trying to police actual harmful behavior, like controlling whom your partner should talk to, going through their phone without their consent, and more isolating behavior like these, they literally want to impose some sort of puritanical, anti-sexual, clean image of relationships (platonic, romantic or queerplatonic) that literally defeats the purpose of having any kind of relationships at all.

I'm poly, I have three girlfriends, I kiss and cuddle with my best friends, and I don't need to give that sort of relationship a title other than friendship because it doesn't need one, just for some fucking asshole (pardon my french) show up and tell me that I shouldn't be "cheating" on my girlfriend(s) or "leading them on without choosing one", that I really shouldn't be dating anyone if I'm "so immature as to not be able to commit", and my favorite, that I shouldn't open my relationship just to make my "cheating partner" happy.

Queerplatonic relationships exist! Polyamorous people exist! I'll kiss my girlfriends in public wherever and whenever because I love them, I'll tell my friends how much I love and appreciate them while we cuddle, and fuck you and your bigoted ass if that makes you uncomfortable. I'm not the problem, poly people are not the problem, and the sort of relationships we have are not the problem, you are.

Go touch grass.

[byjove]

tall guys might have the upper hand (pun intended) in dating rn but my 5'4" self will have the last laugh when I’m the hottest guy in the nursing home

[homunculus-argument]

Flip flops and ripped fishnet stockings with a kilt.

[oakandgumtrees]

Every so often I’ll see posts from people trying to work out whether they ‘count’ as something - usually some type of LGBTQIA, sometimes neurodiverse, sometimes disabled

And as they talk about it, it’ll become clear that they’re thinking about that label because there’s something in their life that’s uncomfortable, and they can see people with that label NOT doing that thing, and they’re wondering if they have a right to also not do it.

So this is me, giving you permission. Label or not, YOU ARE ALLOWED to:

Stop dating people (of a particular gender or in general)

Start dating people (of a particular gender or in general)

Have less (or no) sex

Have more sex (or with more people)

Get married

Not get married

Plan to never get married

Have a friend more important than people you date or have sex with

Wear skirts

Not wear skirts

Wear make-up

Not wear make-up

Cut your hair

Grow your hair

Try new pronouns

Wear a binder

Use a cane

Use fidget toys

Use noise-cancelling headphones

Take painkillers (or other over-the-counter medication)

Ask for help

Not eat that food

Ask for food alternatives

Not drink alcohol

Avoid that location with the crowds and the noise

You are allowed.

You are allowed to do these things some of the time, or all of the time, or only once.

If they make you feel better in yourself, maybe someday you’ll decide to take on the label that applies to many people who do them. But you don’t NEED a label.

You are allowed.

[dogpuppy]

[dogpuppy]

I wish I could have heard you sing this… I bet you have a beautiful voice

[greatwaytokillhim]

still makes me laugh whenever i see it

[aflo]

A standard porno with the bad acting and music and whatnot but partway through the action the camera pans to a millipede and hunting spider locked in a duel for survival, the sounds of sex fade out and the scene in the background blurs, epic battle music starts to play

[wholesome-animal-images]

[byjove]

June is also men’s mental health month so I’d like to drop in and say that mine is not so good. It’s also Pride Month so I’m going to be treating the problem with yaoi.

[excitementshewrote]

[swarnpert]

they are starving the children of boston right now

[cutecipher]

basketball players fight over the basketball because they are hypnotized before each game to believe it is their egg

[pen-penta]

Very Nanami coded behavior

[saladgl0ve]

this is how this website sounds sometimes

[lakevida]

[dailycatsblog]

[isuggesteatingtherich]

i have a suggestion

[byjove]

My dad was a public defender when I was a child and he would have to drive all over the district to visit various defendants in various jails which I thought was very interesting and I liked to hear about his experiences in various jails and how different they all were. He drove me to school every day and sometimes I’d skip in and tell my classmates “My dad is going to the jail in [TOWN/CITY] today!” mind you, I went to public school in a not very nice little town so my teacher’s first thought wasn’t lawyer, she had other students with incarcerated parents. This was also occurring in the south where everyone is nosy as fuck so she eventually called my mother, presumably to scope out why her husband was a jail bird and if the chargers were relevant to me and my education in any way. My mom had to explain that my dad wasn’t an inmate who kept getting transferred and that going to jail is his job.