“snow white is problematic because kissing someone without consent is SA so it’s promoting SA”
do none of you know what TRUE LOVE’S KISS is?? you’re telling me you wouldn’t be fucking pissed if your TRUE LOVE found you stuck in a sleeping CURSE and just left you like that?? when all they had to do was give you a peck on the lips and you’d be awake again?? how the fuck do they ask for consent while you’re forced to be asleep bc of MAGIC?? let’s use our brains here, children. I know we just learned some basic concepts about consent but clearly we’re not ready to be applying them to literally anything.
I do have to point out that, in context, "true love's kiss" is a life-saving medical procedure, and you are allowed to perform life-saving medical procedures on an unconscious person without their consent. It's literally the one big exception to the consent rule in healthcare.
You say that and you're right but I had to read people hate on characters for performing cpr on the player self-insert character and claim it's because he was basically assaulting her... like... girl... it was cpr...
Okay, you know what I'm not done, because that was years ago and I'm still fucking annoyed by it.
And you wanna know why? Because I know about the cpr gender gap and I don't even need people to joke about it when bashing their least favorite game character, because first-aiders are literally worried about that enough to not perform cpr on people with breasts, which causes people to fucking die!
So how about we don't do baby's first misapplying of concepts like consent and assault on literal life-saving medical procedures? Especially when arguing about something trivial like "Why I hate that fictional character"?
“snow white is problematic because kissing someone without consent is SA so it’s promoting SA”
do none of you know what TRUE LOVE’S KISS is?? you’re telling me you wouldn’t be fucking pissed if your TRUE LOVE found you stuck in a sleeping CURSE and just left you like that?? when all they had to do was give you a peck on the lips and you’d be awake again?? how the fuck do they ask for consent while you’re forced to be asleep bc of MAGIC?? let’s use our brains here, children. I know we just learned some basic concepts about consent but clearly we’re not ready to be applying them to literally anything.
I do have to point out that, in context, "true love's kiss" is a life-saving medical procedure, and you are allowed to perform life-saving medical procedures on an unconscious person without their consent. It's literally the one big exception to the consent rule in healthcare.
You say that and you're right but I had to read people hate on characters for performing cpr on the player self-insert character and claim it's because he was basically assaulting her... like... girl... it was cpr...
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both trans men and trans women are punished for our proximity to both feminity and masculinity. people decide when we are men or women based on what is the WORST option at the moment. we both get treated like women only when someone needs to infantalize us or call us bossy, bitchy, stupid, vapid. we both get treated like men when someone wants to demonize and paint us as violent, predatory, abusive, perverted. NONE of us are benefiting from any gendered privilege, because we are always treated like the worst of either gender depending on the scenario. this is something all trans people experience, regardless of agab, both trans men and trans women. so why do we assume that the other side has the opposite experience as us?? why do you think that because your life as a trans man or a trans woman is painful, that a trans person of a different gender must have the opposite experience?? like i just dont get the preschool level understanding of gender like "well boys and girls are opposites so of course our experiences are opposites too" we are living the same transphobia and if you cant see it you need to listen to other people more
Realizing that not even spaces that you hoped would be different are safe from attempting to solve disagreements like fucking toddlers sure is discouraging.
Yes, let's attempt to find a compromise by throwing shit at everyone disagreeing and boycotting them, that sure will help to not splinter your organization even further. That totally will cause less bad blood as agreeing on the lowest common denominator and letting the open questions stay open until it gets relevant and we got more reliable data to work with. Totally. We are all adults here or something.
An extra delightful thing about Project Hail Mary is that, eventually, humans WILL go to Erid, and Eridians WILL visit Earth. And there's every likelihood Rocky will be there to see it.
For one, humans on Earth likely continued to breed astrophage, trying to minimize its range or damaging effects - any number of things. Rendering it sterile would be ideal, of course, but it was likely impossible until the mission succeeded. You can damn well bet your ass Stratt was out there chaining scientists to workbenches, trying to find or force a silver lining. She wouldn't be wrong: Astrophage IS an excellent source of fuel, which means it has great potential. PLUS!! the discovery of Taumeba gives you a way to control it.
Erid is only 16 light years away.
Imagine humanity pulled back from the brink, striving together to produce not one but TWO (at least!) huge joint efforts to save ourselves and each other. Project Hail Mary was followed the Taumeba Project, surely. The world comes together again.
I, however, like to imagine there was a third plan.
I think meeting Eridians became a worldwide obsession. Ryland Grace's legacy can be nothing but a collective triumph, though his contact with intelligent alien life is somehow second to saving the Earth and who knows how many other systems. Once saved, the next major project would surely be meeting our interplanetary friends. How would we say "hello"?
Let's say Earth's initial overture is a simple probe, Voyager style. What do you send? Well, they know Grace may still be out there, or at least was/is known to Eridian culture. He's the one link; the only common element.
The probe launches, and what it's full of is love for Ryland Grace. His childhood pictures. Interviews with his students. Thousands of statues and dedications and documentaries. Videos of worldwide celebrations of the Day of Grace. Kids' drawings of Rocky with laboriously-written thank you notes, thick with crayon so the Eridians can see. We love him too. We love you already.
Given their longevity, I imagine Rocky and Adrian opening the probe together, trilling over memories of their old friend. Stories they only heard about secondhand or not at all. Joy and triumph and thankfulness and hope, all in one small interstellar package. Amaze amaze amaze.
The fallout after the Oct. 7 attack has compromised spaces where we once felt safe
I noticed something during last year’s Pride that I could not stop thinking about afterward: silence.
Not total silence. Pride events still filled city streets in San Francisco, where I live. Rainbow flags still hung from windows. But many queer Jews I knew had become quieter in subtle, almost imperceptible ways. Some had stopped posting online. Some had withdrawn from political conversations altogether. Others no longer mentioned being Jewish in spaces where that identity had once felt unremarkable.
A few quietly disappeared from communities they had helped build. Invitations were declined. Group chats went unanswered. One friend told me they hesitated before wearing a Star of David necklace to Pride for the first time in years.
At first, I told myself I was imagining it. Then I began hearing the same thing in private conversations: people calculating whether it was safe to say certain things out loud. Wondering whether expressing ongoing grief over the Hamas attack of Oct. 7, 2023 would cost them friendships, belonging or community. Deciding it was easier to remain silent than risk becoming a problem to manage.
I recognized that instinct, because I felt it too.
As a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in San Francisco who has facilitated support groups for queer Jews since Oct. 7, I’ve perceived a clear phenomenon: While for years, many queer Jews experienced queer spaces as a refuge, after Oct. 7, that sense of refuge became less certain.
The spaces where we built chosen family, recovered from shame, fell in love, and constructed identities used to be shaped by the belief that vulnerability should not have to be hidden in order to belong.
Now, in some of those spaces, it feels like certain forms of Jewish grief have become socially suspect.
In some spaces, expressing horror at the massacre of Israeli civilians has felt permissible only when immediately qualified or contextualized.
In conversations over the past year, I have repeatedly encountered the same pattern: queer Jews becoming more cautious and less certain about what they could safely say in response to pressure to express grief only in publicly acceptable ways.
Silence can be a form of self-protection. People grow quiet when they sense that emotional honesty may carry steep social costs inside communities they still want to belong to.
Some queer Jews no longer attend events they once loved. Others still attend, but carefully. They edit themselves in real time, measuring how much grief they can express before it becomes unintelligible to others.
None of this is unilaterally true about queer communities, which are not monoliths. And many LGBTQ people feel profound anguish over Palestinian suffering, as do many Jews.
But queer Jews are exhausted. The strain of constant self-translation; the effort of proving that mourning one people does not entail hatred of another; and the vigilance required to navigate belonging that feels increasingly conditional have taken their toll.
The loss of a place where you were supposed to exist without negotiation feels existential. And as each Pride passes, certain griefs intensify as they remain unspoken.
This Pride, I’m thinking less about who will show up than about who will remain quiet once they arrive.
What kinds of silence do communities require in exchange for belonging?
people hate it when you say things like 'this policy that was mostly meant to hurt [marginalised group] also sometimes hurts [other, less marginalised group]" which is fair bc it can definitely come across as 'who cares if those subhumans get hurt, the problem is when it happens to real people'. but unfortunately a fact about being a marginalised group is that it makes it much cheaper politically to hurt you.
immigration officers arresting citizens is not worse than immigration officers arresting noncitizens, but turns out weirdly enough 'citizens' is a category with a lot more political power than 'noncitizens' and so it's strategically useful to get them opposed to immigration enforcement. so that might affect which things you talk about how much.
This! I call these "curbcutter arguments", after the curbcutter effect, where it was observed that an improvement made for wheelchair users had knock-on positive effects for other people.
Should "This marginalized group is being hurt by [thing], so we should stop doing [thing]" be enough of an argument? Sure! But for a lot of people, it's not. And until we get to a point where it is, I'm going to keep using curbcutter arguments when I need to, because sometimes that's what it takes to get the problem fixed. And fixing the problem is the important part.
These are useful when you want someone's one-time participation in a political effort to get result, or as a gateway to get people active.
To get people to stay active, they do need to learn that actually things are still bad when they only hurt the marginalized group. People who don't internalize that make terrible allies that could betray the marginalized group at any moment.
Luckily, the result of getting into activism is often that your perspective broadens in exactly this way because when ''the marginalized group" becomes "my buddies who always help with the protest" or "that medic that was there for me when I as hurt", caring about the marginalized group becomes a lot more instinctive.
developing the hots for ryan gosling because of project hail mary is so fucking embarrassing I swear to god. that is a conventionally attractive man. a noted hollywood heartthrob. he's even blond, are you kidding me? did he win people magazine's sexiest man alive? I don't know. I'm not going to check but it wouldn't surprise me at this point. it's such a mainstream taste. such a clichéd celebrity crush. like oh I fancy ryan gosling and my favourite drink is coca-cola and my favourite snack is ready salted crisps. jesus christ. 'b-b-but i only like him when he's in a science pun tshirt and playing a dorky-awkward loner type!' doesn't matter. he's still ryan 'ken from barbie' gosling. it's so trite. I feel like the weird nerd girl in a teen coming-of-age romcom falling for the super popular jock. don't I know that I have a reputation to uphold here? cringe.
People often say they hope their deceased pet dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven… what did all of those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torment?
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Thought crimes of course aren’t real but uh. We know those aren’t just thoughts anymore once you’ve posted them publicly, yeah?
Then they’re just crimes.
sure, fictional crimes since nothing happened and no one was hurt. should we put the fictional handcuffs on? "sorry, you wrote about murder which is illegal, go spend 20 years in mind jail"
