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[penwingsonthinice]

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Hello hellsite mittens,

I'm Isaac, M 21. Some days I post nothing some days it's my personal therapist diary. I'm bi and ace and figuring out what I like about this life.

One thing I do have figured out is my amazing partner (he/they/she) who made tumblr just for me @hotjalebeee <3

If u wanna hit me up, chats are open. I got your back homies.

I'm tagging fandoms I'm in and hope to meet and moot (aha get it? Aha...)

[sonja-cherno]

We've talked about Grace's rainbow symbolism in this scene, but I haven't seen anyone pointing out the detail of Stratt having a line of countries' flags behind her on her first appearance

[penwingsonthinice]

this pride month, I wanna say uhhh mennnn uhhh women uhhhh enbies uhhhhh

[penwingsonthinice]

call me icarus the way I'm flying too close to the sun

[lettheladylead]

can you draw something for me to masturbate to

sure

good luck!

[poisonnivysgf]

i fear a lot of people are missing the point of laufey’s madwoman music video and it’s all because a pretty man is in it 😭 trust me, i get it. i’m a lesbian and even i think that hudson williams is the most gorgeous man i’ve ever seen! but all i’ve been seeing since the video has come out is people posting about how beautiful hudson is and how they couldn’t even pay attention because of him. guys. you are almost ironically proving the point of the song. let’s take a look at the second verse of the song. the lyrics go as, “I remind myself how he’d question everything ‘bout me/Call me stupid as a mindless joke, he hypnotized me as we spoke/Purely mythological, with the ugliest soul/You would think that he is holding me for ransom” she’s pretty much telling us as the listener that this guy is mean and not very caring and because of his terrible personality, people should be wondering how he even pulled her. then we get the next lyric as it goes into the chorus, “But there’s something so vexing ‘bout you” despite his douchebag attitude and being rude, she still thinks that there’s something there and it’s only because he’s hot! the thing that is vexing about him is his attractiveness. the song is about being stuck in a toxic relationship, which is also shown near the end of the music video when laufey tries leaving hudson behind, only to find that the road has broken completely off into a cliff and she can’t go any further. she’s stuck going back to the house and saying yes to his proposal, and her friends are even encouraging it, probably because they don’t actually know how much of an asshole he is, because they think he’s hot, which is shown specifically through lola tung’s character as we see her hide behind her magazine as hudson comes out of the water before sneaking a glimpse at the beginning of the video. this also ties into the title of the song. laufey feels like a ‘madwoman’ as the song progresses but i think she already feels like it in the beginning of the song, too. she may feel like a madwoman in the beginning because she lowkey hates the guy she’s dating but he’s hot so she decides it’s okay. then, when he proposes, she feels even more insane because why would he even do that? they have no chemistry and she gets turned off at every mean thing he says. then she returns to the house after driving away and we can see the descent into madness as her friends robotically usher her back into the house. the final shot, with hudson’s back turned towards us and laufey’s almost dejected silhouette in the doorway, makes it feel as if she’s upset that it came back to this and she can’t do much of anything to leave hudson. all in all, i guess what i’m trying to say is, four beautiful women have graced your screen and all you’re talking about is the man doing pushups on the diving board? like, why would a man be there?

[sandersstudies]

I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

[sandersstudies]

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

[beemovieerotica]

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

[misfit-toy-haven]

Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.

[demonprincex]

I still do the party-host thing and yall can, too! (Thanks Mad Men for teaching me a lot of outmoded social scripts... no really tho)

Remember things about your friends! Ask people about their weekends, hobbies, holidays, studies, and jobs! Listen for the concerns people have and what they are working on! Draw connections between one person and another to get the ball rolling. "Oh, Maura, you just got your first cat! You should talk to Felix, he used to work at a rescue. Felix, please tell Maura all the new-cat-guardian pointers."

"Bill, Sheila, Xan, this is my friend Kale. Kale is really into Star Trek, Bill you and them should talk about it!"

Orrr whatever! After you make the introduction and draw the connection you just float on into the next interaction with someone else at the function. Just listen, care about your friends, get our of your own head, and think of how you can bring other people together and you will feel 100% less awkward.

[3liza]

hi i am so excited about this post because i have posted this exact thing MANY times on here, often in the specific context of how formal etiquette is so useful for autistic people especially, but also for everyone. even if you come off a little bit formal, which you will sometimes, having Old School Manners (or just knowing what they are) for various common scenarios is like having a magic ticket that will just sail you through all kinds of social iinteractions, gatekeeping, social weirdness, and as is pointed out in the above posts about introducing people to each other, can make you into a really valuable and helpful person for an entire gathering or group of people.

i also want to point out that knowing what the polite thing to do in all situations makes you a lot more effective at being rude and obnoxious when the situation calls for it, which is also a valuable and necessary adult skill

[dailymanners]

#things to write#but also#things to do#I could certainly benefit from a manual...

If you're looking for a manual on these sorts of things; social etiquette, social scripts, how to handle difficult and/or awkward social situations, etc. then I highly recommend picking up any book by Miss Manners. Her books really are the gold standard for learning the types of skills this post is talking about. I should also mention that Miss Manners is witty and hilarious so her books are also fun to read.

The best book by Miss Manners to get started with would be Miss Manner's Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior. This one is probably the best starting point because it gives the best overview of all the basics.

If you're the type who likes to listen to podcasts, I recommend checking out "Were You Raised By Wolves?" and/or "Awesome Etiquette". Both are also great tools for learning the type of social skills this post is talking about. I'm personally a fan of "Were You Raised By Wolves?" because not only are they pretty funny and informative, they also bother to try to teach the underlying social intelligence behind various manners and social etiquette so that you can have the skills to solve social dilemmas on your own. However, "Awesome Etiquette" is also pretty fun and informative.

[dailymanners]

#long post#I feel like 'i dont do small talk nobody cares about the weather' had a negative impact on social interaction#I mean yeah sometimes small talk about nothing gets awkward. but often it leads to the most interesting conversations#just asking 'what kind of music do you listen to at the gym' or 'have you read any books lately' could be such a lovely subject#I'm sometimes socially awkward despite being a huge extrovert. that's why etiquette is such a great thing#if you don't know how to act around people just stick to the etiquette rules. if they have a problem with it they're not for me anyways

Sorry @darlingdear but I couldn't let this stay in the tags.

I say this as someone who is neurodivergent had grew up very socially awkward, but recently I find the "screw small talk, I wanna get to know the REAL you" attitude to be pretentious as well as a demonstration of a lack of boundaries.

But also, I think a lot of people who have this attitude don't actually really know what does qualify as small talk. The definition of small talk is any topic that's of no real consequence and includes topics like food, pets, sports, music, whatever show you're currently streaming, whatever book you're currently reading, and yes, the weather. A lot of people who have this "I hate small talk / I don't do small talk" attitude probably think it's only reciting a bunch of secret scripts about the weather, and don't realize how much they engage in small talk whenever they talk about their pets or their favorite foods or the really cool show they're watching right now.

Small talk is just about boundaries and getting to know someone *before* you move into more serious and personal topics. The older I get the more I learn you really can't just trust anyone with more serious and personal subjects. Small talk first is important to gauge if they're someone safe and trustworthy first before moving into more serious and personal subjects. If you really genuinely refuse to get to know someone before immediately discussing serious and personal subjects you may have an issue with boundaries and should consider working on that.

[littlehouseontheaerie]

Oh my god, so much the last point. All of them, but especially the last.

Small talk is a way of sounding out a person’s attitudes. It’s about finding out if they’re a rabid asshole or someone you want to spend more time with.

I had a professor who got angry at a group of (mostly women), from five countries, all of whom met yesterday, for talking about daytime TV. He basically insulted us and called us shallow.

Dude, we were figuring each other out with a safe topic! We were the best of friends three weeks later. We could broach harder topics because we understood each other’s boundaries better. If you immediately demand people bare their souls, you’re not likely to get them to be honest.

[roxanedrawing]

also it's always polite / a good idea to balance the conversation out between yourself and the other person. By which I mean, if they've asked you several questions, turn it around: "and what about you?" / "what has your experience been in [topic]?" I used to be too awkward to do it but noticed conversations would bleed to death. Then I overcompensated and only asked the other person question upon question. This was also Not Ideal because guys would end up thinking I was super interested in them and get confused when I shut off my interest / social battery later on. So, balance: I try to talk about 50% of the time and share something that is either useful or relatable to the other or important to me. And by being interested and asking real questions you can get to know someone better and they will also know you a little, which can be really lovely.

[danceling]

As a longtime fan of small talk, I feel compelled to add that it is also fundamentally INCLUSIVE and refusing to engage in small talk is actually very exclusionary.

Say you're at a party where you only really know the host. They make some introductions, but at some point you ARE on your own because, well, they have to do that for a lot of people. Joining a conversation with a bunch of people you don't know in it is basically impossible without small talk. If they're unwilling to engage in it, then you have to wait until you have something "deep" to contribute to a conversation that relies on shared history. You could be waiting forever, and even if you aren't, that's intimidating as heck!

(side note: if someone you don't know sidles up to your group at a party and you don't find a way to bring them into the conversation within a few minutes, I have major side eye for you!)

[penwingsonthinice]

getting through one life era at a time until it stops working out anymore

[fuckyeahxfactor-blog]

New 'Bootcamp' boyband.

According to sources a new boyband has been formed at Bootcamp with 5 solo contestants thought to be more promising as a group.

The boyband made up of auditionees: Louis Tomlinson, Harry Styles, Liam Payne, Niall Horan and Zayn Malik

(Liam being one of this years re-auditonee’s) The boyband are yet unamed.

Previous groups formed at Bootcamp have usually been doomed from the start and although usually making it through to the live shows don’t go much further. Futureproof, Hope and Miss Frank to name the most well known,

[jasper-rolls]

did anything happen with this

[penwingsonthinice]

nothing like being "gifted" but also being a socially anxious mess incapable of small talk or forming human connections irl with possible neurodivergence and being queer to feel like an absolute failure. Can't complain I pass as normal its not real its not real

[dogpuppy]

[allsadnshit]

Sometimes I randomly remember how the most important people of my life from like 6-7 years ago are not in my life at all anymore and that's sort of terrifying and also crazy to realize how you actually can survive loss beyond your comprehension and find happiness stronger and more suited for you if you keep going

[penwingsonthinice]

One of my "achievements" of 2025 was getting my groomer to listen to would've could've should've before making it clear that I am disgusted by her and I hope she is ruined by it.

[txttletale]

sorry for [remembering a tumblr post about expressing gratitude instead of apologising to make the interaction more positive for the other person] i mean thank you for having a boyfriend who was so easy to run over withmy car and reverse over three times maybe four

[penwingsonthinice]

found an amv of harry potter that I used to watch and I just feel empty knowing that the fandom made me whole for most of my teens - starting Tumblr, making friends, even just finding comfort and home in the series - only for the author to now use the money she makes of it to take away my rights and to spread hate.

[targetedknowledge]

[penwingsonthinice]

White girl music mwah