Life, as expected?

[pitbolshevik]

my absolute favorite genre of tourist is British People who underestimate how stupid big the US is

[wild-west-wind]

It’s like ALL Europeans! People show up to my job at like 11AM saying “I need to get to the city for my flight by 3, what can I see between now and then?” and I get to tell them “Well if you leave RIGHT NOW you MIGHT be able to make your flight at 3″ and watch them flap around like a dying fish.

I had a dude say he was hoping to take a day trip to Mt Rushmore after doing the main famous thing at my park, and he got PISSED when I told him that it was a 17 hour round trip. “That’s unacceptable!” he said, like we had just moved it further a week earlier.

A family once stopped in and said they were trying to get to a random small town in Missouri and were flabbergasted when I said that I had never heard of it, and that I had no way of looking up where it was, and basically just giving them directions to get to the city due east of where we were so they could go to the library and print out directions (they also never like that we don’t have wide ranging cell service. We got working internet last summer. This isn’t news.)

[cabalt]

Size culture shock is such a huge thing. I’m from Northern Ireland so for the longest time the relatively small distance I could travel felt like “the most” (even now a trip to Bangor or Derry feels massive even though it’s like, and hour/hour thirty tops).

Even when I did go somewhere else as a kid, since the structure of a trip would be dictated by my parents or like, teachers n stuff, nothing really felt “big”.

But for uni I lived in England (I know) and even that felt so much more massive than anything I was used to. I was in a shopping center that I feel could comfortably house most of Belfast city centre.

So I can’t even beging to imagine how overwhelmed I’ll be if I ever go to like, mainland Europe again, or the states 😵

[alithographica]

I’m from Phoenix, AZ. When I was a kid we used to drive to Los Angeles to see my grandparents 1-2 times each year, so in my brain LA is fairly close. Unbearably dull drive on account of the scenery, but close. It’s about 6 hours.

A few years ago I did a little road trip around Norway and averaged about 2-3 hours of driving most days. When I would mention this to Norwegians, multiple times they looked completely aghast and asked me if I was okay. Wasn’t I tired, how can I stand that much car time?

I didn’t know how to explain to them that I would travel 3 hours just for food I’m craving.

[elasmata]

Ah, memories of driving a 4hr round trip every weekend to see my now-wife. It was a mountain pass, too, so I’d have to check the weather constantly during the winter to make sure it wasn’t closed because of avalanche or blizzard conditions. And I’d make sure I had music, podcasts, and maps preloaded and saved to my phone because cell service was spotty for a good portion of the drive.

Sometimes during our visit we’d want to visit the nearby city, which was a 2hr round trip (or more) through a winding canyon road with no exits in between.

[amurderof]

brit friend: i don’t see my family often because they’re so far away me: oh no! that’s awful, where do they live? brit friend: 2 hours by car me: … i used to drive 6 hours roundtrip for daytrips to go to the closest mall

[captainlordauditor]

As a little demonstration of this, my brain is having trouble quantifying 2-3 hours of driving a day as a “road trip”. I’m from the East Coast of the US, where things are generally much closer together, and I still don’t consider something a road trip unless it’s at least 4 hours of driving a day. 

[gayrab]

I drive 2hr a day to go to work and back so….I don’t really consider something a road trip unless it’s 4 hrs or more or if I’m going to a state I don’t border (I’m on the East Coast)

[rosefire]

As a kid, we did 14 hour car trips with breaks but no overnight stop anytime we visited my grandparents. Three hours one way is reasonable to see people and come back the same day. I am clearly from the states.

Also people get angry that certain areas of the state have traffic patterns where you can leave at 5pm or at 7pm and arrive to your destination at the exact same time. Commuter traffic.

[ladygobpire]

sit back and don't relax as I take you on a journey that is full of so much psychic damage <3

remember all those months ago when i said i was going to make a uquiz? yeah

[ladygobpire]

i can’t wait to meet the incredibly messed up person who gets the extremely rare “???” result

[rslashrats]

new fun trend: take this quiz and tell me your score

[corpsebod]

12/12!

[lovinglystar]

[ID: black text on a white background that reads, “Score: You identified 12 out of 12 correctly.” /end ID]

[rosefire]

11/12

[ralfmaximus]

Youngkin asks Virginia parents to turn in teachers for teaching 'divisive' concepts

“Report your kid’s teacher for admitting racism exists” is apparently going to be to 2022 as “report your coworker for communism” was to the early 1950s.

Oh good, they set up an email account to collect reports on teachers teaching unapproved stuff. Here is the address:

[email protected]

Posted here only as a public service, so you don’t accidentally send copies of the Bee Movie script to that address or otherwise fill it with trash. Please don’t let that happen. I’m begging you. Please. Stop. Don’t.

[rosefire]

It would be a terrible idea to send them information that they don't need. Please be careful what you send. Their servers might not be able to handle too much information at once.

[rosefire]

I promise I am still alive and around and will fight you if you try to claim women's behavior causes or prevents rape. I am fine if this is my only legacy.

[spookybuttons-deactivated202101]

thinking about the time they sent me a seven year old autistic patient to investigate if he was suffering abuse because in every psychological test he kept drawing awful monsters

and I start the consultation already miserable as fuck and I give the kid some pen and paper so I can maybe communicate and see what's on his mind

and then I go WAIT A GODDAMN SECOND I KNOW THOSE MONSTERS

turns out the kid just had a special interest in Five Nights at Freddy's

[spookybuttons-deactivated202101]

I pointed at the monster and went "That's Freddy!" and I've never seen a kid that ecstatic in my life

the mom looked at me as if her son and I belonged at the same satanic cult and that's why I knew the names of the demons in his head

I wrote back to psychologist like "I'm not sure how to explain this but looking up five nights at freddys might bring you progress with this patient"

[spookybuttons-deactivated202101]

at some point the nurses realized the autistic children and I were like, Really Vibing

so they decided to highkey just appoint all of them to my day and it took me almost a month to realize that the fact that I kept arriving and finding that all of today’s appointments were autistic children was Not A Coincidence 

anyway this one time there was a kid who was really into christianity but it was like, specifically angels 

so I’m trying to start up a conversation with him and I ask what he’s reading and he goes “do you know what a nephilim is”

and like for one hellish second my soul is suckerpunched out of my body and thrown straight into supernatural-fanfic-on-wattpad hell, and then I reassume control of my flesh prison, ignoring the mental edits of Dean and Castiel making out, and go “Aren’t those the guys who are half human and half angel?”

and the kid was so fucking happy but the mom was staring at me like ‘why are you privy to this bit of occult jesus lore’

and my heathen lesbian of a self just looks at her and goes 

“i love bible”

[galahadwilder]

Jefferson figuring out that his son is Spider-Man but instead of telling him “hey you blew your secret” and possibly freaking him out, starts quietly training him in correct police procedure (without him knowing) while also repeatedly talking about how he had issues with the old Spider-Man but the new one seems like a brave and responsible young man and how he would be totally proud of him if he were this guy’s parents

[galahadwilder]

Jefferson: you’ve got everything you need for the week? Books? Computer? Spray paint? Web fluid? Shoes?

Miles: wait what was that middle thing

Jefferson: spray paint! I support my son’s artistic endeavors

[drmariusvonraum]

AISBSKSHISGSIWHEJFSHSJHDHSUEHSKSHWKA

[galahadwilder]

Rio: okay but is he seeing that ballerina spider-girl or not? He seems very fond of her

Jefferson: well he’s very insistent that she’s Spider-Woman but honestly he always seems to want to act professional when he’s in the mask so I can’t tell

Rio: you could ask him

Jefferson: honey we need to let him have his privacy he doesn’t want us to know

LATER

Rio: I wonder if the new Spider-Man has a girlfriend he seems like he’d be very nice

Miles, sweating: mom are you trying to set me up with Spider-Man

[fishingisuniversal]

I’m sorry, but Miles Morales pretending to date Spider-man to keep his secret identity while his parents 100% know that he’s Spider-man is PEAK humor

[shobogan]

they invite him to dinner just to see what miles comes up with

[calvin-arium]

It’s here !! The guide for two-legged people who don’t know how to draw wheelchairs !!! 7 pages of infodump ! Disclaimer : I don’t know everything, I have one (1) experience of wheelchair user who used both bad and good chairs, and I share what I learned.

Image description :

1) Calvin in his wheelchair saying “yo” under a huge title “how to draw manual wheelchairs properly by Calvin Arium, a wheelchair user comic artist”.

2) A character says “my character self propels in a chair that was outdated in 1970 lol” Calvin says “so it looks like you two legged people don’t know the difference between an hospital chair and a chair made to be independant” an arrow point the crapppy chair, saying “we never want to see this again”

a bubble says “the hospital chair is extremely unpractical, tough considering it’s cheaper than a good custom chair a lot of us have only this”

3) a character hurt himself trying to reach the wheels of the hospital chair. Several arrows point why the chair is unpractical : “high backrest restrain shoulders movement” “huge armrest restrains wheel access” “separated footrest : amovible, cheap, bulky” “x structure, foldable but heavy” “huge front casters for stability” “heavy wheels”

4) Several arrows point an active wheelchair (the KSL by Küshall) : “usually no armrest” “a low backrest allow more movement” “light, design, ferning expersive” “special cushion to avoind injuries” “knee angle is usually 90°” “one single piece of frame, sometimes entirely welded” “weight : from 4 to 10kg” “often rigid” “center of the wheel is the center of gravity” “higher quality wheels : less spikes”

5) A hand grab different parts of the wheel, pushing harder in the second half. Bubbles says “some have gloves, some don’t. The hand must grab the biggest area possible. Less movement = more energy. This is a common but not only way to push.Calvin is on his back wheels, rolling on grass and dirt bubble says “popping a wheelie is when a wheelchair user rolls on their back wheels to roll on every complicated surface.

6) several drawings illustrate the folding frame, the ergonomic but rigid and expensive backrest, the separated footrest (only for folding frame), the handles, the folding handles, athe amovibles handles, or no handles, the cool fancy loopwheels, the pretty custom colors 

7) More Features ! The fancy rigid-foldable frame, the anti tippers (sometimes used by beginners), the motorization (wheels, smart drive) when propelling yourself is difficult Calvin says “and now vroom vroom motherfuckers”

[rosefire]

Yeah so Rowling is a dumpster fire but I dedicated roughly half of my life to this damn series so have a WIP of Black Albino Luna Lovegood

[bigfatphallusy]

[kiskolee]

THIS.

[professorbutterscotch]

I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

[purplespacecats]

I… fuck.

[casuallystudious-blog]

Yeah, basically.

[avoiding-catatonic-surrender-de]

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

[rosefire]

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

So help her change her behaviour so she’s safe from predators then.

[rosefire]

Nope. There is no behavioral change that will keep her safe from predators. There is no attire, no behavior, no precaution you can take to keep you safe. The only 100% guaranteed way to keep yourself from being raped is to not have a corporeal body or come into contact with zero other human beings.

That’s the point. Stop focusing on what she’s “doing wrong” and start focusing on how YOU can stop rapists. Like not just standing by when someone spikes her drink, or making sure she wants to go home with that person, or educating people that “getting her in the mood” with intoxication is still rape, or that you need enthusiastic consent from both parties or IT’S STILL RAPE. Stop insinuating that it’s her fault she’s getting raped and not that we are letting it happen as bystanders and community members. Her behavior has NOTHING to do with if she is raped or not.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

“There is no behavioural change that will keep her safe from predators”

This is just absolutely untrue.

Not getting so drunk you can’t get home safely, making sure you’re staying in a group, not hooking up with strangers, looking after your drinks..

Someone isn’t asking to be raped because they don’t follow this advice, but they’re increasing their chances of it happening with each piece of advice they ignore in favour of relying on what “shouldn’t” happen when it comes to interactions with complete strangers in seedy environments.

If you want her home safe as much as you want yourself home safe then stop teaching people that there’s nothing they can do.

[rosefire]

Why are you repeating this like it’s some kind of protective mantra? Like if you tell a girl enough times to not drink, and not drink alone, and to be constantly vigilant against strangers that it’ll magically keep her from being raped? The statistics on rape victims don’t support you. If that same dusty advice worked, we would have eradicated or extremely reduced rape years ago. And we all know that hasn’t happened.

I didn’t say there’s nothing that -people- can do. I gave you a long list of behaviors to prevent rape that have zero to do with blaming the victim, and yet you’re going to double down that I’m the ineffective one?

Nope. Not buying it. Stop telling rape victims that their actions in any way led to their being raped, because they’re not out there raping themselves. Stop acting like rapists are this wild, unknown element and not people you talk to in elevators and see in grocery stores and go to parties with. Rapists are not wild animals or traffic accidents or damaging weather phenomena. They are PEOPLE. And the sooner we focus on preventing them from raping instead of on telling victims how their choices bought them their outcomes, the better.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

Giving preparatory advice to people applies to all situations. An individuals suffering isn’t caused by their preparation? Preparing for things isn’t an admission of guilt if something bad happens? Where are you even getting victim blaming from? If there’s a high terror threat in London the advice would be to avoid the place, but sometimes that goes against your plans so you have to take the risk. No ones gonna blame you for getting beheaded but there is a list of things you could have done to decrease that risk. It’s just reality.

Asking criminals not to commit crimes isn’t going to change anything otherwise the law existing would have brought crime to zero.

[rosefire]

Where did I suggest “asking criminals to not commit crimes” in any of this? Where did I say “the solution to rape is to politely ask rapists to stop raping people”?

Rape is not equivalent to a terror attack. You don’t get prior notice that rapists are in your area and to seek shelter. Rape occurs in such a wide array of circumstances that avoiding all or even most of them is impossible. And suggesting that victims of rape could have prevented their rape (or ‘eased their chances of rape’ or whatever spin you prefer) by following your handy advice is 100% victim blaming.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

So under none of the myriad of circumstances in which rape might occur is there any advice that can be given to help reduce the risks? You are so unbelievably stupid.

[rosefire]

I promise you, none of your advice to potential rape victims is new.

None of it will help reduce risks.

You are focusing on teaching the wrong population. You think you’re charging in to save potential rape victims, but you’re only telling them in the end that their rape is their own fault for not listening to you.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

“None of it will help reduce risks”

So staying in a group on a night out doesn’t reduce someone’s risk of being raped? Like what is your answer to the undeniable facts of life? What is even your issie with the advice?

How far down do we want to magnify responsibility here? It’d be just as much their fault they were raped for leaving the house as it were any other actions they’ve taken of we want to go by your logic.

You are seriously fucked in the head to view things like good advice as attacks on your character. We should all be able to freely act without consequence but we aren’t there yet so deal with the situation as you can rather than dealing with it by… what? What is your option for dealing with rape during a time of So called “rape culture”? Because you’re saying women can’t be advised and neither can rapists so?

[rosefire]

Your advice doesn't do shit statistically, no.

Enjoy your world that's only populated by rapists, rape victims and women you think you're helping by telling them how to live their lives. I'm through repeating myself.

[bigfatphallusy]

[kiskolee]

THIS.

[professorbutterscotch]

I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

[purplespacecats]

I… fuck.

[casuallystudious-blog]

Yeah, basically.

[avoiding-catatonic-surrender-de]

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

[rosefire]

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

So help her change her behaviour so she’s safe from predators then.

[rosefire]

Nope. There is no behavioral change that will keep her safe from predators. There is no attire, no behavior, no precaution you can take to keep you safe. The only 100% guaranteed way to keep yourself from being raped is to not have a corporeal body or come into contact with zero other human beings.

That’s the point. Stop focusing on what she’s “doing wrong” and start focusing on how YOU can stop rapists. Like not just standing by when someone spikes her drink, or making sure she wants to go home with that person, or educating people that “getting her in the mood” with intoxication is still rape, or that you need enthusiastic consent from both parties or IT’S STILL RAPE. Stop insinuating that it’s her fault she’s getting raped and not that we are letting it happen as bystanders and community members. Her behavior has NOTHING to do with if she is raped or not.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

“There is no behavioural change that will keep her safe from predators”

This is just absolutely untrue.

Not getting so drunk you can’t get home safely, making sure you’re staying in a group, not hooking up with strangers, looking after your drinks..

Someone isn’t asking to be raped because they don’t follow this advice, but they’re increasing their chances of it happening with each piece of advice they ignore in favour of relying on what “shouldn’t” happen when it comes to interactions with complete strangers in seedy environments.

If you want her home safe as much as you want yourself home safe then stop teaching people that there’s nothing they can do.

[rosefire]

Why are you repeating this like it’s some kind of protective mantra? Like if you tell a girl enough times to not drink, and not drink alone, and to be constantly vigilant against strangers that it’ll magically keep her from being raped? The statistics on rape victims don’t support you. If that same dusty advice worked, we would have eradicated or extremely reduced rape years ago. And we all know that hasn’t happened.

I didn’t say there’s nothing that -people- can do. I gave you a long list of behaviors to prevent rape that have zero to do with blaming the victim, and yet you’re going to double down that I’m the ineffective one?

Nope. Not buying it. Stop telling rape victims that their actions in any way led to their being raped, because they’re not out there raping themselves. Stop acting like rapists are this wild, unknown element and not people you talk to in elevators and see in grocery stores and go to parties with. Rapists are not wild animals or traffic accidents or damaging weather phenomena. They are PEOPLE. And the sooner we focus on preventing them from raping instead of on telling victims how their choices bought them their outcomes, the better.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

Giving preparatory advice to people applies to all situations. An individuals suffering isn’t caused by their preparation? Preparing for things isn’t an admission of guilt if something bad happens? Where are you even getting victim blaming from? If there’s a high terror threat in London the advice would be to avoid the place, but sometimes that goes against your plans so you have to take the risk. No ones gonna blame you for getting beheaded but there is a list of things you could have done to decrease that risk. It’s just reality.

Asking criminals not to commit crimes isn’t going to change anything otherwise the law existing would have brought crime to zero.

[rosefire]

Where did I suggest “asking criminals to not commit crimes” in any of this? Where did I say “the solution to rape is to politely ask rapists to stop raping people”?

Rape is not equivalent to a terror attack. You don’t get prior notice that rapists are in your area and to seek shelter. Rape occurs in such a wide array of circumstances that avoiding all or even most of them is impossible. And suggesting that victims of rape could have prevented their rape (or ‘eased their chances of rape’ or whatever spin you prefer) by following your handy advice is 100% victim blaming.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

So under none of the myriad of circumstances in which rape might occur is there any advice that can be given to help reduce the risks? You are so unbelievably stupid.

[rosefire]

I promise you, none of your advice to potential rape victims is new.

None of it will help reduce risks.

You are focusing on teaching the wrong population. You think you're charging in to save potential rape victims, but you're only telling them in the end that their rape is their own fault for not listening to you.

[bigfatphallusy]

[kiskolee]

THIS.

[professorbutterscotch]

I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

[purplespacecats]

I… fuck.

[casuallystudious-blog]

Yeah, basically.

[avoiding-catatonic-surrender-de]

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

[rosefire]

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

So help her change her behaviour so she’s safe from predators then.

[rosefire]

Nope. There is no behavioral change that will keep her safe from predators. There is no attire, no behavior, no precaution you can take to keep you safe. The only 100% guaranteed way to keep yourself from being raped is to not have a corporeal body or come into contact with zero other human beings.

That’s the point. Stop focusing on what she’s “doing wrong” and start focusing on how YOU can stop rapists. Like not just standing by when someone spikes her drink, or making sure she wants to go home with that person, or educating people that “getting her in the mood” with intoxication is still rape, or that you need enthusiastic consent from both parties or IT’S STILL RAPE. Stop insinuating that it’s her fault she’s getting raped and not that we are letting it happen as bystanders and community members. Her behavior has NOTHING to do with if she is raped or not.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

“There is no behavioural change that will keep her safe from predators”

This is just absolutely untrue.

Not getting so drunk you can’t get home safely, making sure you’re staying in a group, not hooking up with strangers, looking after your drinks..

Someone isn’t asking to be raped because they don’t follow this advice, but they’re increasing their chances of it happening with each piece of advice they ignore in favour of relying on what “shouldn’t” happen when it comes to interactions with complete strangers in seedy environments.

If you want her home safe as much as you want yourself home safe then stop teaching people that there’s nothing they can do.

[rosefire]

Why are you repeating this like it’s some kind of protective mantra? Like if you tell a girl enough times to not drink, and not drink alone, and to be constantly vigilant against strangers that it’ll magically keep her from being raped? The statistics on rape victims don’t support you. If that same dusty advice worked, we would have eradicated or extremely reduced rape years ago. And we all know that hasn’t happened.

I didn’t say there’s nothing that -people- can do. I gave you a long list of behaviors to prevent rape that have zero to do with blaming the victim, and yet you’re going to double down that I’m the ineffective one?

Nope. Not buying it. Stop telling rape victims that their actions in any way led to their being raped, because they’re not out there raping themselves. Stop acting like rapists are this wild, unknown element and not people you talk to in elevators and see in grocery stores and go to parties with. Rapists are not wild animals or traffic accidents or damaging weather phenomena. They are PEOPLE. And the sooner we focus on preventing them from raping instead of on telling victims how their choices bought them their outcomes, the better.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

Giving preparatory advice to people applies to all situations. An individuals suffering isn’t caused by their preparation? Preparing for things isn’t an admission of guilt if something bad happens? Where are you even getting victim blaming from? If there’s a high terror threat in London the advice would be to avoid the place, but sometimes that goes against your plans so you have to take the risk. No ones gonna blame you for getting beheaded but there is a list of things you could have done to decrease that risk. It’s just reality.

Asking criminals not to commit crimes isn’t going to change anything otherwise the law existing would have brought crime to zero.

[rosefire]

Where did I suggest "asking criminals to not commit crimes" in any of this? Where did I say "the solution to rape is to politely ask rapists to stop raping people"?

Rape is not equivalent to a terror attack. You don't get prior notice that rapists are in your area and to seek shelter. Rape occurs in such a wide array of circumstances that avoiding all or even most of them is impossible. And suggesting that victims of rape could have prevented their rape (or 'eased their chances of rape' or whatever spin you prefer) by following your handy advice is 100% victim blaming.

[bigfatphallusy]

[kiskolee]

THIS.

[professorbutterscotch]

I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

[purplespacecats]

I… fuck.

[casuallystudious-blog]

Yeah, basically.

[avoiding-catatonic-surrender-de]

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

[rosefire]

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

So help her change her behaviour so she’s safe from predators then.

[rosefire]

Nope. There is no behavioral change that will keep her safe from predators. There is no attire, no behavior, no precaution you can take to keep you safe. The only 100% guaranteed way to keep yourself from being raped is to not have a corporeal body or come into contact with zero other human beings.

That’s the point. Stop focusing on what she’s “doing wrong” and start focusing on how YOU can stop rapists. Like not just standing by when someone spikes her drink, or making sure she wants to go home with that person, or educating people that “getting her in the mood” with intoxication is still rape, or that you need enthusiastic consent from both parties or IT’S STILL RAPE. Stop insinuating that it’s her fault she’s getting raped and not that we are letting it happen as bystanders and community members. Her behavior has NOTHING to do with if she is raped or not.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

“There is no behavioural change that will keep her safe from predators”

This is just absolutely untrue.

Not getting so drunk you can’t get home safely, making sure you’re staying in a group, not hooking up with strangers, looking after your drinks..

Someone isn’t asking to be raped because they don’t follow this advice, but they’re increasing their chances of it happening with each piece of advice they ignore in favour of relying on what “shouldn’t” happen when it comes to interactions with complete strangers in seedy environments.

If you want her home safe as much as you want yourself home safe then stop teaching people that there’s nothing they can do.

[rosefire]

Why are you repeating this like it's some kind of protective mantra? Like if you tell a girl enough times to not drink, and not drink alone, and to be constantly vigilant against strangers that it'll magically keep her from being raped? The statistics on rape victims don't support you. If that same dusty advice worked, we would have eradicated or extremely reduced rape years ago. And we all know that hasn't happened.

I didn't say there's nothing that -people- can do. I gave you a long list of behaviors to prevent rape that have zero to do with blaming the victim, and yet you're going to double down that I'm the ineffective one?

Nope. Not buying it. Stop telling rape victims that their actions in any way led to their being raped, because they're not out there raping themselves. Stop acting like rapists are this wild, unknown element and not people you talk to in elevators and see in grocery stores and go to parties with. Rapists are not wild animals or traffic accidents or damaging weather phenomena. They are PEOPLE. And the sooner we focus on preventing them from raping instead of on telling victims how their choices bought them their outcomes, the better.

[bigfatphallusy]

[kiskolee]

THIS.

[professorbutterscotch]

I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

[purplespacecats]

I… fuck.

[casuallystudious-blog]

Yeah, basically.

[avoiding-catatonic-surrender-de]

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

[rosefire]

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

[whodidhetellyouthatto]

So help her change her behaviour so she’s safe from predators then.

[rosefire]

Nope. There is no behavioral change that will keep her safe from predators. There is no attire, no behavior, no precaution you can take to keep you safe. The only 100% guaranteed way to keep yourself from being raped is to not have a corporeal body or come into contact with zero other human beings.

That's the point. Stop focusing on what she's "doing wrong" and start focusing on how YOU can stop rapists. Like not just standing by when someone spikes her drink, or making sure she wants to go home with that person, or educating people that "getting her in the mood" with intoxication is still rape, or that you need enthusiastic consent from both parties or IT'S STILL RAPE. Stop insinuating that it's her fault she's getting raped and not that we are letting it happen as bystanders and community members. Her behavior has NOTHING to do with if she is raped or not.

[rosefire]

I absolutely love your blog! That's it, no questions. Just wanted you and everyone that could see this know how awesome you are! Please keep posting. ❤️

Thank you so much!!

[pervocracy]

When someone disagrees with you online and demands you prove your point to their satisfaction by writing a complete and logically sound defense including citations, you can save a lot of time by not doing that.

Bro, I’ve known you for twelve seconds and enjoyed none of them, I’m not taking homework assignments from you.

[pervocracy]

This got a lot of responses from people pointing out that evidence is a key part of intellectual inquiry, discourse, and debate.  That being able to support your beliefs is a key critical thinking skill.  Which is 100% true.

Except that you don’t actually have to participate in intellectual discourse any time some fucko on the Internet tells you to.

There’s a vast difference between “this is an important thing to be able to do,” and “this is a thing that you must be continuously available to perform in public for any stranger who asks.”

[rosefire]

If someone's demanding a dissertation, remember the part where they are not offering you a doctorate, they are not qualified to offer you a doctorate, and THEY CAN RESEARCH TOO.

If they're making the goal posts, they can go reach them themselves.

[rosefire]

Panic! at the Disco went from "Will you dance to this beat" to "You'll dance to anything" in just six years.