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I dabble in a little bit of everything in the creative world tbh Genderfluid, he/she/they, and Aro/Ace English and learning French.

[typingoverworld]

Writing Prompt:

You’re a sly little fox. That’s why I love you so much.

[mosslingg]

My liege im sorry to break it to you but your advisor that's actually evil and wants you dead turned out to be straight. I know you really wanted to have an enemies to lovers situation with him. Yeah I'm afraid the poisoning didn't hold any romantic intent behind it. The king of the enemy kingdom is bisexual though, I could send him a letter? Yes, I'll make sure to include multiple threats of homoerotic nature. You will have your toxic yaoi, my liege

[c-53]

I have a bisexual guppy and its funny as hell to watch because it seems like he’s only bi out of desperation. Like all of the female guppies are unimpressed by him, and dont accept his mating displays, and every time he fails, he goes over to a SPECIFIC male guppy (the prettiest male guppy in the tank) like PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE and that male guppy always lets him????

[sheepwilbur]

(link)

[shapeshiftinterest]

transcript:

#guy strikes out with all the women at the bar so finds the most fuckable twink to make due

[sandersstudies]

I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

[sandersstudies]

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

[beemovieerotica]

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

[misfit-toy-haven]

Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.

[demonprincex]

I still do the party-host thing and yall can, too! (Thanks Mad Men for teaching me a lot of outmoded social scripts... no really tho)

Remember things about your friends! Ask people about their weekends, hobbies, holidays, studies, and jobs! Listen for the concerns people have and what they are working on! Draw connections between one person and another to get the ball rolling. "Oh, Maura, you just got your first cat! You should talk to Felix, he used to work at a rescue. Felix, please tell Maura all the new-cat-guardian pointers."

"Bill, Sheila, Xan, this is my friend Kale. Kale is really into Star Trek, Bill you and them should talk about it!"

Orrr whatever! After you make the introduction and draw the connection you just float on into the next interaction with someone else at the function. Just listen, care about your friends, get our of your own head, and think of how you can bring other people together and you will feel 100% less awkward.

[3liza]

hi i am so excited about this post because i have posted this exact thing MANY times on here, often in the specific context of how formal etiquette is so useful for autistic people especially, but also for everyone. even if you come off a little bit formal, which you will sometimes, having Old School Manners (or just knowing what they are) for various common scenarios is like having a magic ticket that will just sail you through all kinds of social iinteractions, gatekeeping, social weirdness, and as is pointed out in the above posts about introducing people to each other, can make you into a really valuable and helpful person for an entire gathering or group of people.

i also want to point out that knowing what the polite thing to do in all situations makes you a lot more effective at being rude and obnoxious when the situation calls for it, which is also a valuable and necessary adult skill

[dailymanners]

#things to write#but also#things to do#I could certainly benefit from a manual...

If you're looking for a manual on these sorts of things; social etiquette, social scripts, how to handle difficult and/or awkward social situations, etc. then I highly recommend picking up any book by Miss Manners. Her books really are the gold standard for learning the types of skills this post is talking about. I should also mention that Miss Manners is witty and hilarious so her books are also fun to read.

The best book by Miss Manners to get started with would be Miss Manner's Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior. This one is probably the best starting point because it gives the best overview of all the basics.

If you're the type who likes to listen to podcasts, I recommend checking out "Were You Raised By Wolves?" and/or "Awesome Etiquette". Both are also great tools for learning the type of social skills this post is talking about. I'm personally a fan of "Were You Raised By Wolves?" because not only are they pretty funny and informative, they also bother to try to teach the underlying social intelligence behind various manners and social etiquette so that you can have the skills to solve social dilemmas on your own. However, "Awesome Etiquette" is also pretty fun and informative.

[dailymanners]

#long post#I feel like 'i dont do small talk nobody cares about the weather' had a negative impact on social interaction#I mean yeah sometimes small talk about nothing gets awkward. but often it leads to the most interesting conversations#just asking 'what kind of music do you listen to at the gym' or 'have you read any books lately' could be such a lovely subject#I'm sometimes socially awkward despite being a huge extrovert. that's why etiquette is such a great thing#if you don't know how to act around people just stick to the etiquette rules. if they have a problem with it they're not for me anyways

Sorry @darlingdear but I couldn't let this stay in the tags.

I say this as someone who is neurodivergent had grew up very socially awkward, but recently I find the "screw small talk, I wanna get to know the REAL you" attitude to be pretentious as well as a demonstration of a lack of boundaries.

But also, I think a lot of people who have this attitude don't actually really know what does qualify as small talk. The definition of small talk is any topic that's of no real consequence and includes topics like food, pets, sports, music, whatever show you're currently streaming, whatever book you're currently reading, and yes, the weather. A lot of people who have this "I hate small talk / I don't do small talk" attitude probably think it's only reciting a bunch of secret scripts about the weather, and don't realize how much they engage in small talk whenever they talk about their pets or their favorite foods or the really cool show they're watching right now.

Small talk is just about boundaries and getting to know someone *before* you move into more serious and personal topics. The older I get the more I learn you really can't just trust anyone with more serious and personal subjects. Small talk first is important to gauge if they're someone safe and trustworthy first before moving into more serious and personal subjects. If you really genuinely refuse to get to know someone before immediately discussing serious and personal subjects you may have an issue with boundaries and should consider working on that.

[littlehouseontheaerie]

Oh my god, so much the last point. All of them, but especially the last.

Small talk is a way of sounding out a person’s attitudes. It’s about finding out if they’re a rabid asshole or someone you want to spend more time with.

I had a professor who got angry at a group of (mostly women), from five countries, all of whom met yesterday, for talking about daytime TV. He basically insulted us and called us shallow.

Dude, we were figuring each other out with a safe topic! We were the best of friends three weeks later. We could broach harder topics because we understood each other’s boundaries better. If you immediately demand people bare their souls, you’re not likely to get them to be honest.

[roxanedrawing]

also it's always polite / a good idea to balance the conversation out between yourself and the other person. By which I mean, if they've asked you several questions, turn it around: "and what about you?" / "what has your experience been in [topic]?" I used to be too awkward to do it but noticed conversations would bleed to death. Then I overcompensated and only asked the other person question upon question. This was also Not Ideal because guys would end up thinking I was super interested in them and get confused when I shut off my interest / social battery later on. So, balance: I try to talk about 50% of the time and share something that is either useful or relatable to the other or important to me. And by being interested and asking real questions you can get to know someone better and they will also know you a little, which can be really lovely.

[dailymanners]

Due to me seeing this post again, I decided to start re-reading Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, and all I can say is, this is a book Tumblr is really sleeping on.

It's not just the fact that this book is perfect for those of us who are neurodivergent, who can really benefit from having a book which kindly and patiently bothers to explain social rules and norms that people just expect you to know without ever telling you themselves.

It's also the fact that, despite this book being nearly 45 years old, Miss Manners makes it clear in the preface and opening chapters that she is explicitly against classism, sexism, and homophobia. She also makes it explicitly clear in the preface that her personal belief in the importance of good manners and etiquette has nothing to do with a desire to return to "the good old days", because those days were not actually good for women, LGBTQ+ people, poor people, and people of color.

What really made me re-fall in love with Miss Manners though was right in the opening chapter she addresses using sexualized threats and insults to debase and degrade others (you know, like "get fcked", or "suck my genitals", or "yeah well that's not what your mom / sister / other female family member had to say last night") because if sex is something that's supposed to be good and pleasurable, why are we using it as a threat to debase and degrade others? Honestly I love her so much for calling out the inherent sex-negativity of using sexualized threats and insults like that, and nearly 45 years ago at that!

Miss Manners has never been a stuffy old fashioned fuddy-duddy. She has always been a deeply compassionate woman far ahead of her time, whose sole mission is to make the world a kinder and more considerate place.

[pyrohaskerosene]

The ADWD 2 kickstarter launched seven minutes ago.

The goal has already been surpassed.

All hail REMNANTS

[pyrohaskerosene]

It's my 2 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

[pyrohaskerosene]

Item: A Stunning Frame Rarity: ⏶ Common

What game has the best art style?

Feed your dashboard by answering my question, blogger.

The Divine Speaker for sure

[pyrohaskerosene]

The Amazing Digital Circus is not inside a game.

And I will die on this hill until it's actually confirmed. TADC is, in my humble (correct) opinion, a kids TV show. Hear me out, alright? The swear filters, Caine's references to having an audience. And I think they had some sort of fourth-wall-breaking or a commercial break in the very first episode? I'll have to double check. Heck, even the name sounds like a kids' tv show title. Everything's in bright, fun colors, it's all rated G, like. Cmon. I'm not crazy. I'm not sure how that headset fits in, but I am positive that it couldn't be a video game. Perhaps the headset was the way that the show's creators got their characters into whatever system they're in- like you put on the headset, bam, zapped into a tv

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk

[pyrohaskerosene]

I have more to add I looked up the show's script/transcript (because I'm too lazy to watch the episode again) and I completely forgot that the series literally started off with a theme song introducing all the characters. Coincidence? I think not Plus, this chunk here. 'Enjoyed by all ages', and the way he makes it sound as if they have an audience of sorts. Especially since the cast seems to all be adults, this seemed interesting.

There's also this little bit. Specifically the blue + underlined part. The wording further proves my point here.

I FOUND THE PART I WAS TALKING ABOUT! A thing pops up onscreen, and it looks very much like a mid-show tv ad for whatever technology/brand the show used there. (I'm rambling help)

This happens at around 21:45 in the pilot episode, and the segment ends at 22:06 Ep. Link

IT LITERALLY SAYS "EXCLUSIVE TV OFFER".

ty for listening to a random idiot rant (Link to the wiki page I took the screenshots from)

[pyrohaskerosene]

I WAS RIGHT YOU PEOPLE CALLED ME CRAZY BUT I WAS RIGHTTTTTTT IT WASNT A VIDEO GAME HAHAHAHAHA

[pyrohaskerosene]

Ah that’s a fun glitch

[rahafwabas]

btw they are canon

[medusadyke]

academic dishonesty is not something you can spin as moral lol i do not want to share a career field let alone a social sphere with a bunch of chatgpt using ass bitches

[medusadyke]

"you're just scared your diploma is going to devalue" i'm afraid you dumb bitches are going to become my colleagues and drag social services to hell

[hylianengineer]

I'm afraid they'll become scientists and data that lives depend on will turn out to be wrong - and people will die.

I'm afraid they'll become engineers and sign off on bridge designs that collapse - and people will die.

I'm afraid they'll become medical professionals who don't know what they're doing - and people will die.

The assumption that academic dishonesty is okay is rooted in the idea that what you're learning to do doesn't matter.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

the cursed amulet stays ON during sex

[pyrohaskerosene]

Literally Viggo

[pyrohaskerosene]

Please tell me this isn’t an actual quote. Curse you tumblr for showing me this ad

[pyrohaskerosene]

More Pyro oversharing I did have one boyfriend (tho tbh he barely counts......) and one thing he did still kind of pisses me off. I was backstage at a theatre show, making sure all the damn benches were there or something idk. Buddy walked up, said hi or something, and said "Oh, I gotta go on!" and kissed my cheek. On the surface, this seems fine, right? But I wasn't super comfortable with it, and it came out of nowhere. Instead of just dealing with it internally, I told him later that I didn't really appreciate him doing that, especially without asking. His response: "I'm just like that." Anyways now he has a new gf and she's homophobic and transphobic as FUCK so I have her blocked lol

[pyrohaskerosene]

Update I’m aroace

[pyrohaskerosene]

My father, years ago: Eww, they’re kissing (in a show on tv. He did this every single time ppl kissed on tv)

Me, young and impressionable: Eww

-

My father now: (silence)

Me, aroace and forgetting I am not a child anymore: Ew they’re kissing dad change the channel

[pyrohaskerosene]

Another “Pyro remembering an episode of a show that may or may not exist”

I remember watching some sort of cop(?) show with an episode where these campers were attacked by a bear and one guy who was unharmed/survived just happened to not have any body parts from the waist down and was just. Hopping around the scene 😭😭😭 He was wearing a blue shirt if that helps

Please tell me I’m not delusional

[charlesoberonn]

Men will literally attempt to reshape the world in their image by committing mass murder with a magic notebook instead of going to therapy.

[charlesoberonn]

"You have a 35% chance of being Kira, Light."

"That's a toxic violation of my emotional boundaries, L. Stop gaslighting me."