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[raspberrycheezecake]

Hello there!

My main (a blog mostly focused on fun fandom discussions & my own personal troubles) is @cheezeynoodles. This is a side for things I don’t want on that blog.

My general online name is Cicis/Cheeze/Iz. While I mostly go by Cheeze or Cicis on my main, here I mostly call myself Iz or Izey!

Things I think I’ll talk about, I think

> My shitty government. And other shitty governments

Most governments are shitty ngl.

> Being proship/profic

I’m not really much of a darkshipper outside of one or two ships I somewhat like, but darkshippers are very much welcome here and on my main!

> Being pro-paraphile

I don’t believe paraphilias should be considered sexualities, but I do think they deserve to be proud of who they are too.

Ofcourse, anti harmful contact.

> Racism, occasionally

I’m an Asian living in Asia, if that matters.

> Queer issues

Mostly transandrophobia, transmisogyny, exorsexism, and intersexism.

I’m not trans (questioning) and I’m perisex, though, so most of these topics will be here as reblogs as I am not equipped to start a discussion about this on my own.

Occasionally also other stuff about gender and sexualities

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Just like my main, I have no DNI. Anyone can interact. If I don’t like you, I’ll block you or something. BUT, before you interact, just know that I’m 15, in case that matters.

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Tag for original rant posts/thoughts, or reblogs of my own rant posts (be it from this blog or my main):

#iz has its own thoughts!

#shut up iz nobody cares

Tag for original posts & reblogs of my own posts that aren’t rants/controversial:

Tag for scheduled or queued post is the same as my main:

*Update: I’ve decided this tag will also be where I post actually serious vents, like about my suicidal tendencies. Normal posts about my daily life will still be over on my main 👍

#queueueued post

with FOUR "ue"s! That’s a lot of "ue"s! And they’re in a line! They’re in a queue!!

Tag for reblogs:

#reblog - empty reblogs

#iz being a bother - direct text additions

#izey’s footnote - additions, but in tags form

[thisisparamisia]

Genuinely why are you calling pedophiles MAPs? MAP was an attempt by child rapists to try and associate pedophiles with queer people and make their abuse of children seem legitimate. I swear to god every “pro para” person on this site only defends pedophilia, incest and zoophilia.

I've literally already addressed this. Multiple times in fact. It's even in my pinned. Do you people not look at anything before sending me questions like this?

Here's the answer to your question [link.]

Medical articles use the term MAP. MAP is just an umbrella term for pedophilia, hebephilia, and ephebophilia. Pedophilia refers ONLY to attraction/arousal to *prepubescent minors*, while MAP is for attraction/arousal to *any age of minor.*

You are perpetuating misinformation spread by a few loud bad-faith actors in the community.

It's literally been used in professional articles for over 13 years - for example, the paper "Navigating The Stigma of Pedophilia: The experiences of Nine Minor-Attracted Men in Canada." It's so commonly used, in fact, that you can *fully accidentally* stumble upon the term "minor-attracted" in studies centered around chronophiles.

Also, ofc, I support pedophiles, incestophiles, and zoophiles. I also support literally every other paraphilia too.

Yes, I talk a lot about demonized paraphilias, but thats because this is a SUBMISSION RUN ACCOUNT and incestophiles, MAPs, zoophiles, biastophiles/noncon paraphiles, necrophiles, and violence paraphiles suffer a lot of discrimination, and have nowhere else to vent.

A lot of other paraphiles tend to gravitate more towards sending their submissions to @this-is-antikink, but I gladly accept submissions of ANY PARAPHILIA, and have made that VERY CLEAR.

You're being so aggressive for literally no reason.

[raptorific]

I'm probably gonna get yelled at for saying this but sometimes something isn't a real problem in fandom, you just learned a Japanese word describing a general fandom practice and got scared and decided it meant "The Bad Ones" of that practice

[raptorific]

Whenever you see someone being like "we don't mind when women enjoy or even create m/m content, we just hate fujoshis" you are being racist. If you mean "I hate the way some female fans treat gay men like fetish objects" then say that, and we can have a conversation based on that, but "fujoshi" is, I cannot stress this enough, just a word for any woman who likes M/M content, for better or worse. It may have started out as a reclaimed insult (by the way, the insult was based on "liking gay shit makes you perverted and sinful," not "please respect the humanity of gay men") but it does not make a distinction between The Good Ones and The Bad Ones. You just decided to No True Scotsman it and that the English word for that should describe The Good Ones and the Japanese word for it should describe The Bad Ones

Same goes for the people I saw just the other day whose discord server explicitly disallowed "Yaoi" but said that M/M content was allowed. What they meant was "M/M content is allowed as long as it isn't pornographic and fetishistic." What they actually said was "M/M content is allowed, but M/M content is strictly forbidden," and expected you to understand that the Japan-Adjacent term has porn/fetish connotations while the English-language term for THE SAME THING refers to the "normal, non-perverted" version.

It'd be like if you used the word "cartoons" to refer to all Family-Friendly animation, regardless of style or country of origin, whether it's Japanese or American or French or whatever, and used the term "anime" to refer to all animated pornography regardless of style or country of origin. There's plenty of animated pornography that isn't Japanese! There's plenty of anime that's not pornographic! But this is the sort of thing you do when you say shit like "obviously women can read stories about gay men, but NO FUJOSHIS"

[mortimermcmirestinks]

OP is correct and smart for saying this. this is related to/a subset of how people are about non-fandom foreign words, too, like how people say "Christians worship God (good), Muslims worship Allah (bad and scary)" when gues swh. gu. guess what. gues s w hat Allah mea. guess what the word "Allah" means--!!

[vinterfeminism]

Everyone block bipedal-embarrassment. Blatantly obvious TERF sock puppet who supports the transmasc voices project and who is mass tagging lgbtq tags with rampant transmisogynistic hate, rapejacketing, and predator jacketing, and saying that transmasc on transfem abuse never happens and it's only the other way around. Don't harass, just block. We don't support people spamming transmisogynistic hate here.

[garygoldenbignaturals]

Recently a hate group known as "bogorbersihlgbt" committed acts of transmisogynistic violence against 15+ trans women that took place in Bogor, West Java. Anyone willing to help out the victims can do so in the form of reporting the account @bogorbersihlgbt on instagram and encourage others to do so as well, and those who have the means to donate financially can do so via bank transfer:

[Bank Mandiri no. rek. 1290012666117 a.n. Arsido Marbun, WhatsApp [phone]]

(source, trigger warning for descriptions and video screenshots of the acts of violence that were enacted. more detaills are provided in this linked Instagram post as well.)

With our government recently targetting the LGBTQ+ community more and more it's our responsibility to help out those who are most vulnerable to these hate crimes. Existing as a visibly queer person is getting increasingly more dangerous so we must stand for and protect our trans sisters in this sociopolitical climate.

[jasmine-throne]

Their previous instagram account has dissappeared because of the report wave but they've remade as 'bogorbersihl93t', report that one too please

[red-garden]

I need everyone start responding to people who call criticism of zionism/Israel “antisemitism” by treating those people as antisemitic themselves. As Matt Lieb of Bad Hasbara fame explained very eloquently, calling anti-zionism antisemitism tacitly assigns genocide and apartheid as a Jewish value, which is antisemitic.

[sweetashe]

“My racist phase” your racist phase traumatized me. Your racist phase made me insecure about my skin and hair and nose. Your racist phase made me terrified of white people. Your racist phase was just a phase for you but it traumatized so many black kids. And yet you act like a victim. No amount of ‘I didn’t know’ will change that you fucking hurt people.

[thebeautyofblackneutrality]

saw a twitter post about how a non-binary person was bothered by people sayin’ “they is” instead of “they are” and it’s definitely a reason why i created this blog and the blacknbculture blog. no matter how pro-black or anti-racism a white nigga will be they will always find some way to criticize “ghetto”, “trashy”, or “lazy” ways of speakin’ and bein’.

i cannot speak my dialect around white without havin’ to assimilate unless i want people to mock me or just laugh at everything i say, even if i’m actually mad. other times, i just feel like i come off as rude to white people. in english i see examples of my native dialect be used as a “incorrect examples” of Real English. the reason i write in my dialect is so i don’t lose it bein’ surrounded by so many white people who only tolerate me as long as i throw my culture away. usin’ “is” instead of “are” in African American English (AAE) is the most common feature in the dialect i’d argue it’s part of what make it so distinct, along with the accent as well. i will not be fooled by white people bothered by grammar, cause 99% it’s racism they probably don’t even know of.

so, i will be sayin’ “they is”, actually. and i’ll say it proudly.

[raspberrycheezecake]

Have you guys heard about the Chinese actor who now sells vegetables due to being replaced by AI in his acting job?

[cheezeynoodles]

A small rant about FOMO and peer pressure, from a girlie who has, subtly and unsubtly, changed parts of its mannerisms so that it could stop being excluded by her peers

I want to start this post off by saying that this is entirely based off my perception of my personal experiences, not on any scientific facts.

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Lately, I’ve often heard the sentiment of “Peer pressure doesn’t really exist lol, that’s just in the movies. It’s actually FOMO.”

And I have a few thoughts on this.

First point:

Yes. A lot of what is perceived as “peer pressure” is internal, and is indeed more accurately defined/referred to as FOMO. It’s this phenomenon where people around us do things and never explicitly tells us to also start doing it, but we feel the need to do it so we’d fit in.

And I have definitely fallen for this too! Back then, I started using profanity a lot and learned a few sexual jokes because that is what my “friends” did.

They never verbally said stuff like “Why don’t you swear, you’re such a loser”. They’re not cartoon bullies. But it was present in how they talked around me. The way they censored themselves so obviously, because I was seen as the “weird, innocent kid” that they weren’t allowed to cuss or talk about sexual stuff near.

It felt strange, like my “innocence” was some burden they needed to carry. So I became like them. I didn’t become more accepted or anything, I was still the weird kid, but they did stop censoring themselves around me. I was... happy enough with that.

There are a few other things I started doing and stuff I stopped using because I wanted to be like my peers in hope they’d love and accept me as much as they love and accept eachother and what seemed like everyone else except me and a few other “weird kids”.

So yes, a lot of “peer pressure” is indeed more of a FOMO thing.

But ALSO!

My second point:

While the cases in those high school movies are very much exaggerated,

I have indeed felt firsthand that kind of peer pressure. Not my FOMO, not my internal desperation to be liked, but genuine pressure from my peers, be it obvious or not.

They didn’t call me weird to my face. But the comments were there.

“Oh... You don’t have Instagram/TikTok?” “No/I have an account but it’s inactive since I deleted the app” “Oh, why not tho? You should install it again.”/“Could you follow me tho?”/“But this is the class/grade/school account, yk! You should follow it. We’re a family. (← Why the heck do they sound like corporations??)”

“You should try this [beauty product]. It’d fit your face super well!” (I’d tell them I don’t use that stuff due to not liking those textures on my face n stuff) “Awh, but this would be so good for you! It’s your shade/perfect for your skin/etc. Besides, this is what grown girls do.”

It’s not extremely often, but it has happened!

I didn’t really succumb to that type of peer pressure since by the time they started doing it, I was already done trying to fit in and kind of just had my own little circle with very few acquaintances outside of my immediate group.

But it does happen.

It’s not fair to dismiss all peer pressure as internal, because even though it’s not as dramatic as in musicals and such, external pressure from peers does exist and can be just as damaging/could affect someone as much as their own FOMO.

I have definitely been left out of old friend groups because I didn’t do something they all liked to do. They literally just stopped talking to me. That’s definitely not my FOMO.

Summary

My end point here is that while the threat of being excluded by our peers is often a fear driven by our own insecurities and not by reality, sometimes that threat is real and people are forced to conform unless they want to be lonely.

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And... that’s it. I have no idea what this entire thing means, these are just a few thoughts that I had after seeing those videos abt “What peer pressure actually is”.

Okie, bye!

[raspberrycheezecake]

Remember, no matter how funny or relatable their ads are, big corporations are still big corporations.

They are not your friend, or a friendly neighbor who likes talking to you. Most of them only want money.

Advertisements lie. They are made to show off the good parts of a product and make it seem appealing, while being as secretive as possible with the negatives.

Even if the company is one of the “good” ones, there is always a nonzero chance that they could turn around and start getting greedy like the others.

I’m not saying you should never trust any company at all no matter how much they prove their morals, I’m just giving you a warning/reminder:

Try Your Best To Not Get Attached To Any Big Corporations, no matter how good they may seem.

Trust them and use their services if they prove they are worth trusting, but always be ready for any bad choices they may make and prepare accordingly.

[writer-that-never-writes]

I keep getting glimmer fics ads literally everywhere I go on this website

[raspberrycheezecake]

Is it this one??

I keep getting it too!!

It seemed so cool at first, I didn’t know it was AI. Sigh. Why is everything AI these days?

Also, on the topic of ads. Why are there ads EVERYWHERE. AND WHY ARE MOST OF THE ADS NOWADAYS AI TOO???

AGHH it is so frustrating.

[dailymanners]

Do not ever be rude or condescending to someone who asks "obvious" questions, no matter how obvious or silly you think the question is.

For one, in some cultures asking an obvious question is just a polite way of acknowledging the situation. So for example, if you just put your jacket on and start clocking out, a co-worker asking "oh, you done for the day and heading out now?" doesn't deserve you sneering at them like an idiot, scoffing, and saying "uh duh, just like I do every day at this time" when it's likely they knew the answer, but were just asking as a polite way of acknowledging the situation.

But even if they were genuinely unsure that you're leaving even though it seems obvious to you from context clues, so what? What does being rude and condescending to them achieve? Maybe they couldn't sleep last night so they're really out of it today, maybe they're dissociating, maybe they're about to pass out from low blood sugar, maybe some other employees sometimes put on their jacket and only clock out briefly but come back.

There's all sorts of reasons they could be confused about whether or not you're leaving, but intentionally making them feel bad achieves nothing except, well, making them feel bad. Either way, they're not hurting you or anyone by asking a "stupid" question, so there's no point in being rude about it. If you still want to make them feel bad about themselves for looking "stupid" when they weren't hurting anyone, that is the mindset of bullies and abusers.

[love-ardour-anarchism]

Hatred of transmasculinity doesn’t just come hand in hand with hatred of masculine women, butches and especially transfems and trans women who don’t conform to rigid normative standards of what they’re supposed to and allowed to look like: it is the second edge of the very same blade.

To transandrophobes the archetypal masculine trans woman, transfem butch or nonbinary person not prioritizing passing over gender identity, expression and comfort in the two is at best seen as an unfortunate creature at the side lines and at worst a harmful caricature that perpetuates transphobic stereotypes.

Butch transfems (like me) are accepted by this crowd only if we verbally and ideologically distance ourselves from the “wrong kind of masculinity” ergo anything that looks an arbitrary amount too much like “manhood”.

Our joyful gender expression is seen as a reminder of their internalized dysphoria and self hatred.

And all of that is ALSO transmisogyny in its entirety; policing and marginalizing trans women and transfems for not being conforming enough to hegemonic stereotypes.

[raspberrycheezecake]

I don’t understand the amount of people who claim to hold a proship-profic stance, and yet are still paramisic.

I thought the pro-fiction community has agreed long ago that “thought crimes are not real”, so why is it different for paraphilias?

If someone who likes young fictional characters sexually turns around and abuses a real life little girl, it wouldn’t be due to their attraction to young fictional characters, but their conscious decision to abuse a real girl. We (profic people) agree on that, right?

It’s the same logic here. If a pedophile abused children, that wouldn’t be because they’re a pedophile, it would be because they chose to abuse children. If a zoophile sexually abuses an animal, it is not their zoophilia that makes them bad, it is their choice to abuse an animal.

Stop associating simple thoughts (that are often unwanted) with one’s morality. And recognize that our stance of “what you like in fiction won’t make you do it irl” is applicable for paraphilias—“what you are attracted to will not make you actively act harmfully on that attraction unless you choose to act on it harmfully”.

[vanglaggle]

IT'S CALLED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! COMPASSION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT EMPATHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE WORD YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IS COMPASSION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[auxins-insanities]

this disability pride month lets be kinder to folks with moral ocd . no more “if you really care about this minority , you’ll reblog this post” , “someone will die if you don’t reblog this” , etc etc , and all other kinds of guilt tripping reblog bait . at the VERY LEAST tag your reblog bait so we can filter it out and avoid unnecessary spirals . it’s 2026 , we need to move past using guilt to get engagement .