Crush, Kill, Destroy, Swag

Internet shall be the death of me ;w;

[sizvideos]

[perissologist]

THIS TURNED OUT SO MUCH BETTER THAN EXPECTED

[lord-palmerston]

you missed the best bit

[breakfastautocrat]

This is a decidedly unfriendly reminder that I don’t want you following me or liking/reblogging my posts if you are a Trump supporter, neo-Confederate, TERF, neo-Nazi, or a supporter of any other sort of white supremacist or fascist movement. Get the fuck out. I don’t want you here.

[fiorilex]

Yess! Already 25 people unfollowed me. Feels so good to take the garbage out.

[browsedankmemes]

[parskis]

i swear to god, men raising their voice is the most terrifying thing in the whole world. they dont understand, like its an immediate panic response, game over

[cl4yton-deactivated20180207]

I actually had no idea women found this so scary

[periwinklepromise]

my downstairs neighbors fight on a regular basis, and every time he starts yelling i’m a little afraid he’s going to kill her. i have no reason to think this except that he is a man and he is angry

[thewonderfulthingaboutfish]

My math teacher has a loud voice and a temper and he scares the living shit out of me almost everyday. He’s made me and other kids cry more than once and he and his teacher buddies make a joke out of terrifying students.

[diamondsamura1-deactivated20220]

this was women in general? i knew my gf didn’t like it but I was unaware if this affected most women

[survivor-surviving]

Yes, it does

[pandora-ness]

As a woman, I had no idea it effected other women like this. I was too afraid to even talk about it. I thought I was weak. Thanks for bringing attention to this.

[kaldraws8280]

My dad thinks it’s funny that I used to cry when he raised his voice. I freak out whenever some one does. Once my director did, and I started crying I couldn’t stop. I’m glad to see I’m not alone…

[suicunesrider]

This is so important– seeing how common this is– and I also want you all to know that this is not normal. It isn’t something instinctively ingrained into women, to be afraid of men. There is no natural state of men being a threat that women constantly have to be afraid of. This is cultural. So many women and girls here have a mutual understanding of this feeling, and I think it really shows an unsettling truth about our society, particularly about how men are raised to act and how so many women have this defensive reaction gradually develop. It’s so important that these people have their voices heard, because it teaches us about problems that we just can’t deny the existence of any longer.

[shidoninoure]

I’m glad I’m not the only one

[anexperimentallife]

My fellow men, pay attention. I didn’t realize how scary this could be until one of my exes explained it to me, and it’s heartbreaking.

Also, when we move too much during an argument, or lean forward, it’s scary, and I never knew. I was even a little insulted at first, because surely she didn’t think I would hurt her. But see, that doesn’t matter. It wasn’t a sign that she mistrusted me specifically; it’s a conditioned response. (Although if you keep doing it once you realize it scares her, she SHOULDN’T trust you.)

Not every woman has been physically harmed by a man she trusted, but every woman KNOWS a woman who has.

I used to be horrible about this, because I didn’t realize how intimidating it was. I didn’t understand why the woman I was with clammed up or tried to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear, and I only got angrier, and acted even more like an asshole. It was wrong. It was abusive. It didn’t matter if I INTENDED it that way; it was still emotionally abusive. And it was inexcusable.

I get that when passions are high, and when you’re frustrated, it’s a natural tendency to let your voice get louder, to shout and gesture and lean forward. But you can train yourself to do better. You can train yourself to keep more of an even tone, to refrain from large and fast gestures, to not lean into her personal space. I did. I’m not perfect at it yet, but goddamn it, I WILL be.

Don’t tell me it’s too hard, that you just can’t do it, or that you “shouldn’t have to.” I’m 53 years old and just now getting the hang of it, and if this old dog can learn something new, so can you.

[elfwreck]

Note to guys: It really, REALLY doesn’t matter if you’re thinking, “but I would never…”

History is littered with the bodies of women who believed a man “would never.” This includes women killed by men who honestly, deeply, truly believed they “would never”… right up until she said that one thing or moved in just that way and he just got so mad, just that once, and pushed her or punched her or slashed her or shot her… just once, y’know, to shut her up, or because she was flinching and didn’t she know that HE’S NOT LIKE THAT and I’LL TEACH HER TO BE AFRAID OF ME…

We are trained, from infancy, that Men With Loud Voices are a source of pain from which we cannot escape, and attempts to escape may result in more pain. And as soon as we’re old enough to comprehend a world broader than our immediate circle, a world that extends into the past and will run into the future, we realize that there is no way, no way at all, to tell which men “would never” and which men “would never… except if.”

We live or die on that “if.” And any man who doesn’t like facing that hyper-vigilance can work on fixing OTHER MEN, not women’s fear.

The reaction shouldn’t be “not all men are like that;” it should be “no woman should have to live in fear.”

It’s telling that so many people will hear a story of long-term abuse and say, “why did she stay with him?” and not “why did he treat her like that?”

[plaggnoir]

This made me cry.

[thewhaleridingvulcan-deactivate]

I didn’t realize I wasn’t the only one. Like even if I hear OTHER people fighting and the guy raises his voice I always KNOW that he’s gonna kill that other man or woman…..even if he’s not. It’s just what the raised voice does to me

[helenarasmussen87]

To this day, all the men in my family do this to me when they want to shut me up or intimidate me to do what they want. 

My ex, as gentle a man you could hope to meet, did this once, along with grabbing me by the neck and pinning me to the wall because I was doing something he didn’t want me to do. 

It’s like Louis CK said once about the equivalent being a world were men could only date a half-bear half-lion and hope for the best.

[laughterbynight]

Tbh I thought it was common knowledge. Like, I just assumed everyone knew that getting loud and/or moving aggressively towards women scared the fuck out of us.

I’m actually glad to see it’s not. Doesn’t make me any less scared but it tells me that when this happens it’s not always on purpose. So there’s that.

[hollowedskin]

I had to explain to my partner that I’ve had exes try and kill me before and I can’t deal with his anger. at first he just tried to explain that he’s not mad at me or that he wouldn’t hurt me but he saw the kind of wreck it makes me and eventually he understood that that has never mattered before and now if he gets mad he usually goes outside or messes around downstairs with his fishtanks.

my partner used to be a head chef in a resort, used to build cars and he’s a manager in a factory, he’s used to yelling at everything and everyone when stuff isn’t working but once he realised how painful it was for me he controls himself when I’m there and comes and finds me to explain why he was mad when he’s calmer (so I stop freaking out that it’s my fault).

he’s a loud, explosive, confident man with a hair trigger temper and he can still pull himself together and control that anger for the most part around me now, so there’s no “but I’m just like that” or “I can’t help it” excuses to be had.

if you know you’re frightening people and using that ingrained fear of abuse against them to get what you want idk what to say to you except stop.

[rosebramblewolf]

this absolutely is normal what it isnt is healthy.

[trashfirefallon-deactivated2019]

I’ve never had a man hit me or get violent with me, my father, step father, any of my boyfriends, or my husband.  But I am still terrified when someone raises their voice in anger or moves to fast. It scares the shit out of me.

[thepigeongazette]

THE WORLD MUST KNOW *takes selfies furiously*

[briandumoulin8-deactivated20190]

Wow

[motivationator]

 my heart just dropped.. tbh I was expecting something entirely different.

[pinkbowsnbutterflies-deactivate]

I wasn’t even going to read this at first because it looked long but I’m glad I did

[boredpanda]

15+ Rare Photos Of Victorians Proving They Weren’t As Serious As You Thought

[tuba-terror]

They were just the same as us, but since it took so long to take a picture, it was easier to keep a stern face for as long as it took for a picture to be taken.

[thelonelyconservativememe]

All of you out there supporting planned parenthood should really remember what the woman who founded them said…. just saying. Do not stand with PP

[officialclinicescort]

Oh wow, you guys are still trying desperately trying to paint Sanger as a racist huh? Okay, if you’re gonna flat out lie like this you can at least try not to be lazy about it.

You’ve given no context to this quote and conveniently left of the first half of it. The sentence in it’s entirety is “ “We do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population.” I know you manipulated it that way because you wanted to make Sanger seem as evil as possible, and also because literally the only thing pro lifers know how to do is lie, but admittedly the full sentence by itself looks damning enough. I think you know this, which is why you provided no context. If you had, your entire argument would have fallen apart. Here are Sangers words with context;

“It seems to me from my experience where I have been in North Carolina, Georgia, Tennessee and Texas, that while the colored Negroes have great respect for white doctors they can get closer to their own members and more or less lay their cards on the table which means their ignorance, superstitions and doubts. They do not do this with the white people and if we can train the Negro doctor at the Clinic he can go among them with enthusiasm and with knowledge, which, I believe, will have far-reaching results among the colored people. His work in my opinion should be entirely with the Negro profession and the nurses, hospital, social workers, as well as the County’s white doctors. His success will depend upon his personality and his training by us.

The minister’s work is also important and also he should be trained, perhaps by the Federation as to our ideals and the goal that we hope to reach. We do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population and the minister is the man who can straighten out that idea if it ever occurs to any of their more rebellious members.”

The article I linked goes into better detail about Sanger, the so called “Negro project”, and the lies spread about her by the pro life movement. I encourage you to read it the next time you feel like spreading lazy, manipulative propaganda bullshit like this.

[eve-made-the-right-choice]

TL;DR: The full quote states that Planned Parenthood wanted to hire Black doctors in order to make their Black patients feel safer and respected. It also states that Planned Parenthood wanted to work with Black ministers, and encourage the ministers to tell others that Planned Parenthood was a safe clinic for Black patients.

[cecaeliawitch]

In other words, she didn’t want this exact lie to start circulating

[americanninjax-deactivated20191]

Reblogging not just to spread this out there but so that I have it on hand the next time someone tries to feed me this crap, I can provide them the facts.

[lostinmymemory]

Source

[sidneyc]

way to go paul

[kougayon]

You can only reblog this once a year

[skygenders]

*comes home from the hospital to see my brother wearing a “make america great” hat* Hmmm should have fallen harder

[delicieuxpresses]

Does Race Depict What Hairstyle You Wear?

Apparently it does. The internet exploded with giant waves of hate towards a 14-Year-Old Mallory Merk when she decided to post pictures of her new hairstyle on the internet. By installing box braids, she committed cultural appropriation and offended Black culture… because she’s white. Personally, I don’t understand why it’s so bothersome? Did we pay for it? Is it written somewhere that certain styles are racially specific? No, but since that’s how the Black community wants to act, we’d better start racially specifying everything we don’t want other cultures to do, wear, and eat since they would be “stealing Black culture”. Now I’m not here to defend her. When I saw the photo’s I though they were weird, but I think the level of importance given to this girl’s hair was unnecessary; Not to mention the unbelievable level of hate. But with everything happening in America between Whites and Blacks, I’m not surprised at the backlash. The Black community has found a voice and wants to use it but instead of sending negative comments to a 14-year-old that won’t change any of the problems Black people have to face everyday, maybe that new found voice should be used to solve more significant problems happening all around us. *Drops Mic*

[chiveburger]

me: tumblr is such a joke I should just delete 

also me after not being able to open the website for 45 seconds: my blog…my brand…my life, all gone…

[so-pale-girl]

[foodffs]

I’ve waited for three months to reblog this

[weavemama]

THIS DRAG IS BRUTAL

[politicalprof]

It’s going to be a very, very long year.