Heal From Trauma One Day at a Time

Hello, I’m an SA survivor making the blog I wish I had had when I first started this healing journey. You are loved, you are valid. Let’s go on this journey together. I promise you’re not alone 💜

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Hello 💛 This blog is me making the content that would have comforted me and my system when we first confronted our abuse memories. The aim is to post every day.

Sometimes it will be something I wrote myself, other times it may be a reblog, but I will try to always provide something and in doing so chart my own recovery as well. I hope you find it helpful. Our DMs and asks are open 😊

Basic rules apply: no bullying, no discrimination, TW anything detailed. Also since this is the internet I feel compelled to add a disclaimer. Just because I post about a song, show, or celebrity quote, does not mean I automatically hold every view of the og creator. If something helps my journey I will pass it on so please don’t make assumptions guys.

Well I think that’s it. A good healing journey to you all ❤️‍🩹

[pilotofstarshipfables]

I know it’s not my fault but I wish I learned self defense earlier I wish somebody thought me what’s wrong and what’s right

Me too. I think wishes like that are really common and a lot of us picture flipping the tables on our abusers. It’s so painful; so many what ifs.

Little you would be so proud of how far you’ve come tho. You’re growing as a person and learning important skills now. I’m proud of you ❤️‍🩹

[old-melissax77]

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Yes ☺️

[pilotofstarshipfables]

I can’t believe it took me this long: HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYONE

🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍⚧️

[pilotofstarshipfables]

I really wish that it was safe to be a lover girl in all the softness that would entail. Please don’t be the person who makes someone put walls up. I didn’t use to jump at shadows; I will never forgive the ones who made that a part of me.

[pilotofstarshipfables]

For those who couldn’t find comfort and shelter with our mothers, it can be especially hard to navigate major life changes as an adult. We often get stuck in old habits of overworking ourselves to try and achieve an impossible perfection, or of letting life pass us by because we’re so deeply convinced we’ll never amount to anything anyway.

Reparenting ourselves is remembering that we do matter, we are capable, and our value is inherent rather than achievement based. We deserve time to cry and nurse our wounds. We deserve to then get up and follow our dreams.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Here’s a not so sweet reminder: DO NOT PRESSURE PEOPLE TO COME OUT! IF YOU DO THIS I HOPE ALL YOUR SOCKS ARE WET!! Also you, in the closet, you’re super valid. You are you no matter who knows or doesn’t know.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Start choosing you. It may feel unbearable at first, we humans are made to co-regulate, and wanting love and attention from others is normal. But when you’ve been brought up in agony and self hate, you can easily fall prey to people who promise you love but only give more abuse. When you’ve learned that you have inherent worth, that’s when the people who are not for you run, and the ones who are genuinely supportive will have a better relationship with you.

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Sometimes to run is the brave thing.

[myrtles-and-blood]

Aphrodite of the ones who failed at love

Aphrodite of the ones who failed at friendship

Aphrodite of the ones who failed trying to love others, but couldn't

Aphrodite of the ones who are alone

Aphrodite of the ones who try to be more open

Aphrodite of the ones who don't know how to talk to others, but still try every single chance they get

Aphrodite of the ones who no one likes

Aphrodite of the isolated from society

Aphrodite of the ones who choose love every single day even when they have had the worst experiences in it

Aphrodite of the ones who fucked up and are trying to do better

Aphrodite of the ones who are not loved, but will always be by Her

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Help us in these endeavors, Lady Aphrodite

[pilotofstarshipfables]

I don’t know who needs this right now, but it’s okay to self soothe with candy. It doesn’t matter if it’s “nOT HeaLtHy”, it beats a lot of other alternatives. People don’t seem to get that. This body has been through a lot of trauma, we could be self soothing with much harder stuff iykyk. Bonus points if they didn’t let you have it as a kid. Let that inner child have their sweets 🍬 🍫 🍭

PS. As the mom friend I’m contractually obligated to remind you to also hydrate!

[androgenough]

Pro tip: if you've always related to csa victims and kinda had this nagging feeling at the back of your mind that maybe you're not remembering something bad—there might be a reason for that! And boy, it can hit you like a truck at the least expected time

[pilotofstarshipfables]

We’re living proof that this is absolutely true. We were years between a therapist telling us we had a bunch of symptoms pointing to CSA, and actually remembering any of it. Though our body remembered because we had such strange and specific fears.

[pilotofstarshipfables]

You are no man’s plaything. You belong to yourself and you are yours to care for. Don’t ever forget it.

[sewercentipede]

a stray kitten somehow got into my dad’s house and was hiding behind his washing machine for 2 days before he realized it was in his home (and not meowing from outside as he thought) but when he discovered it the kitten panicked and ran through the whole house until it managed to hide in a spot that is impossible for my dad to reach. so now my dad’s had to just, let it live there. until it comes out on its own. he reported that the kitten is very communicative - he and the kitten meowed back and forth to each other 20 times - just in hiding. i told him to get a litter box and cat food. and to accept that he has a cat now

[sewercentipede]

yup they belong to each other now

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Faith in humanity a tiny bit restored

[thelatestkate]

[pilotofstarshipfables]

You do not have to justify your existence

[unwelcome-ozian]

[pilotofstarshipfables]

This is so real. But it does get better ❤️‍🩹

[pilotofstarshipfables]

Hello, i'm new at your blog. I may not really know you. But after seeing your post. I wanted to say that I'm sorry you have to experience what you went thought, just know that you're vaild and it wasn’t your fault, the fault always lays on the person who abuse, not their victim. And you didn't deserve to go thought that, nobody does. You're amazing and you're matter, just like the rest of the survivors and victims of abuse, regardless of gender, sexuality, race and ect.

And as a survivor of not really of CSA, instead it was a COCSA(Child on Child sexual assault), and who still hadn't told anyone yet, I want to thank you for making the post you did on January 21 about CSA victims.It's really made my day and made me tear a little bit. Thank you, really. Anyways, I hope you have a good day.

(i'm sorry, if anything I said sounded rude or my grammar or words wording felt off, English isn't my first language, and I'm not really that great at comforting people)

(also, sorry for the small vent I give you, I know it was completely unnecessary to mention that i went thought COCSA as a kid, I thought it was worth to share it with you, since you're also a survivor of SA. But again sorry, if that made you uncomfortable to read, it wasn't my intention!)

First of all thank you so much for this sweet message! You didn’t say anything wrong, it’s perfectly okay to mention that you are also a survivor. I’m sorry you experienced COCSA, which does absolutely “count” and people don’t talk about it enough.

It means a lot to hear about posts of mine that made a difference to someone 😊 Me and my system struggle with depression and knowing we’ve put something out there that helped people is really encouraging! I wish you healing and I hope you have a great day 💜