I had a friend who would have been 91 next month. She married her husband in 1950 and throughout their whole marriage he always insisted on doing half the housework. Even though he worked full time as a dock worker his entire life and it absolutely was not expected of men at that time in society. He would also take any money he personally needed (or mortgage payments etc) out of his wage packet, then give her the rest of it and tell her she could spend it on anything they needed or she wanted, for herself or the kids. Because he loved and trusted her absolutely, he knew she would spend it responsibly, never asked for the receipts. He loved her and the kids and wanted to make sure they knew that, which included cooking for them, washing the dishes for them, looking after them when they were sick and everything that a competant husband should do. They were never rich or had a huge amount of money, just enough to get by comfortably most of the time and eventually save up to buy a small house.
When she talked to me about her husband she would almost always end up crying because she loved him so much and he was such a wonderful husband and person. Even in the decades where she couldn’t legally have a bank account or divorce and didn’t have half the rights women have now, he always treated her as an equal.
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