the cotton ceiling
phase 1: divorce gender identity from biological sex since trans people exist, and so some men have vaginas, some women don’t. this removes the ability to talk about physiological differences between men and women with the terms “men and women”, favouring instead “male” and “female”. (”trans men are female on the outside, but men on the inside.”)
phase 2: abolish biological sex to divorce gender identity from physiology even more. since “male” and “female” sometimes refer to gender rather than just sex, replace them with “dmab” and “dfab”, terms which imply that nobody has a ‘correct’ biological sex, just one they were assigned. because trans and intersex people exist, the only consistent difference between dmab and dfab people are chromosomes (kind of) and the presence of a penis (sometimes). these things are almost never relevant. the terms become almost meaningless. (”you can’t associated dfab people with periods, some dfab people don’t have periods. when talking about menstruation, we should call them ‘people with periods’.”)
phase 3: since biological sex doesn’t exist, and the only consistent differences between dmab and dfab people are chromosomes (kind of) and the presence of a penis (sometimes), sexual attraction, if people are able to be attracted to exclusively dmab of dfab people, must be based on these two things. except, of course, we can’t know other people’s chromosomes without having them tested. and, of course, we don’t know who does or doesn’t have a penis without seeing their genitals with our own two eyes, because there is no correlation between secondary and primary sex characteristics at all. therefore, conclude that attraction must be based on something else, the only other option: gender identity.
phase 4: assert that consent is important, and it is okay to be repulsed by penises, because some people are. this is a trait assigned at random, except when it comes to survivors. attraction is based on gender, and not sex, everyone knows that lesbians are attracted to women, and gay men are attracted to men, and both groups may have any kinds of sex characteristics. so, repulsion to (or preference for) penises is only relevant in terms of actual sex acts involving penises, and is just that: nothing more than a preference. this ‘preference’ isn’t linked to homosexuality (linguistically, culturally, as an axis of oppression) in any way. basing any other level of attraction on penis ownership is close-minded: “why are you so focused on genitals? why won’t you date someone with a penis if their gender identity complies with your sexual orientation? do you know that you can have sex with someone with a penis without interacting with it?”
phase 5: question why someone would be repulsed by penises in the first place, since their innate sexuality only influences attraction to gender. if they are not a survivor of trauma, what reason could they have for not liking penises and only liking vaginas? biological sex classes are not real, and there’s no such thing as only being attracted to the physiology of men or women or males or females or dmabs or dfabs: only penises or vaginas. clearly, this is fetishistic and inappropriate. it’s still okay to say no to sex with someone with a penis, but doing so does make you a bad person. “so you choose your partners based on their genitals, and not who they are as people? so all you care about is sex? so you think women are just walking cunts, and that lesbians are obsessed with vaginas?“
phase 6: acknowledge that, due to the aforementioned classes being inconsistent, the only difference between trans women and cis women is that trans women are transgender and cis women are not. some trans women have penises, and of course, it is okay to not have sex with them, if you are willing to analyse why and accept that you are probably a bad person or possibly mentally ill, and are working on bettering yourself. but some trans women have fully transitioned, and there’s no acceptable reason to say no to sex with them, even if you are a fetishistic pervert who only likes vaginas. “you aren’t attracted to her because she’s trans, and you think trans women are disgusting. if you love women then you should love all women. you bigot.”
phase 7: when lesbians start having breakdowns left, right and centre, congratulate them for trying to unlearn their transmisogyny and cissexism. make your criticisms of them so convoluted and obscure that they can’t access the basic language they used to use and are unable to make counterarguments. encourage them to parrot the ideology so far because they’re not like those other freaky lesbians, they’re the good lesbians! keep raising the bar to unattainable standards so that a homosexual female cannot exist authentically as herself without being called a creep and a bigot and a danger to her own lesbian sisters. keep pretending any of this makes sense.
