FUCK narratives that force anyone to forgive any kind of abuser out of guilt and/or obligation or for some bullshit higher ground and perception of Goodnessâ˘
The fact that âMy health is no one elseâs businessâ is heavily considered a controversial statement will never cease to baffle me. Disabled people are not here for your entertainment simply because some of us have visible symptoms, or some symptoms that must be discussed for the sake of accessibility. If I donât want to disclose information about my health that shouldnât be seen as rude. Asking highly personal and inappropriate questions and not taking no for an answer, however, SHOULD be.
Youâre a goth girl who loves the color black. You stay out only at night and try to stay indoors most of the time. Today you got a message in a bright white envelope saying that you are a nymph of light.
A nymph of light. I smile wryly, of course I am. I am the nymph of the firelight at midnight, the soft light that keeps the monsters of the dark corners in our minds at bay. The moonlight that lovers hide in to whispers sweet nothings to each other. The starlight that guides the people home after their journey have ended. The light of the will oâ wisps that lead childrenâs imaginations to new and unexpected hights. The glow of the computers and lamps of the artists and writers who push themselves to finish their projects. A nymph of the lights that comforts the scared and wounded, the candlelight of the vigils held for those gone, the wicks aglow with the prayers of the hopeful. The embers left over from the bonfire that entrance the ones who stayed up past exhaustion just to see what they could learn in the wee hours of the morning. A nymph of light you say? Of course I am. What else did you expect?
Itâs totally okay to say âyou know what, this isnât making me happyâ and to walk away from whatever or whoever is keeping you from the happiness you deserve
1. You have an enormous black dog which must be walked for four hours daily or it puts its excess energy to use in lighting witch-fires in awkward places. One day you were feeling a little ill, so you asked the unreliable narrator to walk the dog instead. The unreliable narrator faithfully walked the dog for four hours. It is a complete mystery as to why everything is on fire.
2. You hid under the grand staircase to escape that thing that was knocking at your window in the height of the storm. Now there is a âdelivery failedâ notice on the mat. You are going to have to pick up your artisan cheeses from the local depot twenty miles away.
3. The malign spirit possessing you has lapsed on its ghastly rent, and as a consequence you have been re-possessed by a bailiff. It is somewhat alarming to be in the possession of a supernatural bailiff. Your body spends more time in the high court of the dead that you would like.
4. You came to this graveyard on the cliff over the sea at the dead of night with the intent of digging up the grave of your long-lost love, which you believe to contain the silver dagger that alone can settle her unquiet ghost. It is a stressful situation. You were never very good at numbers when stressed. You believe you may have taken twenty rather than thirty paces from the old yew tree and may in consequence have dug up a badger.
5. A dread raven has settled over your door, from which it hourly proclaims your doom. You made a plan to get rid of the raven. The raven network appears to have got hold of this plan, because another smaller raven turned up to perch on the shoulder of the first and proclaim its doom. Now a third, even smaller one has turned up. You have recursive ravens. There is probably a lot of doom about to come down.
6. Lacking a cellar, you have walled up your rival beneath your floorboards. Unfortunately your rival is a mouse and seems to be enjoying it down there. Will the cheese board will never be safe?
7. Now that they the have closed the refinery across the bay, the mist no longer descends over the high moor at night and as a consequence gruesome deeds cannot be done unnoticed. You have a huge to-do list of gruesome deeds. The local undertaker has started to call you up regarding supply chain issues.
8. You have been staring into this abyss for some considerable time. It is not gazing back. In point of fact it is ignoring you completely. It looks like you will be going home alone tonight.
9. Your grandmother has refused to pass down the ancestral curse, instead bequeathing it to the local catsâ home.
Frequent minibar-restock requests and refusal of maid service for several days also listed among "red flags" for human trafficking.
Heads up to sex workers who work in hotels, especially those who run incalls from them. Â
Included amongst âwarning signsâ that hotels are being urged to report are:
garbage cans containing many used condoms
frequent use of âDo Not Disturbâ sign on room door
excessive foot traffic in and out of a room
âexcessive sex paraphernaliaâ in room
an âoverly smelly roomâ that reeks of âcigarette, marijuana, sweat, bodily fluids, and muskâ
a guest who âaverts eyes or does not make eye contactâ
individuals âdressed inappropriate for ageâ or with âlower quality clothing than companionsâ
guests with âsuspicious tattoosâ
the presence of multiple computers, cell phones, pagers, credit card swipes, or other technology
the presence of photography equipment
minibar in need of frequent restocking
guests with too many personal hygiene products, especially âlubrication, douchesâ
guests with too few personal possessions
rooms paid for with cash or a rechargeable credit card
âindividuals loitering and soliciting male customersâ
âclaims of being an adult though appearance suggests adolescent featuresâ
refusal of room cleaning services for multiple days
Remember, the DHS seems to be taking a very large interest in busting sex workers of late, not just under cover of suspicion of human trafficking â it was Homeland Security that led the bust against RentBoy and MyRedBook. Â
Pay attention ladies. Always bring your own trash bag and spite your own dirty condoms. Itâs gross but necessary. Leave your hotel room at least twice a day, whenever you leave, call the front desk and have them come clean your room while youâre gone, make sure to put all sexual paraphernalia away. make sure your room doesnât have any cameras near it.
I end every one of my clientâs orgasms with a nice warm, wet washcloth on their cock, which I then use to remove the condom. Wrap it in toilet paper and flush in the toilet. The condom wrapper goes home with me.
Try not to pick up customers at the bar directly. Give them your number and have them head up later.
Always have a backstory. Staff will ask why youâre visiting to be polite. If youâre in your hometown, roll your eyes and say something about your horrid roommate or brotherâs in-laws visiting or something.
If you are seeing multiple clients during an incall, make sure room service staff does not interact with them.
Book your room for 2 so staff does not question why you order double everything.
Bring your own towels and wash cloths.
Bring a few outfits. Hang them in the closet.
Bring your usual toiletries as if you were staying overnight. Put them out on the counter. If it looks ugly, invest in a nice toiletry bag.
Only hang the âDo Not Disturbâ sign when you know they are actually doing cleaning. That, or leave it on the whole time youâre there. If you frequently remove/hang it, it looks suspicious, but if you leave it the whole time, they assume you prefer privacy.
Even with Do Not Disturb, most hotels require staff check the room every 3 days.
When your client arrives, have him text you while still in the car so heâs not standing in the lobby on his phone.
Leave the door ajar for your client to come in so there arenât men standing outside knocking.
As someone who works at a hotel, some tips on things that I know show up as red flags to my coworkers:
1. The condom thing is 100% true, but a way around this is asking if you can clean your own room. The hotel I work at has a lot of long-term/primary residential guests, so somebody asking for cleaning supplies to clean their room themselves isnât anything odd. In fact, if you joke about being a neat freak or a germaphobe, theyâll probably laugh with you and give you everything you need. Ask for trash bags, and if thereâs a larger trash bin you can dispose of it in.
2. Ask if they have corporate rates. My hotel chain doesnât require any corporate ID to use a corporate rate, just to state that you work for a company that has a corporate rate. If you say you work for a big company, not only does that make you seem like someone just visiting for run-of-the-mill business, but frequently itâll get you a discount on your room. (Youâre already doing business, may as well get some corporate benefits for it!)
3. If you can, be friendly with the front desk! We all have our âregulars,â aka the guests that are with us often/long-term and we have become friends with. (Mine is a long-term guest that also runs on a nocturnal schedule.) Night staff is especially important here if you work at night, because theyâre the ones thatâll notice anything going on. It can get lonely being the night attendant, so if youâre able, find a reason to chat with them a few times a week. As a night attendant, Iâll be completely honest with y'all and tell you that unless I see/hear something that constitutes a safety issue, I donât get involved. Iâve got too much other shit to worry about to care if Kim in room whatever is a sex worker.
4. If itâs an open site, DO NOT ASK FOR A ROOM IN THE BACK. Seriously, this is a huge red flag, to the point that anyone who specifically requests a back room at any of our chainâs open sites is immediately on a front desk watchlist, because more often than not, that guest turns out to be a sex worker. Seriously. Make it seem like just a regular hook-up if youâre concerned about anyone seeing your client go into the room. Just donât ask for a room in the back, because it IS suspicious and you WILL have eyes on everyone going in and out of your room.
5. Be friendly with other guests! A lot of long-term guests have trouble forming social groups, so theyâre happy to make friends with new guests, and theyâll be protective of you. I know of at least one incident in which a sex worker who wouldâve been busted was hidden in another guestâs room until the cops left. Friends are key here.
Otherwise, just be safe and be careful. A lot of hotel staff doesnât actually want to bust you, but if we see or hear something that is clearly illegal, weâre obligated to report it. Not reporting something can result in us losing our jobs, so try to avoid being obvious, because we can only ignore so much before weâre putting our own livelihood in danger.
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Whatâs attractive about a man who isnât excited as hell to be with you? Who doesnât smile when you walk up? Who doesnât hold your hand? Who isnât all in?
Whatâs attractive about a man who is too prideful to just let go and love? Whatâs attractive about an emotionally unavailable man?
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