#bottling emotions

[lillypad-collective]

Does anyone else deal with after school/work full on shutdowns most days?

TW: Semi-Vent

I can handle it until we get home (most of the time til recently).

I know its fucking related to masking all fucking day and uncontrollably bottling up my emotions on the day because of that. I am essentially completely emotionless at school.

When I get home after that I immediately get overwhelmed as soon as I enter my room. I either fall awake or I sit there essentially dead inside for around 2h before I have enough energy to do anything.

[caffeinated-coffee-bean]

So in Star Trek, Vulcans have to suppress their emotions. What if instead of having anger rooms where people smash stuff, the Vulcans had Emotion rooms to express emotions in peace without societal consequences so they don’t bottle emotions.

[midnights4ge]

4.30.2023

I’m working on silence.

Why practice silence? You don’t always have to add to the conversation. Sometimes it’s better to practice solitude and distance because people project their own negativity onto you and your experiences.

Being silent can be powerful if you do it from a place of self-reflection and growth. I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection again lately and it’s better this way. Complaining is a draining and negative thing for people around you, at least for me.

I want to turn my emotions into something beautiful or metaphorical or open to interpretation. I want to create something authentic to myself because it is an outlet for expressing yourself so that your genuine emotions flow unfiltered instead of bottling them up. You can be both silent and expressive at the same time.

I feel like the universe is presenting me with so many signs that I should be practicing silence right now. It’s better for my well-being and growth to listen and observe. This is a time for me to be learning and reflecting on myself so that I can sort through my thoughts and gain clarity. I’m trying to clear my headspace and stay level-headed.

[ask-fantasy-sanders-sides]

Remus, what does barbarian training entail? Do you train for rages? - 🌫

Remus: I wasn’t taught by anybody, if that’s what you’re asking~!

Remus: I train fighting all the time, and like do workouts and stuff, but you don’t really train rages! Just whenever you’re upset or angry, you stuff aaaaall of those funny feelings up into a little ball waaaay deep down in your core, and when you get to a battle.... Pop that little rabies balloon like an agitated pimple of whoop-ass~!

[sorryicantquitequeeryou]

Me a few years ago: I don't feel most of my emotions and don't really care about much I'm just... Happy of course! Because that's the best emotion and I totally don't bottle up all my emotions and have acute anxiety because I'm starting to bottle happiness as well and it's all out of control!

Me now: I've unbottled my emotions with my therapist and have got a handle on the anxiety. All good!

Wait... What's that?

*DYSPHORIA*

Oh shit. No. No no no. I- maybe bottle this one back up please?? I didn't know it was even there! Wtf!!!

[andzensome]

Pity Party First, Kick Ass Later

Sister, I know how it is because I've been there. The world is screaming "calm down" but you know that that's not an option. You want to scream, swear, stomp your feet, pout, binge watch netflix with your favorite comfort food, curl up in a ball, cry, and make the world revolve around your pain. Well guess what? You should. 

I am a firm believer that you must pity party first, and kick ass later. 

Ugly Self-Care is a THING! 

To some people, self care means putting on your favorite facial mask with a bath bomb. However to a lot of us, self care means ugly crying and screaming at the "master creator" for what they have done for you. I call this "ugly self-care" but in reality, it has the most beautiful results. Let me tell you why this works: 

You cannot overcome a victim mindset without first thinking like a victim. 

You cannot live a happy and productive life with pains and challenges clouding your brain. 

It is okay to experience emotions; they are natural. 

If you do not let yourself feel, your body and spirit takes on the burdens of the emotional body.

The Victim Mindset vs. The Hero Mindset

A good story begins with a naive character, the challenge that they endure, and their heroic rise to overcome. A victim mindset is someone who is naive, faces a challenge, and lives in the realm of things like "why me" or "story of my life." They believe that unjust things will always happen to them; thus attracting more negativity into their life. To be a hero, we must first be the victim. Experience victimhood. Figure out your escape. Figure out the obstacles you have to overcome. Turn yourself into a survivor. 

Best Way To Move Clouds Is To First Storm

What happens when the sky is overcast? You pray for it to just rain, thunder, lightning- anything!!! to bring back your beautiful blue sky. Let your body cry it out, let your body scream it out, punch a pillow, do what you need to do to recover. If you keep those pent up emotions inside, your brain will suffer. The Director of the Psychiatry Research Lab at St. Paul-Ramsey Medical Center states, "People say they feel better after crying and our data shows this is so." Frey's studies have proven that crying is the body's natural response to any sort of stress, and that many feel comforted and relieved after letting it out. It has been shown that lack of tears can contribute to stress and brain disease down the road.

If you don't let it OUT, your body and aura take on the burdens of keeping it pent up inside

Built up anger, aggression, and stress lingers in the energy body and can cause migraines, tension, and inflammation. It can also contribute to poor gut health like indigestion and constipation. Not to mention your energy suffers greatly. Your aura will be clouded. People will come into contact with you less and less because your energy is no longer compelling. Friends may disappear or treat you differently. Your subtle body will suffer. 

Observe Your Emotions, Then Let Your Emotions Pass

There is a great meditation known as "Leaves on the Stream." In this exercise, you take every thought you have and place it on a leaf floating down the river. This allows you to observe that thought or emotion, and watch it pass. Learning this technique can help you in your day-to-day life by not beating yourself up for experiencing an emotion but also not holding on to that emotion. It helps you separate yourself from that emotion by extending an awareness, and also can help you detach from it to let it float away. Listen below. 

It is human nature to feel, and dangerous to push our feelings aside. To delve into your emotional responses is the ultimate form of courage and strength. To let the tears pour out, the cries and screams be heard, to let yourself be in a state of darkness. Once you are submerged in the darkness you will be able to find your way to the light easier. If you harbor these emotions within you for too long, they will escalate and worsen. PLEASE allow yourself a pity party for whatever bad news you have experienced... and then conquer from there. 

When Does the Pity Party End? 

Deadlines are so important! This will help prevent you from letting your pity party spiral out of control into a prolonged state of depression and victimhood. Mine is anywhere from 1-3 days then you can begin faking it. You may not be completely healed, but you will feel a lot better. Over time, faking it can help you return to your normal self. It can help patch up the holes that were left open after such a big release of emotion. It can replenish your soul and counteract the difficult emotions that you just experienced. 

What is Your Ugly Self-Care / Pity Party Ritual? 

I LOVE to hear from my readers! Let me know what your go-to ugly self care routine is or how letting it out has helped you feel good enough to conquer your goals and kick ass! 

[propertyofpen]

Random poem 

She cared so much for people but she was tired of caring so she cared for people in silent she bottled up all the feelings she kept them bottled up inside dust cluttered the bottles and spiders were making them their home the breaking point was coming where those dusty bottles would shatter and everyone would see that she did care and that they did matter until then how much longer? how long could she pretend not to care? lie and say that heart didn't live on her sleeve how much longer would she believe?

[d4ilyreminders]

Daily Reminder #118

Plain text: Daily Reminder #118

It’s okay to be frustrated. It’s an emotion, not a condemnation. Completely ignoring it isn’t going to help calm it.