such a tired game.

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[rageisinourveins]

HAYLEY WILLIAMS // GLUM

[bloodenjoyer]

Its me qtip don’t listen to them boy put me in your ear

[brytning]

Noticing your own self-talk is a fundamental part of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), one of the most common types of therapy. What are the stories you tell yourself when you’re feeling anxious? Are those stories true? Interrupting your thought patterns can help you find relief instead of going down a spiral of anxious thoughts. What if you have a hard time catching your thoughts as they’re happening? No problem—like anything else, it takes practice! The more you practice, the more naturally it comes. Transcription under the cut below:

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[enki2]

[t4t4t]

[thebibliosphere]

I actually meant to put this in my drafts so I could come up with a response more articulate than the incorrect buzzer sound that went through my head when I read this, but I guess I didn’t do that, so let me just say: both of these are bad.

This is not a competition. Both of these are bad.

It’s also baffling because this is the opposite of what we’re seeing from AI editing software geared towards professional writers, which is deliberately designed to “simplify complex words” for “greater legibility.” (Often with questionable results.)

Programs like Grammarly and PRA use their “integrative AI” to simplify everything down to the bare bones because it thinks words like “devoid” are too complicated for the average reader to understand.

It’s why so many of the newer books read kinda samey right now. Writers are being trained out of using complex language by AI to appeal to readers (supposedly), and kids and non native English speakers who are using “complex” language are being marked down for using AI when they’re not.

It’s a fucking nightmare.

[lesbianjamies]

I am the dirt under your nails, Cupcake. Nothing's gonna clean me out.

[flork-of-cows-official]

burn out

[badpsychicadvice]

Internet hugs for anyone else out there dealing with burn out or other mental and/or physical issues that make it hard to interact right now

[lesbiansasuk3-deactivated202602]

?

[wowhead]

[malt-beverage-enthusiast-deacti]

Analog horror looking ass dog

[geeky-jez-deactivated20231025]

[naamahdarling]

I should know better than to reread this thread whenever it comes across my dash. I always cry.

Mr. Rogers was there for me when my parents materially COULD NOT be, and he taught me so much about being in love with the world.

[only-tiktoks]

[yourheartinyourmouth]

“And remember: you’re worth the time it takes to learn a new skill!”

oh my goodness I love her she’s so wholesome

[renthony]

#She has a book about to come out??#Prev tags say Mercury Stardust which might be her name?

Yeah! Her name is Mercury Stardust, and she’s a maintenance technician who gives tips and talks about renters’ rights. She also does burlesque shows! She’s mostly active on TikTok I think, but she has some other socials and a main website.

Her book, titled “Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair” comes out in August 2023.

The book blurb, taken from the publisher’s website:

Dear Readers: As a transwoman, I’ve discovered (the hard way) that we live in a world with much to fear. But imagine fearing something as simple as asking for help. Imagine relying on others—landlords—to provide a basic human right, like housing, but knowing those same people believe you’re an abomination because of your sexuality or gender identity. Imagine a world where reaching out for help is more than just a mundane task—it’s a game of chance. Sadly, for too many renters, this isn’t just a one-time moment of fear. For single moms, college students in a foreign town, and many others, a knock on the door can feel just as terrifying, even when you need the help. All renters deserve to feel empowered enough to take matters into their own hands. The skills I’ll show you how to develop will allow you to help friends, teach family members, and even assist a panicking neighbor—further empowering more people to take on tasks on their own. We all have a home—whether it’s made up of brick walls or plaster—filled with memories and dreams. Knowledge should pass through any barriers put up around it because a little bit of knowledge can go a long way toward making someone feel more in control of their own life. Your soon-to-be favorite virtual repair technician, Mercury Stardust, the Trans Handy Ma’am

[dollsonmain]

She actually JUST retired from burlesque.

[mhalachai]

and she also just launched a podcast! the Handy Ma’am Hotline.

[shimamitsu]

some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

[cheaphalloweencostume]

Protip for men: if marriage is a horrifying concept for you and you think it is an evil trap, do not buy a ring and ask a woman to marry you

[curtis-ballard]

I’m way over seeing radical feminist bullshit on my dash. This isn’t even social justice or a real issue.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

sorry that not marrying someone you dont loathe is radical feminism i guess?

[celestial--fawn]

women: don’t propose or get married if u don’t like the thought of marriage

men: what kind of sjw fuckery

[lemonsharks]

the other bit that this implies is: If you like your wife, act like it. Even around your friends. Be open and honest about liking your wife, liking spending time with her, and not being resentful of the shared work of building a household. Let your buddies know you can’t hang out with them because you’d rather be home with your wife, whom you like, because she is your legit bff, even though you know your buddies are gonna mock you for it. Stand up to your buddies. Tell them mocking isn’t cool and you don’t want them to do it anymore. Challenge the other men in your life to be better men. That is what “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” implies to men who are married. And while it’s all completely reasonable I imagine that it’s scary as fuck when it’s just so much easier to har de har har the little woman’s such a nag, ain’t she, don’t we all hate being married so much? with other men. In that context, “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” is kindof a radical statement.

[goshawke]

The number of guys I work with who are engaged who started pulling the “uh oh, life over soon, har har” shit that I have completely shut down with a simple “well if you don’t want to get married, then don’t”…*sigh* And they’re just like, hem, haw, welllll if I don’t then she might not stay with meee, which I respond to with “well, sounds like you need to have a pretty serious and honest conversation with your fiancee about your feelings then” and then the *panic!* look…When you remove that easy “hah hah ball-and-chain” narrative, watch the reaction. Some of them (to a female friend) will mumblingly admit that they love their fiancee and are excited to be married. Others…all you get is fear.

That’s the disservice we do men by refusing to teach boys how to explore their emotional needs. It hurts everyone. I watched three male friends walk into marriages I can tell they weren’t ready for and didn’t want, just because it was expected and they had no tools for emotional self-examination. Two of those marriages are (shockingly) in crisis, a couple years later. One has kids involved now. It’s more than a little heartbreaking. The marriages I see that are working? Are the guys with the emotional maturity to talk to their wives and who don’t care if everyone knows they’re in love with them.

[violent-darts]

SERIOUSLY. 

[lesbianspaceprincess]

My friend is getting married this summer and when I congratulated her fiance on their engagement he said to me “Yeah well you know, women. This is what they want so you have to bite the bullet.” and my other friend’s husband who was sitting next to him laughed and agreed. If this is how you feel, don’t get married. Don’t propose. Just…. Don’t. Do it. Any of it.

[scottish-fool-deactivated201705]

Straight people think that doing things you really don’t want to do - like marriage and having kids - is normal cos they’re still stuck in a fucking 19th century mindset.

[hexmaniacciaran]

It’s why I know my best friend got a good one, he’s open about how much he loves her and he’s excited to be getting married and regularly contributes ideas and has his own input, it’s nice to see

[sodomymcscurvylegs]

It filters through as well. Even being gay, a lot of my straight friends don’t understand why I spend so much time with my husband. Because I love him? Because I enjoy his company? Because he’s my best friend? I can’t count the amount of straight people that have told me that they think it’s “weird” that my husband and I spend so much quality time together. The only person who understood was my mom, whose response was: “If you love someone and genuinely enjoy their company, why WOULDN’T you want to spend your free time with them?!”

[teaboot]

How can anyone look at their impending marriage and think ‘oh no, it’s all over now’ like???? I’ve only felt so close to so many people in my life, but those small few were like?? I’d wake up in the morning excited to be awake just to look forward to SEEING them. I’d catch myself with this stupid idiot grin in broad daylight just THINKING ABOUT BEING AROUND THEM. I’d sleep easy with them in my head, shitty days became perfect once I spoke to them. THAT’s how I imagine feeling again someday. I think about feeling that way for someone again and it’s like the whole future opens up. Marriage is finding your best friend in the whole wide world and wanting to have a sleepover every single day, and to agree to it and then go around groaning like your freedom is being stolen is a HUGE disrespect. If you have the freedom to share your life with anyone you like and you throw it around like baggage you really can’t expect it to grow, can you? You gotta care about yourself a little more than that I think

[shrineart]

All of this.

[zohbugg]

Not to mention this mentality makes it’s way TO THE DAY OF THE WEDDING. How many weddings have we seen with something like this:

Like what kind of toxic mentality do you have to have to say this as the bride is about to walk down the aisle and marry someone who it’s now suggested doesn’t even want to be there?? How is this cute? How is this supposedly charming? This is supposed to be the person you love and want to be with! And not to mention that you send this down the aisle with a small child (the ring bearer or the flower girls)…I have a special loathing for things like this. 

[yamino]

Holy shit I didn’t know that was even a thing. This reminds me of a study I read about years ago with statistics on happiness/stability in relationships of people of various genders/orientations, and straight people were at the very bottom. (And lesbians were at the top! Not a huge surprise, given that women are generally more inclined to communicate and work out emotions and issues.)

[arielenhasarrived-deactivated20]

YOUR SPOUSE SHOULD BE YOUR BEST FRIEND

PERIOD

[lord-kitschener]

#this is seriously creepy

#and the fact that most people accept this as normal makes it even more creepy

[vampirezigzagoon]

[sorion]

So fucked up.  Sososo fucked up.

[draconym]

Let's make a dog

leg

ear

snout

length

tail

hair

Voting ended onApr 28, 2024

As with the horse poll, please regard these options as sliders. The extent to which each one deviates from 1/6th of the total will determine the amount that canine aspect deviates from the "average."

I will draw the dog we make. :)

[curseworm]

the secret cheat code for women is realizing you dont have to date men

[curseworm]

this doesnt just go for lesbians it goes for bi women and straight women too. i cant even count how many times straight women have told me “i wish i was a lesbian so i didnt have to date men” but guess what … u Dont have to date men 

[curseworm]

to be clear this also isnt necessarily saying ‘go date women instead!!’ its just saying…. u dont have to date men. u dont have to be dating women in order to not date men! in fact if ur not attracted to women at all please dont date women just as a substitute for men. but if dating men isnt making u happy… u dont have to do that. u dont have to make a space in ur life for men

[thoughtportal]

5 simple exercises to awaken dormant muscles

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[onemillionwordsofcrap]

I appreciate this video a lot--people don't realize how important it is to start slow if you're trying to come back from a completely sedentary lifestyle, and they get really hurt as a result. Straining your muscles too much, too suddenly can land you in the E.R. and the wrong joint injury can permanently affect your mobility, so please start with absolute basics and easy stretches!

[argumate]

you bottle Miette??

[dhavaer]

You crush Miette like the grape?

[digitaldiscipline]

brick up mother in basement for ONE THOUSAND YEARS

[tzikeh]

The Cask of Miettellado

[lazarus-lazuli]

it’s been said before but the fact this site used to let you edit other people’s posts is beyond unhinged. the potential for slander was next level, you really could just edit the body of posts that weren’t even your own and it’d look like the OP said it. just casually spread misinformation via reblog, the original post being lost to time. john green cock monologue. sayonara you weeaboo shits. they gave us way too much power. can you imagine if a website let you do that today? people would lose their fucking minds. sure, on twitter you can impersonate anybody, but you have to make your own tweets. they would never let you edit other people’s tweets! that’s stupid! it’s literally the worst feature any social media site could ever have! if it ever happened somewhere else, it would be by accident and fixed immediately! but on old school tumblr? yeah, you could edit someone’s childhood fear from vampires to danny devito, and we all just had to live like that for years. INSANE.

[pikachu-says-peekaboo]

@babytrain I AM PUTTING YOU ON BLAST???!!! MISS MA'AM DO YOU KNOW HOW ICONIC YOU ARE????

[kadiumz]

its snooseday!!!!!! (snoopy tuesday)