#asexual discrimination

[how-do-these-people-exist]

Please remember there are asexuals who want nothing to do with sex, and that's okay.

Y'know what no actually I'm posting about this because it's genuinely really fucking getting to me. I'm so fucking exhausted by how it feels like some people just took "some asexual people can still want sex, and that doesn't make them no longer ace" and just devolved into "oh so ace people can want sex? cool well i'm going to assume ace people/ace characters must want sex at least a LITTLE 'cause who doesn't?" It's genuinely really fucking upsetting that as an aroace, even in LGBTQ+ spaces, even in asexual spaces, I feel like I'm STILL faced with the same acephobia I would get from non-LGBTQ+ people. From non-asexual people. I feel like I'm still having to face the bullshit of "I don't care if you say you're asexual, there are asexual people who do want sex and do have sex so you're still the weird one." I feel like I still have to face that fucking idea that "everyone wants it, you'll want it eventually, or you'll do it because a partner wants it." No! I don't! and I'm tired of people in my own fucking community making me feel even more fucking broken and alone and making me feel like now instead of being discriminated against for being asexual, it's just turned into being discriminated against for being "one of those asexuals." in the fucking "I'm not like those queer people" way. I'm just so exhausted by this shit. Obviously I think asexual people who do want or have sex are valid. But I'm fucking tired of people making me feel like I must be broken and there must be something wrong with me if I'm an asexual who doesn't have or want sex. it just genuinely makes me feel like.. if being asexual means you're still gonna get perceived as maybe wanting sex and if being open about being a sex-repulsed asexual gets people saying "well don't push your trauma onto other people/make it other people's problem" then what the fuck am i that people can relate to. because it just. makes me feel like the community of people who are like me is a lot smaller than i thought.

[oceanamethyst]

Asexual woman fled home over forced marriage and 'corrective rape' threats

On International Asexuality Day, activist Yasmin Benoit reports on the case of an asexual woman forced to seek asylum over family threats.

[my-funked-up-life]

I honestly don't know if this is due to my ASD, or the fact I was exploited, molested, assaulted (all sexually) and raped, but I feel I've been asexual all my life. I wasn't aware what I felt had a word. So here I am. Admiting to being asexual. And I've heard all these statements in some form all throughout my life. I think I experienced more sexual interest when I was younger than when I got older. Maybe all the abuse were building blocks to becoming asexual. Maybe that's not the correct term. What about developing asexuality? I don't want to offend someone due to my uneducated ass, but I try to learn enough to NOT be a dumbass. (Ler me guess, "too late?") LOL!

[asexyfaeriefate]

"Asexuals don't experience oppression."

Looks like they've experienced oppression and discrimination to me. (Also input the number of people they've come out to, so terfs can't say that asexuals haven't experienced enough oppression. They haven't experienced oppression in the workplace because they haven't come out in the workplace.)

(Source: Asexual Census Team 2016 Survey)

[darlingdemi]

I’ve never experienced oppression or discrimination by calling myself bisexual.

But I have been bullied, verbally abused, and called a freak because of my asexuality.

It’s incredibly rare that someone chooses to be in a relationship that doesn’t involve sex. We are rejected by our partners & love interests & even by the LGBT community, when all we asked from them was acceptance. Even if you’re LGBT, you’re expected to have sexual relationships with someone.

Regardless, we are deserving of romantic connection & love. It can be lonely, being excluded from relationships, the lgbt community. Being called “broken” and “medically abnormal”.

So don’t you dare tell me asexuals aren’t marginalised .

[bungukie]

asexuals aren’t inherently part of the lgbt community !!!!!!!!!!!! just bc you prefer not to have sex doesn’t make you LGBT. if ur lesbian, gay, bi, or trans ur LGBT. if ur not ur not!!! asexuals have never been oppressed ever a day in their lives for being asexual so pls don’t compare ur struggles to those of the rest of the community!!!

Let me start with saying that you’re only right with one thing here; yes, lesbian, gay, bi and trans people are LGBTQIA+. I’m glad we can agree on that :) BUT saying “if ur lesbian, gay, bi or trans ur LGBT. if ur not ur not!!!” is not only exclusive of my lovely ace and aro pals but so many other wonderful people and their orientations and/or genders! wyd anon wyd 

Secondly, aces are allowed to identify as LGBTQIA+ if they wish, regardless of their romantic orientations (and vice versa for aromantic people). One of the reasons some asexual people don’t identify as LGBT is because they feel more comfortable and safer not identifying as LGBT+ due to people like yourself.

Plus, the official acronym for LGBT+ in my country is LGBTQIA+. That’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Queer, Intersex, Asexual and more. 

A for asexual, not ally because cis-het allies are NOT a minority that need to be included in our queer acronym. They’re just people who aren’t shitty to LGBTQIA+ people. Cis-het allies don’t need or deserve a butt-pat/trophy letter in the queer community’s acronym.

They (asexuals!) deserve a place in the LGBTQIA+ community regardless of their other orientations or genders. They belong in the LGBTQIA+ community.

So, I repeat; A is for ASEXUAL!

As for saying asexual people aren’t oppressed… your message itself is a sample of what ace oppression looks like. I can give you plenty of examples, though, since you don’t believe aces can be oppressed. See this post, this post, this post, this post and the cherry on top of our ace cake is this post that is appallingly long and lists a ton of disgusting acts of oppression and discrimination against aces. And I’m sorry, but if you share any of the disgusting views these aphobes do then you’re aphobic too and should get off my blog right now.

Being LGBTQIA+ is not a matter of who struggled more, anyway. Why should struggle be a rite of passage? Why are you gate-keeping what is supposed to be an open and supporting community?

All of us in the LGBTQIA+ community struggle or have struggled and it’s a sad fact but it’s true.

And if petty games of ‘who struggled more’ really matters so much to you well I’ve just shown you that asexual people suffer all sorts of harassment and belittlement on a daily basis. It’s not funny, it’s not discourse it’s just being an asshole and is really toxic and wrong. 

Being LGBTQIA+ is a matter of unity and belonging and all members should feel at peace and safe in this community. You not being able to accept ace people's existence is your problem. You are the problem, not them. You are making the LGBTQIA+ space unsafe, not them. They all belong here, whether you like it or not. And if you don’t like it I shall repeat what I said that caused you to send this ask in the first place; If you are an aphobe then don’t bother going to Pride! Stay bitter and stay at home!

Anyway, I love asexual people and I love aromantic people and I love that they are so lovely and beautiful and 100% valid members of the LGBTQIA+ community!***

APHOBES DON’T INTERACT.

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[And next time you think of coming onto my ace supporting blog just to tell me that aces aren’t members of the LGBTQIA+ community (on anon on top of that) just message me directly so I can get it over with quickly and post your ace hating URL for all to see instead of pissing me off.]

[chrysocollatown]

This is a guest post by Captain Heartless, who recently graduated law school and is currently waiting to find out if he passed the bar examination in his home state. [Content: discrimination, brief…

“I suspect we do this because we are modeling ourselves too much off of the (admittedly successful) gay rights movement. We need to stop and think about this- if someone asks about political issues, or even specifically legal issues- we shouldn’t accept the (usually) implicit assumption that a movement doesn’t have “serious” issues unless they can point to a law that oppresses them. And bringing up something that may turn out to be a non-issue (like consummation laws) might cause people to think the other issues are also non-issues.”

[vetharien]

Asexuals are valid

Life's too short to be an acephobic, gatekeeping dickhead.

How about we accept the fact that the LGBT isn't about who the fuck has it worse, or who's been through the most shit.

Because I know that I've been threatened with corrective rape and called all sorts of disgusting names for being who I am, on top of also being Panromantic.

If you're a gatekeeper, you need to get the FUCK out of here with that shit RIGHT NOW. Because all you're doing is making yourself look like a complete asshole while the majority of the community accepts us.

I don't think they ever stop to think that we're not accepted by hetero allosexuals ourselves. We get made fun of and called names and get threatened; we even get assaulted for being who we are.

So don't try to come at us with that acephobic "y'all don't even get ostracized so you don't count!" bullshit.