If your biggest problem is the way somebody else decides to describe their sexuality, identity or expression, please get some goddamn perspective.
Are you pissed that some people identify as omni, ply, pan, multi, ambi, abro, fluid, homoflexible, heteroflexible, m-spec, etc?
Do you get mad when somebody who is into multiple genders but not into all genders - who isn't into one of the binary genders, even - calls themself bi?
Do you blame people calling themselves m-spec lesbians and m-spec gays for straight people's homophobia?
Does it piss you off to see people calling themselves homoromantic bisexual, panromantic heterosexual, etc? Do you try to stop other people from using the Split Attraction Model because you personally found it unhelpful for your identity?
Does it irk you that people call themselves, their experiences and their community queer?
Do you try to limit who can or can't use butch and femme?
Do you get mad at m-spec people calling themselves fags and dykes?
Do you hate that there's people calling themselves aro, ace, demi, aego, akoi, etc? That we don't consider ourselves "basically straight"?
Do you blame nonbinary people for cis people's transphobia?
Do labels like dittogender, chaotigender, autigender, etc annoy you?
Do you hate that people are constantly finding new ways of describing their personal experiences, new labels to use, new pronouns too?
Do you hate that there's people having fun with their identities instead of putting themselves in established, sufficiently respectable boxes?
Do you get mad at people using acronyms like QUILTBAG, MOGAI, LSBTI, LADT, HBTQ, etc? Do you harrass people from other countries over it?
If you answered "yes" to any of these, here's a reality check:
The way other people describe their identity, their experiences and their community is not for you to decide. It just isn't. You don't get a say.
The way other people describe their identity, their experiences and their community is not the cause of bigotry.
The way other people describe their identity, their experiences and their community is not tearing the community apart. You are.
The way other people describe their identity, their experiences and their community has nothing to do with you. Stay the fuck out of people's business.
Why the fuck are you getting worked up over what people call themselves?
