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fuck it. Hi my name is Shay (she/her), 21 yrs old, huge gamer, writer, and poet, and I love being lesbian and transgender and femme hi everyone I wish I could give you all so many hugs and kisses
screw florin
always some new bullshit in the ocean
Why is it always orcas or dolphins
Why can't a salmon do some bullshit for once
worry not ☝️ they're doing coke
fin.
Reminding everyone that when I was homeless transmascs got places to live within 6 months never longer and me as a trans woman was stuck at the temp accom for over 14 months, given inappropriate housing, kicked off the register and had to pay my bottom surgery savings to house myself whilst raising an investigation into the transmisogyny that perpetuated my stay in temporary government accommodation.
But yeah tme/tma is useless, we're all infighting and lateral aggression. My fucking arse.
on TME/TMA: being mistaken for a transfem and catching strays is not the same thing as actually being a transfem: the actual targets of transmisogyny
I know a lot of trans men want to be TMA reallllll bad because someone mistook them for a transfem once and called them a tranny, but the "Affected" in "TransMisogyny Affected" doesn't just mean you have been Affected by transmisogyny at some point--it means it affects you, inescapably, in uncountably many more ways than just random harassment, every minute of your damn life. and it worms into your brain and stays there, because you ARE the tranny they were talking about
you may be a tree near the target and catch the occasional stray, but you are not the target
I had a really good example of this pop up on the bus a while back. TLDR an older cis woman accused of being transfemme was protected by several people, while I, visibly transfemme, was not when the same person started threatening me.
💬 11 🔁 1676 ❤️ 2448 · Transphobia is so fascinating sometimes because I just got an example of why “everyone is transmisogyny affected” is
sometimes I think about Trayvon Martin and all the other black children and adults that should be here with us but were murdered because of systemic antiblackness.
I'm specifically thinking of Trayvon, he was only 17 years old, man. black children especially need a future and a future where they can feel protected and grow old. his birthday was two months ago too, he would have been 31.
I can't even list the amount of black individuals who have been murdered like this. even as of recent. it's too many. black bodies are so easily discarded in the USA and it goes back to centuries during chattel slavery. it's a scary reality me and my family have to live in. it's really. scary.
I don’t even want to write a review of “Top Gun: Maverick” honestly, I’ve seen 1,500+ movies and I’ve never finished one that left me more depressed about the future of this country. I just want to stop thinking about it
By popular demand:
got too drunk off of only two drinks at a hangout, snuggled up to a beautiful transgender woman and she petted and flirted with me, then I went home and gushed to my beautiful girlfriend about it before she infodumped to me about the pinball machines she played while I was gone. life is beautiful actually
life is beautiful when transgender women
they're saying curly haired transgender women are what make this world survivable
*does this to you*
Each person being killed by American bombs in West Asia right now contains a universe within them, whether they have credentials or not. It astounds me to see that people in countries not being bombed mourn only those whom they consider “civilized” (people with professional degrees, dual citizenships with western countries and so on).
so the other day i met this trans girl who's new in town and apparently already has a reputation for being rude and blunt and first thing she did was give me the biggest smile and make small talk. so anyway fuck everyone but her tbqh
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"I often talk about reality checking and going along with it when helping someone deal with delusions, but I felt as if I didn’t really make it clear to what I meant when I said it.
Recently I saw a post similar to “how to sneakily give your delusional friend a reality check when they told you not to” and honestly, that’ll just make us lose trust for you. Because we can tell when you do that."
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I think transfems deserve abnormal amounts of grace and understanding. The world is against trans women in most ways and when she gets harassed by birthday boys on tumblr everyone acts shocked when a mentally ill woman goes a little insane from being harassed.
Like I do not agree with what every trans woman on here says, even about transfeminism. But god help her if she is a little bit rude, or curt, or suspicious of people who are trying to bait her into fucking up and taking her in the worst possible light.
Trans women are women. I can tell because of the way you fucking treat them.
what i’ve failed to understand since i was a kid is why these ghouls want war with iran so badly. is it resources? do they have money in defense contracting? is it just that iran is too strong an opponent to us hegemony? why specifically do they want to see iran destroyed?
There is not one singular motivation behind the drive to send the US to war with Iran. There are multiple motivations which often overlap, but which are held in different orders of prioritization by different advocates of war. Most of these motivations are irrational and/or immoral, while others are legitimate complaints that could be addressed through diplomacy far more easily than they could through militarism.
Here's ten common motivations and arguments for a US war with Iran which you might encounter:
Independence from the US: The Iranian government is among the world's least-willing governments to obey US demands and subjugate themselves to the US-led order. For certain US primacists, this independence means that their very existence poses an existential threat to US dominance (similar to North Korea, Cuba, etc.) To a particular type of US militarist, it is necessary for the Iranian government to fall in order for the US to remain the unquestioned leader of the world.
Real Fear of their Nukes: There is a substantial contingent who really does believe that Iran is close to developing a nuclear weapon and that they could well use it if they were to develop it. Logically, the best way to address this concern would be through a diplomatic deal similar to the 2015 JCPOA, which Iran complied with! But the intensity of anti-Iranian sentiment among US hawks tends to convince them that direct military confrontation is somehow a better option, thus explaining why Trump decided to break this deal.
Desire for Revenge: Many older foreign policy hawks in the US have never forgiven Iran for 1) the 1979 US Embassy hostage crisis, and 2) the 1983 bombing of the US Embassy in Lebanon, which was orchestrated by a terror organization with ties to the Iranian government. In their minds, both of these incidents were embarrassments to the US' military prestige which we have never properly gotten revenge for. (These people tend to ignore the massive wrongdoings which the US has carried out against Iran during this same time period, like the US destruction of Iran Air Flight 655). There are people in and around the Pentagon who have wanted to bomb Iran over a grudge for more than 40 years now.
Iran's Regional Proxies: Over the last several decades, Iran has engaged in an aggressive campaign to expand their influence throughout the region by supporting proxy paramilitary forces in Iraq, Lebanon, Syria, Yemen, etc. Many of these proxies have undeniably engaged in acts of terrorism. This strategy is both opportunistic (taking advantage of the power vacuum caused by the US overthrow of Saddam Hussein) and defensive (countering the regional influence campaigns of Saudi Arabia and Turkey). This is probably the most legitimate cause of US anger towards the Iranian government, but it is a grievance which will only be worsened by backing Iran into a corner militarily.
Israel (and Saudi Arabia) Hates Them: Iran is unfriendly with two of the US' closest partners in the region: Israel and Saudi Arabia. The Israeli government, in particular, has long been laser-focused on the overthrow of the Iranian government, and they are fully committed to dragging the US into such a regime change operation. For the most fervent defenders of Israel in the US, overthrowing the Iranian government is near the top of their wishlist.
They Got Oil: Oil is a factor which is often overstated in these discussions, but it definitely is one of the factors. Iran currently produces 5% of the world's oil and has the potential to produce far more were the current sanction regime against it to be removed. They also have the ability to shut down the Straight of Hormuz, an important chokepoint through which 25% of the world's oil flows. Regime change in Iran would significantly increase the leverage that the US and its allies hold over global oil markets and further weaken the strength of OPEC.
And Other Commodities Too!: Though the separation between the US and Iranian economies hurts the US economy as a whole, there are certain sectors of US industry that benefit enormously from having Iran so heavily sanctioned. Some of the big names in the US pistachio industry have lobbied heavily to keep US-Iranian relations unfriendly, because the elimination of US sanctions on Iran would allow the massive Iranian pistachio industry to compete with the US industry. As long as these two governments hate each other, a few politically-connected US businessmen make way more money.
Diaspora Pressure Campaigns: Most Iranian-Americans hold the following two opinions at the same time: 1) they hate the current Iranian government and want to see it replaced, but 2) they strongly oppose US efforts at regime change in Iran. However, there is a vocal minority of Iranian-Americans that do support regime change efforts, and they tend to cluster into two well-organized groups that wage pressure campaigns against the Iranian government. The first are the monarchists, who want to see the son of the former US-backed Iranian dictator restored to power. The others are those who are loyal to the MEK, a cult and former terrorist organization which has been extremely effective at building relationships with US politicians. Both of these groups work full-time to push the US towards overthrowing the Iranian government so that they can step in and take over; it's fairly easy to find both of these groups in online social media threads about US-Iranian relations.
Who Cares, We Want War: As I have written about many times before, the US military-industrial complex encourages the US government to engage in militarist behavior in order to boost their profits. Iran is one of their favorite boogeymen to justify increased levels of US military spending, second only to China. These companies fund think tanks and other policy initiatives to argue that Iran is an immediate threat to us, and then they fund political candidates who want to spend more money preparing for this "threat."
They're Crazy! You Can't Trust Them!: We are led to believe that the Iranian government cannot be negotiated with because they are irrational, they're anti-Western religious zealots incapable of reasoned decision-making. This is a convenient excuse for war, but it's entirely incompatible with the restraint that the Iranian government shows in responding to Israeli attacks, their continued willingness to sit down for diplomatic talks with their aggressors, the way that they helped the US government deal with al Qaeda and the Taliban after 9/11, and a million other indications that the Iranian government is just as rational as any other government in its geopolitical decision-marking.
Add all of that together, and you get a deranged political ecosystem obsessed with inflating the scale of foreign threats, finding excuses for maintaining the trajectory of our militarist status quo, increasing regional tensions, and rejecting obvious opportunities for diplomacy and a peaceful resolution of our differences.
I haaaaaaaaaaate the "affirmation only" framing of trans rights that some ostensibly pro-trans advocates take like there are actually more pertinent issues than feeling affirmed going on here.
I didn't go through the bureaucratic process of changing my Norwegian personal ID number, which encodes gender in it, because having an odd number there made me feel bad.
I did it because for someone with my name and outward appearance, having "man" on my IDs reveals private medical information to everyone who sees the document, information that they aren't entitled to know, which they might act on in deeply undesirable ways.
Taking HRT also isn't something I'm doing to be affirmed, it's something I'm doing because the biological processes signaled by having high levels of estrogen and low levels of testosterone are both something I want, and something that helps my overall well-being and functioning in daily life. Material, real, physiological effects that are well understood, easy to look up, and not about some vague sense that putting estrogen in my bloodstream is a badge of validity handed out by the doctor.
Like at some point I just want to ask these people if they actually believe trans people exist or if they just feel obligated to humor the idea to be nice. Have they actually understood that there are people walking around today with the full effects of transition care already sorted? Have they comprehended that the surgeries exist beyond the occasional picture of someone who's still in recovery?
Do you live in the same material reality as trans people, or are you just being polite to shadows on the wall?
Oh and this is also part of the broader centrist "every material claim the far right makes is true, I just disagree with their tone and think we should be nice" tendency. Like what I'm outlining here is a worldview where the anti-trans notion that trans people Do Not Exist is taken for granted.
"The legislature did not include a grace period."
Overnight it will become illegal for trans people in Kansas to drive their cars. They can be arrested and, if convicted, face upwards of 6 months in prison with a $1000 fine. While in prison, as this is Kansas, they will be jailed according to their gender at birth. If they try to flee the state without surrendering their license, they cannot get a new one in a different state until they surrender their old one because the licenses are part of a national registry. And this is part of the bathroom bounty bill, which allows people to sue anyone they think is in the wrong bathroom.