Well This Is Rather Punfortunate

Tbh, if you're here for the art, you may want to go to my actual art blog? It's linked below. Otherwise, welcome to bullshit emotions and randomly changing interests land, make yourself comfortable.

[shutyourmoustache]

Respect to Portland:

This is all from yesterday evening (7/18/20). Don’t let anyone think the BLM protests have died down or aren’t well-attended anymore. Thousands of people are still gathering on the streets in many cities to demand abolition of the police and accountability for victims of state-sanctioned murders.

[umbrellanumber5-deactivated2021]

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[sandersstudies]

Husband just told me he’s going to sit in the car because he’s about to yell at someone on the phone and doesn’t want me to be upset by his yelling and I can’t decide if this is a little sad or kinda hilarious.

[sandersstudies]

Remember that post about how a lot of women are inherently terrified of men shouting, even when it’s not directed at them or with cruel intentions? Good men get that and will uhhhhh apparently sit in their car on a summer day because they just HAVE to roast someone but they also respect women’s feelings.

[sandersstudies]

“Pardon me, madam. This gentleman must be put to rights immediately. I will take him out of doors for a thorough admonition so as not to upset your delicate constitution.”

[goingloco]

Another short comic of Valentine and Carousel in which V meets an old “friend”. It takes place around 8 years in the past, hence the different haircut and hat. I worked really hard on this and it was fun and torture at the same time. Hope you enjoy!

[catchymemes]

Credit: @pet_foolery

[loafed-beans-deactivated2020082]

One of my favorite scenes from Letterkenny

[raiseyourweapon]

This show hurts my brain

[cool-ghoul]

Can’t blame you, it’s like a shakespearian comedy about nothing, sped up, with the Middle English replaced by equally obfuscatory Albertan slang.

[zahracusdottir]

Excuse you that ain’t Albertan that’s the wrong coast. It’s Ontario slang.

[space-is-out-there]

DO YOU WANNA GET STRIKED

[stargirlweeknd]

“dude” but like romantically

[aracle]

“babe” but like platonically

[crypticwafflesandvhstapes-deact]

“Sweetheart” but like rivalry

[teapartiez]

“bastard” but like partner

[gothnotfound-deactivated2021072]

“Darling” but I can’t stand you

[eregyrn-falls]

I thought there might be a lot of other people who would benefit from reading this, too.

(Original tweet.)

[lesbiantahani]

Jenny Slate, Stage Fright (2019)

[ryebreadgf]

Ugly, Bitter, and True by Suzanne Rivecca

[homemade-ghosts]

John Mulaney on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert (2020)

[darth--nickels]

LIghthouse keepers will never be memorialized like soldiers or cops because they didn’t kill anyone (as part of their job) but they’re like, heroes who saved untold lives through discipline and self-sacrifice doing an impossible lonely job and I’m worked up about  it 

[darth--nickels]

Clinging to a swaying tower in freezing, driving rain, risking death by everything from pneumonia to a fall to a fucking lightning strike to keep the lantern going when you don’t even KNOW if someone is out on the water!! Working! Class! Heroes!

[andhumanslovedstories]

Love very much the sentiment of this post and also love the specific wording of “didn’t kill anyone (as part of their job)” because what lighthouse keepers did off hours is their own business

[jaubaius]

A bird explaining to a hedgehog crossing so it doesn’t die.

[nymika-arts]

The woods are lovely, dark and deep 🍃🍂

[nymika-arts]

Part 2 🍃

[nymika-arts]

I think I accidentally deleted half of this post so here’s part 3 and 4 again lol enjoy

[cookiescr]

connected to those 2 drawings i did of them

[blujayonthewing]

So it occurred to me that ‘grawlix’ is sort of an obscure and specialized word, but what I didn’t know until I was googling around just now is that it was actually invented by cartoonist Mort Walker in his 1980 book The Lexicon of Comicana, in which he categorizes (and invents terminology for) all kinds of visual cues and shorthand commonly used in comics

In other news, this is now right up there with The Meaning of Liff as ‘books of made up words I desperately need to own”

[knitpool]

Important

[boweldisruptions]

heck yeah

[bobthedragon]

made a comic about some thoughts! small ways you can empower people, choosing who to empower, and why “don’t make your orientation your whole personality” misses the depth of the issue.

stay cute, stay proud, and love your friends

[helperhoopoe]

remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like you’ve been abandoned and betrayed, but it’s probably not true, and it’s not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.

“i guess none of you like me” could be better phrased as “i feel unloved right now”

“but nobody cares anyway” could be better phrased as “i feel insignificant and i need reassurance”

rather than assuming others’ feelings, give them time to explain them. you’ll usually get a much better answer.

[randomslasher]

This is really important for future predictions, too. “You’re eventually going to leave me” is impossible for someone else to disprove without just sticking around forever, but no one wants to stick around when they’re being constantly accused of future abandonment. Giving someone no choice but to either stay with you forever in order to prove you wrong or leave you and prove you right is incredibly emotionally manipulative, whether you mean it to be or not.

“I get scared sometimes because I’m afraid of being alone again” is easier to address and doesn’t leave your partner(s)/friend(s) feeling as though they’re being preemptively accused of something.  

[theunitofcaring]

A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it’s awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

[doomhamster]

Ohgodyesplease. I’m autistic and I have anxiety, I’m forever scared that I’m going to upset people because I can’t always tell when I’m being rude or overbearing, so it’s a relief when someone is able to tell me if my behavior irritates them *before* it can ruin stuff.