#becoming better

[agirlwithglam]

creating a new identity:

aka; how to build an alter ego / how to create the new you / creating your higher self / create a new version of yourself

this is a guide for people who want to change their life around, and most importantly, change themselves (because obvi to change your life, you must first change yourself first). oki lets get started!!

3 reasons why you want to change:

first of all name at least 3 reasons WHY you want to create a new identity. some reasons could include:

wanting to get better at school/ higher grades

becoming more social

more stronger

more disciplined

becoming better at something (ex a language, instrument)

if you don't have your 3 reasons on why you want to create a new you, then your desire is probably not strong enough and you won't be able to stay consistent in it.

create the new you:

give it a name! (you can do this at any point tbh so not really important atm)

choose and decide the aspects of your new identity: (how they think, act, behave, feel. what their hobbies are, their habits, what type of person they are, how they treat others and themselves, etc etc)

write down these aspects in your notes app, notion, blog, docs, (wherever you want to). you don't have to go in full detail but just write everything that you need for this new identity so that if you forget or need to be reminded, you can just check that.* *reminder that you can create more than 1 identity/ alter ego! so for example you may have one thats for workouts/ sports, one thats for studying, one thats for socialising, etc. this means that you don't necessarily need to write other hobbies for an alter ego that is made for working out. you just need to write whats important to that specific identity.

once you've done all this, theres nothing left but to just BECOME. stop over planning and procrastinating, step into the energy of this new version of yourself. channel the energy and enjoy your life!

tips:

take inspiration from people in real life! this can be celebrities, anyone you've met and admired, movie/ tv show characters (for me; rory gilmore, elle woods, gina linetti), book characters, etc. you don't have to create a new alter ego from scratch, you can just adopt energy of a person that has already been created/ exists.

a signature something. give this new identity a signature scent, outfit, accessory, etc. anything just to give it a bit of a touch/ cherry on top <3

Xoxo, Vanilla

[buffybleeder17]

Some photos I took of myself 4-26-25, I luvz them all ^u^

[halswrites]

“Still in the becoming”

We keep evolving through our experiences, like learning not to take an instant sip of hot tea. We learn, we adjust, and we carry that forward. In the same way, we curate ourselves through our failures and successes.

I would be proud if someone said I have changed,if I’m not the same person I was before because we are meant to evolve, to break through our cycles and bring out the best in ourselves.

In my teenage years, I thought I owed people an explanation.

Now, the more I’ve grown, the more I’ve realised that we don’t owe anyone anything. We are entitled to ourselves.

There was a time I was scared of cutting toxic people off because the connection felt safe. It gave me comfort.

Now it’s different. It’s easier,its liberating.

Not because they meant nothing, but because I’ve learned where to stop.

And still, parts of them stay.

I remember the way a friend introduced me to her favourite song, and how I started listening to it too.

The way someone recommended their comfort TV show, and it became mine.

That’s what change feels like to me

you are becoming, but you still carry fragments of who you were and the people you once held close.

Not just people, but habits too.

With time and experience, I’ve moulded myself. I’ve learned and unlearned values, ideas, and perspectives.

One thing I’ve understood is that empathy isn’t just for others it’s for yourself too.

I used to be scared of changing.

Now it feels like going back to your favourite pair of jeans you still adore but have outgrown, or a dessert you once loved but can’t have more than a few bites of.

For me, I’ve become more aware of what I want instead of constantly listening to others,something that would have felt impossible to the person I was five years ago.

I’ve also learned that taking accountability for my actions, even when it’s uncomfortable, is what makes me human.

And strangely, the more I accept my mistakes, the easier it becomes to give others space for theirs.

I don’t hold onto small mishaps the same way anymore, because I know what it feels like to mess up and still want understanding.

As I continue growing, I’m learning to accept life for what it is , the mess and the bliss.

And somehow, all of it together feels like serendipity.As long as I am metamorphosing and figuring life out I think I am good

[mydarkawaits]

you know what's the bright side of feeling stuck?

that the lesson keeps repeating until you learn it —

so you can become the best version of yourself.

it's just infinite chances for a better life.

[n1pp]

Hiii!!! I was curious whether you had a morning/night routine, and if so what is it?? Are there any things that you would like to incorporate in your routine too? I'm trying to change my life in 2025, and I really need a starting point and some more motivation, so I know your answer will inspire and help me a lot!! ⋆ ˚｡⋆୨୧⋆ ˚｡⋆₊˚⊹ᰔ₊˚⊹⋆˚｡⋆୨୧⋆ ˚｡⋆

Remember that your routine doesn't have to be picture perfect, and it should suit you! Use this post as inspiration, not an instruction!with love, n1pp.

morning routine:

wake up

breathing exercises

open the windows & make bed

drink a glass of water + supplements (maybe ginger shot)

stretching (optional)

bathroom time (most likely just skincare & brushing my teeth)

breakfast time

get dressed

evening routine:

stretching (also optional)

tea and shutting off the noise

have dinner & supplements

setting the mood & read

bathroom time

bed time

[dareisaypublishing]

All progress begins with a single step.

Perfection isn’t required. Starting is.

[richelle-goodrich]

"Becoming the person you want to be always involves work. It requires purpose, dedication, perseverance, and a fair amount of deliberate change."

― Richelle E. Goodrich, Being Bold: Quotes, Poetry, & Motivations for Every Day of the Year