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limi. 34. muslim. lesbian. indian.

[baraphalloplastyclinic]

I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?

Don't become a housewife.

[ladyfoxfire]

And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.

If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.

[dressedupliketheking]

also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can

[robinstome]

Jerry Seinfeld says that you could never do Seinfeld today but one time when I was really high I fell asleep and dreamed a new episode where Jerry came out of the closet as a trans woman and Elaine wanted to be supportive so she gifted Jerry a dress that she didn't really like but when Jerry wore the dress out she got tons of compliments and Elaine gets super pissed about it because she never got any compliments when she wore it but couldn't say anything because she didn't want anyone to call her a fake ally.

[coffeefocusrat]

you're just mad because you're hungry and tired and your legs hurt and you head hurts and you're too hot and you have depression

[an-ambient-girl]

WHY WAS IASKED THIS sjsnnebsb

[librarycards]

people on here who have been on 10-15+ years like myself...i don't know how they claim that there were never any Black bloggers on here, or that it was always such a white website. trudy gradientlair was on here. thisiswhiteprivilege was on here. there was a feminist citation project sara ahmed was involved in on here. there was someone on here whose username was wretchedoftheearth and that was how i learned who fanon was when i was 12, by googling those words. tumblr was the only place i knew i could go to get accurate & compassionate info about what happened to trayvon martin, when everyone around me irl was rabidly racist. the amount of reportage and scholarship that happened on here before the first big wave of bans was so huge and so much has been lost. where were you when it was happening??? why weren't you paying attention??

[indifferentcookie]

(PDF) On misogynoir: citation, erasure, and plagiarism

PDF | We, Moya Bailey and Trudy aka @thetrudz, had significant roles in the creation and proliferation of the term misogynoir. Misogynoir de

“Trudy: “Misogynoir” as a term and concept experienced what I think of as four distinct phases of public awareness. There was the initial relatively unknown phase, primarily 2010–2013 where only a small group of people, primarily Black women, knew of the concept and wrote about it, including Moya’s original work, of course (Trudy 2014). During this time, 2012 to be exact, is when I started developing the foundation for how this word is understood and applied across contexts today. In 2013–2014 was the pushback phase where people began to push back on the term because it has mixed root word origins; however, “misogynoir” is not the only word that exists like this; portmanteaus exist. This pushback occurred 3primarily on Tumblr, a space where a lot of Black women develop theory that is often mocked at first, plagiarized second, and absorbed into the mainstream last, often where the origi-nators are erased altogether. This pushback itself reflects misogynoir, as people questioned the intelligence and the validity of a concept that centers how Black women experience misogyny. In 2014–2015 was the mainstream entry phase where the word began to really be used outside of primarily Tumblr and small appearances in the academe and started to appear in articles in indie and mainstream publications that mostly do not cite Moya or myself. Or, if they name Moya’s coinage, they do not cite my work that is used to support such articles. The term was added to Wikipedia, and produced several pages of Google search results during this phase. In 2015 through the present, the term has appeared in major newspapers, is used in conversation and hashtags on Twitter, generates over 5,000 results on Instagram and has general public exposure, at least in academic, media and social media spaces. The word has spread like flames through conversation, media attention, and academic scholarship, but even so, this fire would not be possible without the initial spark nor the stoking over time through theorizing and development.”

Trudy of GradientLair was the woman who coined “transmisogynoir”, herself. Tumblr’s vested interest in erasing feminist scholarship runs deep and reflects both cultural and administrative issues.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Sometimes fiction doesn’t have a moral to the story. Sometimes fiction points at something and goes “Ever thought about THAT???” And you look at what it’s pointing at for a bit.

[suncatbian]

literally been having a continuous migraine that has lasted a year and half at this point by the way

[enyafans4communism]

fuck, marry, kill: the wound that won’t heal, the past you can’t undo, the ghost that keeps returning

[statistical-distr-of-polls]

FMK - In order

The wound, the past, the ghost

The past, the ghost, the wound

The ghost, the wound, the past

The wound, the ghost, the past

The past, the wound, the ghost

The ghost, the past, the wound

Variation I forgor/bald/vanilla extract/results

Voting ended onMay 17

[astraltrickster]

[closet-keys]

''female'' and "male" as a categories need to stop being used in a medical context.

we do not need to correct or expand how ''female sex'' and "male sex" is defined. we need to decouple all physical traits from their sexgender categorization.

when people are faced with the artificiality of "sex," many people fail to actually deconstruct it and instead covertly maintain their belief in a binary by invoking a spectrum model instead.

"sex isn't binary, it's a spectrum" is not accurate, and it does not constitute deconstruction of sex. this conceptual model envisions sex as a sliding scale between two "real" sexes at either end, where one can either move "towards" male or female.

as eckert explains in intersexualization: the clinic and the colony, this bi-directional spectrum model is foundational to the creation of intersex subjectivity. "intersex" is envisioned as a "mixture" of sexes, which inherently constructs male and female as "pure" and anything outside of them as "impure." the intersex body is envisioned as inherently more complicated or complex than the "pure female" and "pure male" body. and reliance on the fixed points of "male" and "female" on either end of this "spectrum" does the work of naturalizing these categories and, by doing so, necessarily also enshrines the sexgender hierarchy they exist to define.

"Therefore, I do see problems with using it because the references it combines reaffirm the two entities, which are supposedly more ‘pure’ and then merge into the hybrid. The notion of the hybrid in itself implies that there is such a thing as purity, whether it is in relation to identity, gender, body, nationality, ethnicity, or origin in general. Moreover, whenever there is a third (no matter if it is an identity, a body, or a space) the first two are implicit and are thought of and listed according to a specific hierarchy. This hierarchy makes one of the two entities the more dominant, hegemonically more justified, debatably more important part and the second one less influential, less important, and more likely to be disregarded. The Third is always based on a first and a second and these are not free from their hierarchical reference system" (pg 193-194).

to deconstruct "sex" we have to actually do the work of challenging the grouping of traits together within gendered categorization. there is no "male" or "female" or "intersex" body outside of these medical labels being forced upon us.

our bodies have a whole bunch of various characteristics, and we can influence these characteristics through learning how they develop and age over time and what factors influence that development in what ways. some are influenced by overlapping factors and some are not.

some of our characteristics are captured under "sex" (determined to constitute sex, or to be part of this collection of traits associated through sex categorization, or to be imbued with gendered meaning) and others are not.

every new trait that becomes "sexed" leads to less bodily autonomy. "sex" is an expanding naturalization project that captures more and more of our bodies for restriction under sexgender enforcement.

we need to abolish sex, not expand it.

[whatthekoi-deactivated20260510]

“can’t believe women fought to work!! i don’t wanna work!!” women have Been Working they fought to get Paid you know that right ?

[sweatermuppet]

so pro-abortion i forget people try to get pregnant on purpose

[gokucat]

feeding her stuffie must live on....

[guelwaar]

people love the idea of the mean girl nurse pipeline because it problematises medical abuse as a personal perversion rather than understanding it as a product of broadly held ableist values and its like, if this was only about ontologically evil teenage girls choosing to enter a profession because of their unique sadism then you really wouldnt expect to see the exact same forms of abuse pervading all arrangements of paid, unpaid, formal, ad hoc, and familial caretaking as well -- its more comforting to believe the nurse was just a preexisting bad person than that most of the world broadly hates disabled people and will abuse, neglect, and gaslight them if given power over their care

[yenthecat]

The perfect little dew drop

[parkchanwoohoo]

You know I meant this in a "Haha I'm probably gonna get fired" way but I'm realizing only now that the IT guy probably thought I randomly hit him with suicidal ideation before noon

[only-cat-memes]

[kosmogrl]

ever since I was a little girl I knew I never wanted to tell anyone anything