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Hello there~ My name, here on Tumblr, is Lily. I'm just an Autistic little weirdo who's obsessions switch up every now and again. Also a professional space-case. I basically just reblog things? Yeah. Pretty much. Keeping my age to myself, but I am 18 or over for those it concerns.

[paper-mario-wiki]

reposting from bsky, but heres a cheat sheet for how to properly send a message to payment processing companies over the recent highly conservative shift in where youre allowed to legally spend your money

more info here!

[theinstagrahame]

Start asking for the list of games they asked Steam and Itch to remove. MasterCard claims they had a list of "illegal" games, and they've never blocked anyone from buying legal products. but they've never elaborated and have never put out that list.

[pomegranateteeth]

We're being strangled by censorship.... what now?

UPDATE: If you are tired of talking to payment processors I urge you to call your representatives/MPs about the censorship bills that have been introduced/passed [US - Find your reps here]. Current target priorities are PayPal and Stripe alongside Visa and MasterCard. Call to send physical letters increases - How to send letters!

I'm making my own post for this. I have been talking a lot about the censorship of payment processors and the recent banning of NSFW/queer/taboo content on itch.io and steam. I want to scream as an artist witnessing the growing meddling of payment processors as they strangle out the art that we are aloud to make and profit off of. Here I have linked the resources am personally utilizing and I think are the most to the point and well organized.

Resources

Stop Pay-Pros

BEST LINK TO SHARE. This site resources are very well organized and have scripts to follow and utilize and continuously updated numbers to call. UPDATE: Now has what to do if you get yelled at by customer service + new info for both what to do and who to call. Last update 8/6

Yellat.money

Lots of helpful contact information, additional resource, and source information. Includes information for letter writing. Last updated 7/31

Petitions

ACLU - Mastercard: Sex Work is Work. End Your Unjust Policy - 161k~ of 200k needed Change.org - Tell MasterCard, Visa & Activist Groups: Stop Controlling What We Can Watch, Read, or Play US Only - Reject online censorship. Tell lawmakers to oppose KOSA! UK Only - Repeal the Online Safety Act UK Only - Sign the open letter to DSIT on regulating age assurance Canada Only - Stop Bill S-209’s De-Anonymization of Every Canadian Adult Canada Only - Petition to stop Bill C-2

What can you do as a creative to keep afloat?

I found this article to be extremely helpful on what to do in the meantime to keep selling your work as an independent artist online. This is mostly for my indie pub and visual artists who are selling PDF and Epub type digital files. Creatives are working on a neo-city's like platform - I cannot recommend this as of now but it is interesting to keep an eye on.

Updates on what itch.io is doing! - SECOND UPDATE FROM ITCH.IO - Response from Valve - Another Response from Valve

[starlightgoneoverboard]

Sign the Petition

YouTube’s AI Tracks Everything You Watch — Stop This Now

Reminder that this petition exists if you haven't signed yet. Can't be sure if it'll actually work, but it's better than nothing.

[risingphoenix87]

YouTube’s AI Tracks Everything You Watch — Stop This Now

Can you spare a minute to help this campaign?

YouTube's AI "age verification" process needs to be stopped in its tracks! Please sign and pass it on!

YouTube - SAY NO TO FLAWED AGE VERIFICATIONS!

Can you spare a minute to help this campaign?

[gentleman-velvet]

Okay, so here’s the updated plans for fighting against youtube's new ai age policy and privacy violating rule (I believe in us!)

Plan 1. Black out and leave youtube/ youtube boycott

It’s a very simple plan, but this time we just leave until it’s fully reversed. That way YouTube doesn’t just ignore us and the original black out. We have to stand our ground and show them we aren’t going to give up. We have to last as long as possible and let their revenue drain until they concede or someone else comes in and makes another platform (that isn’t based on politics but the same ideas as the original YouTube)

Plus I would like to add some small extra things that will help with the blackout though. That being mass downloading YouTube content. Now this might be the easiest thing for certain people, but it’s something.

Mass downloading YouTube content can help in case there a couple of videos or channels you want to watch during the blackout. You can also use this to download new youtube videos from places like twitter since it won't count towards ads or view

(I use something called a ytdlp but there might be better options for you out there, there might even be built in ones in a web browser or two, just search around the place, you'll find it eventually)

There is also alternate YouTube apps that block ads (like Jdownloader and newpipe) that might work within the black out, but I'm worried that it would still count towards views and still help YouTube out in that smallest of ways, more research is needed, but it is an option (though I still recommended downloading new videos just to avoid the entire views thing)

Plan 2. Bugging the crap out of them.

Now since they have a mail box for us to use, that can be used for our advantage here. So here’s what we do, send them letters asking them to reverse the decision, that way they will be overwhelmed by letters that have to eventually give up. Now I don't want you guys to send out slurs, curses or whatever. I need you guys to be kind and critical. I want you to point everything wrong with this and why it is destined to fail and leave the company crumbling

In addition to these letters, if at all possible, I want you guys to include photos of comments made by other people (Twitter, tumblr, whatever) criticizing this and making it known that it’s not just you guys who are angry, but people all over too.

Now we can also include emails in this, but that might be harder than excepted, but in case you do want to send in a email, you can send it that way

I can't find any other way of sending them an email, but good to you if you do find it (though I would recommend a letter much more)

UPDATE, someone has pointed out that we should all send out our letters on a single day, Im taking around August 5th about a week before the thing actually rolls out and than maybe we’ll do another batch on the 8th just in case

Make sure you mass send a bunch of letters

WIP plan 3, legal bull

I wish I could say this plan was finished, but unfortunately, it is not at all. All we have to go for here to filing a complaint towards the FTC about this and or using what this user recommneds (though I can't fully say if it'll work or not)

This plan will be worked on as much as possible

I want everyone if they can to spread to outside of tumblr, talk about it on twitter, facebook, blusky, youtube itself, this plan has to spread to as much people as possible.

I believe we can do our best and shine a light through these horrible times, we can be light in the darkness that will help others shine a burn a hole in this horrible system of censorship

I believe in every last one of you, I believe you can do good and spread good, because in your hearts, you are good

If you have any other ideas, let me know, cause i know more minds are better than one.

Good luck!

[gentleman-velvet]

Okay, so here’s the updated plans for fighting against youtube's new ai age policy and privacy violating rule (I believe in us!)

Plan 1. Black out and leave youtube/ youtube boycott

It’s a very simple plan, but this time we just leave until it’s fully reversed. That way YouTube doesn’t just ignore us and the original black out. We have to stand our ground and show them we aren’t going to give up. We have to last as long as possible and let their revenue drain until they concede or someone else comes in and makes another platform (that isn’t based on politics but the same ideas as the original YouTube)

Plus I would like to add some small extra things that will help with the blackout though. That being mass downloading YouTube content. Now this might be the easiest thing for certain people, but it’s something.

Mass downloading YouTube content can help in case there a couple of videos or channels you want to watch during the blackout. You can also use this to download new youtube videos from places like twitter since it won't count towards ads or view

(I use something called a ytdlp but there might be better options for you out there, there might even be built in ones in a web browser or two, just search around the place, you'll find it eventually)

There is also alternate YouTube apps that block ads (like Jdownloader and newpipe) that might work within the black out, but I'm worried that it would still count towards views and still help YouTube out in that smallest of ways, more research is needed, but it is an option (though I still recommended downloading new videos just to avoid the entire views thing)

Plan 2. Bugging the crap out of them.

Now since they have a mail box for us to use, that can be used for our advantage here. So here’s what we do, send them letters asking them to reverse the decision, that way they will be overwhelmed by letters that have to eventually give up. Now I don't want you guys to send out slurs, curses or whatever. I need you guys to be kind and critical. I want you to point everything wrong with this and why it is destined to fail and leave the company crumbling

In addition to these letters, if at all possible, I want you guys to include photos of comments made by other people (Twitter, tumblr, whatever) criticizing this and making it known that it’s not just you guys who are angry, but people all over too.

Now we can also include emails in this, but that might be harder than excepted, but in case you do want to send in a email, you can send it that way

I can't find any other way of sending them an email, but good to you if you do find it (though I would recommend a letter much more)

UPDATE, someone has pointed out that we should all send out our letters on a single day, Im taking around August 5th about a week before the thing actually rolls out and than maybe we’ll do another batch on the 8th just in case

Make sure you mass send a bunch of letters

WIP plan 3, legal bull

I wish I could say this plan was finished, but unfortunately, it is not at all. All we have to go for here to filing a complaint towards the FTC about this and or using what this user recommneds (though I can't fully say if it'll work or not)

This plan will be worked on as much as possible

I want everyone if they can to spread to outside of tumblr, talk about it on twitter, facebook, blusky, youtube itself, this plan has to spread to as much people as possible.

I believe we can do our best and shine a light through these horrible times, we can be light in the darkness that will help others shine a burn a hole in this horrible system of censorship

I believe in every last one of you, I believe you can do good and spread good, because in your hearts, you are good

If you have any other ideas, let me know, cause i know more minds are better than one.

Good luck!

[sterlinggothdarlings]

About the YouTube AI age verification thing in the US:

Here is a link for another post detailing a boycott plan on the 13th of August. And if you think that it's not gonna be that bad...

IT WILL AFFECT YOU, TOO.

If you watch:

Gameplays and gaming-related videos, for example Minecraft, Undertale/Deltarune, The Sims 4, GTA/Minecraft roleplaying videos, mod videos (even if the mod is 18+), Genshin Impact and other gachas, horror games no matter the rating

Unboxing of Pokémon/Magic The Gathering/any other type of playing cards

Table Top Games, including watching TTRPG campaigns

Slime tutorials, probably (yeah, both kinds)

Essays/Commentary/Theories about IP for children, like cartoons/anime - Gravity Falls, Winx Club, Monster High, Pokémon, Digimon, Yu-Gi-Oh, My Little Pony, Miraculous Ladybug, Spongebob Squarepants, and the like

Anything about Doll Customizing, including ball-jointed dolls, Blythe dolls, OOAK projects, and anything similar

Cosplay videos, probably

Videos about collectibles like Labubu, Funko Pop, plushies, and similar

Videos and YT podcasts about Anime, like Trash Taste and Mother's Basement

VTubing, most likely, given the nature of animated avatars

And maybe, Draw With Me/Art tutorials of all kinds

There is a chance that the AI will target your account, EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT FROM THE USA, and flag it as an underage account because of your watching habits. Therefore, requiring you to provide your identification or photo to YouTube in order to continue using their services normally and not have your account deleted.

And here is the kicker: IF YOU DON'T and continue to use the service disregarding your account's newly found underage classification, THEY WILL CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN WATCH EVEN MORE. They are banking on you being too tired to fight this, and just accepting it as the new normal.

This is a blatant ploy to monitor the people and gather massive amounts of data to sell to governments, plural. If it works without too much of a hiccup in the US (and in the UK as well, since over there it's affecting every online service), other countries will follow suit.

If you are in the US, you have to fight this.

They've already come for Steam and Itch as a way of controlling self-expression and speech. This is yet another tool of censorship. And it WILL affect all of us, globally, eventually, because the internet serves a lot more people than the US and the UK, and the rules are applied mostly equally.

Share the boycott plan. Tell your friends and family about it. It will affect them, too.

[sterlinggothdarlings]

About the YouTube AI age verification thing in the US:

Here is a link for another post detailing a boycott plan on the 13th of August. And if you think that it's not gonna be that bad...

IT WILL AFFECT YOU, TOO.

If you watch:

Gameplays and gaming-related videos, for example Minecraft, Undertale/Deltarune, The Sims 4, GTA/Minecraft roleplaying videos, mod videos (even if the mod is 18+), Genshin Impact and other gachas, horror games no matter the rating

Unboxing of Pokémon/Magic The Gathering/any other type of playing cards

Table Top Games, including watching TTRPG campaigns

Slime tutorials, probably (yeah, both kinds)

Essays/Commentary/Theories about IP for children, like cartoons/anime - Gravity Falls, Winx Club, Monster High, Pokémon, Digimon, Yu-Gi-Oh, My Little Pony, Miraculous Ladybug, Spongebob Squarepants, and the like

Anything about Doll Customizing, including ball-jointed dolls, Blythe dolls, OOAK projects, and anything similar

Cosplay videos, probably

Videos about collectibles like Labubu, Funko Pop, plushies, and similar

Videos and YT podcasts about Anime, like Trash Taste and Mother's Basement

VTubing, most likely, given the nature of animated avatars

And maybe, Draw With Me/Art tutorials of all kinds

There is a chance that the AI will target your account, EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT FROM THE USA, and flag it as an underage account because of your watching habits. Therefore, requiring you to provide your identification or photo to YouTube in order to continue using their services normally and not have your account deleted.

And here is the kicker: IF YOU DON'T and continue to use the service disregarding your account's newly found underage classification, THEY WILL CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN WATCH EVEN MORE. They are banking on you being too tired to fight this, and just accepting it as the new normal.

This is a blatant ploy to monitor the people and gather massive amounts of data to sell to governments, plural. If it works without too much of a hiccup in the US (and in the UK as well, since over there it's affecting every online service), other countries will follow suit.

If you are in the US, you have to fight this.

They've already come for Steam and Itch as a way of controlling self-expression and speech. This is yet another tool of censorship. And it WILL affect all of us, globally, eventually, because the internet serves a lot more people than the US and the UK, and the rules are applied mostly equally.

Share the boycott plan. Tell your friends and family about it. It will affect them, too.

[sterlinggothdarlings]

About the YouTube AI age verification thing in the US:

Here is a link for another post detailing a boycott plan on the 13th of August. And if you think that it's not gonna be that bad...

IT WILL AFFECT YOU, TOO.

If you watch:

Gameplays and gaming-related videos, for example Minecraft, Undertale/Deltarune, The Sims 4, GTA/Minecraft roleplaying videos, mod videos (even if the mod is 18+), Genshin Impact and other gachas, horror games no matter the rating

Unboxing of Pokémon/Magic The Gathering/any other type of playing cards

Table Top Games, including watching TTRPG campaigns

Slime tutorials, probably (yeah, both kinds)

Essays/Commentary/Theories about IP for children, like cartoons/anime - Gravity Falls, Winx Club, Monster High, Pokémon, Digimon, Yu-Gi-Oh, My Little Pony, Miraculous Ladybug, Spongebob Squarepants, and the like

Anything about Doll Customizing, including ball-jointed dolls, Blythe dolls, OOAK projects, and anything similar

Cosplay videos, probably

Videos about collectibles like Labubu, Funko Pop, plushies, and similar

Videos and YT podcasts about Anime, like Trash Taste and Mother's Basement

VTubing, most likely, given the nature of animated avatars

And maybe, Draw With Me/Art tutorials of all kinds

There is a chance that the AI will target your account, EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT FROM THE USA, and flag it as an underage account because of your watching habits. Therefore, requiring you to provide your identification or photo to YouTube in order to continue using their services normally and not have your account deleted.

And here is the kicker: IF YOU DON'T and continue to use the service disregarding your account's newly found underage classification, THEY WILL CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN WATCH EVEN MORE. They are banking on you being too tired to fight this, and just accepting it as the new normal.

This is a blatant ploy to monitor the people and gather massive amounts of data to sell to governments, plural. If it works without too much of a hiccup in the US (and in the UK as well, since over there it's affecting every online service), other countries will follow suit.

If you are in the US, you have to fight this.

They've already come for Steam and Itch as a way of controlling self-expression and speech. This is yet another tool of censorship. And it WILL affect all of us, globally, eventually, because the internet serves a lot more people than the US and the UK, and the rules are applied mostly equally.

Share the boycott plan. Tell your friends and family about it. It will affect them, too.

[sterlinggothdarlings]

About the YouTube AI age verification thing in the US:

Here is a link for another post detailing a boycott plan on the 13th of August. And if you think that it's not gonna be that bad...

IT WILL AFFECT YOU, TOO.

If you watch:

Gameplays and gaming-related videos, for example Minecraft, Undertale/Deltarune, The Sims 4, GTA/Minecraft roleplaying videos, mod videos (even if the mod is 18+), Genshin Impact and other gachas, horror games no matter the rating

Unboxing of Pokémon/Magic The Gathering/any other type of playing cards

Table Top Games, including watching TTRPG campaigns

Slime tutorials, probably (yeah, both kinds)

Essays/Commentary/Theories about IP for children, like cartoons/anime - Gravity Falls, Winx Club, Monster High, Pokémon, Digimon, Yu-Gi-Oh, My Little Pony, Miraculous Ladybug, Spongebob Squarepants, and the like

Anything about Doll Customizing, including ball-jointed dolls, Blythe dolls, OOAK projects, and anything similar

Cosplay videos, probably

Videos about collectibles like Labubu, Funko Pop, plushies, and similar

Videos and YT podcasts about Anime, like Trash Taste and Mother's Basement

VTubing, most likely, given the nature of animated avatars

And maybe, Draw With Me/Art tutorials of all kinds

There is a chance that the AI will target your account, EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT FROM THE USA, and flag it as an underage account because of your watching habits. Therefore, requiring you to provide your identification or photo to YouTube in order to continue using their services normally and not have your account deleted.

And here is the kicker: IF YOU DON'T and continue to use the service disregarding your account's newly found underage classification, THEY WILL CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN WATCH EVEN MORE. They are banking on you being too tired to fight this, and just accepting it as the new normal.

This is a blatant ploy to monitor the people and gather massive amounts of data to sell to governments, plural. If it works without too much of a hiccup in the US (and in the UK as well, since over there it's affecting every online service), other countries will follow suit.

If you are in the US, you have to fight this.

They've already come for Steam and Itch as a way of controlling self-expression and speech. This is yet another tool of censorship. And it WILL affect all of us, globally, eventually, because the internet serves a lot more people than the US and the UK, and the rules are applied mostly equally.

Share the boycott plan. Tell your friends and family about it. It will affect them, too.

[neshamama]

These little-known bank accounts allow Americans with disabilities to save and invest

If you're an American with a disability who receives government assistance, you likely qualify for an ABLE account, or you may starting next

Named for the 2014 law that created them, the Achieving a Better Life Experience Act, ABLE accounts have been available since 2016 to individuals identified by a doctor as having a disability before the age of 26. Next year, they’ll become available to those identified before the age of 46, which will increase access to an additional 6 million people, including 1 million veterans, according to Indiana State Treasurer Daniel Elliott, who administers the accounts in his state. An estimated 8 million people nationwide already qualify.

“The fact that it used to be that individuals could only save up to $2,000 or they could lose benefits — that was really restricting a lot of families,” Elliot said. “People were forced into a position where they couldn’t save for their futures. Now we’re seeing average account balances of (ABLE accounts) between $11,000 and $12,000.”

Generally, ABLE accounts may reach totals of $100,000 without affecting Supplemental Security Income. Lifetime balance limits for the various state ABLE accounts can range from around $300,000 to over $500,000. They’re administered by state treasurers, and the vast majority can be set up online via their websites. Some ABLE plans accept paper applications as well.

Anyone can contribute to an ABLE account — including the account owner, friends, family, organizations, nonprofits, and employers — up to $19,000 per year in 2025. If the account owner is able to work and not already contributing to a workplace retirement plan, they can contribute an additional amount equal to their yearly gross income. For 2025, that amount is up to an additional $15,560 to $18,810, depending on the state administering the account.

There are also tax advantages. Investment earnings from ABLE accounts remain untaxed as long as money taken from the account is used for “qualified disability expenses,” such as medical treatment, education, tutoring and job training. Account holders may choose from a number of investment options for the funds in their accounts or hold and save the money without investing it further.

Elliot said raising awareness of the accounts is the biggest challenge for the National Association of State Treasurers (NAST), for which he’s also the secretary treasurer.

“Many people are used to the idea that, ‘If I have a disability or my child has one, it could endanger their benefits to save money,’” he said. “We as a state and as a country need to start reaching out to people and saying, ‘Look, you actually can save money now. You could save towards the purchase of a home.’ The hardest thing right now is getting that message out. We need more people to be aware things have changed.”

According to NAST’s data, just 186,641 ABLE accounts existed at the end of 2024, despite an estimated 8 million people qualifying. When the age limit is raised, the accounts will also become available to people whose disabilities may have been the result of an accident in adulthood or developed later in life, such as after a COVID infection.

Andrew Warren, senior associate for policy and research at the Financial Health Network, who studies the financial circumstances of Americans with disabilities, said that the vast majority of people surveyed for a 2023 report by the organization did not know these accounts existed.

“Less than 1% of eligible individuals have these accounts,” Warren said. “Our research show that one of the major barriers to becoming financially healthy for this vulnerable group is asset limits. But there’s an information disconnect between caseworkers and direct services providers on the ground and (administrators of ABLE accounts).”

Two online resources — ABLE Today and the ABLE National Resource Center — can guide you through questions to determine if you or a friend or family member qualifies.

[naamahdarling]

I honestly cannot articulate how HUGE this is.

It is not enough. Not NEARLY enough. But this is still HUGE.

This could mean the difference for becoming homeless and not becoming homeless, or having to stay in an abusive situation.

YOU COULD FUNDRAISE FOR HEALTH CARE AND NOT BE BREAKING THE MOTHERFUCKING LAW.

[kurokinozomiya]

Gardevoir in human form, but male.

(Back when I played Pokémon Emerald as a kid, there were plenty of male Gardevoirs, which left a lasting impression on me.)

[its-not-a-pen]

artists beware! scam alert!

tlrd: someone posing as a customer tried to steal money from me. i received a fake paypal email saying my account was over it's limit and i needed to switch to a business account, which required me to pay back $300 to the "customer" in order to activate it. lol. lmao, even.

ok i got nothing better to do on this friday evening, lets crack open a popcorn and eat some beer.

hey look, a blog with 1 post and 5 liked pictures? seems legit. ok i'll play ball.

red flag: they asked for my name. if they logged into paypal they would be able to see my legal name. do not give away any personal information unless absolutely necessary.

red flag: i got a screenshot of their payment screenshots are worth absolutely nothing. always check your paypal account directly to make sure money has gone through. also, check your accounts regularly and be familiar with the amount of money you have. red flag: i got a very legit, very grammatically correct email from paypal

red flag: next i got several messages in rapid succession demanding i answer. scammers create a false sense of urgency because if you're stressed you're less likely to have good judgement. never click on links in emails. forward suspicious emails to paypal: [email protected]

sadly my valued customer @decadentreviewtree deleted their blog right after I replied :( damn i was really looking forward to drawing a cute dog picture with a tennis ball.

hey, quick PSA.

paypal will issue full and partial refunds within 180 days. if the "customer" wants their money back, they can take it up with paypal. you don't need to do anything.

the same applies to most credit cards and major banks. didn't get the product you payed for? someone stole your card info and racked up a bill? contact your card provider and dispute the transaction asap. there is a good chance you can get your money back. (this is why scammers like gift cards so much, once the money's gone, it's gone.)

[shopwitchvamp]

Just wanted to share some shockingly good news in these difficult times. The full article is really worth reading. [Find it here]

[ratcity]

here's the thing: if you want to go to concerts, indoor or outdoor, you need to be able to handle people smoking weed there. if you want to ride the bus, you need to be able to handle someone watching tiktoks without headphones. if you want to go to the movie theater, you need to not be annoyed by people checking their phones or whispering or giggling to each other during the movie. yes there's such thing as public comportment but people are GOING TO BE rude and inconsiderate. you need to be able to handle being annoyed by stuff. there's a video going around that everyone has started sharing that's like 'the price of community is annoyance' it's true and it extends to the obnoxious high schoolers screaming their heads off at the table next to you in a restaurant. don't let annoyance isolate you! I've seen the greatest minds of my generations ruined by focusing on how rude people are to them lol

[hyumjim]

I don’t really care about any “price of community” when I am on the bus fr and I think the price of watching TikTok with no headphones is me staring at you until you humbly put them in, and the price of being loud in the movie theater is being shushed, and just like people are going to be rude and inconsiderate, other people are going to be annoyed by the behavior and sometimes you are gonna get yelled at lol. Surely we must be beholden to some sort of social norm. Watching TikTok with no headphones you may as well be a chimpanzee. The subway system is not built to accommodate the humble chimpanzee

[tockthewatchdog]

men who play shit out loud without headphones in public are often doing it as an act of dominance because they know people are afraid to risk a physical altercation by saying something and they enjoy that feeling of power. that type of behavior tends to escalate, we all know it, and it’s not justified. i still use wired headphones, personally, and the adapters cost literally 4 dollars apiece. “people can’t afford airpods” great news, they don’t have to

im also a stoner of over a decade and i think weed smoke smells nasty and will always avoid forcing other people to contend with it. if you want to smoke indoors, get a vape or smoke beforehand. think about the people around you. an unwillingness to do so is not a fucking disability or hardship. it is not inherent. it is LEARNED. and it is REINFORCED by a lack of negative consequences

there is no good reason to justify antisocial behavior. the zillennial left’s obsession with excusing — and honestly, venerating — this behavior out of some like, chicken-playing, self-debasing “im cool i dont blink” urge to earn a badge of honor is moronic and pathetic and honestly, privileged tourism. because guess what, if the public amenities and experience of living somewhere get shitty enough, the people who can afford to leave will just leave. the people who can’t will be stuck there to suffer.

all this attitude does is punish the most vulnerable in society for having to rely on our public services. standing up for the most vulnerable and saying that, say, an elderly disabled lady on a fixed income deserves to be able to ride the bus to her doctor in peace and quiet and safety is not a conservative fucking viewpoint. it is the humane and reasonable viewpoint. stop being so terrified and hunching and apologetic. demand more from your fellow human being

[spyderqueen]

Basic manners are not oppression.

[mysteryteacup]

Also, there are literally laws about this in many places (this is not the same as saying there should be laws, there are laws is a fact not a judgement of morality).

The reason that very few people smoking weed where it's inconsiderate or watching tiktoks at full volume on the bus don't get jail time for drug possession and fines for noise violations and/or disturbing the peace is that most people aren't arseholes.

But do it enough and you are likely to run into a wild Karen.

And then you will get to discover a whole new form of "price of community".

[mysteryteacup]

...the mythical disabled lady on fixed income.

Fucking yikes, dude.

[ineffectualdemon]

Smoking weed in an enclosed area is a health risk to a lot of people. Including asthma attacks and migraines. Migraines are debilitatingly painful and asthma attacks can kill. Smoke before or eat an edible. This isn't just rude it's dangerous. Being asked not to smoke there is not oppression

Playing music or tiktoks loudly on the bus can cause a lot of people with sensory problems, like me and autistic person, pain. It is also annoying and being asked to turn it off is not oppression.

Phone screens in a theatre are distracting and rude and being asked to put your phone away is not oppression

The social cost of being an asshole is people will not like you or want to be around you and yeah sometimes people will be angry with you

Why do some people act like being asked to stop shitty harmful behaviour is oppression?

You're not being sent to jail or the cops being called you're being asked to stop doing something and while you might have the right to be an asshole that doesn't mean other people don't have the right to tell you you are being an asshole

I'm reminded of a time when my kid was little and some kids were singing a song at my kid to upset them. I asked them to stop and the father one kid came to my house to scream at me that their kid "was free to do what he liked" and I just kept repeating "and I am free to ask him to stop."

Note I didn't scream at these kids, I didn't even accuse them of bullying. I just asked them calmly and gently to please stop and this grown man felt the need to scream at me for it.

Some of you don't like to feel bad when you're called out on your bullshit and you need to get over that

Also side note: YOU DON'T NEED TO BUY AIR PODS TO USE BLUETOOTH EVEN WITH APPLE. You can buy adapters for wired headphones but you can also use literally any blue tooth headphones with apple

[starlightgoneoverboard]

50501 — 50 protests, 50 states, 1 movement

Join the movement to uphold the Constitution and end executive overreach. 50 protests, 50 states, 1 day: #50501.

[pocket-deer-belly]

your parents don't get to decide for you what does and does not count as private information about you that they are allowed access to.

[pocket-deer-belly]

when you're mad at your parents you should be allowed to leave the situation, and you should be allowed to be mad at them. Your parents don't get to control how you feel about them.

[pocket-deer-belly]

it's not normal to feel like you have to hide very basic information about yourself from your parents. it's not normal to feel terrified of expressing that your parents did something wrong, or that you dislike how they treat you.

[pocket-deer-belly]

It’s not normal to set a basic boundary over and over again only to have it breached over and over again. It’s not normal to have parents decide for you that your boundaries are conditional, and allowed to be violated under specific circumstances that you don’t agree to.

[queeranarchism]

& it's not normal for any other adult to have this kind of power over you either. That includes every teacher, every therapist, every coach, every aunt and uncle, every grandparent, every person.